| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 6:02:11 PM | Do I really need to know someone else's opinion about a perspective date? Ok, if she/he is an axe murderer, I need to know....
Otherwise, do I really need to know how many dates this person has had. Do I really need to know if so and so is good in bed or whatever, based on so and so's opinion.
Be gentle, I'm new at this.....
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 6:04:03 PM | | to me a testimonial is a great way to see how other people view the individual that it is about.it helps me decide whether to pursue meeting this person or not. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 6:05:49 PM | The person with the profile is in charge of his/her own testimonials....so I guess that's up to the person whether they want all their dates advertised on their profile....I would only leave the good ones... | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 6:06:13 PM | A nice, well written testimonial is always a pleasure to read.
However, I do understand how so many from especially the opposite sex can work against you.
I mean, if someone's THAT popular, why are they still single?
Much like the 'faves' list I guess, in which I don't place a great deal of credit. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 6:09:05 PM | Well GG welcome to the forums. My testimonials are just from my friends. We can pick who says what about us and I keep my guys comments off there.
In answer to your questions...Nope you don't need anyone else's opinions. It's all up to you to decide. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 6:40:59 PM | | If the person who has the profile has the option to post the testimonials or not, then for sure you are not going to hear anything negative in them....so you're not really getting the whole/true story are you??? If that is the case, and you want to know if the person is an axe murderer or not, you're not going to read it there!! | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 6:44:07 PM | But, if a person is on a number of favourites lists and has NO testimonials, I'd wonder why they didn't have any friends singing their praises.
I like a profile with testimonials more than one with none. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 7:00:55 PM | I feel that if a man has many testimonials, it can be intimidating and makes me wonder...hmm he sure knows a lot of people out here? I dunno maybe that's a good thing? | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 7:06:05 PM | | And then there are the ones that say 'oh this is the man of my dreams'...and ummm...you're trying to sell him to others!! Trust me, if I found the 'man of my dreams' I wouldn't be advertising him to others regardless of whether we had a chance or not...let them work at it to find out lmao!! | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 7:35:33 PM | | No way, you can learn alot from a testominal. Not really looking at what someone says, but you can see the people the person asscoictes with and what type of crowd. You can see the mentally of the people they converse with. I am more inclined to check the type of people and the profiles of the people that wrote testomonials for her than what is written in a testomonial. If that makes sense? More information is never a bad thing. If a see a girl with three testominials and all of them that wrote one, have use drugs on their profiles. It gives me more information on her and her crowd. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 7:43:59 PM | do I really need to know how many dates this person has had. Do I really need to know if so and so is good in bed or whatever, based on so and so's opinion.
-perhaps a testimonial was left by an old friend, who the person's never dated?
-maybe the testimonial was left by an email friend, who the person's never met in person?
-maybe the testimonial was left by someone who reads the person's forum posts and respects what they have to say?
I have testimonials on my profile. As you don't know me, nor do you likely know the people who have left these testimonials, please don't assume that I have dated them, please do not assume that they have any idea how good or bad I am in bed.
But, if a person is on a number of favourites lists and has NO testimonials, I'd wonder why they didn't have any friends singing their praises. Perhaps the person has modestly chosen to not have testimonials appear on their profile? Anyone is free to delete them off their own profile.
Perhaps everyone should just learn that testimonials may appear , ......or not appear, on a profile for any reason, and not judge anyone based entirely on the number of testimonials that appear, .....or don't appear on their profile.
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 7:50:59 PM | Good point Justin, never thought of looking that far into them!!!!
I just hope that it isn't viewed as a competition, as in...ohh she only has 1 test, and the other one has 10, hence the latter is the better bet | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 7:53:03 PM | I really enjoyed writing the testamonials that I had written before deleting my profile. We haven't written any yet for our friends but I'll change that soon hehehe. I loved reading the testimonials my friends had written about me as well. I enjoy reading the testimonials on my friends profiles, and if I were single, I am sure I would be reading the ones of men I was interested in....I don't think I would let it sway me on whether or not I contacted them....that's a decision that I need to make myself, not based on what others think.
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 8:11:24 PM | what kind of testimonials are you reading?
I never once saw a testimonial saying how good in bed the person was...........I think most of the testimonials are just letting us POF'ers know what their opinion is of someone........
take it or leave it.....................dont be putting to much thought into, unless of course they are an axe murderer.......come to think of it, never saw that in a testimonial either........
geez............ | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 8:12:18 PM | well pretty new to the this forum stuff.
however as far as the testimonials.I do a lot of profile reading,and the funny thing is I see a lot of testes,exact same words attached to different profiles.
esp.most are from people who have never met the person they are testifiying about.lol
just and observation. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 8:24:01 PM |
I do a lot of profile reading,and the funny thing is I see a lot of testes
You see a lot of WHAT!!?? Testes?? OMG!! I didn't think that kind of nudity would be allowed here!!!
Testimonials. Take 'em or leave 'em. They might be biased, and they might not be. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 8:36:14 PM |
I never once saw a testimonial saying how good in bed the person was actually... I have seen one that said that.
I never saw the axe-murderer one though
(couldn't be a very good axe-murderer, if the victim escaped to write the testimonial) | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 9:46:26 PM | ^^^^ too cute!
I've never seen any sexual talk in the testimonials either!! Who would write that and worst yet who would keep that up there?? OH MY ~ that's tmi all around lol | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 9:50:34 PM | | Well I got two from two good friends. One i've know for a year and the other for over 30 years. I think what it really comes down to is how long the person writing the testimonials has known the person and what connection they have with them. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/12/2007 9:58:57 PM | OMG OP .. testimonials give u an insight into what people who know the person ... well in person think of them .. which is a good thing .. on the internet .. so what would it be a turnoff .. this falls right in with the "ok .. well they have a bizillion favorites .. so ummm ya .. I better not try .. they are too popular .. or date too much" .. pullllleeeeze ... it all comes down to your own insecurities ... :)~
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 5:59:47 AM | | most of the testimonials i've seen are from friends--it isn't often I see them written by dates actually, including the ones i've written as well as had written for me--all from/for friends. I actually like seeing the testimonials in that it verifies for me that, yes, this person is real and probably somewhere down the line they know someone i know of or something like that. just makes me feel a bit more comfortable in getting to know them. | |
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| Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ?
Posted: 1/13/2007 6:11:37 AM | | Really, if testimonials come from friends, I think they're pretty much useless as tools for finding out what someone is like. They're from friends...what else are they going to do but praise the person?? They seem kind of like the things people tell you before you go on a blind date...she's a great cook, fabulous personality, very smart, a great girl....Yeah. Right. | |
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