Kee2
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/29/2006 5:53:05 PM | | In order to get to know someone, we need to be able to communicate. Before an actual meeting occurs, the phone is usually used, but I notice that some women act as if it's a really hard step to exchange phone numbers. Enlighten me as to what fears you have in exchanging phone numbers with guys. | |
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SMK
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Joined: 7/9/2006
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/29/2006 6:04:09 PM | I can understand not giving number like say first few days of chatting, its the not meeting and they freak out about it that bugs me... we meeut we dont new people everyday.. but we dont think thats risky, but someone we they spend weeks talking to online, they need a bit more time!! haha.
What do they think will happen if you meet someone at a bar of cafe? They more at risk walking home or getting in a taxi! | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/29/2006 7:43:59 PM | | If your privacy is a concern for you, why not politely ask the guy for HIS number ........ tell him you'll be happy to call him when it's convenient for HIM ....... and change your number to "private" so the recipient's caller ID doesn't give him your name or number when you call. It should be easy to do, and would take away all of your concerns! | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/29/2006 8:29:24 PM | | I wont give out my phone number until I have met the other person in a public place and have deemed them safe. I have had stalkers before and I dont want to have one again. Its amazing what a person can find out when they have just your phone number and/or full name. | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/29/2006 8:34:15 PM | Personally, I'm not a big phone person unless I'm really into someone (ie-in a relationship-- then Im a total phone person)
I need my time to myself and I've found many men to be slow in getting the hint, and then offended when I ask them not to call. | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/29/2006 9:23:00 PM | | I'm been in contact with someone who looks good on paper but was a real disappoint over the phone. Dull conversation, no personality, an unpleasant voice or a very heavy regional accent. Seems shallow to turn them down after a phone call when all of the emails have been promising. Also, some guys turn into stalkers. Calling too often or at odd times. You can't take back your phone number after you've given it. Just give them YOUR number, preferably a cell number. | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/29/2006 9:34:19 PM | | when you give someone a home number, with canada411.com (i am sure there is something similar in the states) they can get your full name, address, and a map to your house. that would be why people are hesitant to give out numbers. becuase there are a lot of freaks out there. it's the same online as in person...i wouldn;t just give anyone my number i met in a bar or whereever either. | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/30/2006 2:33:22 AM | | I don't like exchanging numbers with people unless I'm going to (as in that day) or already have met them. I have two reasons for this, 1) I don't like talking on the phone unless absolutely necessary, I don't care if I've known you for years and 2) I'd rather not give that information out until I know I want to continue associating with them after meeting live and in person. There are some fairly unbalanced people in this world and I'd hate to have to change my number because Mr. Crazy Pants couldn't handle the big 'No Thanks'. | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/30/2006 4:48:27 AM | When I was younger and online I had no problem giving out my number or my address mind you I lived with my Dad and he was the last person you would want to cause sh*t with.
Now that I'm on my own I don't give it out as much its just my son and I here so I have to look out for his safety. I hate to even give out my MSN. If someone really wants to talk to me oh the phone I will get their number first and block mine when I call. Unless they are special and I have been talking to them for a while. | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/30/2006 5:37:01 AM | | 100% agree with "theblackcat". I don't give out numbers because there are some "nuts" out there. People can take cell numbers and find who you are, get your first and last name, your home address, and as that may not be a bad thing for some- in the hands of some of the crazies, it can also not be a good thing. I'll take the guys number and call him if and when I decide it is a safe idea. Not all people are who they say they are or want what they say they want - These days, you can't be to careful. | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/30/2006 8:41:09 AM | | Ill only exchange mobiles on the day we meet in case there's a problem getting there. I hate talking to complete strangers - you can't really get what they are like without seeing their face, the voice can be very misleading. Ive also had really bad experiences after they've got my phone number - one guy was leaving over 30 messages a day and phoning 10-15 times a day and through the night. So - I'll happily meet within 2 emails but no phone till I know you!! | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/30/2006 9:08:25 AM | | Because they can find out a person's address from a phone number. I will call with a blocked number until I feel comfortable. I've made the mistake of giving my number to the wrong person and he drove me crazy. Even after we met and I was not interested, he continued to pester me and showed up at my home. I got angry and even mean trying to get rid of him since being diplomatic obviously wasn't working. He still wouldn't go away. He would sit outside my house and beg for another chance etc everytime I had to go outside. My mailbox was aways full from him. Argh! It was a nightmare. I'm a bit more cautious now... | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/30/2006 9:37:38 AM | An alternative that I most often use is to offer my number first. This way the lady in question can call when the timing is most convenient for her, can block her number as many have suggested, and she can feel safe and secure in the knowledge that her privacy is intact until such time as she feels comfortable enough about me to share her number.
Its a sad commentary that communication between men & women has come to this sort of thing. The overwhelming majority of people out there are good and decent, and can accept a simple "thanks but no thanks" kind of answer and go on with their lives. But it only takes an encounter with one or two nutjobs for people to change their perceptions, and change the way they deal with getting to know a stranger. Thats the reality of dating, especially online, in the 21st Century. | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 12/30/2006 5:10:45 PM | I think if they're not giving you there phone number yet it is because you haven't built enough trust with them yet.Hell I'm guy & I don't just give out my # unless I'm totally comfortable with the person i'm talking with.You have to remember some of these Ladies have children they are looking out for in today's world you just can't be to carefull.
Good luck & just be patient & curtious the rest will fall into place for you.MC | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 1/1/2007 8:58:34 AM | | I have just had to change my number... and not for the first time. The problem is, is if you decide that the guy is not for you after chatting...he wont take no for an answer and leave you alone. I am reluctant to give out my new number to anyone now after getting call/texts at all hours recently. | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 1/7/2007 7:33:34 PM | So from what you are saying its just guys who turn out to be freaks, stalkers, or obsessive losers....so guys should give out their number since all women are perfectly normal.
So what are we supposed to do with being old fashioned and the guy persueing the girl?
Give him a cell number and talk to him....dont make the mistake of meeting someone you've never even spoken to.
PHOTOS LIE
WRITTEN WORDS LIE
SPOKEN WORDS LIE
But which do you think is the best of the 3 to judge what kind of personality someone has and whether they can at least carry a conversation?
Everyone needs to stop being so afraid to connect to poeple in this world...its bad out there, but not THAT bad. | |
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| Is it really that scary for a lady to exchange phone numbers?
Posted: 1/8/2007 12:26:39 AM | "Hello, hello" knock, knock, knock ...
This is the year 2007 people. The telephone is passe'! If you still use one throw it away.
Only two types of people use the telephone, TELEMARKETERS & STALKERS.
We have a new tool now, its called the INTERNET.
You can talk to anyone in the world via your webcam with full voice .. and its all free!
If you are still phoning people you are living in the dark ages.
I have never asked a girl for her phone number in my life and never will. With Reverse Look-up you can trace anyone now and find out a lot about them with just a phone number. I don't blame women for playing it super safe. It costs money to change phone numbers, etc.
If you want to get to know someone better fire up the webcam and put on the headset. Its safe cause you can't trace someone with some random hotmail or yahoo address.
I strongly recommend to women to never give out their phone number to anyone. As a guy, I would never phone a girl even if she gave me her number. Always better to stay away from those girls who yell, "Stalker" everytime their phone rings.
Stay safe .... talk on the internet. You now have this great tool, why revert to a redundant phone? I don't think I have even phoned anyone in the past 10 years? When my phone rings .. yep ... its a telemarketer.
So what's with the expression "exchanging phone numbers?" Shouldn't you be "exchanging email addresses?" ... sounds like a few people are stuck in the 90's.
Oops ... I should mention that I think women should carry a cell phone in case of emergencies. .... so I take back the comment about throwing your phone away. It does have one use in the year 2007. | |
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