| | just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.Page 1 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | | does anyone know someone as cold, noncaring, and heartless as me that has ever found anyone to actually give a damn about and be with forever? or was i just dreaming out loud again? take into consideration that i have never loved anyone(that means anyone!) in my entire life. | |
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SuzyQ
| | Joined: 7/15/2004
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| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 7/31/2004 8:03:32 PM | | If you are a human being you are capable of love. It's easier for some people, but it's not impossible for you. If you have a chip on your shoulder you might need to loosen it up a little. Maybe a little attitude change might help. I dunno....but it's not impossible. | |
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SuzyQ
| | Joined: 7/15/2004
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| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 7/31/2004 8:13:50 PM | | if this is true you might need some professional therapy - you might have an attachment disorder - it happens when a child is not loved by his parents and never learns to emotionally attach to his parents when very young - also happens to some foster children who are bounced around too much from a very young age - but I believe it is treatable if you are motivated enough | |
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| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 7/31/2004 8:17:13 PM | i was not adopted or anything like that. why would i want to change who i am. i am the only thing that i love. as for going to a shrink, he or she would likely be killed for messing with my ego.
all that i asked was if someone knew someone as twisted and warped as i am that found someone to be with. | |
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Ruby_
| | Joined: 7/10/2004
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SuzyQ
| | Joined: 7/15/2004
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| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 7/31/2004 8:27:37 PM | | you like dachshunds and retarded beagles - you probably have more inside than you know - but to answer your question, no I have never known anyone totally self absorbed who has had a satisfactory relationship - but plenty of people here like you, so I think you are being rather hard on yourself - and yes, I know this is a forum, but something of you comes through anyway - I guess it's up to you Conrad :) | |
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Ruby_
| | Joined: 7/10/2004
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Ruby_
| | Joined: 7/10/2004
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xchuck
| | Joined: 6/11/2004
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| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 8/1/2004 9:17:54 AM | I guess I could understand you in some ways...Coz I'm a little like your kind..but I couldn't describ it in clear way for ppl to know it..One thing is that you must potentially think youself more important than others ..So, it will make difficult for friend to get close to you, to reach your heart, your soul, something like that...you always keep a distance with ppl...And, I guess you had few friends in real life, only friends you like them you will take them,or some ppl they are very interested in you and maybe be lower before you, you take them too...Am I right? if yes, you are with me:(
emotionlless? absoluately words...I always thought your kind of ppl, me also are cool inside, not warm-heart, selfish, supercilious,.....etc...etc.. we know it's not good however hard to make any changes....On internet is different just:(
Love is a very serious and important word in our dictionary. Love is not as if I like you I take care of you.....we thought about love is intense passion, like the end of world when it appear... | |
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| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 8/1/2004 1:32:55 PM | it's very hard to make judgment on someone until you actually get to know them....then again, you can never really know someone well enough, but in regards to what Bird stated in his first post, i believe it's possible with the right person...however, there is a mental disorder that strongly connects to the character we see in some of his posts which is called Narcissistic Personality Disorder:
A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behaviour), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning in early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements, high ego)
is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
requires excessive admiration
has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favourable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
shows arrogant, haughty behaviours or attitudes.
I'm not necessarily trying to make any diagnosis as this would be impossible...i am only indicating that by observing the character shown in some of Birds posts demonstrates similarities to the actual brain disorder...it may not be that at all...Infact everybody has their flaws that create their own individuality and seperates them from everyone else. If everyone was the same, there would be nothing left to figure out and be intrigued by ; ) | |
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Ruby_
| | Joined: 7/10/2004
Msg: 16 | |
| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 8/1/2004 2:10:22 PM | A Narcissitic person wouldn't ask us what we thought about his behaviour. He sees his own self-importance as normal.
I think bird has made many compassionate posts. I think what bird likes to do is "shit disturb" and cause a little controversy for his own entertainment. He is bored...
I like Psychology so don't take this as a personal attack on you because I disagreed with you. | |
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| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 8/1/2004 2:29:20 PM | not necessarily...a brain disorder is not always that blinding to those who suffer from one...i have dealt with many people in my life who have suffered from various different mental disorders.
A mental disorder does not blind you from recognizing the fact that there might be something wrong with you...only problem is finding out what that problem is and finding the right way to deal with it.
Many people who recognize a difference in their behavior, providing it's not full blown Schizophrenia will seek a medical professional in that field to find out if it's normal
I don't take this as a personal attack Ruby, this is just communication. | |
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Ruby_
| | Joined: 7/10/2004
Msg: 18 | |
| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 8/1/2004 2:41:30 PM | I understand that, I just don't think it applies to Bird. He would be quite proud to post his own picture instead of hiding behind his shield as I see it.
I agree to disagree.....The only one who really knows the truth is Bird, who ever he is. | |
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| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 8/1/2004 3:03:44 PM | No one really knows much or anything at all for that matter about anyone in here,
but where Birds picture is concerned...i don't believe he has a scanner, and i think some people would prefer not to post their picture for privacy reasons... | |
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Ruby_
| | Joined: 7/10/2004
Msg: 20 | |
| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 8/1/2004 3:20:48 PM | A person who suffers from Narcisism has excessive love for themselves. They admire themselves. They would get extreme pleasure seeing themselves on the computer monitor. There own body and face are erotic to them.
I was only posting about Bird.
I do know some people don't like to show their photos. You don't need a digital camera or a scanner these days to upload a photo. A photo shop will do it for you.
Cheers... | |
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| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 8/1/2004 5:37:59 PM | | i don't believe Bird has Narcissistic Personality Disorder...but an oversized ego can sometimes fall into that category if it's affecting that persons life...I also don't believe bird is a bad person otherwise i wouldn't be attracted to his personality | |
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Zee
| | Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 22 | |
| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 8/1/2004 6:01:56 PM | birdman whether you want to believe this or not - everyone is loved - it is for them to accept that love - you know what i am talking about - but if you choose to be this person that you now - or have always identified with, then of course you will stay feeling unchallenged and unloved - but on another note - perhaps the right women has not come into your life - it is said that it takes 3 women to raise a man - but only 1 man to raise a woman
which means
1st there is your mother - the one who sends you out to travel the road alone to find your way
2nd - the woman who sees you there alone and helps you find the right path
3rd - the wife who accepts the man that you have become and strives to help you stay the better man that you have become | |
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Zee
| | Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 24 | |
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| Re: just a question, probably rhetorical but what the hell.
Posted: 8/1/2004 6:08:06 PM | let me expand on that...
1. mother, to bring that man into the world, and teach him right from wrong
2. wife, to love him as he is, and accepts him, flaws and all
3. daughter, to teach him unconditional love really does exist | |
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