| Give out Phone Numbers
Posted: 12/26/2006 11:11:40 PM | Some Chick, said "its rude for guys to give out there phone numbers to the girls".
I say Screwwwwwww that. If she doesnt want to call, she doesnt call So what..
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Posted: 12/27/2006 1:51:25 AM | most women i have encountered feel uneasy to call a guy, however they love to text. -give her your number and ask her to text you... | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 5:49:24 PM | I'd much rather a guy give me HIS number so I have the option to call him when I feel comfortable doing so (and have had time to decide that he's not an axe murderer or something).
When guys ask me for my number right away, I feel very uncomfortable and if I don't feel the right "vibes" from the guy, or think he's being pushy, I'll refuse or give him a slightly different (one or two digits?) number than my own. I have actually given my work number (switchboard, not direct line) to people before so they can't try to "track" down my personal numbers. Lots of wierdos and creeps out there and I'd rather feel safe and hopefully the guy will understand and give me his number first.
Edit to note: And I actually hate texting. Takes too much time and I'd rather hear a voice than read a million short messages, while trying to decipher his "text-speak." | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 5:59:11 PM | Ok for me its a matter of timing.
If I get an email and all thats on it is call me xxx-xxxx. Im not going to call. I would like get a chance to read your profile and correspond first and then agree mutually to call.
Besides, How do you know Im not a weirdo? (dont answer that luck and magical lolol)
pagypsy | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 8:50:06 PM | ^^^^ susan -you should try texting -you can share fun pics (as long as your not sharing with a perv)
pa-g: your quite ok -just dont show up here in the valley in january in shorts and a tank top... | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 9:25:46 PM | Hey Luck,
I guess I must be "digitally challenged" because I just can't get my fingers to push the buttons fast enough to text anything intelligible. I'm amazed at how fast my kids can do it, but me? Oh well...I could never play video games either unless it was pinball or centipede. Must be that hand-to-eye coordination I'm lacking.  | |
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Posted: 12/28/2006 2:42:36 PM | Well this is how it goes- it's different, I think according to the ages of women, but every woman is DIFFERENT and each has DIFFERENT reasons for being cautious.
When the guy gives me his number, and I call, I'm pretty much giving him mine in return unless I act quite cautiously, and I'm lazy, so these days, it's all six of one half dozen of another whether I give him mynumber or he gives me his.
I'm more concerned about giving out my number because I don't know when he'll call and I have a whacked schedule and with my traveling son always calling from a new number, I tend to answer numbers I don't recognize. When I'm working, and interrupted with a coffeedate call, it's not cool.
And then there have been the guys who called and called and called and got all needy on me. NO. So I'll be reluctant for awhile after those experiences to chat on the phone with strangers.
Then the possessive guys. Hey, I'm DATING around, not screwing around. I'm not going to go all LTR on you right away and you don't own me just because we had an intimate conversation.
When someone hooks you up with a friend or relative, the person has been screened first- just a little. So I like to kind of screen through e-mail first, and I'm not much of a call the man first kind of girl, even though it suits my situation better, and it really is all about timing. I've been reluctant to call or give out numbers for reasons that I just could not explain, just a feeling, and I've jumped at the chance to start a conversation with others. If I could adequately explain my yo-yo mentality, I'd have to reveal the secrets of women, and I'm not permitted to do that, they'd kick me out of the club.
Jeannie | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 4:19:26 PM | | I give mine out, when the man wants to definitely meet me, yes. I like for him to do the same, but I do prefer other people to call me first. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2006 11:26:04 AM | Did you know that you can "text" to someone's phone through your e-mail?
That's another option if your fingers are digitally challenged.
Every phone company has an "address" you can send to a cell phone from a computer. (plus is doesn't cost anything to send from your computer.) | |
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Posted: 12/30/2006 9:53:12 PM | | I totally agree with text messaging as a good option. I have kids and not a ton of alone time until they are in bed, texting is a way to be in touch with people without interrupting what I'm doing (or being victim to nosey children). Personally, I'm not a huge phone person, unless it comes to my sister, lol, but I do think it is a natural and important progression in the getting to know you phase. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2006 11:30:41 PM |
Did you know that you can "text" to someone's phone through your e-mail?
That's another option if your fingers are digitally challenged.
Every phone company has an "address" you can send to a cell phone from a computer. (plus is doesn't cost anything to send from your computer.)
How do you do that? I never knew that was possible. I need all the help I can get! It took me 2 years and my 22 yr old son to show me how to download the pics from my phone to the computer. Guess I should read the instructions, huh?  | |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 10:55:49 AM | | Im a little phone shy...i have had #'s giving to me under all kinds of reasons ...like........i want to hear your voice....or...i work all day at a computer and dont want to type..and then had bad reasons also...like ... i want you to call me right now so i know your not married...or call me so i have your # on my phone id......i just get real shy and quite on the phone....now in person or once i get to know you then every thing is fine.....so i guess im saying i really dont like to talk on the phone untill some time has passed and the person has become a friend............ | |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 11:46:28 AM | | I'm with King ... I have to get to know the person a little to see if we will even have anything to talk about first before calling someone. I too tend to be a little shy on the phone until i get to know someone ... so I wait awhile so i don't appear not interested or boring when it is just me being shy .. you know what they say about first impressions | |
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Joined: 8/8/2005
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| Give out Phone Numbers
Posted: 1/5/2007 10:45:21 AM | | I don't mind if you have been emailing by and forth for awhile and if I did call I might block my number unless I really thouhgt I knew the guy | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 1:22:57 PM | I say by all means give me a guys number...I will decide if I want to call and when.....I am really tired of the guys say here is my number, now call me now......
Soo freakin rude!!!! What happened to all the nice guys who have manners and ask, not tell me what and when......I was taught that it is only proper for a guy to ASK not DEMAND. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 7:36:20 PM | | EXACTLLY!!!Manners are a must! Mostly a thing of the past it seems.I'm not one to talk on the phone. I HATE to make the first call. If a guy gives me his number and I think I'd like to meet him, I'll give mine. I guess its old fashioned but he should be the one to call. | |
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Joined: 7/9/2006
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Posted: 1/31/2007 9:30:05 PM | | Weird chicks.. we are living in a new age.... and there are a lot less rules than there used to be. I believe it's all in how you feel. I've had some truly bad experiences with this on-line dating thing... even had to change my number, but at the same time I get impatient with the whole emailing thing.. it could go on forever.. so I like when a guy gives me his number.. I like having the option of "if" and "when"... just makes sense to me.. and I also know he's interested enough to take a chance.. as far as people being weirdos it's not a girl/guy thing, if the person is a nut.. they're a nut...doesn't matter what sex they are. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2007 9:49:29 PM | | Around the 3rd or 4th email, if the email conversation is going well, I will say, "Do you want to talk by phone?" If she says yes and gives me her number, I'll call her. If she says yes but doesn't give me her number, I'll give her mine. Comfort levels around phoning vary a lot from person to person, some people take a while before they are ready to give out their number. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2007 5:58:10 AM | well here is my view. i always ,when ready to talk, give my number and it is up to her. if she doesn't call then cool. if she thinks it wrong of me to offer it then why the hell is she here?!
you ladies out there get real needy as well and won't quit calling us either. it seems you bring your prior issues to here and never fully release them and then you are trying to meet us and having us suffer through the guys of before.
lets remember one thing here clearly. . . IT IS ONLY A PHONE NUMBER AND YOU DO NOT HAVE TO CALL IT.
and give us guys a chance. some of us really are good guys!
Dennis | |
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Posted: 2/15/2007 6:58:35 AM | I'm not a car salesman... I don't need a woman's number to "seal a deal" and harass and call her back endlessly until she finally gives in... which is what car sales people do, which is why they ALWAYS ask for your information before you leave... so they can non-stop harass you. A lot of men approach getting "numbers" from women in the same fashion as car salesmen do when they approach potential customers... and I was a car salesman for a small while and 100% disliked it.
To that end, I do not ask for the woman's phone number... I give her mine, and give her my e-mail address too... and it's up to her from there.
Sure, I've got a 0% success rate... but I don't care.
The people I'm looking for will call me. If the woman I give my number to does not... then you can't lose what you never had; ya know?
It's not a big deal to me though...
--Brandon | |
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Posted: 2/15/2007 2:50:22 PM | For me the question is purely academic. I don't think I have ever asked for a phone number or given one out. I don't have a paranoia about it or anything. What usually happens is that she sends hers to me unilaterally and takes mine from her caller ID.
Sure, I've got a 0% success rate... but I don't care.
The people I'm looking for will call me. If the woman I give my number to does not... then you can't lose what you never had; ya know? Pagan is right about this. If she doesn't ask me for my number then she doesn't want it badly enough. I won't ask her for hers for the same reasons I never applied to dental school -- I don't want to start pulling eye teeth. One thing I do know about myself is that hard-to-get and hide-n-seek piss me off. If she can't say, "here ya go. use it soon" then I have exactly zero interest. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2007 6:07:29 PM | Pagan is right about this. If she doesn't ask me for my number then she doesn't want it badly enough. I won't ask her for hers for the same reasons I never applied to dental school -- I don't want to start pulling eye teeth. One thing I do know about myself is that hard-to-get and hide-n-seek piss me off. If she can't say, "here ya go. use it soon" then I have exactly zero interest.
Holy crap...I cannot decide if this is egotistical, or just rude. What I am getting from this is that its all up to the woman to ask for a number...If she doesn't you have zero interest? I am blown away by this response. To me this reaks of hard-to-get and hide-and-seek, both of which you claim to hate. If you are interested flippin ask. | |
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