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Posted: 12/18/2006 10:19:05 AM | I need to know if other girls on this site have had this happen to you or men have women done this to you?
He messaged me and he had no pic, he said if I wanted he can send a pic so i said sure send me one. He sends me 5 and he asked me how pof is treating me, so i answered him telling him that i come on to make friends and see where things go and when im bored i come on for the forums but i didnt comment on his pics so he messages me back with this "I guess you are bored then or my pics aren't worth your time" So i message him telling him that i never said that that he must be missreading something and he tells me for the record he is not missreading anything. saying that he just figured i was like all the other women on here who wanted pics before talking to someone and then when i didnt say anything that ment i wasnt interested. lol his pics where ok but not really my type but since i am on here to meet friends as well i didnt see any harm in still chatting but then he got this attitude. I told him sorry you got things wrong but good luck and merry christmas and he messaged me back with more attitude and i told him if you think that just stop messaging me and he messaged me back telling me to stop messaging him then lol He just had to have the last word, me and my gf's where having a blast with this. We couldnt belive what this guy was saying it was just too funny. I was going to block him but i got into talking with my friend and i forget and i came on today with a message from him telling me my attitude sucks and he blocked me.
I have had guys give me attitude before for not mentioning the pics what i am to do say sorry your not cute or your not my type but we can still be friends?? I have had guys not mention my pics and i just figure im not thier type but i still talk to them and i dont cop an attitude.
So what do you think? What would you have done? Has this ever happened to you?
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Posted: 12/18/2006 10:28:26 AM | I never had it happen to me... and I think its retarded that some guys or girls feel they have to give attitude to someone that they don't work out with.
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Posted: 12/18/2006 10:34:06 AM | You know.. a lot of people seem to have attitudes lately!
I had some guy contact me.... I repsonded... and he responded with a lil statement.... no questions.... no nothing. I responded with a LOL and something (can't even remember)
He sent a nasty message and said that he didn't contact me for idle chit chat and good luck.
I was like... WTF!!!! He didn't start any actual stimulating conversation so I cut and pasted what he wrote and said... was this supposed to be stimulating conversation? Thanks for saving me a lot of time and ending our conversation! Cuz I believe you STARTED the IDLE part of the chit chat!!!
He wrote back that I misunderstood and blah blah blah... (nop didn't misunderstand another bitter person ready to piss on people!!!)
Just laugh Angel and move on!!! People are too funny! | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 10:36:20 AM | there is nothing else you can do, if that is the type of reaction he is going to give over a picture then lord only knows about his reaction on other things... good thing you found out now and not later down the road....
perhaps you had been the last person to "reject" him and he took it out on you.. don't let it bother you.. just move on and keep fishing......
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Posted: 12/18/2006 11:07:37 AM | | Clearly, his confidence has been shot for whatever reason.. I guess he just took it out on you. He's probably not in a good mindset to be seeking a companion though until he resolves his sense of self worth. | |
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mar814
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Joined: 11/16/2006
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Posted: 12/18/2006 11:11:17 AM | Every now and then I encounter a jerk like this too. Don't fret, he's an idiot. Ignore him or block him so he can't bother you.  | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 11:28:03 AM | | It is not unusual to run into the occasional person who has a negative aspect on life. Just hang on to your good attitude and don't let the bad guys get ya down. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 11:50:04 AM | I've 'met' a handful of crankies on here too... don't let it get to you. They don't know you, it can't possibly be about you and they are the ones that look like the knobs! Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming... | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 12:17:55 PM | | Wow - guess how much fun he would be on a real date. Once again, proof that the internet dating site is helpful in relationships (or skipping them). | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 2:42:15 PM | classify it a good thing he sounds controlling !!!!
happened to me but just lol and move on girl | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 3:08:47 PM | I agree with Ashley!!!!! This is a good way to weed out the ones who are not for you.
Don't you hate being blocked, though???? | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 3:30:45 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ - mustangsally,
I think she already weeded him out by seeing his picture, though... Point is, he knew it and he got pissed about it. Just as it is easy for someone to express their disdain to a stranger via online chat, it should be as easy to not let it get to you when one does. The guy technically had nothing to lose by doing that, except self-dignity, which he apparently didn't have much of beforehand. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 4:20:40 PM | Gee Angel, he sounds like the life of the party*. You must really miss him!
*(The Jack@ss Party)
You did just fine. If anything, much too kind.
There was a couple of letters from a "lady" last year who suddenly turned vehemently abusive when I changed part of my profile. Yikes, everyone else "got it". Something off kilter there.
In retrospect, I think I was much too polite in simply telling her to never write me again. She's still on this site too. In fact, sometimes the mind wanders to conspiracy theories and the like ... (Is she haunting my mail? Turning the cuties away? Ooo! Is that a pin prick I feel in the thigh? Oww! Hey that wasn't my thigh!)
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Posted: 12/18/2006 8:16:33 PM | | He sounds like the reason delete and block came into existance. Don't even waste a minute of your time- you were polite and he was not. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 8:53:34 PM | | If someone sends me pics (particularily after him sending them was discussed), and he's not my type but still worthy of friendship, I simply thank him for sending the pics and continue chatting. It's a way of acknowledging that I noticed them and appreciate him sending them after he said he would, without commenting on his looks. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 10:04:33 PM | Thx for the feedback ... glad im not the only one who thought this guy was overreacting lol
MustangSally Yeah I hate being blocked expecally when i was going to do it first but forgot
Deepbluesguy....yeah i miss him lots!!!!  actually after the third message it got pretty entertaining me and my friend couldnt stop laughing lol As far as me being too kind I have that problem...might be why im still single lol
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KessM
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Joined: 3/24/2006
Msg: 17 | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 11:30:56 PM | | i cant believe he got that snitty over his pics...like a couple pictures really encompasses a whole person. i would go with "self-esteem issues" and let it go. like i have stated in previous forum(s)...attractiveness can change greatly based on personality...apparently he doesnt know that yet...his loss, not yours...sigh...boys..... | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 5:52:48 AM | Sounds like the dood would be justification for reinstating
involuntary Electro Convulsive Therapy.
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Posted: 12/19/2006 8:40:08 AM | first of all (no pic) on profile is a big red flag to me, -whats he hiding from?
second, he sends you 5 pics and gets upset because you dont comment on them?, i think he has insecurity issues... | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 9:05:59 AM | | Angel, you sure have been on POF a long time. Why don't you give guys a chance instead of judging them by their pics? | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 11:19:19 AM | | Well first off the guy needs to give his head a shake.When you make the decision to post a profile on line you have to have thick skin,You have to know that not everybody is going to be attracted to you just like I'm sure he isn't attracted to everyone that sends him a pic.But I must add that not getting a response at all is what pisses me off,If your not interested ladies give us a curtesy note at the very least,smiles....Mike | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 1:50:56 PM | Exactly Mike.
People have to learn that this is a place of selection. People like what they like, if it's not you, chalk it up. Life's too short to worry about those who aren't into you, you could miss the ones who do.
OT: I agree that it's annoying when you get pics and get asked what you think, or someone gets upset because you don't say anything. That's putting someone on the spot, what are you supposed to say? My response is to the quality of the pics and if I think any other women will respond to them. Hell, they ask what I think, so I tell them what I think...as in "too blurry", "great dog", "too far away", etc. My personal reaction to the pics isn't relative if I am not interested, anyway...if they press me, I will tell them that.
OP: You were polite about it. It's not your job to hold someone's hand if they can't deal with that type thing...in the end it's their issue. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 5:20:06 PM | | It's easy for people to hide behind the screen and be less polite than they would be if they were face to face with you. I wouldn't take it personally. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 5:32:21 PM | | It doesn't mean nothing. Anyone can have an attitude now and then and it has no bearing on them . This is just another example of how burned out ALL OF US can get from being on here so often for so long. I get on for a max of about 3 to 5 days and then I am off for 2 or more weeks. IT is exhausting. I know if I stayed on for a long time, that I would be short and unappreciative of people's kindness of giving me time. GOOD LESSON for us all. | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
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Posted: 12/19/2006 5:46:33 PM | OMG yes I've met some fishies who are a few Fries short of a Happy Meal. Buttttt they are the best entertainment of all!!! So, it's all cool with me.
Anyway, I've said it before and I'll say it again, the HUGE vast majority of guys I talk to on here are nice and polite with me. Only rarely do I meet a nutjob, so don't let it scare you off the Pond.
It helps when you have a practical attitude yourself (sounds like you do already). I ASSUME everyone I chat with is writing to me from the mental hospital or jail where he lives, or the SHORT school bus just dropped him off at home with mommy. That way no matter what goof-ball wacked out crazy things they say....it all kinda just makes sense.
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