| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/10/2005 9:28:49 AM | How come the only time anyone wants to talk to me is if they want a quick shag or cause they wanna dump thier problems on me???
I know im not good looking and i cant help that but im so sweet and caring and always try to make a women happy and feel special but still no one wants me???
I know women and men like a bad boy or girl and i can be sometimes but every women i've spoke to for the last few months go "I want someone to treat me right and look after me" but when i talk to them and help them through thier bad time they turn around and say that im too sweet and they dont want to hurt me.
WHAT??????
All i want is too be with someone!!! :( | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/10/2005 9:41:04 AM | | The lessons you are learning, time will reveal. (best yoda voice) | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/10/2005 9:46:36 AM | Good question. We've all been there before - men and women - and its still a good question. Anyone who hasn't really been hurt does by love does not know what it means to be hurt. And yet still, we plug away. I came out of a long-term-relationship a few years ago, and it devestated me. It took me over a year to feel ready to date again. And here I am, after all that pain, sorrow and misery, starting over (for the second time, I might add).
So, why do I do it? Its simple. When I am in love - truly, honestly in love - only then am I complete. | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/10/2005 10:00:35 AM | Darling,
the situation you described is normal scenario for a human being: people take advantage of each other, especially of those who allowed them (means who have a good hart). So you have a choice -- ignore other's pain or help those who are in need (and thank god that you are not them) and do not expect anything in return. Here is a wonderful formula I discovered:
expectation = frustration. Try to stay in a neutral mode most of the time and take a holistic approach to a relationship -- learn how not to get attached to anything (or anyone) right away.
Hope it helps and good luck with your life you are definitely a dissent human being.
Kind regards,
Genie | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/10/2005 10:05:02 AM | question is, did she actually need help or was she just ranting/raving... Oops think the word i'm looking for is venting... | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/10/2005 11:48:32 AM | | smells like possible doormat issues. No real way to tell from here though. | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:06:41 PM | | hehe i only wish someone would talk to me for a quick shag....i dont even get that so enjoy yer doing better than some out there.... | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:23:18 PM | All i want is too be with someone!!! :(
Not good. You mean every single woman that you talk too you are interested in. Women see this and it makes you look desperate. This is a big turn off to a lot of women. | |
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Joined: 2/16/2005
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:28:12 PM | She's right. Don't attach so much significance & importance to something that hasn't even formed yet.
Oh & without sounding gay: You're good-looking. Why do you say you're not? Boost that self-confidence (Stop before ego develops, though)
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/10/2005 9:20:30 PM | foxefire nailed it. A lot of people are not looking for some ONE they are looking for a relationship. The person is inconsequential. I've met women like this (and I say women cuz I'm a guy) and honestly, I clue in REAL fast to that mindset and it just makes my stomach TURN. I can't get out of there fast enough.
Give it a think Jedi. Be honest with yourself. BE REALLY HONEST WITH YOURSELF. Do you want an interesting person you have met or do you just want a relationship irregardless of the person? | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/10/2005 11:53:45 PM | | When you least expect it, you will connect with someone special. Someone who will like you for you and tha's it:) | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/11/2005 7:29:13 AM | JEDIKNIGHT:
awwww your cute if i didn't live in the states it would be a different story
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/11/2005 11:10:21 AM | | You've got lots of great advice here. Dynamic mind's notation about expectations is a lesson far to many of us take far too long to learn. To a certain degree I've got a wounded bird syndrome, helping people is fuel for my self esteem. I do however never let anyone take advantage of me. If my initial support goes unappreciated the book all but closes. Justaguy is JUST RIGHT. Let a few years find you a bit wiser. In the meantime be more self confident and stop looking for something that may very well find a "new" you. Foxefire's note on desperation, take it to heart to friend. Don't become a self absorbed schmuck, but bring something more to a potential relationship than the simple desire to be "mothered up." | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/11/2005 2:29:21 PM | Thanks for all your help guys and girls.
I was just having one of those days.
I had just found someone i like on here called shugga who is great and i was really getting to know her when my ex girlfriend who is the only women i have ever been trully in love with was on the phone to me all that night thinking of ending her life.
I talked her out of it and after i felt proud for doing a good thing but not knowing that it was eating away at me deep down inside of the thought of her dead.
The rest of that day i was just down but thanks for your kind words abd advice!
If anyone who has help me needs some help or advice i'll try and return the favor.
Thanks again Greg | |
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MikeJ
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Joined: 1/30/2005
Msg: 16 | |
| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/11/2005 2:33:21 PM | | Well to start you might change your profile name from "JEDIKNIGHT" to something a little more masculine. And no, "DARTHVADER" isn't any better. | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/11/2005 2:39:58 PM | | your rite someone will come along and you will hit it off with them real good so allways keep on trying | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/11/2005 3:06:25 PM | my friend says: you look hot!
put yourself in their shoes!
she says to herself: I want to have fun, I don't want a boring dude... I like to lauph and be teased....
this is what they want... they give emotions and we irradiate confidence and manhood...
don't open your heart wide... keep the door half closed.... they like exploring secrets and discoveries.
you don't need advise man.... you will do fine
take care.
Samy | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 4/11/2005 3:21:33 PM |
I know im not good looking and i cant help that you need confidence...your not gonna get what you really want until u love urself. | |
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| Why do I try??? I don't try or I do try but I do and I don't but....
Posted: 1/14/2008 7:11:38 PM | I try to hang out with some women because I like female company. Not that I don't like to watch the bowl games, but women are interesting in their own way. But I have a policy about not making the same mistake twice. I thought my first wife was my soul mate and the love of my life. That just goes to show that I don't exercise good judgment when it comes to women so now I just have fun with them and I like to have fun with all of them. Am I obvious and obnoxious? Probably, but some girls even go for that obvious obnoxious guy. I don't worry about broken hearts anymore. Didn't like it the first time and I am not doing it again. 4 years, 5 years, who cares.....  | |
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| Why do I try???All i want is too be with someone!!! :(
Posted: 1/14/2008 7:17:52 PM | | That's sad. The truth is, as long as you are comfortable being alone you will have plenty of company. Write a journal and explore your own lonliness. There are good things about being lonely. A great time for introspection. Unfortunately, I find that as soon as I begin to really enjoy and embrace my own aloneness, it becomes attractive to someone else, too. And hey, a quick shag is good every once in a while, too. Just don't let it cloud your resolve. | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 1/14/2008 7:23:54 PM | | You're preaching to the choir. This venu to meet people can be brutal. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2008 7:37:32 PM | | op keep trying!do not let it get to you.Looks are not everything .what matters is what is inside the person and that person is a decent sort.There is someone out there for you.Do not give up.And do not change who you are.And do not let anyone use you as a doormat.Good luck to you and take care. | |
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| Why do I try???
Posted: 1/14/2008 7:42:57 PM | | If this is not a pity thread...I don't know what is | |
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