| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 12/31/2006 9:08:22 PM | It seems they talk to you for a litle bit and then all of a sudden "poof". they r gone.
Ladies its not just us men......!
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 12/31/2006 9:41:47 PM | I think the "poofing" is equally distributed. That said, I would agree I have "poofed" but usually because the potential "male" has failed to capture my interest or doesn't have a true dialogue. I'd take a look at how you are responding to certain females and see if you're not giving them an opening to continue the dialogue. For example, just saying "hi" in one email doesn't allow the woman to respond appropriately with other than a "hi" back. If you're interested, you should write more and more than just about yourself. Ask her a few questions to stir some conversation.
If your writing is spectacular and they are still "poofing" I'd say a connection was not made and their "poofing" is a poor way of communicating they are not interested in you.
Best of luck in the new year...maybe the "poofing" will decrease for ya!  | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/1/2007 2:20:35 PM | haha, 'poof' be gone syndrome! I suffer from that when a guy fixates on my boobs, or just wants to trade pictures, or is gernally penis driven.
if a guy starts up a dialogue, I'll do my part to maintain it. if he pulls a Jekyll and Hyde then 'poof' Im gone.. ahaha
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anj73
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/1/2007 2:46:04 PM | It's a common infliction and not gender specific. To keep your sanity the doctor recommends not devote too much time to a new fish, until you are sure they are not going to swim out to sea as fast as they came in.  | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/20/2007 9:11:16 AM | | We have all done the poof thing and will probably continue to do so. I know within the first few minutes whether or not I want to continue a conversation. Usually when they reply with a one or two word IM, I am gone. Some guys say they feel more comfortable talking to someone on the phone right away. Sometimes when that happens, you still get a 1 or 2 word answer. I am very outgoing and have no problem holding a conversation and making someone laugh, but when the person isn't much of a talker to begin with, what is a person to do? | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/20/2007 9:26:44 AM | Because its easier than saying what you really feel about the other person *shrugs*
Most hide their feelings and will not say to you "I don't think we are compatible." and just go their seperate ways....
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/20/2007 10:24:55 AM | | It happens to the best of us, but to think of all women is a little too much. Don't try to figure them out or you'll very disappointed. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/20/2007 12:23:36 PM | havent you ever heard of "spontaneous combustion" -i saw it on an episode of CSI. must be pretty popular here on POF -thats my excuse for why people vanish so quickly around here (POOF!) | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/20/2007 2:20:23 PM | I go "poof" when a guy only articulates in one or two 'simple' words.  No real content to indulge my senses. I will also "poof" if a guy seeks intimate encounters right off the bat. Sick!
Live with NO expectations of a reply, fish fish fish and be 'surprised' when the miracle of a reply does occur. For instance, I use the law of averages, for every 9 'no' replies the 'tenth  one will be a real catch or a nibble worth corresponding with on an intelligent level. Make no mistake, women seek sensible men who think with their brain.
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/20/2007 4:41:21 PM | heyreadwoman,
When I send an e-mail to someone I usually say a few things about me and ask a few questions about her. I usually say at the end of my e-mail if interested send E-mail back. Not to many girls send e-mail back but have not deleted me from the e-mail. Should I send them another e-mail? I don't want to be pushy and be poofed. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/20/2007 6:09:54 PM | The reason the WOMEN don't reply is because they say "No Players", but THEY are the players. The women are in charge. They don't like guys, because they know we're smarter than them, so they think they can get back at us by doing the same things GUYS do to them.
A LOT of guys never reply to the women, so they blame ALL of us for what a few do! Not a thing you can do about it. If they want to answer, they will, but they aren't really looking for a committment from a guy, they just want to blame US for their shortcomings! | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/21/2007 11:29:27 PM | Wow Rob. That sounds like a really bad day.
I get irritated when I hit a string of jerky women, but who knows how many jerky men they've just encountered?
I get so bored with the "indulge me" pleas on both sides. I'm _really_bored with my own tendency to ask people for indulgences. Even when they're good, there is a price for them.
Truth is, no woman owes me anything--not even the time of day. --not even a polite response. I don't owe them anything either, thoiugh I do owe it to myself to be as gentle and generous as I can be. However, I do that for myself and not to curry favor. The way I see it, kindness is a _gift,_ not a prerogative. I'm grateful for those times when I can give it. I'm also grateful when someone gives that gift to me. I like feeling grateful better than I do feeling resentful, so I try to stay in a grateful frame of mind as often as possible.
I will admit that some days are easier than others.
I'm looking for friends and potential lovers who think well of themselves and who are doing their best to make a positive difference in this world. If I don't get that I'm going to do my best anyway. If my best isn't good enough, so be it. If it is, that would be fabulous!
To me, that's the basis of happiness--what I do--not what is or is not done to or for me.
Anyone who wants to contribute their best is welcome in my life. If someone has other things to do, I hope they enjoy doing them! However, I really don't have time for pointless detours. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:56:51 AM | | Ive had this happen quite a bit. the conversations will be going great...they even say they are looking forward to meeting you..and then POOF overnight they are gone. Even Valicious did the POOF thing here awhile back. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 7:52:20 AM | Wow. You obviously have no clue about which you speak. Below is your "spew"
HAVE YOU FIGURED OUT THAT YOU MIGHT BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG AT YOUR AGE?
Check your attitude towards women...You hate them....
(robzford)
"The reason the WOMEN don't reply is because they say "No Players", but THEY are the players. The women are in charge. They don't like guys, because they know we're smarter than them, so they think they can get back at us by doing the same things GUYS do to them."
(me)
That is crap.. have you figured out that maybe it's you? You don't smile in your pictures and generally have a miserable attitude. We don't like guys and you are smarter but we are in charge? That just makes no sense. Women don't reply because we don't like your picture or your profile or your letter.. WE GENERALLY READ PROFILES.
(robzford)
"A LOT of guys never reply to the women, so they blame ALL of us for what a few do! Not a thing you can do about it. If they want to answer, they will, but they aren't really looking for a committment from a guy, they just want to blame US for their shortcomings!"
(me)
You are delusional... who are you attracting? I happen to like myself .. maybe you should drop the generalities about all women and lighten up .. What a bozo.. is this how you present yourself to your prospective dates? | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 8:11:46 AM | POOF Huh? Well I don't know about all that. I am used to the poof factor, just because it is human nature for people, in general, to do that. I do know that robzford needs to be sure and take his meds. Not every woman of POF is out to screw you over. In fact, if you took a poll, you would find that "poofing" is pretty evenly distributed across the board (M/F).
I don't want to spend a half hour writing some really inspired e-mail to some lady who just says, "Thanks, but I'm NOT interested". I also don't want to make a really good e-mail and then just copy and paste it to every person that I talk to. What I end of doing is testing the waters (see if the fish are biting), by sending an e-mail that just says "Hello" and that's about it. If the person writes me back, then I know that I can write a "real" e-mail to them.
Plus I have found that people are on this site for various reasons, the least of is hooking up and getting laid (I believe they already have a site for that). I think that for the most part, the ladies that I see on POF are just that..... Ladies. I don't think that "ladies" generally like being hounded, stalked, or forced to listen to stories about your boner.
I don't even know why I'm on this site, except maybe to have some people to interact with other than sex. I got enough people trying to get in my pants where I live. I figure that POF is safe for me. Hope you all have a Poofy Day! | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 8:41:05 AM |
They don't like guys, because they know we're smarter than them, so they think they can get back at us by doing the same things GUYS do to them.
Uh huh. And then you woke up. I am thinking that a man that is so much smarter than I am, does not need to use 15 emoticons in the first three sentences of his profile. A man who is so much smarter than I, would certainly be able to use words. Communicate like a grown up. One emoticon for effect, sure it's kinda cute... but Yeesh. Never assume communication skills are underrated.
If you want to hold a woman's interest, stop apologizing for yourself in your profile, which was designed to be shameless self promotion by the very nature of it. Then get a picture where you don't look like such an unhappy creature. Oh yes, and stop posting bitter rants about women in the forums, because as stupid as you seem to think we women are, we can "read" and "comprehend" your forum posts and they are far more informative and revealing than the profile is as to who you really are and what you really think.
For the most part, women are much less likely to be players than men are.
A LOT of guys never reply to the women, so they blame ALL of us for what a few do! Yes well, it might help if other men did not admire and idolize the player. You are creating your own personal hell. If a woman sleeps around and is promiscuous, you will find she is not generally well liked in her own gender, and has few if any female friends. If a man is promiscuous he is lauded by other men as the prince of p*ssy.
Ive had this happen quite a bit. the conversations will be going great...they even say they are looking forward to meeting you..and then POOF overnight they are gone. Maybe it's just you who thinks the conversation is going great. Or maybe when they get to know you, they find they do not like you.
I am not going to sit around an read e-mails asking what I am wearing and asking to send more pics. I am not a toy for the amusement of others. So, if that is your idea of an interesting conversation that is not going well....
I know from experience here, that telling someone directly that you are not interested in them can bring harassment from them, beginning an argument why you are allowed to have a personal opinion on someone and what are you sooo afraid of...? I told one man guy I was afraid of wasting my time on a jerk when there were potentially really nice men out there somewhere. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 9:50:31 AM | maybe we desapear because it seems like it's one guy with like 50 different profiles
conversations usually go like
"hi beautiful"
"you are so sexy"
"you are so pretty"
"i would love to get to know you"
"where in LA do you live"
"where exactly"
"i read your profile, i think you are really cute(hot,sexy,beautiful) look at mine and let me know if you are interested.
when you get like hundreds of the same, something funny, different, and refreshing is really cool.
my advice | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 9:55:14 AM | ha-ha-ha
very funny, I do not have chicken legs
I read a post about "POOFING", that reminds me of a certain person I know | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 11:42:00 AM | I have to hand it to all the positive and fair minded individuals responding to RobZFord. I thoroughly enjoyed your responses; apparently the gent seems to be quite an unhappy man due to whatever bad experiences he has had with women...but due to his own fault, apparently. Negativity never gets ANYONE anwhere, old chap (directed to Rob)!
So to, Mr. Phoenix, TheGardenFairy, RobkRobster and Mominatrix...kudos to your most entertaining and truthful responses. You all have made my day! LOL | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 11:42:27 AM | I have to hand it to all the positive and fair minded individuals responding to RobZFord. I thoroughly enjoyed your responses; apparently the gent seems to be quite an unhappy man due to whatever bad experiences he has had with women...but due to his own fault, apparently. Negativity never gets ANYONE anwhere, old chap (directed to Rob)!
So to, Mr. Phoenix, TheGardenFairy, RobkRobster and Mominatrix...kudos to your most entertaining and truthful responses. You all have made my day! LOL | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 11:57:30 AM | | What kinds of questions do women like? Seems that they post questions and opportunities to elaborate from their profiles. Yet when I reply with an intertesting observation or the fact that I share an interest, it seems wasted words. This method of meeting women is in reality much harder than in person. I speak from experience, because you miss 90% of the person when you just correspond online via text. I have had the better part of one year to test this theory, and this bears out a lot of truth. | |
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