| Don't be bitter
Posted: 8/2/2004 6:35:50 PM | Hey everyone,
One thing I learned about life and relationtionships gone sour is that if you hate, and become a bitter person it will eat you alive, not all Women are bad, In fact I love them myself! I was hurt badly but I took it upon myself to forgive, and let go of the hate.....it's like cancer man it will distroy you. I found that once I decided to forgive that it lifted all the weight. It's a bitch but I'm proof that it can be done.
Hey that's alright....I still got my Guitar! (Jimi)
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Zee
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Joined: 4/11/2004
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 8/3/2004 4:10:43 PM | *One thing I learned about life and relationtionships gone sour is that if you hate and become a bitter person it will eat you alive*
Slapcatt, you are right, bitterness does bad things to your soul. I mean when you have all of this STUFF clogging you up - it takes up everything, you dont sleep, you dont eat right, you are consumed with grief. If you find a way to release all of this - its overwhelming, and does wonders for your innerself. BUT its so hard to do, people walk around so bitter and closed up with their own emotions that they forget that there is a world outside of themselves. The only solution I have is for those people to think about what they really want, think about what would really make them happy, not getting that person back, but something positive, that will make you want more out of life. All men and all women are not alike. Someone just the other night was talking to me about the good and bad of lets say relationships, and he said something like, you have to dig deep within the barrel of apples to get to the good ones, and sometimes the best ones are at the bottom, so you have to dig deep...well the way I took that was, no matter what, I should not allow the bad apples stop me from digging out the good ones. Dont stop looking is what he was saying, and he was right. All the people you meet will not be right for you, but no matter how long it takes, you should never give up on the positive side, there is 1 good apple out there looking for you too.
boy that was a long responce lol....but hope anyone who is reading it gets the jest of what I was saying, bitterness is a waste of time that you can be doing other things, like living. | |
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 8/3/2004 6:47:28 PM | I hope the thought police don't come after me for this, but there's a lesson here for anyone who's feeling bitter. The pain you feel after a difficult breakup drives you insane for awhile. I wanted to have a guy killed. How insane is that ? Pretty far gone I'd say. I shake my head now and think how lucky I am to have just held on and suck it up. It passes after a period, the duration of which is up to you. But it does pass, and you get your sanity back, problem is, unless we clear those old chakras out, we go looking for the same girl again ...who said life was easy ?
Hitler was a thoughtful young artist once. Look what his first failure did to him, not to mention millions of others .......... | |
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 8/3/2004 7:59:41 PM | Aye, I was down that road as well Oak. Not angry to kill some one but my self. It was a bad time for me and other things where happening. I got help from a wonderfull lady, I met on a PTSD forum. I owe her my life. It was awhile ago and I am alot better mentaly and physicaly thanks to her.
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 8/4/2004 8:10:56 PM | I'm not bitter at all. I hope I don't send that message when I post.
I'm not bitter. But I'm not the opposite of bitter either.
I'm neutral. I haven't had a reason to be bitter.
Nobody has done anything bad to me.
But I also have no reason to be the opposite of bitter.
There hasn't been a reason for that either.
We're talking datingwise here.
I'm still communicating with somebody.
She wants to receive and send many more e-mail before
meeting. It's ok with me.
Maybe this will be the first time for me to feel one side of the bitter/non bitter
deal.
I would rather not experience the bitter part, ever. | |
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 8/5/2004 12:33:54 PM | Hey everyone,
I'm not gonna' say I wasn't on that road to bitterness myself, but when I got hold of it and controlled the hatred, the "I want to get her back" thing......the weight was lifted and for some strange reason that was the day I got the first phone call telling how bad her life was, in other words "that was the day" her life started peeling away. It was weird because I did nothing to cause any problems for her and it happened all by itself......no bitterness and I actually feel kinda sorry for her, my life on the other hand got better and I'm kickin' ass! I'm doing so well that It even suprised me! I really don't believe I could have done carrying hate and bitterness.
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 8/9/2004 11:22:59 AM | | Bitterness is a tough road to walk, but it does have an end. | |
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 8/15/2004 4:21:41 AM | | your kinda right slapcatt.. not to long ago i was getting sad again and wanted her back.. then one day out of the blue.. she messaged me..first time in like 7 months.. and she told me how her ex kicked her out (like she did to me) and things are falling apart on here again.. and then she apologised to me for everything she put me through.. ever since then ive been feeling alot better about myself and ready to move on.. | |
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Ruby_
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Joined: 7/10/2004
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 8/15/2004 4:42:57 AM | | demonic.....I call that Karma......what goes around comes around. | |
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 8/15/2004 10:41:23 PM | That karma thing. I wish it was true. I really wish it was true.
You also hear poeple say how god would punish the ones the do bad.
The argument goes that something similar or worse will happen.
I always say, that I don't ever see that happen. \
But some will say if they don't pay on earth. They will pay in hell.
The thing is that I don't believe in hell either. Sometimes I do wish there
was such a place as hell, even if I end up right there. | |
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Ruby_
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Joined: 7/10/2004
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 8/16/2004 4:16:02 AM | robetini....I see Karma almost a daily bases, even at work..
Here is a silly little example,
We have a recycle program at work, not just throw out your garbage. This guy doesn't want to take the time to put the wet garbage in the proper bin.
He says", I'll let the janitor deal with it".
The boss comes down later the same day and says to the guy, "The janitor is behind this evening and I need you to help out. Take all the recycle bins out back." (where it gets sorted to bigger bins) Karma in action...
I don't see Karma as a punishment. I believe it is something that is teaching us that we always have to try to do the right thing, or things won't work well for us. We have to take responsibility for our actions because our actions usually affect other people. | |
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 11/13/2005 7:01:05 AM | "When one door closes another one opens."
Am I right?
"If life gives you lemons, make lemonade."
"Hang in there, Tiger! ",,,and all that crap.
" Everything happens for a reason. You just may not know what it is........until tomorrow. "
Hey,,,I held onto bitterness and resentment with my ex husband for fourteen years,,,,nearly drank myself to death over it,,,,,and you know what? Fourteen years later, he's still an ass. Gotten worse. He's a liar and a con. My hidden gift was that I didn't have to live with it for the past fourteen years,,,,and Im a better person for it now. Raised a beautiful son. | |
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 11/13/2005 9:18:27 AM | Yep courage to change; lifes lessons. Ouch it hurts when I have to kick my own ass.
Gotta say best lessons learned are those from your own head. Take the time you are worth it!:  | |
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 11/13/2005 9:07:27 PM | Being bitter is a waste of time.
Live & learn is my way.
Sure i've been strung alon by women but
the good ones are out there.
So cheer up and get busy living.  | |
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 11/13/2005 9:16:24 PM | great message scottsmom.
i like your way of thinking.
here's one; keep a stiff upper lip.
and it could be worst. | |
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| Re: Don't be bitter
Posted: 11/13/2005 9:43:54 PM | | I'm still in the bitter. Lookin at a year of it. Not proud, but am good with it. | |
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