| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 12:46:22 AM | | Has anyone ever met someone with the pre-conceived notion that sex was the ultimate outcome of the meeting and when you met either they weren't what you thought, or vice-versa you weren't what they were lookin' for? If so did either of you bail. | |
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 6:38:19 AM | | Nope never met anyone i did not know for "sex". So i never had to bail. And IMO not many people will answer that question on a general post such as this. Dont know just my opinion as there have been 100 or more ppl view and only 1 to respond. | |
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 7:01:58 AM | | Nay! I haven't met anyone so far with the pre-conceived notion for sex. I think if that is the notion, then it have to be call girl/guy or a pro! | |
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 11:25:29 AM | | I stopped meeting people for awhile , because I was finding that agreeing to meet for a coffee , ment agreeing to have sex to some men. One got very angery that I had no intention of having sex that he got very physical with me . I scared me alot . I have never lead anyone to believe that sex would be the result , but it was just assumed . I do try to make it clear but I wasnt getting thru , maybe I have the wrong guys talking to me . | |
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 11:35:08 AM | No, this has never happened to me. I've never met someone with sex as the goal of the first meeting. or a second for that matter. I usually go into a meeting with no specific agenda other than having a great time, getting to know them, and see if there is enough chemistry and mutual atrraction to warrent a second date and beyond.
The fewer expectations, the less of a chance either party will be disappointed. | |
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 12:35:12 PM | | If 2 adults enter into a relationship of this sort and have the maturity and understand each other, then fine. | |
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 3:39:19 PM | "If 2 adults enter into a relationship of this sort and have the maturity and understand each other, then fine."
or...if 2 adults entre into a relationship of this sort and have the maturity and understand that they could catch an STD, then fine as well...lol.
so peole do that but me? i have more respect for myself than that. i like to be in a solid relationship before i decide to take my pants off...that floats my boat | |
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 4:25:49 PM |
I stopped meeting people for awhile, because I was finding that agreeing to meet for a coffee, meant agreeing to have sex to some men.
.....Tell me about it.......
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 4:51:30 PM | yes the first time for coffe then discussion on POF then we met for sex .
Niethre of us turned back and we both had one hell of a time .
Great sex rules | |
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 5:53:52 PM | | years ago i met a girl online and we agreed to hook up for sex. i asked her what the quickest she had ever hooked up w/ someone after meeting him. she said it was like 10 hours. i said we should try for 10 minutes. she agreed. i drove an hour to pick up this girl and found that her picture was about 75 lbs. ago. needless to say i wasn't going to go through it. fortunately, i had learned from a previous bad experience. i told her to wait outside of her car. i told her i was in a black tahoe and i was really in a white civic. so i was able to drive by, check out the goods and keep going. she should have been ashamed | |
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 6:11:26 PM | | yea, i agree. it was seriously juvenile of her to show me an old pic and deceive me. she shoulda paid for my gas! | |
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| Thank You for that story
Posted: 1/27/2007 6:41:21 PM | | You just made my day. That was sooooooo wrong. People-what the heck are they thinkin' sometimes? You shoulda thrown her a porkchop. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2007 6:45:39 PM | | People do it all the time, but they like to call it picking someone up at the club or bar. And if you want to pretend that you did not have that intention when you left your house, that it just happened, please, you are just playing mindgames with yourself. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2007 9:10:29 PM | OK ... I'll take the risk of the flame ... LOL
Yes I have ... mutual..consensual, and nothing hidden.
The way I look at it... if Im not looking for a relationship, but some company would be nice and so would some sex ... them Im straight up about that.. no games .. no lines .. no crap. Lay the cards out on the table and its that easy.
NOW .. ponder this ... ladies .. would you prefer to get played by a guy... he wants a relationship.. he wants to walk in the sand holding hands ... and then have sex and walk away... or would you prefer to know right off what the deal is and given the option to go there or not.
Yes there are those of you that require a commitment to have sex, but I have found in many cases those are just words, and hormones get the better of many.
A shoot straight (pun intended) I tell it like it is, love me , hate me , disrespect me, but you will wont accuse me of being dishonest...maybe even too honest.. but at least I tell you what I'm looking for straight outta the gate and I don't lead you on to more when there isn't..therefore you have the choice in the matter.
..and for those that are thinking it ... no this is not a usual practice for me ... but it has happened in the past | |
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 9:16:26 PM | To me, that's some crazy sh*t!!!
I mean, I've have plenty of one night stands and all that. But I've never met anyone and just based it on just a sex thing, there's always been something more...something....anything. That sounds a bit out there, maybe I'm just old school...lol. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2007 9:27:51 PM | | you are also a jerk, and no im not fat just considerate of those who are | |
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 9:44:11 PM | | I'm very uncomfortable with the idea of promising someone sex before we meet. I always tell people I'm not going to guarantee anything specific happening until we meet in person. You never know how you're going to get along, if there's chemistry, whatever. I have no objection to meeting people - why would I be on a site like this if I never wanted to meet anyone? But I prefer to meet people with no agenda other than meeting up - then we take things as they come. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2007 9:48:41 PM | | What's the problem with a sex date...as long as it is consentual between adults. This is how it works. Discuss you intentions on line during you email conversations. Exchange phone numbers so you can talk. Meet in a public place...Over coffee at Starbuck's and the such. Better to leave out the alcohol! By this time... you should be acquinted, after emailing and phone phone conversations...so you should have a pretty good idea of the others personality and demeanor. If there is a physical attraction ie. CHEMISTRY...interest or curiosity. Then discuss it and make the decision to commit or bail. There is a lot of maturity involved... I have meet several women like this and its about 50/50 on sex happening or not. I have backed out before and I have been backed out on. Many times the other person will talk a game but will flake before meeting. If you go into it with the understanding that there are no expectations except great sex and a smile on your face. Then you know what to expect. Sometimes this can lead to great relationships and trust. If it does not work out, then you just had a good work out (intimate encounter) with a partner. No harm, no foul...each can go on there merry way. Then again If you make a connection you may find that you want to do it again. Then Great. We all need some physical intimacy sometime. You just saved your self 15 dates before you find out that your not getting any. Just an opinion....If you have never tried it you should! Just be up front about it. | |
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| meeting just for agreed upon sex
Posted: 1/27/2007 10:27:49 PM | | I have never met with anyone with the preconceived notion of sex being the ultimate outcome. If the guy came into it with that notion, he figured out pretty quickly that that wasn't gonna happen. | |
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| Okay, the jerk is apparently this guy:
Posted: 1/27/2007 10:43:05 PM | | the guy who drove by the mooses house that was apparently supposed to be more of a cute little bunny rabbit. I am pretty sure that is who the jerk is supposed to be. I think the guy was smart myself, that was extremely not cool of the girl to put up a picture of herself 75 pounds lighter. Obviously she was engaging in some seriously disturbing 'please accept me' behavior. That guy had every right in the world to act in the manner he chose. Some people will oh so obviously go to extreme lengths to trap another person into their nasty web. or shall I say 'cave'. Good goin' and thanks for the ideas. Way to stay on top of sh*t. | |
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| Okay, the jerk is apparently this guy:
Posted: 1/28/2007 12:23:03 AM | | I've done it before, not something I have done on a regular basis or would choose to do on a regular basis, but yeah, I have done it. I dont really recommend it to anyone unless you know you can handle it haha | |
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