| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/28/2006 10:34:44 PM | I want to know how someone can say they love you , need you and want you and they can see spending their life with you , make plans to see you then they just. block your profile , won't accept your phone calls and won't have anything to do with you? I need some help here cause my heart is breaking. Help someone please.. | |
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| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/28/2006 10:57:18 PM | I'm very sorry for your pain.
However, I don't have an answer for you.
Please try posting your question in the Broken Hearts forum.
You'll be more likey to find someone there who can help
answer your questions. | |
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| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/28/2006 10:57:45 PM | | Sorry your heart is breaking, but if the relationship is only at the stage where your heart is hurt because he "just blocked your profile" then you need to look at what is really was. If it was a relationship built in reality, your profile would have no bearing on it. | |
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| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/28/2006 11:02:39 PM | How long have you known this person? From what you say it sounds like you’ve just exchanged email on POF and maybe a meeting ? If so how did it get to the “I Love You” stage? please share as I could do with some advice here...
Either way..Move on, I mean, would it really be the same if he suddenly got back in touch? Would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone how has such quirky behaviour? Ask yourself if this what you are looking for in a relationship?
I've experienced it myself, my ex also told me that she loved me, I think her words were "the love of my life", then one day she said that she wanted to end it, no discussions, reason given, no trying to work it out. It was a real learning curve! People are selfish and there’s nothing that you can do about that; find someone who means what they say. | |
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| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/28/2006 11:26:28 PM | Sitykitty7 did you meet him in person? I am sorry for your pain, many of us have been there. It depends a great deal on whether you actually met or not. If you did not meet him in person, then maybe it was not real, maybe just a fantasy?? It does seem to happen on POF.
If you did meet and had the chemistry and spark, and I would bet you did nothing to bring it on either, if you do not feel you did anything, then he is just a jerk, heartless with no feelings. Unfortunately, there are people out there like that. Its so difficult when people treat you like that and you have no explanation, its like "HOW CRUEL CAN THEY BE"??? NOT FAIR.
You may never get the answer you want, but you have to try and heal and get better and get over it. LOOK LONG AND HARD AND BE CAREFUL BUT FIND THAT REALLY "NICE GUY" FOR YOU, HE'S OUT THERE SOMEWHERE. BEST OF LUCK,
kATY | |
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| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/29/2006 3:15:01 AM | The Internet is infamous for infatuation and fantasies of love...If he is so callous that he just could, "cut you loose" for no reason at all, then you just narrowly missed being involved with a complete loser who would have smashed your heart into a thousand pieces...
Imagine if you had married him???..or had a kid with him and then he pulls what he just did and he will do this over and over to women...he is a coward...Anyways, young lady, I took a look at your profile and photos..and you are NOT going to have any problems meeting men...
yikes!!
If you weren't down south, i would ask you to go out...You are to good for this!!!...
Don't get so infatuated and live in a dream...I just did that, however we did meet and had a
intense affair and the relationship had to stop and I ended it and now, i totally hurt...So, how about you and i "both" taking my advice!...lol... When we rush the love bug, often it ends in utter disaster, just like it did for me, I talk about it on my profile..
you have to get to know someone first and that, takes time and patience....
Take care, i know this hard and hurts a lot..but it will pass...and you will meet someone, who will treat you better... | |
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| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/29/2006 3:46:28 AM | | Sweetheart i,m so sorry for your pain.I know exactly how it feels to be treated like that.Tell yourself he didn,t deserve you anyway and its his loss.There are some lovely guys out there and some complete jerks too.Its just trying to find the decent ones.Some guys will tell you what they think you want to hear and then just toss you aside.I feel sorry for people like that because they cant have any sort of conscience.Why would us women want to be with someone like that anyway?You will find someone who will treat you how you deserve so just hang on in there and keep strong.Dont break your heart over someone who just isn,t worth it. | |
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| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/29/2006 4:04:26 AM | | he walked away more than likely because he had a significant other, either a wife or a girlfriend. he may have thought it a game at first and then it got serious, he actually did you a favor by showing you his true colors early, although it still hurts terribly i know. take time and heal and please realize not all men are like that, some of us mean what we say and say what we mean, but you may just have to reevaluate what you find attractive to find the man of your dreams. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 4:41:36 AM | He did you a big big favor.....sounds like you were being played....you give no indication of the length of time this all occurred I assume it was short....For me anyone who starts throwing the love you word around too fast isn't real they're playing your emotions...a emotionally secure real person doesn't fall in love quickly.....falling in love (the right way) takes time
He probably gave you more than one warning sign and you didn't see it or perhaps want to see it.....that can happen when your really attracted to someone. My only advise is a person's actions speak much louder than words....sounds like he spoke the word you wanted to hear but never followed through | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 5:18:43 AM | it's a simple case of him not being able to deal with telling you he's losing interest.
and you likely don't want to be with someone who deals like that anyway, so take a deep breath and move on. | |
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| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/29/2006 5:35:40 AM | What you 'feel' will pass...quickly....and later you will realize what really happened, and no doubt be grateful that he is not in your life. There are many players on personals websites....many who are actually MARRIED or with an SO....who are looking for extracaricular emotional/physical release and will lie and say they are single....believe me, you don't want to be entangled with this sort of deadly poisonous fish....
....someone like this would only make you heart and spirit sick in the end, ...you would end up feeling like Mr. Limpet ;)
This guy perhaps realized you had greater value than to play you...maybe he actually cared enough to remove himself from the equation of your life.....and that was a very caring act...more than you realize just yet....
I wish my 'experience' with a player had never happened.....I am feeling like a pretty raw fishie myself right now....
Just call me Sushi.... ;)......well, at least I still have some humor left... | |
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| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/29/2006 5:36:14 AM | I feel for you , but how long had you known him ?
You posted a message on the evening of DEC. 26 that you had found someone and were already in love , how long did that take ?
You also hadn't changed your profile to reflect meeting someone you loved.. why is that ?
He may be a player ... then again you might be too....
Take a few deep breaths and get back into the pond !
Get together with your family and friends and have a great New Year ! | |
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| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/29/2006 5:40:03 AM | I have been there, I think at some point we all have.
The heart feels what the heart feels, you can't put time on that.
Be it in a day, a week or a month.
Matters of the heart can not be give time limits.
There is alot of people in the world that have no problem hurting someone.
These people are the ones also who carry on so much about how badly they have been hurt or done wrong.
They make promises like they breath.
They break them like they where never said.
They sing such pretty tunes, saying and doing all the right things
They use you till they decide they are done, or as a stepping stone until something they think is better comes along, then they run.
To cowdardly to tell you face to face they want to end it.
Just push you to the back of their minds that way they don't have no guilt.
Out of site, outta mind.
But find comfort in the this, what goes around comes around, karma will do justice for you and then some. | |
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| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/29/2006 5:45:14 AM | love is wonderfu isnt it?,,,,,,,we should all enjoy
it of course but you dont
want to give someone so much power when he leaves
it shatters your whole life
i'm so sorry my dear but now you
have to do what all of us do when this happens; fight
for your own emotional survival | |
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| How could he just walk away...may not have been really him..
Posted: 12/29/2006 6:00:02 AM | did you ever meet this person in person? it could be that they lied about who they were, what they looked like, where they lived and just couldnt think of a way out of the lies.
I had a guy write me many emails from a different site and within weeks he was madly in love, he wrote me poems, sent music, called me on the comuter and left warm loving messages and i didnt believe that anyone could fall in love like that with out meeting the other person. since I am new to the online dating I responded back a few times asking very general questions and when I googled the answers he gave it turned out he was full of it. so then I decided to have some fun, (I was protected by my dating service) and told him I fell in love with him too, couldnt wait to meet him and told him I wanted to send him a birthday present, a nice one, then he came up with this great story how he was transferred to another state for his job and that I could just send it to his friends house.. NO I wouldnt do that, I offered to fly out and deliver it myself (really putting on the presure) he wiggled and tried to think of answers but finally admitted all of the lies, after making me promise I wouldnt be mad... hehehehehe as soon as he told the entire truth, I broke my promise and deleted his access, closed down my profile and changed my email and msn messenger, so I bet in was something like that, I am sorry you got hurt, be sure to ask alot of questions and make sure that they are telling the truth, you cant be to careful these days, can you? | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 6:07:04 AM | | I feel your pain. Guys do it all the time, it's the "coward's way out"! I had a very similar experience only it was with someone with whom I had a real (offline) almost 2 year long relationship. Don't contact him anymore, try not to think about him. Time will heal, easy to say - I am still healing. Best wishes to you. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 6:09:48 AM | | you just have to watch people some are just jerks i met someone on here and really liked him saw him several times even drove him to doctor's appts because he didn't have a car i was not in love but thought there could be possibillities. Imagine after a couple months he emailed and told me he had a fiancee and couldn't talk to me or see me anymore because she had threatened to break up with him. i couldn't believe it what a jerk and he is the one who pursued me i guess it takes all kinds. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 6:10:32 AM | | If you never met this guy then I don't understand how your heart can be breaking. My emotional involvement with someone doesn't go beyond friendship until we have met and more. As for why he doesn't want anything to do with you, I would say he is like me and didn't form any sort of real emotional bond with you so it was quite simple for him to block you and move on. His reasons for doing so are his own and you can only guess at them. The lesson here is to learn to wait until you actually meet and get to know someone - in person - before becoming so emotionally attached. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 6:14:36 AM | | same happend to me just put it down to him being a T***er and look for someone else. I dont know why these men do this its all new to me (29yrs married) Just think that you are better off without him, its easy to say hard to do especially if they just dont do say anything all the best there is someone out there for you I had one for all those years just went wrong in the end. good luck | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 6:15:28 AM | Honey...I am very sorry for your pain but I agree with most of the posts here.Maybe there were other factors that played a part here.Like a girlfriend or he was married.Had you mety him in person yet?He just showed you his true colors early and that was what you needed to see.Move on and know that you can do sooooo much better.Hold your head up.It isnt over yet for you! | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 6:21:58 AM | hey girl i have been there!!!! keep your head up high...just ask yourself this question. why would you want someone who doesn't want you!!!!! you better than that!!!! you deserve a man who is going to want to be there even if your feelings are hurt right now you still know you deserve the best... and sweetie you will find what your looking for !!!!! hopefully we all will!!! the year is almost over and the new year is right around the corner!!!! good luck to ya and remember keep that pretty chin up girl!!!!!! | |
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| How could he just walk away...
Posted: 12/29/2006 6:41:16 AM | You fell prey to a manupulator guy. Some guys will lie to you to get you in bed they will tell you that they love and want to spend there lives with you to get in your pants. Women will believe lies more than a man. Ex: Eve believed the lie when satan told her that she would be like god by partaken in the forbitten fruit.
Advice : Dont sleep with the man until after you have dated them for at least 2 or 3 months or better yet dont sleep with him until 6 months. If he hangs around that long without sleeping with you chances are he really does like you.
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Posted: 12/29/2006 6:51:20 AM | | This sounds extremely familiar to me. I met a man, in person. It was a whirlwind romance, in which the feelings flowed very quickly, on both parts, or so he claimed. In fact he was the one that said the L word first. Anyway, it was wonderful, the closest thing to Love I have known, thus far. One afternoon we spent together, as he had taken the day off for a toothache, we watched a movie at my place and all was wonderful. He called me a cpl hours after he left as he always did. Then that night he suddenly started not answering my calls. This happened for a cpl days. I finally left a message saying if he didn't call me back in 10 mins I was coming over to his house, as I was worried about him. He called me right back with some excuse that I didn't believe. Anyway, long story short, he admitted to cheating on me and decided "he didn't deserve me". Total line, I know. He went from telling me I was his everything, to just vanishing from my life. As for Karma, well, now he's with someone new and seems extremely happy with her. And here I am swimming in the pond again!...lol. So, I don't know. Oh well, I suppose I will catch an even bigger fish someday, and find what real love is like...and you will too. Believe me I was crushed then, but now I can ALMOST laugh about it. It gets easier with time. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 6:53:19 AM | As a old gal of 50,I would say you are better off without him. Yes, it hurts now, but arent you glad that it stoppd before anymore time and energy was spent. He obviously wasnt the one for you. I can say this after a long road of heartbreak. Just believe in yourself, and the right someone will come along. Also, I know you realy dont want to hear this, but maybe her was feeling a bit too rushed, and it scared him. Go slow..enjoy the ride next time.  | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 7:06:13 AM | it sucks it hurts and you have to move on...
but if it was just your profile... maybe you were putting too much into this...
really I have been dumped more than once... a lot more and it always hurts, that being said learn from the experience... and move on up! | |
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