| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/23/2007 7:16:25 AM | | After things didn't work out the way he wanted them to .. and we broke up .. I was trashed .. and had .. ALL my personal info Plastered ALL over the internet.. My name .. address .. phone numbers.. What's up with that ? This coming from a 48 year old man .. that was suppose to be in love with me.. How could he ? HOW could a person that said he loved me with all his heart.. try to destroy me ? Even though all of that .. I could have NEVER .. EVER done that to him.. Is this or was this a normal reaction ? I don't think so .. | |
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/23/2007 8:55:34 AM | | Actually, anger is normal for a lot of men in this situation, and even though putting the kind of info you're talking about on the Internet is extreme, it may actually serve as letting off steam for this guy. Just curious, though, what did this guy look like--(1-10, height, hair, and so on)--and did he display any strange characteristics when you dated him? Also, how long did you date him for, and what caused the breakup? But try to avoid him from here on out, and change your numbers! | |
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/23/2007 1:46:19 PM | Well I know you're a victim here,but the way you easily say how could he does this,well think about it calmy say "It didn't work out",which means YOU broke it off with him,probably in a way he didn't expect. There is NO excuses for anyone at any age to do something so silly,You say you could never do that but thats easily said when you're on the GIVING end of the breakup. I'm not saying you would do that I'm sure you wouldn't,but in LOVE nothing seems to amaze me anymore the lengths people go through and such is it really a suprise? I also think he did that because you probably cut off all contact so he did this to get ANY repsonse out of YOU even if it was to email or call him and curse him out of anger.. that was his intentions maybe to plead his case. I would end this by saying you should be glad it's over now and he showed his true colors,imagine if you continued to see this man .. and married him,thank heavens for that!
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/23/2007 2:36:17 PM | My opinion, there is no excuse for posting any personal information, regardless on how anyone justifies/rationalizes it. If a person has an issue, that should be brought up in person. If not, try whatever is available. Posting any personal information of anyone ( especially without their consent ) is asking for legal actions. Especially when identity theft is a huge issue today, the individual may have broken the law by invading someone's privacy.
As sexynycbadboy suggested,
You should document everything that was done to you. You might even have legal recourse if all your personal information was given out like that.
Again, just my opinion.
Hope things work out for you. | |
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/23/2007 3:19:16 PM | Theone4u2,
Sounds to me as though you did the right thing by junking the old goat. He sounds a little insecure and vindictive to me. Thank God he did all that stuff on the internet and not to you physically...I can only ask you to forgive the guy and move on with your life. Your a very attractive lady and seems you have a great personality. The people involved that know you will just blow him off and chalk it up to him being a fool. As for you there's no future in the past so, cut him loose and join us. We all have fun here. Welcome! I know better things are in store for you!
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/24/2007 7:07:55 AM | | So Tango.. Am I reading this right ? You are typing and saying that it is actually normal.. although you feel it is somewhat extreme for him to have given out .. ALL my personal information out on the internet.. and that information being.. My full name .. my address.. phone #'s .. where I work and the phone # there .. what kind of car I drive and the license plate # on that .. and that to you is ok. and considered it just blowing off steam ? Because we broke up .. I do agree with you that anger is normal in a breakup and blowing off steam CAN be to a point but is there a limit to what you call blowing off steam .. and in this case.. was it taken a little too far.. if not going to the DEEP END.. Breaking up is NOT an easy thing.. for either party .. But using it to destroy is like using a weapon.. or it can be . | |
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/24/2007 7:09:24 AM | | So Tango.. Am I reading this right ? You are typing and saying that it is actually normal.. although you feel it is somewhat extreme for him to have given out .. ALL my personal information out on the internet.. and that information being.. My full name .. my address.. phone #'s .. where I work and the phone # there .. what kind of car I drive and the license plate # on that .. and that to you is ok. and considered it just blowing off steam ? Because we broke up .. I do agree with you that anger is normal in a breakup and blowing off steam CAN be to a point but is there a limit to what you call blowing off steam .. and in this case.. was it taken a little too far.. if not going to the DEEP END.. Breaking up is NOT an easy thing.. for either party .. But using it to destroy is like using a weapon.. or it can be . | |
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/24/2007 7:27:43 AM | | definitely not kosher, not by a long shot, like someone said before, be glad you got out when you did. also like another user said check in to see if there is some legal action you can take with that guy (protective order at least) for putting all your info out there | |
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/24/2007 3:35:36 PM | i think what he did with your info was mean and cruel.and sounds like an act of revenge acting out against you.ya know being a big baby and he is 48.gimme a break.i know knowone likes to break up,but if people were more civil to one another,you probably would'nt have half the abuse that does go on.anyone ever needs a friend to talk to drop me a line.
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/24/2007 5:49:57 PM | | No that was not normal. It sounds like he was a real Richard Cranium!!! I have left relationships in the past with a bad taste in my mouth but always acted civilized. It turns out this is the best way since most if not all my ex's ( for what I know) are on good terms. A person can never have to many friends so for me its always good to try to save a little face even though I might be mad. That way their can be a possible friendship in the future. | |
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/24/2007 5:50:42 PM | | No that was not normal. It sounds like he was a real Richard Cranium!!! I have left relationships in the past with a bad taste in my mouth but always acted civilized. It turns out this is the best way since most if not all my ex's ( for what I know) are on good terms. A person can never have to many friends so for me its always good to try to save a little face even though I might be mad. That way their can be a possible friendship in the future. | |
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/25/2007 2:14:29 PM | I'm very sorry to hear what happened to you. You're a beautiful girl and I'm sure you'll find someone a lot better!
I unfortunately had something similar happen to me...although he didn't post my address, phone number, SSN, etc. he did trash me on the internet on some forums we hung out on...as well as my own internet forum!
Not only that, but he sent me a nasty email that trashed me all over the place, trash-talked me to my best friend, and called my house disguising his voice!
As I was on the verge of getting a restraining order, it all stopped.
I would pursue legal action if I were you. Not only is it harassment, but someone could use your info to steal your identity. | |
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/25/2007 2:23:32 PM | | sounds as if what i went through i got off easy -- this guy defintiely doesnt take rejection well, must be from all the times his mother said no to him when all he wanted was a hug. internet laws definitely apply here but more importantly than that an order of protection should take place, you never know what a nut job like that is capable of doing next. i wish i had someone give me that kind of advise in the past, lucky for you i have a foot that i can put up that guys sitting utensil free of charge for you -- guys like that make it harder for the rest of the guys out here, there is always that minor nervous thought when the ladies are asked out | |
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/25/2007 4:51:29 PM | It's tacky enough just fighting in public places, seeing as the internet is about as public as it gets, the guy might just as well have been screaming "I'm Not Housebroken For Relationships" to the world . . . .
so, yeah, I'm voting wrong on this one, with extra penalties for tasteless, dull, and likely to bounc back at him if you decided legal recourse.
I mean, shit, even a brick wrapped with a note has more style to it. | |
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| Is it right to trash & put personal info on internet after BAD breakup ?
Posted: 1/27/2007 7:08:21 AM | Lets face it, humankind is a very bitter, vindictive, dispictable race. And it is becoming more and more acceptable to trash those who hurt us. You don't think so? Look at all the talk shows, t.v. dramas, and court shows. We have web sites, books, laws, and radio shows devoted to plastering people who do wrong things. The sadest part is that it is done out of anger. The heat of the moment. Not based on something that truly should be disclosed like "She slept with my 16 year old son while I was at work." That might need to be told for those of us who have 16 year old sons and want to date her. Or the fact that he is a gangbanging, drug dealer, should be let known...To many people get killed because of being wrapped up in the cross-fire of their SO (if you don't think so, look for news reports of this family of 5 (father, mother, and three sons (all of whom were minors) being stabbed, shot, and blundgeoned to death, and then the house set on fire to cover it up. The father apparently having connections with a local drug dealer). Yes that information I can see getting put out. But, it is the other non-sense that people put out there that hurts the person.
I don't think it was right if he did what he did. And you may have legal recourse. So, seek it justification. He needs to know it is not right. And you need legal footing to show why you need to get your numbers changed and new locks put on your home, etc. You never know when some predator will take advantage of that opening and target you.
To those who are thinking about doing this or who have done it...It is NOT right! Who cares if your heart gotten hurt? Who cares if your ex did not turn out to be who they YOU thought they were? Hurt comes and goes. And just because they were not right for you does not mean you should spoil their lives for someone else. Learn from your mistake. Try not to make it again. Forgive, forget, and move on.
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