| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 1:32:28 AM | | I have been watching a programme this morning on BBC1 about people with disabilities trying to find dates. I don't think I have ever seen any disabled peoples profiles on POF so why is this? It made me think when I watched the programme how people on here who are able bodied complain so much about finding a date. | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 1:51:00 AM | It's hard enough for abled bodied people to find a date on a dating site,so
really a disabled person would find it even harder on a site like this,but i'm
sure there must be a disabled dating site somewhere on the internet,solely
for the purpose of finding disabled people dates.....
edit..Just googled "disabled dating sites" and found 1,220,000 sites so
there is plenty for them too. | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 1:53:11 AM | There are loads chorlton...I have three faves on here with varying disabilities and one of the guys was at the last Birmingham meet......Doh where were you man.......
Larrson don't you think that segragating disabled people like that is Victorian and a draconian way to think... ?? And why assume only disabled people would want to date disabled people??? grrrrr..... | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 2:02:29 AM | | I used to go out with a girl with a prosthectic leg called Elsa and she was lovely and she cheated on me with someone else and broke my heart a bit but I am ok now and feeling better and she never did tell me what she called the other leg I love you if you read this but not as much as I used to | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 4:29:08 AM | I am registered disabled, I do say in my profile that I have a disabilty too.
A lot of the disabled dating sites are not good, and trust me there are some weirdos on some of them. I have tried a couple with no success at all. (Not weirdos) lol
But like someone says in this post disabled dont always date disabled.
Whats that old saying ? Love is blind. so looks or disability should not come into it really.
Malcom what was her other leg called? lol | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 4:35:34 AM | I have been watching a programme this morning on BBC1 about people with disabilities trying to find dates
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maybe they just keep the wheelchair out of shot on their main pic?
Maybe I could get to meet heather Mills and nail her for some of that divorce settlement thats on her way to her | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 4:56:19 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Talk about small minded people..GRRRRRRRR really p*sses me off....
I hope my son don't face any of you that think Disabled people should be singled out...
I have and will continue to talk to all my friends that are "special people"..as they
are more tuned into the real world than most.
They DONT need anyone's pity, I for one wouldn't dream of treating my friends
differently, they are ALL the same. | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 5:07:56 AM | | I'm not registered disabled but like quite a few on here have a well dodgy back problem and which also stops me from working. I haven't posted it in my profile here as i've been on other sites that i did and got no replies at all. If i do correspond with anyone, i'm always honest and tell them within the first few mails which 99% will run a mile. So yes it's hard for disabled people to date on sites like this as they get mostly ignored without anyone taking the time to talk and understanding them which i think is very sad and shallow. | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 5:11:56 AM | xxcazxx..bit of a stong statement saying "I hope my son don't face any of you
that think disabled people should be singled out"....how do you come to that
conclusion?i'm sure disabled peeps looking-in would'nt be offended by anything
that has been said so far. | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 5:17:05 AM | A lot of people have a disability, this may not be apparent when meeting them. Disability is not just wheelchair bound or loss of a limb, it can be hard of hearing, or anxiety that stops you going out. And that is with no disrespect to people who are disabled in the "traditional sense". People are so quick to judge, just because that person does not immediatly turn you on, does not mean that they are not lovely people, and maybe if people took the time and effort, they might find that they become a good friend, and lets face it that it what we all need, friends.
So ...rant....rant....rant | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 8:17:50 AM | I have a disability i am deaf in my left ear, vanity and some peoples ignorance prevents me wearing my hearing aid, i have found in the past whilst wearing my aid that some have a negative attitude towards me, I am far from different nor stupid as some may think.
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 8:29:48 AM | Larrson..^^^^^ speaks for itself really doesn't it!!
As msg 6 states " leave the wheelchair out of the pic"... Would be just like saying don't wear your glasses if you need them to read this..
People with Disabilities have a hard enough time as it is.. whatever happened to
Equality???? | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 8:44:43 AM | message 11, hi i,m also deaf in right ear and have been since i was 3 yrs old, i know what you mean about peoples ignorance ,its not on my profile, i tell people when they message me,i,m not ashamed to be deaf its not my fault ,and i have the uttermost respect for anyone that has the patience to bare with us , chin up theres a lot worse off than us, do not stop wearing your aid , just because of peoples ignorance , if they dont like it sod em,  | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 10:09:54 AM | OK hope this does not upset anyone, I have nothing to hide just dont have a pic of myself alone in a wheelchair.
This is one taken at Blackpool with some of my friends. I can not walk the distance of the prom,not only that I am half legless before we go in the pub so I reckon that just about evens it up.
Please note it is my main photo. My last main Photo taken in Sept of this year at the poolside
bar at the Hotel I stayed at in Greece ( Rhodes) I walked there on my crutch, not sure if I walked back to my room though. lmao
Caz dont let it get to you my friend. | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 10:18:14 AM | | I chat to a guy on another forum who is in a wheelchair and he always has dates, hes a lovely sexy guy, there is more to a person than their disability, i dont see why it would be a problem. | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 10:20:55 AM | | The word disability covers a very large spectrum of handicaps, from being slightly deaf , colour blind, to the other end of the scale with people who sadly are severely handicapped but I,m quie sure 60/70 or more percent of handicapped folk date just as we all do, or are looking for that special someone , that is unless they have found someone already, this thread seems to be singleing out people with disabilities as different or undatable and the truth is they are no different to the rest of us !! | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 11:26:01 AM | | I've come across disabled people on this site.....one of which i speak to all the time!!! He's amazing..totally!!!He's more 'able' than most 'able bodied' people!!!!!....everyone has a right to love and be loved...and to want to share their life with someone special....i can understand in this world, where people judge a book by it's cover!!!!....that the disabled may decide only disclose their disability to a person/or people, when they felt comfortable....i don't see this as deceit, as they have the right to be judge first and foremost as a person, and not by their disability.......and yes, before anyone asks....... i would gladly date this guy!!!!! | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 12:08:43 PM | Its no surprise that disabled people arent comfortable mentioning their
disability openly around here going by a couple of posts on this thread.
Why dose someone with a disability have to join a disabled dating site
if there looking for friends or even something more god forbid like love?
It amazes me that were nearly in the year 2007 but some peoples
attitudes and opinions are still stuck in the 1950's..
VV It doesnt give you the right to find humor in someones personal
circumstances especialy on such a delicate subject such as this one.
I doubt you would like it so why try and be funny when your not... | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 12:09:55 PM |
Talk about small minded people..GRRRRRRRR really p*sses me off...
oh get over it dear, the rest of the world is still allowed to have a sence of humour wether or not it relates to your circumstances.
Theres a whole list of topics that I dont find funny, but I wouldnt prevent you from finding humour in them | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 12:16:44 PM | i have had and still have disabled friends and some of the posts on here amaze me
just because someone is not able bodied they are seen by some as not a worthy member of society
what next dating sites for gays because they offend
blacks because they are not the same skin colour
jews , muslims , hindu's because they have different religeous views
i for one would not and do not judge someone until i know them , if i were to meet a disabled woman and she " pushed my buttons " then i would date her . i would not even consider the fact that she were disabled .
i have a friend , married to a disabled woman , she has two children , works part time , and due to the job that my friend does she spends a lot of time as the sole parent ( he works away a lot ) . she is one of the strongest people i know and never feels down and depressed because of her disability | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 12:41:15 PM | My brother was severely disabled and my father is severely disabled but they are both more of a man than any of the hypocrites who think it hilarious to poke fun at the 'flid'.....
I would love to see any of those who found humour in this subject live one single day in my brother or my fathers body and see how funny they found it then......
There is nowhere on this site that asks if you have a disability and that is right and proper.. It should be up to the individual to divulge it when they feel comfortable....It's not cause for segregation, nor is it cause for laughter and ridicule.... | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 12:47:10 PM | I think the people who poke fun, ridicule, seperate and put into groups....me and you, THEY. Disabled people are not bloody THEY. Just a physical disability, hardly the need to create SPECIAL (god, how patronising) groups. No need to catergorise people. Hitler tried that, and look where that got him.
Just think, any one of us could be in an accident tomorrow and left disabled....would you then like a dating site of your own? na, didn't thinkso. | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 1:10:15 PM |
A lot of people have a disability, this may not be apparent when meeting them. Disability is not just wheelchair bound
How very true! only 2% of disabled people are in a wheelchair
What about people with mental health problems?
one in three of us suffer from some kind of mental health problem in our lifetime
But I've not come across any male profiles that say they have a mental health disability, I've come across a few female profiles though, maybe it's the macho thing & the stigma with guys, I dunno | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 12/13/2006 1:21:18 PM | My exe fiancee was disabled, he was in a wheelchair and had legs but they didnt work basically, he was a hunny, plays for GB Basketball team, I loved him, the sex was out of this world and we had a fab time together...
The amount of ppl that would come up to me when we were in nightclubs/pubs etc and 'congratulate' me on being with him and how 'we really arent that different' made us laugh sooo much, as if him being disabled and me fancying/loving him was a strange conception.
Through being with S i met loads of ppl with disabilities and they were all fab fab ppl, they were all witty, funny, with razor sharp wit and they were the first to poke fun at themselves.. especially his teammates, they'd call each other 'crip' and 'mong' and take the
p!ss outta each other basically..
It should be no biggie, ppl who make a big thing out of it are probably the ones that cannot handle it themselves, one thing S hated was 'do-gooders' who made a big deal out of any little event or thing said that could be construed as 'disablism'... lol.. He and his buddies were so at ease with their disabilities that they often forgot about them. Thats how not a big thing it was!
And as for dating with a disability, well... his mate, a kind of celeb, bless him ( i wont name no names..) had no prob pulling even the fittest bird in the place. None of his teammates were ever 'date-less' come to think of it. | |
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