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 Really Am Me
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 1
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A little while back I had went on a coffee date, and the guy joked and said if anyone asked where we met, to just say we met at the Pal (my choice if I had wanted to say elsewhere would have been the grocery store, not the Pal). He wasn't comfortable at all with the idea of saying we met through the internet.

I would think in today's society, is there harm to be said you met on the internet? Or would you stick to the local grocery store or "the Pal"?
 *~*Pink*Smartie*Lypz*~*
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 2
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Posted: 12/28/2006 8:53:27 PM
RAM ...you are way better than the PAL!! You tell him you met at....some quaint little place...or you were washing your car or something!! but good grief...why be embarassed everyone is doing it!

 Really Am Me
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 3
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Posted: 12/28/2006 8:59:12 PM
I personally don't find a problem with saying we met on the internet. Of course, that person will only meet my friends once I know that we will be going further than just a few dates.

I find it is getting more and more common because everyone is at home on their computers, and my girlfriends know that I am "internet dating".
 DietCoke®Guy
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 4
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Posted: 12/28/2006 9:40:26 PM
I remember the reactions I got in '97 when I went to Virginia and met a lady I had been chatting / emailing with for months. Some people were quite shocked and figured I may come back less a kidney or something if I did make it back!
Personally, I would rather say I met someone through the internet than at a bar.
 LightUpMyLife*
Joined: 11/15/2006
Msg: 5
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Posted: 12/28/2006 9:51:33 PM
My whole family knows what I'm up to, nothing like having to cover up the story forever if it works out. My family has never said anything negative about it (that includes mom and dad). I find a lot more men than women worry about it (my opinion only).

I'm out of the closet when it comes to my online dating, nothing to be ashamed about here.
 medicgirl911
Joined: 4/19/2006
Msg: 6
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Posted: 12/28/2006 10:13:54 PM
If he is ashamed to say he is internet dating ... why is he doing it?? No matter where he found you he should be proud as hell!!!

I met my husband "online" Im not ashamed!! lol...
 onid_a
Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 7
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Posted: 12/28/2006 10:20:37 PM
He'd rather say he met someone at a bar?

Hmm, what sounds better?

"Hey guys I'd like you to meet my new girlfriend, I met her chugging back shooters at the pal."

or

"Hey, I got to know this really great lady by chatting with her online for a bit. After we had coffee and I met her in person I got butterflies in my stomach."
 Perfect_Gentleman
Joined: 9/14/2005
Msg: 8
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Posted: 12/28/2006 11:32:31 PM
You could always tell people you met at a K.D. Lang look a like contest.

There are still some social stigmas attached to internet dating. A lot of people who participate in internet dating have circles of friends who don't use the internet and only hear of the internet dating horror stories that occasionally appear in the media. These people have negative views and preconceived notions. Some view us as a bunch of losers who can't get dates the "normal" way." Prior to the internet, similar scorn was placed on singles clubs and personal ads in the newspapers. In some eyes, we are just part of that historical path.

Given the above, some choose to avoid the "how did you meet question." It is easy to adopt an "I don't care what others think" approach and kudos to those of you for doing so. All I am saying is that it is easy to understand how some can be uncomfortable with the situation.

For those who are uncomfortable with spilling the online beans, instead of inventing a location as to where you met...tell the truth...tell people where you first met in person. You don't have to say that you arranged the meeting online.
 to_sassy_4u
Joined: 11/15/2006
Msg: 9
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Posted: 12/28/2006 11:33:56 PM
i technically never used the net for dating persay as others do..

but have met a couple guys i did end up dating through the net..

my mom rips into me everytime i ever mention i am talking to a new guy from the net and suggest we are going to meet. she so annoys me..over her old ways!! even when i say..its no different than the bar..or bingo or even the library..church..bowling etc etc...you meet people in many different ways.

i give up on debating things with her at times!!...but i understand her hatred over the net and others meeting and the bad feelings/hurt it caused in our family and others. as she has never been on a comp ever//but it cost her in the past by someone else.

after my dad died..she met a guy in a hotel..she ended up common law with...and its approvable to her..grrr....but a guy on the net..she has a very strong opnion of..(not good either)..she is just old fashioned.

it goes back to a person's own security/safety zone..some dont want others in their personal life thinking less of them or seeing it in their opinion as a last effort desperate move. this i am guilty of over my own brother.. him being on the phone lines..spending $$ (a few thousand)on a dating/match making business to meet what he could of in person in other ways. to end up where he was when he started anyways....**single** but refuses to ever date anyone off the net.

myself..i dont know the answers..since all people are different in many different aspects in meeting. every person is for their own on this one. but i find people on the net are most sinical on how they/others meet people than any other venue.
 edjoecdn
Joined: 5/25/2006
Msg: 10
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Posted: 12/29/2006 12:08:09 AM
How about this one...>>>>

"All I remember was doing shooters at the pal"......

Next thing I know I'm wakeing up and there she is... all naked and sleeping.

Round Four..? Hmmmmmm
 Grapevyne
Joined: 11/24/2006
Msg: 11
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Posted: 12/29/2006 3:59:15 AM
Internet dating? I say “So what!”

All it is, is using new technology.

For all the dissers of internet dating, next time ask them if they refuse to use an ATM and always must prefer the bank teller, or ride a car instead of a horse-drawn buggy!!!

I’d rather say we met on an internet dating site than some skuzzy meat-market bar that has a poor reputation. (although it’s up to the individual as to what they’re looking for)
But THAT just may lower the credibility, in the eyes of others, of the person I have chosen to date and cause me to be embarrassed (Not that I would care what others think, but that’s my view)
 Srooc
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 12/29/2006 5:02:37 AM
RAM ... you could always save the where we actually met for when your mad at him and at one of his family functions, then come out with we met on a Internet Porn Swapping site! Cause we all know the Internet is for Porn!


edit: and sometimes personal banking..
 y_b_good
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 13
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Posted: 12/29/2006 5:15:25 AM
did I hear baking?...
wheres the baking?...I want the baking...lol
 _Steamer_
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 14
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Posted: 12/29/2006 5:27:13 AM
My family and coworkers know about POF and I have had a few coworkers try POF (one is getting married in April). oops' daughter is the one that got her on here (and I thank her every time I see her).

We actually met at the last NYE function at Boogie's, so it sounds better to tell people that we met on POF than that we met at a Main Street bar.
 itsbluessue
Joined: 1/4/2006
Msg: 15
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Posted: 12/29/2006 7:47:36 AM
Well lets see Hmmmmm Yep I meet Wild_one on the internet . Some of us work in jobs where we really dont get to meet many people and as far as meeting someone at a bar...well alot of us just cant be bothered to play the bar games in search of a mate.

Some of the best suited and nicest couples I know met on the internet.....just look at Oops and Steamer, Sessie and Dan and Witchy and Snakes to name a few.

Yep we met on the internet......but fell in love in person.

BluesSue
 rayman returns
Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 16
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Posted: 1/3/2007 3:32:11 AM
in todays world its socially acceptable to say u have met on the internet, though to some people with old values ( like perhaps your grandparents) it may be best to say where you really met in person, it don't matter how vague you are afterall its your life not anyone elses

Myself I met my lovely gal on the internet but to have remembered seeing her at a small town social. .
 A Purrrfect Pisces
Joined: 11/12/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 1/3/2007 9:56:20 AM
As they say ... the truth will set you free .......... I'd have no problem telling people where I met someone ............... hell, it's better than saying you met at a bar ........... cause ya know, that's got just nasty stuff written all over it .................

Besides, that whole lying thing, it just has a domino affect and will eventually come back and bite you in the a$$ ...... and what else would he "prefer you not tell people" ........ naw, red flag already .....

You stay strong in your beliefs RAM ........

Nice new pic by the way darlin .......

PP
 edjoecdn
Joined: 5/25/2006
Msg: 18
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Posted: 1/3/2007 10:00:21 AM
Welcome to the "new world" for anyone more than 24years old......

The internet is a wonderful thing... where else can one 'shop" for a date....and

....get rejectted in the comfort of thier own home sitting there in Pj's ...???

Where it's allmost backwards from what "we" are used to... one gets to "know" somebody..well at least thier "online" personality then to meet them in person with certain expectations.... some times thier met.....most times you realize ..... hmmm " not so much".

At least there's the porn swapping.... where's that site again.."sroocmi" ...???? LOL
 redhead_girl
Joined: 3/7/2005
Msg: 19
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Posted: 1/3/2007 5:58:41 PM
I just rather vaguely say a "chat" site...sounds better that way.
 Old Fish
Joined: 12/9/2005
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Posted: 1/3/2007 6:10:05 PM
Internet dating or online chat.. when you meet someone that intrest you does it really matter where or how you met them?
 orangerum07
Joined: 8/25/2004
Msg: 21
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Posted: 1/3/2007 6:22:47 PM
I think today saying you met someone online is just as relevant as saying you met at the grocery store. What difference is it where you met, as long as you agree that you did meet. LOL, did that make any sense? When I meet someone off the net I tell my friends, that way they can call and "check" on me. LOL. Why be ashamed of where you met?
 Zekk
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 22
We met where?
Posted: 1/3/2007 6:53:54 PM
"Why be ashamed of where you met?"

because some people have family / friends who believe the internet is a dangerous place where people conspire to overthrow governments.... and for porn. This is more the case for the elderly, who were around before the net was even created. a lot of older people believe internet dating to be considerd "cheating" , and makes us not work as hard for who we get.

I keep telling them its harder if anything , than in person.
 bigmac2029
Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 23
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Posted: 1/3/2007 7:25:22 PM
I think you need to ask him if he thinks little of himself for internet dating. He my think it's a not what his boddy's are doing thingy

just my 2 cents

bigmac2029
 hypno2k5
Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 24
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Posted: 1/4/2007 4:49:25 PM
Years ago, my cousin met a woman through a dating service. It was basically a blind date situation. There was no "online". I personally prefer this method. At least you can say you chatted and maybe got to know each other a bit.
 honestsincere7
Joined: 3/9/2009
Msg: 25
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Posted: 4/5/2009 5:25:39 PM
I read a page or so of the comments on this "We met where?" and its my opinion that because there are so many people meeting men/women for reasons other than finding your perfect mate, this has caused 'non-internet people' to feel it is an undesireable way to find love. There are a LOT of horror stories floating around in the news and via word of mouth because THERE IS a lot to talk about. Hell, so many people try this site and others like it and have awful stories. What we have to remember is that there are Millions of people using such sites and therefore you will find there is a lot of news to be told. There are a lot of horror stories from meeting in the bar or anywhere else as well but the news doesnt pick up on that. You cant compare the public aspect of the internet to meeting in a bar or at a social or anything else. The numbers just cant compare.

As for me, I will tell anyone exactly where I met someone and if they dont like it too bad. I agree with some of the comments I read. I would much rather say I met someone here or on any internet site than saying I met him in a bar. What these closed minded people have to realize is that when meeting someone on the internet, or ANYWHERE else, you just have to use common sense, be safe and take it slowly until you know what and who that person is. If people I know disapprove I remind them of that and they usually shut up!
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