| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 3:16:37 PM | Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
I asked woman I was dating (I said was datine) when my birthday comes around on January 16th if she would be mine for the night (make love to me). She just about ripped my head off with a verbal attack like I never knew before. I have not seen or heard from her since. I guess I was out of line by asking her that question. We have been together for about 3 months and I thought things were going well. The only problem is she is kind of cold because we have had no sex at all....ok, we kissed a time or two and that was it.
Ladies, help me out with this one....because it get's cold in Palm Springs during January.
Thanks, Don | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 3:23:04 PM | Well in principle I don't think its wrong...lol I want birthday sex too, but I won't get any because my man won't be with me.... so once again no b day sex. And on my 30th b day and everything
In your situation....its alittle ackward since you aren't intimate yet, and haven't it seems gone past kissing. So to just come out and put a date on for the first time you have sex...thats alittle weird. It sounds to me like she isn't really into sex at all. Either way happy up coming B day. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 3:26:16 PM | | Sex, imo, should be spontaneous, not scheduled in on a calendar. Takes the fun out of it. It's obvious that after all that time and no sex that you two were on different wave lengths as to the relationship anyway. Good luck fishing. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 3:27:11 PM | It sounds like she's a bit of a prude...that's just me...now, her saying no, that's fine, but biting your head off and then up and leaving you after three months...I would have to know more about the relationship, but, not to be rude, I don't need to know, you already know it and it's none of my business...so, make your own conclusion, I think she sounds like a prude myself, but that's me.
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 3:31:09 PM | Thanks for the reply...It helps to know that other's will be without as well.
Hang in there. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 3:34:34 PM | Maybe she was going to surprise you on your Birthday and got so mad because you ruined the surprise for her by bringing it up now it looks like it was your idea not her surprise birthday gift to you
Hope it works out for you and an early Happy Birthday | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 3:37:16 PM | | I would have to say that asking a woman to have sex with you for your birthday is pretty lame and sounds desperate. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 3:40:26 PM | It reminds me of this guy who was at a party telling everyone, "the more sex a guy has...the happier he is". Some argued, but then he went around the room asking guys how often they had sex...and the happiest men were those who were getting it the most. The miserable guys...they were hardly getting any.
Later on there was this one guy who came to the party with his wife. And this guy was just beaming from ear to ear...laughing and joking, the life of the party. So everyone was curious, and he was asked how often he had sex...daily? weekly? monthly? "Nope" the happiest man at the party replied..."I only have sex once a year".
Everyone was dumbfounded, especially the guy who had put forth the theory "the more sex a guy has..the happier he is". The self acclaimed expert...more than a little ticked off approached Mr Life of the party and asked him quite pointedly....
"If you only have sex once a year....WHY ARE YOU SO DAMN HAPPY"
"Simple" replied the happy man, "Because I only have sex once a year...AND TONIGHT'S THE NIGHT"!!! | |
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Posted: 12/30/2006 3:40:30 PM | I'd have to agree with Felanie !!!!!! THat is pretty WEAK
You only kissed her a couple of times in 3 months ??? Then asked for B-day sex ???
You should have asked for a set of Lego's ........ Maybe you would have gotten your 3rd kiss | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 3:41:53 PM | | We were dating for 3 months ....I was not desperate just in love or at the least I felt comfy with her as my mate. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 3:48:29 PM | You were going out for 3 MONTHS and all you got was the occasional peck of the cheek from this miserly woman?
I'd be pretty worried about a relationship with a woman that didn't include any form of intimacy after 3 months.
No wonder she went ballistic when you asked her for a birthday bonk? She would have gone ballistic after 6 months or 12, because the princess was never going to give it to you.
Sex is something two people give each other, and you would have a pretty good idea even after a few weeks if the relationship was going to head in that direction.
It might be cold in Palm Springs in January but I think you're well rid of the selfish cow. | |
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Joined: 2/27/2006
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 4:11:00 PM | | I think 3 months is a good time to decide on the sex issue. It looks like you will have to find someone else if you want any. Better luck next time. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 4:43:39 PM |
You were going out for 3 MONTHS and all you got was the occasional peck of the cheek from this miserly woman?
I'd be pretty worried about a relationship with a woman that didn't include any form of intimacy after 3 months.
We're all adults here, right? I can't imagine dating a man for 3 months, and having any kind of attraction or serious feelings for him and not having sex with him.
I think 3 months is a good time to decide on the sex issue. It looks like you will have to find someone else if you want any. Better luck next time.
Unless there's something you're not telling us, like you have only actually been out with her 3 times in the last 3 months, or you've just been chatting with her, things should have progressed naturally to the next level by now.
If you have been actively dating for 3 months with no action, there's something wrong.
In response to your original question;
I really don't think you should have asked for first time sex like that. If you were already intimate with someone, I think it would be ok to ask for sex all night for your birthday. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 5:34:45 PM | There seems to be something fishy here...
tried to address you via your email, but i had been blocked...
OP... you IM me recently here on fish and we chatted briefly then you suddenly HAD TO GO.
My instinct then was "married or has someone else".
Were you with this woman when you contacted me???
On a different note:
too bad you ran...lol... i'm not opposed to birthday sex when in a relationship...
and mine's the 14th!!!...
but then again...
it's somebody's birthday EVERY DAY!!!
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 7:22:02 PM | If I was really dating someone after 3 months I would most likely have had him in bed. If I only have seen a man a couple of times in 3 months thats a different story.
OT: Asking for sex on b-day is....well....not good if you have never had sex if the person. I think I would have walked if asked.
If I'm already in a sexual relationship I'd make sure it was a b-day he'd never forget. JMO. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 8:24:39 PM | | dude, what are you even doing with someone you've been with for 3 months & not only have you not had sex but have only kissed a couple times? that's just weird | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 8:44:10 PM | | Well yes using your birthday to try to get sex is wrong. I think using your birthday as an excuse to get anything is wrong, I don't even mention when it's my birthday, don't like em much but some people really milk it for all it's worth. My friend just had a birthweek LOL, like every single day, and he told everyone his birthday was coming about a month in advance, it was cute but not something I'd ever do. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/30/2006 9:02:28 PM |
OP:
Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
I asked woman I was dating (I said was datine) when my birthday comes around on January 16th if she would be mine for the night (make love to me). She just about ripped my head off with a verbal attack like I never knew before. I have not seen or heard from her since. I guess I was out of line by asking her that question. We have been together for about 3 months and I thought things were going well. The only problem is she is kind of cold because we have had no sex at all....ok, we kissed a time or two and that was it.
Ladies, help me out with this one....because it get's cold in Palm Springs during January.
Thanks, Don
The woman is a prude and sounds like a b*tch too for ripping on you. Asking for sex appears wimpy - women don't want to breed with someone like that. Women do not come with instruction manuals. You are a man - you have to be more aggressive, kiss more, then let your hands roam. Keep going until she says, "no." On the next date, keep pursuing that.
Three months and no sex - you should have dumped her long ago. A good prude screening method is if a woman has not had sex by X dates, then you no longer call her back. You preset X somewhere between 2-5 dates. If they want to wait too long, you should be asking yourself - why? You are 40, you are at the right age, there are 80 single women for every 100 single men. As a man dating will only get better as you get older because the ratio of women/men ratio continues to improve. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/31/2006 8:39:42 AM | I feel there is nothing wrong with birthday sex. However i feel its something that should be discussed early on and not asked for. I am 36 and still have not had birthday sex. Being single sucks but i wont go out and have sex with just anyone. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/31/2006 9:01:40 AM | Well, I agree with several of you on this; Asking for birthday sex if you are already in a sexual relationship with someone would be ok.
Asking someone that you have only kissed 2 or 3 times, that's not cool. The first time shouldn't be a 'present', it should be a mutual thing and not about somebody's birthday.
I also think there is something wrong with the relationship because of the 'no physical contact' thing. She is either NOT into you, or you've only been out a couple of times in the past 3 months.
Do you mind telling us how many dates you have actually had? How many times you've been alone? | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 12/31/2006 9:07:14 AM | | Well, I do believe everyone deserves birthday sex! What better gift could one wish for????? | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 1/2/2007 2:56:27 PM | Um.... Don?
You responded to me via email and even asked a question... indicating you might like a response... and I'm happy to respond, but you STILL have me blocked!!!
Would like to respond to you privately, rather than putting what you said in your private email in quotes in a public forum and responding!
p. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 1/2/2007 3:11:57 PM | Birthday sex never worked for me either. Neither did;
-It's Monday sex
-How about lunch sex
-Easter sex
-I stubbed my toe sex
-I am dying sex
-Summer is in 5 months sex
Well, I guess it is wrong to make excuse for sex, cause it sure doesn't work for me. | |
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| Birthday Sex = is it wrong?
Posted: 1/2/2007 3:13:51 PM | Yikes.
Is she religious?
I think if you want sex... you should date someone who likes sex.
Are you even dating her?
Or are you just hanging out? | |
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