| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 4:31:15 PM | I wrote this about five months ago and at the time It was how I really felt:
What happens when you stop believing in “love”? At first, you feel an excruciating pain and loss like no other. You feel like you have been lied to all your life that this thing called “love” which is supposed to be the one thing that fills you and makes you whole is a “cosmic joke”. You become cold and empty inside and life becomes colorless. With the joy and beauty gone you just get through the moment instead living. Some one can hold your face in their hand and tell you they love you but you do not believe it or you wonder “for how long”? When you crave the touch of another person, you let some one use you because there is no point in looking for some thing more in their eyes other then lust. To you “love” is just an illusion that fades the moment you try to touch it. It is not real and the pursuit of it a waste of time. Life no longer feels like an adventure or a journey it begins to feel like a clock ticking off the seconds until it winds down and you can sleep and dream. There in your world of dreams you can remember what it was like when you still believed in “love” and remember how you where filled with wondrous tingling when your love touched you. However, you always wake. It was not a choice you made willingly but when it fades again and again, you are forced to face the fact that “love” is just a word and means nothing at all. The devastation that realization causes, only happens because you fight the reality of it for a while but soon you except, as you do any loss, and go on with life. This is what happens when you stop believing in “love” as I have.
I no longer feel this way, I am not going to stop believing in Love, I know it is real because I have felt it and I know that there is a man out there that can feel that way for me too. | |
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| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 4:37:46 PM | girl your speaking my words!
When you crave the touch of another person, you let some one use you because there is no point in looking for some thing more in their eyes other then lust
^^^for a long time thats all i thought i could get out of life, a one night stand..why would any man love me, all ive been with are men who have used me, abused me, and Used the L word to yank me around...for 3 years ive given up on the idea of love..i thought why bother...i should only be with a man for sex...ive got hope now...somewhere out there is a man willing to show me love, and vice versa...i just hope our paths cross soon
 to you iowa..your words touched me deeply...opened my eyes again..i wish you luck in finding the man of your dreams :) | |
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| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 4:40:33 PM | | Iowa....welcome back to the land of the living and believing....You need to make your faith and beliefs in your life sooooo strong, that nothing...not a single situation can destroy your faith in love...We all experience what you described in your post, at one time or another in our lives....The secret to bouncing back and becoming stronger, is to never waver in your beliefs...Trust me, dear, this is true...If you truly trust in the universe, and believe that everything happens for a reason...then when something challenging happens to you, you will understand it is because there is a life lesson to be learned from what you are going through...Once you realize that, going through it is much easier, because you know that when you come out at the other end....you will be so much stronger...Have faith...and never waver from it...Love to you...redneckgirl133 | |
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| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 4:41:33 PM | | Seek and ye shall find. I think that is true for most of you. I am older, and take these ideas of love less seriously than the younger people who need this more than anything. As far as old dudes like me, I've had my run, and am grateful for it. Keep your faith, and good things will happen hopefully. When you least expect it, you may find your soul mate. | |
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| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 4:46:14 PM | | That is so poignant. Well written and from the heart. I, too, have just about given up on love, but not quite. Easter Sunday was the last day I was with the one I loved - she wanted to date other men, so what do you do - call it quits and bleed a while. Thank goodness for dating services like this. I have met a real nice lady recently and we seem to have similar interests. We'll just see what happens. I think we both need a friend and companionship. Best of luck to you in your quest for love - its there but just elusive. Then BAM! it hits you all at once, just like my last love. Time and a new friend will help to heal the gaping wound. Life goes on .... | |
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| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 4:56:41 PM | | Oh georgie please tell me I don't have to wait that long lol if I do I am okay part of get past all this and beginning to believe again was realizing I am okay alone too and that I survived the pain that caused it in the first place making it easier to put my heart on the chopping block again. | |
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cooter
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Joined: 3/26/2005
Msg: 13 | |
| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 5:26:33 PM | Iowa,I still beleive,but just ain't ready to open up just yet!
I still live like what you said,except for the part of being with someone so not to be alone!I have a hard time to trust,and My heart is very locked inside!
I'm letting go of the pain more and more,and starting to open up more,and thanks to this site,I learnt that I'm not alone!
So I am getting better,and I'm letting people see what I hold in my heart more and more,and it feels good! | |
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| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 5:32:12 PM | | cooter, I hear you. I have found the forums very helpful. It helps so much to talk to others who know where you are, have been there, and care about how you feel. It does take time to let someone back in. I can't tell you how many nice guys I have chased off in the last couple years because I was too afraid. | |
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| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 5:34:52 PM | | I have never been in love before...hard as it may seem but its true. Ive always felt that love existed for everyone else except me, and I admit I have a tough time opening up to others. Do I believe in love? Maybe....but im starting to lose hope. | |
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dudio
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Joined: 1/30/2005
Msg: 17 | |
| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 5:35:19 PM | I didn't read your whole post Iowa.
.. it started getting all sappy, and Romance novel like... 
I think I got the just tho, and can reply.
I haven't given up on love. 
My heart is still very big, and I think there are others
that can fill it again. I'm hoping for something a lot
warmer than last time around, and wait for it patiently. | |
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| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 5:39:04 PM | | that's ok iowa. however many it takes. it does take a lot of time to sort through your feelings. what really matters most is that you are dealing with the issues instead of burying them like some people do. take your time and have some fun on the forums. it's all about you at this point and only you will know when your ready to find love again. it's out there for you whenever your ready for it. so don't rush it. | |
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| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 5:40:29 PM | @ Salamander
nor is it necessary, tangible or everlasting. And I agree with you 100%. Love is one of the strongest emotions known to humankind. As you know, people make the worst decisions of their lives in situations that are highly emotional. Emotional decisions are rarely good. Use reason and logic, folks. It's pretty simple.
On a side note, Salamander, I think this is the first time you and I have ever agreed on anything | |
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cooter
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Joined: 3/26/2005
Msg: 21 | |
| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 5:42:49 PM | Love can make ya or break ya,it's a chance to take and when I'm ready,I'll try it all again,just more wise about it!
Some people don't need others,and some do,I learnt not to put all people in the same basket,I know a lot of happy people and lived good lives together,so true love still existe,and I know I will find mine someday! | |
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| Do you still believe in love or have you lost your faith?
Posted: 4/7/2005 5:49:01 PM | hey IowaD.......
I read what you had to say and you have some of it down to a T ......
The past 7 yrs I have lived thru the worse hell anyone could deal with and still stay sane.
I had split with my ex gone thru the rumour mill thanx to him and his family ....dealt with the courts for custody and divorce issues .....and on top of that my oldest son at the age of 4 1/2 was diagnosed with cancer .....just a few months after we split. I found during that time (sorry to say guys) but the male species can't deal with that kind of stuff. I had been made promises and more promises by one guy after another and always ended up alone as soon as they got what they wanted. I dealt with everything I was goin thru on my own and was left feelin more disappointed and disillusioned than before.
It's disheartening to keep the faith when that keeps happening. But for some reason I keep comin back with that little spark of hope. The last guy I was seeing ended things sayin it was because it was too good, so I lose again.
Now my son has finally lost his battle as of last August, and I am dealin with that and tryin to get my life back into some semblence of order ...and I wonder if there's a point in still keepin that faith alive or if I am just settin myself up for more disappointment.
What's your take ?
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