| How come not matter how fat/ bald he is, he wants a "thin" woman?
Posted: 1/14/2007 10:56:14 AM | I would like to know, why, no matter how old, fat or bald he is, his profile always wants a "thin" woman. I would think he would be thankful to get a breathing woman, let alone a "thin" one.
My other gripe: All the guys profile that says " I want a good woman, or woman with a heart of gold, honest woman, etc.". Then when you check out how they vote/rate the profiles of woman, the woman they rate with high scores are in thongs or in sexual positions, or just sluty profiles. A woman who is honest, or good, doesn't usually post pictures of her ass for the world to see. That is something for a boyfriend or a lover to check out.
A short story- I had a crush on a guy I worked with. He started dated another gal at work who is average body wise. I consider myself a full figured woman, proportionate, could stand to lose some weight. But when ever a guy has the choice, he'll always pick the thinner gal. This gal, smokes, does drugs, lies, cheats, drinks heavily and accepts large amounts of money from him. He has nothing but drama and unhappiness. They are off then on, off then on. She's scoping the room for a better guy everytime they go out to a public place. I am friends with the guy now, but had he picked me, he would have been happy and secure in our relationship. I don't do and wouldn't do any of the bad manners mentioned above. I have class, style and considerate of others feelings. Moral of the story is, I am a classic beauty, with no boyfriend, because guys would rather show up with an average figure gal then a true lady. | |
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| How come not matter how fat/ bald he is, he wants a thin woman?
Posted: 1/14/2007 11:02:07 AM | This thread is very redundant and will probably be deleted.
On the other side,not all average women are nasty asses.I'm very devouted to my Ian andIi treat him with the respect he deserves.Even larger ladies can be mean.I've always said it isn't the size of the body but the size of the heart that shows the true value of a person. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
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| How come not matter how fat/ bald he is, he wants a thin woman?
Posted: 1/14/2007 12:36:54 PM | I love the thinking that because someone is overweight, they should have to take "whatever they can get"...that we don't deserve something better for ourselves. That's like saying that a person who is disabled should only be allowed to date another disabled person. I like a beefy guy, but I'm not attracted to a "fat" man. Sorry, that's the way it is. I also realize that men aren't exactly falling at my feet, either, but life goes on.
Now, after saying that, I have a male acquaintance who is quite obese that has no problem talking about the "fat cow" he saw at the mall or in a restaurant. I laugh at him because he always calls down fat women for being "so disgusting". THAT is unacceptable...he's taken it to a whole different level right there. | |
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| How come not matter how fat/ bald he is, he wants a thin woman?
Posted: 1/14/2007 12:37:17 PM | Florist.... I am trim..but I was heavy at one time..so I have seen both sides.
What I can say to you is this..Yes, there is are an inordinate amount of men who will pass you by bcz of being heavier..When I was at my heaviest most men would not even meet my eyes and looked right thru me..OTOH there are other men who will gravitate to you bcz you are heavier.
I see it as a matter of choice..You can choose to get into the BBW scene..(here there are specific parties and such) and go where your weight is seen as an asset..or you can batten down and lose some weight to have an appeal to more men..or you can stay as is and fish,
knowing you will have less interest but it is still possible to find somene who appreciates you for you... It's up to you which avenue to persue. | |
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uk28
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Joined: 8/9/2006
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| How come not matter how fat/ bald he is, he wants a thin woman?
Posted: 1/14/2007 2:07:17 PM | I'm not quite sure how to say this without pissing others off possibly -
I had a look at your pictures. In my opinion - you're right on the line of average/a few extra pounds. I don't think it was her size verses your size..frankly - you're just not big enough..not even close.
I mean - if she's 103 pds - maybe..but not average.
You need to lessen your admiration of him..period. If this is he who chooses to be with...HE has some real issues. Don't be his shoulder to cry on. You will just enable him to stay with her longer because he can whine and cry to you - and then go home to her. It is obviously a self-esteem issue on his part..and has nothing to do with you.
I want to add one more thing - I have never had such lovely boyfriends as when I was about 35 pds heavier than I am now. Why - because they were men of substance. Now I go through 5 guys thinner - than it took 1 when I was heavier. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
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| How come not matter how fat/ bald he is, he wants a thin woman?
Posted: 1/14/2007 2:43:45 PM | OP: I agree with uk28, you are not "full-figured", I would also say that you're on the cusp of being average/a few extra pounds. I think that you might, deep down, actually be hoping this is the reason for his choosing her over you.
I don't mean this as an insult, because I'm sure that you're a nice lady, but there might have been another reason for him not to choose you. Hell, maybe the guy wanted more drama in his life and that's why he went for the woman with issues. | |
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| How come not matter how fat/ bald he is, he wants a thin woman?
Posted: 2/14/2007 5:44:00 AM | Then maybe just maybe if you showed the size of your heart you might get noticed!!
All I am reading from your thread is a lady with a serious chip on her shoulder because nobody picks her and blames that non choice on the size of her body.
I have just read your profile and all I see is a lady with low self esteem!!
Start to believe in you then maybe just maybe others will tooo.
Sometimes what we say and believe we are does not come across as who we are???????? | |
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| How come not matter how fat/ bald he is, he wants a thin woman?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:12:31 AM | hiya, male here so i thread carefully. never know where those damn mines could go off
1 i gave up the looking for the thin woman years ago. im 38 now, if i see a woman now im more interested in if shes having a good time, not drunk and seems as we say here to be enjoying the "craic". a womans shape is not representative of any of the above
2 i am the bald and fat one you refer to in your headline! lol. i fell in love got married and it didnt work out, and she was gorgeous, overweight and i wish her nothing but the best in her life ahead. I was attracted to her sense of humour, her passion for coffee, her kindness towards others and she was so pleasant and easy to be around.
3 the only physical turn off i have, and its from child hood is smoking heavily around me.
4 in your favour, thats a great photo set of you on your profile, happy, playing with the dog...and look at the dog, it is so happy to be around you!!
those are the kind of things that make me go hmmm this is worth checking out
5 if any woman can accept me as i am fat and bald (and now half way through treatment for a brain tumour...no jokes please, there was a brain in my head :-P ) the rest of the physical stuff is all just packaging, and like all packaging it goes in the trash! it doesnt add a cent of value to the relaitionship.
in short, not all of us men want the lettuce leaf a week size zero drama-lamas.
have fun and good luck with the hunt for mr. perfect (aka me cough cough..wheezzze)
Mick. | |
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| How come not matter how fat/ bald he is, he wants a thin woman?
Posted: 11/15/2008 5:22:10 PM | | OMG!!! You are so right. I have had to deal with that issue for a long time now. I have been divorced since 1999 and caannot believe that there are still so many shallow men out there. I will not give up looking for a man that just loves me for who I am.....and I do look very sexy in an evening dress or in a good pair of jeans.....even with the extra pounds. | |
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| How come not matter how fat/ bald he is, he wants a thin woman?
Posted: 11/17/2008 12:48:53 PM | How come no matter how fat/bald he is, he wants a thin woman....
.......or a tall woman, or a rich woman, or a white woman.........????
Who men say they want, and who in reality are "attracted" to them are miles apart........that's why so many are alone.....champagne fantasies...beer budget reality.....
Of course, I like the bald ones......... | |
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