| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 3:24:57 PM | I was recently reading a thread. Someone mentioned not being *clingy*. I want to hear from a man's point of view what exactly clingy is to them.
I haven't had time to search the forums to see if this has been disscussed to death. So my apologies if it has been. :( | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 3:29:39 PM | | Clingy is when the lady wants to be with the man all of the time and never gives him his free space or time to do other things or spend time with other friends. My last gf was clingy. She would be over at my house 6 or 7 days a week for at least 4 or 5 hours a day. I got so tired of her and finally dumped her because I couldnt take it anymore. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 3:37:03 PM | Ok let me spin this around a bit.
If you had a ****buddy. What would be too clingy? | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 3:39:50 PM | Always wants to be with you. Gets upset when you don't want to see her.
I typically have the opposite problem. And I like a bit of clingy (but not completely). I like the loyalty and the fact that she's willing to spend her time with me.
My rule is, don't call me at work to chat with me. You can call, but keep it short and to the point. Not to see "what I'm up to." I'm at work. That's what I'm up to. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 3:44:59 PM | Ok well I'm definitly not any of the above.  I hate talking on the phone for lengthy amounts of time. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 3:51:58 PM | | clingy is fk'd man, Because some girls hate that and then some girls love that, I've had relationships go sour over that because you pay them too much attention and sometimes relationships that end because you don't pay enough attention, if I like you I'm gonna msg you everyday, If I like you, I'm gonna tell you, If I think your beautiful I'm gonna tell you everyday, If I wanna buy you something nice or take you out more then once a week I'm gonna do that, If you don't like that it you call it clingy, why ? Because I wanna hug you more then once a day? because I can't stand not kissing you ? Because I wanna show you off to all my friends, because I wanna hold your hand in public? ehhh.. Rough topic for me because Girls **** about head games and how they want a good man, well you find one that totally digs you and then you ditch him because he likes you too much? man theres a game in your mind right there lol thats right GAME IN YOUR MIND lol I'm out because this actually made me angry | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 5:14:46 PM | When the other person has no life and they constantly need attention, direction,and crave touching....kind of rubbery...lol | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 5:48:52 PM | If you have a F*CK BUDDY, then these are obviously the signs of being " clingy " :
- YOU make the first call all the time...and YOU make the plans all the time to see him. He doesn't seem so interested. You should get your cue from that.
- YOU leave things at his house....without him asking you to.
- YOU call him at work, at his house, on his cell
- YOU get upset and show it when he says he can't hang out with you.
- YOU get so emotional and dramatic everytime he says something....like you overanalyze everything.
If these are signs that you are seeing now in you, stop right away and remember, he is only a f*ck buddy. Stay cool, be cool. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 6:33:32 PM | | well that ends this question about "clingy" clearly someone who knows what they are talking about...by the way could you e-mail that to every woman i have dated??? also if you have to ask if you are something??? chances are..."you are" lol! | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 6:35:01 PM |
If these are signs that you are seeing now in you, stop right away and remember, he is only a f*ck buddy. Stay cool, be cool.
I'm confused. Are you saying all women should view the man they're dating as just a f*ck buddy and that'll prevent them from making the critical error of getting "clingy"?
'Cause if you are, I gotta tell ya, it's a radical approach!!!!! But then so was Atkins and look how that took off...! | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 6:47:02 PM | "...if I like you I'm gonna msg you everyday, If I like you, I'm gonna tell you, If I think your beautiful I'm gonna tell you everyday, If I wanna buy you something nice or take you out more then once a week I'm gonna do that, If you don't like that it you call it clingy, why ? Because I wanna hug you more then once a day? because I can't stand not kissing you ? Because I wanna show you off to all my friends, because I wanna hold your hand in public?"
Good grief, eyeownu42nite (what a fitting name you gave yourself). I'd run for the hills! This is overkill, man!!! I need my space, couldn't stand to be suffocated, and that's what you're doing. You got angry because your girl didn't appreciate you 'showing her off to all your friends"? You need therapy.
Ninki | |
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dog2k6
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Joined: 2/22/2006
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 6:47:24 PM | | atkins??? didn't he die from starvation??? now thats one hell of a diet??? his wife lost 155lbs..no, no that was him!!! lol! | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 7:19:45 PM | 155, try 255!!!!!!! *"Oh no! She didn't" - said in Brooklyn accent with rythmic triple finger snaps.*
(Note to self - Cut down on Springer..... and go to bed, it's frickin 4am!!!!) | |
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Joined: 2/22/2006
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 7:32:26 PM | | i get my fix of jerry just to keep it real!!! real stupid!lol! now who can forget some of the classic's "i am happier without my legs!" " crossdressing cousins" or "grandma is a ho" lol! | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 8:26:12 PM | | I have been told by a woman that I was the last person she was ever going to have sex with in her life. (When we did it was totaly her idea and I was much younger/dumber) That is clingy, and I hope she is ok, but suicidal low elf esteem just makes me run. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 8:30:02 PM | Do you love me? (After 1 date, YMMV)
Calling more than once a day
Those pesky lint balls that static electricity sticks to my clothing | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 9:48:01 PM | I think people just have different levels of intimacy. Everyone needs to be held some times and everyone needs some time to themselves. Its nice when you find a person that matches your balance. And its even better when you both want to be with each other as much as you can, mutually of course. i've met people i definitely need my space from even though they are pretty neat people. And i've also met someone who i want to be with as much as possible. I don't think it means that people are clingy just different.
crazylilting | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 10:35:23 PM | Well, being clingy is simply *needing* someone's constant attention and approval.
If you wonder how you lived without someone before you met them, that may be the first red flag. If you're constantly calling, emailing, texting, etc to get attention from them.
Ask yourself before you dial "Am I calling to talk about something important or am I just needing attention?"
How you answer that question will easily decide if you are clingy or not. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2007 10:53:14 PM | | waves a couple of red flags about | |
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Posted: 1/17/2007 11:18:42 PM | Okay, so I hate to admit it, but I guess I kinda like my man clingy! | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 12:57:34 AM | | im a bit of a clingy guy i try not to get out of hand because i dont like to look desperate but i dont think theres nothing wrong with wanting to be with the person your with. If it becomes excessive to the point your always checking on them and getting suspicious of them when there is no reason to then that is bad. Im the clingy but easy going type. I like to cuddle with my girl and spend time and show her affection but i wont get mad if she has her own life with work and school and so on. Id only get mad if she was putting no effort in (which is usually a sign that the person has lost interest and it will end possibly, but anyone would get mad by that) so i guess im not THAT clingy after all. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/18/2007 2:15:37 AM | | "Clingy" is just the name we call people who want more of us, our time and our affection that we want to give. It's not quantifiable and even varies for an individual compared with who they are relating to. Behaviour that might drive you nuts from one person can be appreciated as affection from another person. With some blokes there is an impossibly fine line between "cold and unaffectionate" and "too clingy" and you'll never get it right! Don't worry, if your natural behaviour is considered by them to be too clingy, they are simply not right for you. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/18/2007 5:55:10 AM | | (puts on strap on to answer the question) The type of people who feel the need to call a hundred times a day. The ones that dont give up after they call someones house and they dont answer. The ones that feel the need to call the home phone, the cell, or even text message all the time asking where they are etc etc. Or maybe thats just being insecure, who knows? | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/18/2007 10:02:04 AM | I dated a girl that i actually refer to as The KLINGON.
She would come over after work and sit on my couch and watch tv. She wouldnt go home except on weekends. It took her an hour to drive home. Once she got there she would call me and say "I am home.. So .. whats up?" like I had had the adventure of a lifetime in those 60 minutes it took her to leave my house to go to her house.
When i would respond not much its only been an hour... she would get upset that i didnt want to talk to her.. (like after 5X24 of her time i would have anything else to talk about).. so she would come back over to MY house right then and there so we could "talk".
I would want to go out with friends.. but she didn't like them.. (mutual feelings there) so she would say .. if you go out with them then we are done.. and i would go out.. and she would still be there and she would talk about how insensitive SHE was for trying to prevent me from seeing my friends.... gahh..
When i started telling her that i don't think we were going to work out .. she would jsut say "Oh it's cause your comparing me to your ex"
When i told her i wanted to break up with her she said "Okay.. i will go home and let you think about this.. well.. just to the car.. i will be abck in 5 minutes" when my mind didn't change.. she said i was just unaccousted to aving someone care about me and that after a good nights sleep all would be better.. (it never was)
Now.. on the flip side.. G_W and i spent 3 weeks together over the holidays 24/7 and ya know what.. I loved every minute of it. no regrets. no fear or apprehension and no end of things to talk about .. weird huh? | |
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