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 bluetears
Joined: 7/1/2004
Msg: 1
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I HAVE HAD A LOT OF BROKEN BONES. HAD SURGERIES ON THEM. THEY LEAVE SCARS. I POSTED MY PICTURE, SCARS ARE NOT ON MY FACE. THEN I BECAME SCARED AND TOOK IT OFF. I KNOW MEN ARE VISUAL CREATURES. SO HOW ABOUT IT GUYS.
 strange0879
Joined: 2/3/2005
Msg: 2
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:37:27 PM
wouldn't worry about it
 Shugo
Joined: 4/6/2005
Msg: 3
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:38:41 PM
Dosent bother me at all, in certain places it can be a turn on.
 ladydi8
Joined: 1/31/2005
Msg: 4
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:42:08 PM
sweetie, i am not a guy but i gotta tell ya this.....i too have alot of scars....i looked like the

child of frankenstien growin up..18 stitches from a dogbite in the face.....but i was a showgirl

by the time i was 16 and a model at 18...........and half the time i dont even wear makeup

now..........i used to be afraid i wasnt pretty.......or that my scars would seem gross to

someone.................but hell, honey, any body that loves you is gonna find ya beautiful ......

and thats beautiful just the way you are......some men find survival a beautiful skill in a

woman..and it sounds like you have survived............those that are bothered by scars arent

real men.............give em time to grow up

and in the meantime, recognize your own beauty..............scars have nothin to do with it!!
 bluetears
Joined: 7/1/2004
Msg: 5
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:44:00 PM
OK HERE'S ANOTHER ONE WHAT IF ONE OF THE SURGERIES THEY HAD TO TAKE YOUR BELLY BUTTON OFF. NOW YOU DON'T HAVE ONE. WOULD A GUY FIND THAT FREAKY?
 strange0879
Joined: 2/3/2005
Msg: 6
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:49:41 PM
everyone is different, some guys may find it freaky others won't at all. you gotta pick the ones that don't. line up 10 guys each one will have a different view on it after you showed them.
 bluetears
Joined: 7/1/2004
Msg: 7
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:49:51 PM
HEY THANKS AND I LOVE YOUR PROFLIE, YOU SOUND LIKE YOU'VE REALLY GOT IT TOGETHER. THANKS
 bluetears
Joined: 7/1/2004
Msg: 8
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:52:24 PM
THANKS WILD 840, BUT HOW DO YOU GO ABOUT THAT? WHEN DO YOU LET THEM KNOW? DO YOU PUT IT DOWN IN YOUR PROFILE OR TELL THEM BEFORE OR AFTER YOU MEET?
 Ultrapig
Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 9
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:53:14 PM
No worries. A guy bothered by this is too shallow to deal with. It might even be considered a convenient pre selection weeding feature.

I've heard of guys who were bothered by extensive burn scarring but that was not all that common and usually in situations where limbs and facial features were actually burned off. Surgical scars are nothing, even in large numbers. Most everyone has some kind of surgical scar or other.
 Hoshijiro
Joined: 4/2/2005
Msg: 10
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:53:22 PM
Nope. Might be interesting, but not scary. We're not all looking for Barbie dolls.
Try not to worry about that, if a guy is put off by things like that you really don't want him around anyway.
I was chatting to a girl last week (tango lesson), she seemed very attractive and picture perfect, but she still annoyed the bejayzus out of me. If she had been nice and had a big scar, I would have had a great evening. But no. No scar, and no fun.
 strange0879
Joined: 2/3/2005
Msg: 11
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:55:03 PM
Toss some pictures up. Go for it. If anyone has a issue they are the selfish ignorant ones not you. I know people tend to be self-consicous time to time about scars, I have a couple nasty ones myself. If he can't see past a scar, would you really want him in your life?
 strange0879
Joined: 2/3/2005
Msg: 12
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:59:53 PM
Hrmm, i'll role play it for my reaction. Assuming we talked for a few minutes already.

You: hey I got scar's.
Me: ya?
You: I do some are bad.
Me: want to show them.
You: if you don't, dunno what my reaction would be, probably puzzled, and try find out why your nervious.

Or if you do show them, I'll probably be like, ahh I'm not worried about it.
 Ultrapig
Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 13
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 2:00:28 PM
re: belly button

If theres a situation where the belly button thing just comes into view they're liable to be primarily interested in other things just then. Possible it could even be useful. You could invite them to try and find it.

Supprised they didn't just build a new one. It doesn't sound like a particularly difficult piece of surgery.
 GeorgieLeopard
Joined: 8/31/2004
Msg: 14
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 2:02:34 PM
Between my hysterectomy, double bypass, appendix, lumpectomy, and various other surgeries throughout my lifetime, I've never once found a man who objected. Stop obcessing! The scars aren't who you are and they don't define you!
 CEC93013
Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 15
Exactly How do You feel about SCARS, both phisical and emotional??? (-;
Posted: 4/10/2005 2:05:57 PM
The Phisical Scars are just a part of my life,but the emotional scars can be a real hinderance...*J*
 çòúntrÿLÏn
Joined: 3/18/2005
Msg: 16
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 2:06:07 PM
heII we all have scars hon... but you know something... I'd rather meet someone that has the physical ones from surgeries etc than the emotional ones :)...
Once you get to know someone it's a topic starter.. and hey.. once you get to reallyyyy know them.. scars are very sensitive to light feather kisses & a flick of the tongue ! I think there sexy

~~~ my motto.. take me for who I am.. or dont take me at all...
 Wizard097
Joined: 3/18/2005
Msg: 17
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 2:15:50 PM
Heya BlueTears
Anyone that is worthy of you will take you for who you are, scars and all.Those that dont, why bother with them.
 indigo rose
Joined: 11/25/2004
Msg: 18
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 2:58:01 PM
ladydi what a girl...very beautiful herself

everybody has scars some are just on the inside !
 Raven34
Joined: 3/8/2005
Msg: 19
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 3:18:00 PM
All scars have a story.....and if the situation warrents it can be good lil conversation starters (I know men that actually have scar swapping stories....lol....so as women we should find away to be as comfy with them).....I have them and although I was initially embarassed by them they are just a part of the scenery now. *lol* Anyone that judges you for them isn't worth their salt anyways.

As far as the belly button thing......my mom had a surgery that left her without one as well....and she has been married three times so it didn't seem to slow her down in the "companionship" category.

Hugs,
Raven
 Quack
Joined: 12/17/2004
Msg: 20
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 3:21:42 PM
They dont bother me, and I hope mine wouldnt bother her.
 GMCAcadia
Joined: 5/6/2004
Msg: 21
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HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 3:29:29 PM
Depends, it sounds to me like you are letting Physical Scars give you Emotional/Mental scars, if that is the case then it would be a problem... Otherwise it's what's inside that matters most... Sometimes scars give peoplePhysical Charactor...

I think you should put your Pic back up...
 mayorx
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 22
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 3:36:17 PM
I dont mind scars, it tells me that your a living female WARRIOR!!

oops please excuse the caps, I got carry away...

MX
 bluetears
Joined: 7/1/2004
Msg: 23
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 6:50:11 PM
hey thanks everybody....i'm putting my picture back on.....believe it or not it's the only one i have right now...thanks
 DJiane84
Joined: 2/26/2005
Msg: 24
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 6:52:21 PM
i wouldnt worry about it, i have a 4-5 inch scar on my stomach, its pretty thick, from when i got my appendix removed in september, think it gives me character though
 jimi77
Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 25
HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS?
Posted: 4/10/2005 7:37:06 PM
scars are not a big deal.. i mean at first you might look at them.. but soon they are no big deal.
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