| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/4/2005 4:52:14 AM | What is this new word being thrown around all about. What is a player?
I have been told that apparently if you talk to too many people of the opposite sex and have dates with different people you are a player. Is this true?
For some odd reason I thought this was part of the dating game. You chat , you go on a date, you see if you have anything in common or any chemistry to warrant another date. If not then you continue to talk to others and date. AND sometimes if there is NO chemistry or a click you remain friends and still continue to talk. OR you date and decide you don't click after all but STILL remain friends. This too I hear is called a player.
I hear that word thrown around alot these days, so ladies & gents, I really want some clarification or your opinions on what a player really is. For some reason I get the feeling it isn't a compliment. LOL. | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/4/2005 5:13:22 AM | heya sexy Sweet
I believe its referring to someone that will say anything to get a 1 niter and then move on, thus someone who plays people..Now i wonder if it could also mean those that will say anything to anyone to get into a relationship for financial gain also, that would be playing with someones emotions.
From experience, those that call others players are saying so because they dont have the nerve to talk to the target "player", so they make up name to justify their fear.
Whichever, if you feel its not complimentary, then disregard it, you can make everyone happy all the time. | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/4/2005 9:15:44 AM | | its the guy looking at every skirt in the room | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/4/2005 10:57:55 AM | Wizard great deffinition and yes to the finacial gain as well
Jessie. Thats the demented not the player. Players don;t have to stoop to those stunts.
Sweet nice new picture. You look great.
My deffinition is pretty much the same as the wizard. | |
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Enig
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Joined: 12/18/2004
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/4/2005 11:11:04 AM | Hey SexySweet, well what your doing is definately not a player, if your trying to find a date that's totally different. A player is someone who plays the field, seeing and dating all kinds of ppl. Someone who does date all kinds of ppl not looking to date for short term even I think it's really up to them and if they wish to do it, so be it. If they didn't make any promises or give you any indication of more; then they don't owe anyone anything. The person on the other hand who does it implying that their looking for more and use ppl for whatever gain, sexual, financial or whatever is the player who plays with your emotions, ect. and is the one to be watching out for.
Wizard: I call ppl players, and I don't have fear nor do I judge them, well except for that fact. I might not agree with everyone or their actions, but if someone isn't ready to be in a relationship or doesn't want to period, it's their choice.
I do think a problem arises when there isn't clear communication and one party gets their hopes up expecting or thinking there's more there than really is.
GL all  | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/4/2005 4:49:01 PM | Sweet my dear
Let me tell you what a player is.. It's in the mind of people who have no life. See one that
is online and single cant be a player cause there not in a relationship so they have the right
to talk to woman / men and look for interest and sometimes they meet and find it some times they dont ITS CALLED DATING but some people have a hard time with it. See the reason why is someone is interested in some else and the one is still talking to someone else so person one calls person two a player cause there not just talking to them . as you know when i was talking to someone once and her friend imed me and the other one got mad you know what thats like im sure you have seen it happen .. So a player is a person who is doing just what they should be doing talking meeting looking for the right person ... the person calling someone a player is someone that cant handle life and wants all the attention .. just one mans though Now I hope this helps you in you quest in the answer to WHAT IS A PLAYER .. so now good luck in your quest and your search for inlightenment for the word quest ...........
Franmac
one who has been called Player from time to time | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/4/2005 4:56:46 PM | I also agree with the above...........but would also like to add, the men/women who are looking for just sex, but dont say they are looking for just sex, and therefore use/play the people they have met/date............
i guess just another way to look at it | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/4/2005 5:08:50 PM | Star it dont matter if someones looking for sex on here cause he or she cant get it
unless someone gives it .. so maybe you can call them sex hunters but not players
some men and some woman are on here to meet for sex and some are on here to meet
there soul mate .. no matter no one gets anything un less someone gives it so it someone sleeps with someone and he or she moves on then you can be mad at them cause you gave them what they want .. as for when you meet someone and they dont call you back so what its why you met them to see if you or them were interested.. again its called DATING what happens on the date is up to who it is always up to you and when i say you i mean you the ones that read this and to as many as ar far off dating is what its call player is not me get a bad rap cause people have no idea what there talking about so i would say to you all that think that way think about it you have a choice sleep with themn or dont but dont get mad when you do and they move on .. you made the choice .. if your talking to someone talk to them and why would you feel you have the right to be mad at them cause there talking to someone else .. who do you think you are controling bossy and odd i would say .. I believe most are looking for true love and this is but one ave. to find it trust me not one man or woman isnt looking for the true love some will say no but there not telling the truth .. ok well let me have it | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/4/2005 5:14:21 PM | ok franmac, i give you that.........you are right about that...........but dont forget sometimes there is the sweet pillow talk, and the promises, (and no i havent had this happen)..........just putting this out there............
ok as for the dating part of it,,,,,,,,,,,,when do you figure you become 'exclusive'................another point to ponder along the same line.............
and mad.........who said anything about being mad | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/4/2005 5:20:17 PM | yes but there can be sweet pillow talk on date 3 or 4 or even 5 the man that wants
sex wont be there for date two so you need not worry about it hes not getting it tonight
hes off to the next one | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/4/2005 5:42:14 PM | Franmac, you player you! (and I know you aren't)..
It has been interesting hasn't it? .lol...wise words my POF friend
See you Saturday! | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/5/2005 1:40:19 PM | Me & Wisard think a like,
I also think that most men will tell me some thing & then don't follow through. A lot of men will say I could, I might, I probably will, I may, I will try, I will try really hard, Their Is no defenate yes's here. They are all maybes. They will do any thing to get u In bed ya.
Then the players don't say much & u are saying a lot about your self. So I say I hate lieyers.
Why lie If u are trying to meet some one.
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/5/2005 1:52:28 PM | | i think a player is anyone who "plays" (or lies) to a another person (guy OR girl) to get something out of them (usually sex). | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/7/2005 7:10:04 AM | Boy there is some interesting reading here!! Love it!!! LOL
So, in order to go with the flow,,,, Here is my two cents worth! (which would probably get you change if you try to sell it! LOL)
Player: Noun,, one who will date multiple people, simultaniously, leading each to believe that they are, or will be exclusive, with absolutely no intention of ever making it a reality.
Everyone else is just trying to find someone special to share their life with. Sometimes that means turning over a lot of rocks and kissing a lot of frogs on the way! But isn't that one of the things that keeps life both interesting and moving forward?? | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/7/2005 7:52:00 AM | I will give it a try to answer that one. A player is somebody who make you believe things
that are not true.. The will come to see you but they don't, they will call you back but they don't, like missy said you don't go throu your stuff.. Why just not saying what you really want and the person will accept it or not.. We are adult so say the true stuff..
Liar, bullshitter, are player for me.. But again, it might only be a lack of self confidence on themself.. It's easy to hide behind a computer and tell what the other want wants to hear.. Just put yourself on the shoes of the other one you bullshitting and maybe you will understand that you can hurt feelings of others.
Just be yourself.. don't try to be somebody else.. | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/7/2005 8:22:47 AM | We are all players in one form or another, its the nature of the dating game. Thay just love to hang that name on you awful fast. Truth is, those that are so quick to call others a player are usually the biggest of all. I guess it truely takes one to know one.
The picture on my profile is really that of Patrick Swazey. Im an overweight sofa surfer. who burps, farts, and sweats like a melting candle. I got bad breath and smelly feet. Hair going out of my ears, well dreglocks actually. No teeth and bowlegged.
Ha just jokin' | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/7/2005 10:38:15 AM | | If just joking then why post a joke? Some people beleive things u know | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/8/2005 6:20:05 PM | | What is a Player? How about someone that says they want to be with you, they are not looking for anyone else, but they join dating sites and come on to others on the net. They don't tell others that they are involved with you, and they don't tell you that they have joined dating sites, or began to communicate with new prospects. A player strings along women or men, whichever, and leads them all to believe that they are "the one". Been through it myself very recently. Someone that I thought was actually a very good and close friend, ended up being a player. Took me 2 years to comfirm it........lol. | |
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Keycee
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Joined: 8/22/2004
Msg: 19 | |
| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/8/2005 7:12:02 PM | | Think thats a message to somebody real special. | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/8/2005 8:13:02 PM | | well i was always under the impression that a player was someone who had more than one actual g/f or b/f, cuz they make someone believe they're in a comitted relationship when they're really not.....but ya, it definitly isn't a compliment lol | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/8/2005 8:14:31 PM | | i feel for u, my last b/f did that shit to me.... | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/9/2005 5:05:40 AM | | Thanks crimsonstorm. We are worth more than that and truly deserve alot better. | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 4/10/2005 11:52:43 PM | A player is one who plays a game... in this case... the goal of the game is a roll in the hay with the promises of more dates.. a future.. etc... and afterwards stop contacting them. It could take a few days.. a few weeks before that man/woman gets the prospective "playee" into the sack within which time numerous calls are made.. numerous chats are had... during the few days following the encounter there will be a slight contact.. but it dwindles into nothing so that the "playee" is left in the cold... meanwhile the "player" has moved on to their next game....
Thats my 2 cents worth... | |
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 5/10/2005 1:24:59 PM | | And there are also the ones that keep you waiting in the wings just in case nothing else comes along. Or for whatever reason. Pick up where you left off, then set you aside again for whatever reason. | |
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w82b
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Joined: 5/9/2005
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| What is a Player?
Posted: 5/10/2005 2:04:31 PM | Although the tendencies would lean toward sexual reward, not all players are in it for the sex. It is possible that a person does not want to commit but doesn't admit it. There are many daters out there who don't have sex with a person, but doesn't let them know that nothing will become of their dating other than just a dates because they feel incomplete without being in the company of the opposite sex.
Overall, the vast majority of a player's objective is getting sex from many, less a commitment. They also "Say what a person wants to hear" until they feel it is time to move on.
Wise players don't do the one night stand thing as often as you may think. They would prefer to get a more decent, moral woman (at least in their mind)... that is there trophy. It takes patience. Any female or male who is an experienced player can identify a one nighter within minutes of a conversation... they aren't as coveted. | |
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