| PROFILES ON POF AND ON SEX SITES?
Posted: 1/15/2007 2:20:02 PM | | What do men think of women that are on POF with that Dorothy and Toto look "oh I want someone to RESPECT me" and then you find them on clubforeplay or adult friendfinder naked and passing themselves off for instant and casual sex? Kind of makes the POF guys look like fools? | |
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| PROFILES ON POF AND ON SEX SITES?
Posted: 1/15/2007 4:21:37 PM | | Although I've never been to those sex sites - it doesn't suprise me at all. When women say they want a nice, honest man who doesn't play games - they really mean that those things would be conveinant, but sex is the most important. It is the women who are usually playing games like this - men don't even know what 'games' mean most of the time. I don't. | |
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| PROFILES ON POF AND ON SEX SITES?
Posted: 1/16/2007 1:57:52 PM | | Im transparent about being here...and contact women that have "intimate encounter" marked...but I see the same women with the little Miss Muffet photos and "friends first" and lets go to an expensive restaurant profiles....then pushing themselves off naked for casual sex on other sites. Want to be "friends first" AND pick up the tab while she's at the Friday night Billz orgy? | |
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| PROFILES ON POF AND ON SEX SITES?
Posted: 1/22/2007 7:07:30 AM | Guys, do I EVER know where you are on this one....I even had a gal tell me she LOVES me and cant be without me and wants to live with me (and me pick up the tab of course) and then I found her the next week naked offering her services free to any takers on a sex site...and she is on POF with that "friends first" stuff......
Funny no female wants to comment here? | |
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| PROFILES ON POF AND ON SEX SITES?
Posted: 1/24/2007 9:25:33 AM | | Well, I'll comment on this.. I'm sorry you men have been played by some of the women on here. I for one and very up front about what I want in my profile and I am also on the site mentioned and then some.. Men and women both play the games.. We all just need to quit and be honest. What I call what I want is friendships with benefits.. Sex is great, but so is having friends you can go out and do things with as well. Hopefully soon you men will find what it is you are looking for. :) | |
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| PROFILES ON POF AND ON SEX SITES?
Posted: 1/30/2007 5:32:35 AM | Seeing as how this looks to be a local forum, I'm wondering if perhaps my profile might be one you are speaking of. I'm familiar with the sites mentioned.
Yes, *gasp* that means I just might be on them. Or for those of you that may think I'm on here trying to be disrespectful to my partner, guess who else is on some of them right along with me?
Does that mean I do not deserve respect as a human being? No. Does it mean my profile here is not truthful? It is honest. I use this site for a completely different reason then I do "some" others. I joined POF a long time ago, at a point before I had ever heard of anything like those alternative places.
I stay on POF itself with the intention of making friends. Period. Other then that, I get a kick out of reading and responding to the forums and seeing different people's perspective on life.
As for some "other" sites that may be geared a bit differently ... those have their purpose also. If a person was to see me on those, it might be because as some may have guessed from seeing 'woman seeking woman' on my profile, I have a tendency towards the ladies and I just might have wanted to pursue that.
It is worth noting that for some reason, making friends on the 'racier' sites "might" be more successful for some people then it has been on the more calm ones. Why I'm not sure, but may tend to go that way. And yes, I mean literally friends, nothing more.
Come to think of it ... the original poster and some that followed could not possibly know much about these places unless they have experience in dealing with them. ... They seem to know so much about the erotic postings that could be there, but it seems to me like a person just "may" have to have a PAID membership to access such parts of the website. Which means what, boys and girls? They must have been actively on the site themselves!
Also... just so we are clear, "those" sites do not even condone the type of things the OP has in his profile at the time this is being posted. Someone such as him may not be received well in these places. | |
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| PROFILES ON POF AND ON SEX SITES?
Posted: 1/30/2007 6:14:03 AM | | Thats a great rationalization....why is it that we can no longer just tell the damned truth? Thanks Bill Clinton for making the definition of "is" something we debate. Ive been played this way and in a cruel and heartbreaking way. I would think at this point in our lives we should be able to figure out who we are and what we want and stop with the Sybil crap. If you're a sex party girl and do like five guys and three couples on Friday nights and then get on POF and say "friends first" and "no intimate encounters" and try to snare some clean hardworking guy to pay for your dinners.....and then back to the parties.....how ill is that? Sorry, I think this guy is right on. Make a damned decision! | |
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| PROFILES ON POF AND ON SEX SITES?
Posted: 1/30/2007 6:26:37 AM | Goodness.
Five guys and three couples? I think somehow you have a misconception there. If I was to go to a party, nine times and out of ten I would be leaving with my spouse and my spouse only. If a party was *that* out there and wild, I wouldn't attend it. Also, if I did attend a party, usually I would just meet and make new friends (yes, friends as in talk to/hang out with/etc, nothing more).
Also, I do always have the 'friends first' mentality anywhere you might have seen me, not just on POF.
I do not need to "snare a clean hardworking guy to pay for my dinners" nor would I/do I expect it. It is not another couple or single's responsibility to take care of that.
As for you having been hurt by someone involving something to do with this way of life, I'm sorry. It's obviously not for you, and that's fine. The person that hurt you may have very well been in the wrong, I don't know your particular situation. All I'm saying is, if you're going to pass judgement on a way of life, at least know the true facts before doing so. The experience you had may not be the norm. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 11:07:40 AM | 1) You are in a relationship that is legally monogomous, and you dont present yourself on here as looking for anything. So you really are not part of this discussion. It is about women MISREPRESENTING WHO THEY ARE darlin....and you arent ...kapish?
2) You are barely out of your teens so you really dont have the experience to know what is being said here
3) I do in fact have "experience" with the so called "lifestyle" and I know what was being pulled on me; you dont know ANYTHING about me or the experiences Ive had.
Not that it matters as it appears to be an issue no one really cares about so lets all forget it. Everyone can decieve everyone else and its all good..... | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 2:19:17 PM | I see. Let you have your say, and all is well? I'm at least going to present my thoughts. Yes, I realize no "explanations" are necessary on my part (or yours, either, of course) but I do need to defend myself a little.
1.) No, I don't misreprsent myself. At least, I do my best not to. I chose to speak on the topic because as I said, I am familiar with the sites mentioned.
2.) Yes I'm young, but in my case that is not super relevant. I'm sure I'll learn more as life goes on, but I've already had twice the life experience as many my age. As far as being 'just barely out of my teens' ... well, there was never a time when I was able to be such.
3.) I believe you when you say you've had experience in the lifestyle. As you mentioned, I don't know anything about you, and you have not given me a reason not to take your word on that. I would not claim to know what you've been through, because I don't. Similarly, I can't say for certain what caused you to start this thread in the first place, but hopefully at some point it will not hurt or bother you anymore.
As long as I do not feel the need to defend myself from any future posts (just a flaw of mine I guess) then I'll step down now.
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Posted: 2/3/2007 9:46:05 PM | I hear what yer sayin' LIFES. Hence why I don't take a girl on a date unless I specificaly say so. If I got a girl on here to go hang out with me, 9 times out of 10 she'd assume it was a date, and I'd have to pay for everything. I don't mind paying, but I hate being expected to do things when what is she giving me? Sorry, but if she's gonna demand something from me, I'm gonna demand something from her.
And don't let that phrase put your mind in the gutter either thinking "oh, he's a typical guy, lookie there." Cause it's not that at all. You wanna go out and be friends, lets be friends. We feel more, let's get more done. I'll take you on a date, I'll ask where you'd like to eat, I'll even dress up a bit. Otherwise, you're gonna see me, and only me.
As far as the sex thing, that's typical female. They try to come across being not as horny or not as sexual as guys, let alone as perverted. Not true. Guys are just more open about it, and we don't care what people think. Girls are proven to be more concerned about image and how they look, so they don't say it. Which one of us where make-up? Girls are JUST as bad as guys are, if not, a lot worse. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 8:03:17 PM | Back to the OPs topic.
There is alot of them like that on this site. In fact I have mentioned it a couple of times on the international forums. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2007 3:10:46 AM | | Why don't you just ask her who she is trying to fool, or post her nickname in this forum and I'll do it for you!! | |
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Posted: 8/20/2007 10:50:38 PM | Well, my thinking guys is, if you are looking on sex sites and here, a dating site, then maybe you are trying to make the women on here look like fools. Don't be slamming women, when you go on those sites looking for uh huh, sex, and have a profile on here saying, "Wanted one good woman!" Good women so to speak, have needs too. It all depends on just exactly what you call a good woman.  | |
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| PROFILES ON POF AND ON SEX SITES?
Posted: 12/20/2007 4:41:41 PM | | No there r just some of us that don't want to show it all. Then there r those of us that do what wrong with that | |
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Posted: 12/20/2007 6:00:10 PM | A lot of women have self-confidence issues...
Perhaps if they had a better track-record with men, they would have more confidence in their selves.
Sometimes women are just like men; want to feel sexy and search for someone to be sexually attracted to them to give them that self confidence they are lacking. They might not even meet up with the people they 'chat' with, but just knowing someone still finds you attractive builds you up...not to give justification for their actions, but to help you understand why...
Also, some women may think that since they are single, they use one site to find what they really want and then use the other site to have some fun in the meantime. It's like casual dating...guys are notorious at this; having one girl you really like but having a few on the backburner that you mostly use to suffice your physical needs. If this makes any sense lol let me know.
I am personally not on somespamsite or that other one but I know for sure that women have trust issues and like to have fun. Hell if it was something that gave me a thrill, I know I'd do it. So, I guess its whatever. Find out who hurt them so bad that they lack that self confidence; don't badger them/hate on them. They might have deep issues or they just might like to play games. One never knows until they ask...don't assume anything. Good luck on here!!!
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Posted: 1/11/2008 11:12:56 PM | Ella I am going to say that you have a good grasp on at least "some" woman's issues and perhaps their emotional needs. That was actually a very insightful posting.
I am going to say that yes just like men their are always woman who say they want one thing but do something that proves they don't over and over. Many times I see a profile that says looking for friends for just hanging out and yet you have to fit a certain description before you can even bother messaging them. Then you have the guys that say talk/email and yet what they really mean is cyber or phone sex.
Am I on here to find friends and I would absolutly love if something more was to develop later on as a relationship. Yet as friends why should wether I have a picture or not or if my body type is heavey or skinny or if I am gorgeous or ugly make a difference to a guy if supposedly your looking for friends or someone to chat with online? I am honest on my profile that I am not looking for someone to have sex with or be friends with benefits. I guarentee I won't turn down an offer of friendship even though I will turn down the offer of sex and possibly relationships. I'm not immune to wanting sex, I'm not fridgid I just know what I want and I don't want to settle for less than I want. Does this mean I am on other websites? I can guarentee you I'm not. Does that mean that you shouldn't trust what I say or that I am devious and want you to pay my way? No what it means is that sex actually means something to me and it's not something to be shared or given out lightly to just anyone who thinks it's all fun and games.
So guys before you complain about the womans profiles see what your's says. Does it say exactly what your looking for. If you say you want to find friends are what you really saying is you only want friends that "fit" your idea of potential "mates?" Because if that's what you want and you haven't said it who's the one being untruthful? | |
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Posted: 1/28/2008 1:03:28 AM | | Truth hurts, anyone is capible of being a whore. Yes even jesus loving females are the same way. If they want casual sex then its a pass saying "dont hook up with them" meaning you can get herpasyphagonalaids. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2008 9:36:54 AM | I read this thread and thought, yeah, I agree, it's wrong to do that .....
Then it dawns on me .....
What the heck are these men that are doing the complaining doing on those sex sites? Why are they there looking for "that" sort of woman, and also here in PoF portraying themselves as "a hardworking man seeking a good woman to take home to Mama"???
Isn't that the "same thing you don't like in the women... in reverse"? Kinda like the pot calling the kettle black? A double standard, perhaps?
Don't expect others to be "more moral" than you bother to be.
and if you are REALLY that good man .... contact me!!! ~ smiles ~ | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 12:24:45 PM | People look for relaxing there, and they look for a stable partner to relax with here. The relationship can start from anywhere - from sex, from decent exchange e-mails.
People (men&women) like sex. So, if someone chooses to have it while looking for the Mr/Ms. Right, is that bad? What if there is no such thing and you never gonna have sex as well? | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 12:35:38 PM | Well I got one question for you on this one? IF THEY ARE ON THOSE SITES AND YOU SAW THEM? THAN DOESN'T THAT MEAN YOU WENT TO THAT SITE? AND WE ALL KNOW WHAT somespamsite IS. So it begs me to ask you how can you talk smack on these people cuz some of us men are on both also. when you in fact have been surfing around on those sites trying to see us naked in the first place? Just wondering
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Posted: 3/24/2008 12:11:29 PM | Let's all be real here. Both men and women have profiles on this site, those sites and I am sure other sites also. Who cares and what is the big deal. Each of the sites represent a different view point on the dating world and of being single. A website in itself doesn't make a person bad or good. This is a conservative site compared to those others when it comes to dating. We all like sex... we all want sex...  . The thing other websites offer people are a commonality. If your a sexual person and you like a lot of sex then what is wrong with searching on a more liberal site? Just being on those sites don't mean your a swinger, a swapper or a perv. I am sure those who are judging have no room to be judged themselves. Until you talk to someone, meet that someone in person and learn about them. You won't know the true them, the real them. Maybe the issue these complainers have is that not only aren't they having any luck getting a date on this site, but maybe... just maybe they are upset that they can't get sex from women that say that is what they are after. Complaining and putting other people down is a person's way of trying to make themselves feel better about something... like being rejected.  | |
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