| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/27/2007 8:36:51 AM | What is your experience of being 'in love'? How do you know whether it is love or just lust or maybe an obsession coming from spending too much time with the person?
Is love when you think of the person all the time and what they are thinking and dream of them and keep making plans of things to do and places to go with them? | |
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| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/27/2007 8:43:10 AM | I don't necessarily know if it means thinking about the person 24/7 but moreso that it means that in a given situation you would gladly put that person above yourself. Having that person in the back of your mind all the time, yes, but not necessarily constant pining. And at that level I have definately been. I think, however, that love is different things to different people.
Is love when you think of the person all the time and what they are thinking and dream of them and keep making plans of things to do and places to go with them?
To me that sounds a little obsessive and scary. | |
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| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/27/2007 8:54:15 AM | i think youre going to find that being in love will be defined differently to different people.
Some of the things that are usually an indicator for me:
they are the first person i want to speak to when something good or bad happens
thier touch and the sound of thier voice soothes your soul
when you think of sex...its them you picture in your mind
you can fight with them and not want to run away
you find thier weakness' dont make you cringe
at night you unconciously reach for them when sleeping
you do things for each other without thought of its "political signifigance" in the battle of sexs
you are always finding sometihng new to love about them
you have a hard time seeing your own future without them beside you
you realise that even though they are perfect you still want to be with them
women hit on you and youre like "pfffft....!"
youre cheesiet romantic gestures are warmly appreaciated.
you can look into thier eyes and just kinda fall into them.
that and when you have an orgasm...you dont high five yourself and scream "I win! I win!" | |
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| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/27/2007 9:00:49 AM | Easy way for me to keep control of the vehicle.
If I would die for the person, thats love. If I would die without them, then thats obsession.
"True love is your soul's recognition of its counterpoint in another." Wedding Crashers (2005)
Always thought that was an interesting quote. | |
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| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/27/2007 9:10:39 AM | Being "in love" with someone means a lot of things to me. The main thing is the feeling of desire...to want to be in the company of that person over anything else.
To wake up in the morning next to that person and thank God I'm blessed with their companionship. To feel elated when I can do something that pleases them. I know that if I need a quick jolt of happiness at work all I need to do is think of them. To be able to sacrifice myself for them and know they would do the same for me.
Being "in love" is a promise, to yourself, that by giving yourself to someone you can have some of the burden that once inhibited your growth can be overcome with a relationship with that person. | |
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| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/27/2007 9:41:06 AM | I feel that love is an unconditional gift to the other.
No matter what happens, you will be there for them.
You are their best friend, and they are yours.
I know I was in love before. After living together for 6 years, she moved to the States to work 'temporarily'. Long distance, saw her maybe 4-5 weeks out of the year for 4 years. Little things like call her every day if even for a minute to see how she is, remind her that no matter what, I'm there. She rarely acknowledged the dozens of cards, letters, photos, emails, small gifts, etc that I would send - but that didn't matter; I knew she appreciated them. Snap at me when she was frustrated, often put me at the bottom of her list when she would call people because she knew I would always be there. Rarely ask me about my life, always going on about hers. Wake up hours early to brave the snow with her when she had to work early ... and so fourth.
Always the little things; and you don't mind doing them for her (or him), even if/when they don't seem to acknowledge or appreciate these. And no matter how bad it got, how "tempted" I was, how I sensed she was drifting from me but never said so even when asked, you believe that love is enough to keep you together, and any difficulties you both face are temporary ones.
Of course we all know that's not the case - finding two people in true love often seems to only exist in movies and magazines.
We're all capable of "love" - but I think that in many men and women, it's temporary love and they grow bored and move on to love themselves rather than love the other. | |
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| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/27/2007 1:28:33 PM | love is different to different people.
to me, saying love is when you spend all your time with someone and cant be away from them, is exact what would drive me away from someone.
I am the kinda person that likes space, I need to be alone, doing my own thing sometimes.
I can't be around one person all the time, everyday, no matter how much I care for them, sometimes I just wanna do something else, without them.
so to me, that kinda description of love is stiffling and would honestly drive me away from someone, feeling they are too clingy and needy.
but to others, love is exactly that...
when you have to be around someone, and think of them all the time and all that.
I have been in love twice, and honestly, both times were very very different.
the first time, I loved being around her, and I guess she did too, cause we would spend days just hanging out and talking all day and night, laying on the bed, and listening to music, and joking around, writing things and just hanging out.
we really never went to movies or anything... just wasnt our thing.
we were more likely to walk 4-5 miles at 3 am, then go see a movie and dinner.
I had my own little life, skateboarding and my projects that I do with my art and photography and video, and all that... but almost all of that was seperate from her.
she really never asked me about my art, and such, and we talked so much, I never really thought about it. talking was our think...
laying around on her bed, for hours, telling stories and wasting time... thats how we "fell".
the rest came very naturally.
for 2 years we lasted like that... no fighting, no jealousy... being physical with her was cool... everything about that time was just "cool". life was mellow and calm.
I dont know when "love" became a thing with us... but it was definate.
the second time I fell in love, was a few girlfriends, and a few years later.
the next time, it was insane.
I mean, I have no real way to describe us...
she was insanely jealous of girls I knew.
I wanted to kick the teeth in of her friend pete every second I saw him, cause of his flirting.
she and I were constantly at each others throat... then the sex... hell... thats about what kept us together I think.
5 years... extreme highs, extreme lows... and the sex was the glue of us.
it was our intensity that made us attracted to each other...
we were both extremes of ourself.
she was incredibly jealous.
but her jealousy gave me a focus on her... kinda made me focus on her.
me wanting to kick her friends teeth through his head, gave her a twisted sense of how much she meant to me.
like I said, we were just crazy really.
but that workd for us.
the love was real, and her connection to me, was something I loved.
but like anything based on intensity... it can either explode, or just fizzle out...
and we just went nuclear.
we didnt just break up, we strapped a atom bomb to our back, hugged each other, and pushed the button and blew ourself across the planet.
how that was love... I can't really explain.
if you read this, and know what I mean... then you probably went through something like that too.
we never hated each other, we never called each other names, or anything bad...
we just had severe extremes.
romance was over the top. devotion was deadly. kissing took an hour. seperation was death. fights were monumental. love was all or nothing...
I guess thats what our love was... all or nothing.
what love will be for me next?
I have no idea...
but I doubt it will be like anything I experienced so far. | |
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| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/27/2007 1:34:38 PM |
they are the first person i want to speak to when something good or bad happens
thier touch and the sound of thier voice soothes your soul
when you think of sex...its them you picture in your mind
you can fight with them and not want to run away
you find thier weakness' dont make you cringe
at night you unconciously reach for them when sleeping
you do things for each other without thought of its "political signifigance" in the battle of sexs
you are always finding sometihng new to love about them
you have a hard time seeing your own future without them beside you
you realise that even though they are perfect you still want to be with them
women hit on you and youre like "pfffft....!"
youre cheesiet romantic gestures are warmly appreaciated.
you can look into thier eyes and just kinda fall into them.
Couldn't have said it better myself. That is basically how I would sum it up, just knowing that you have someone there all the time through thick and thin and knowing they are the one you can't be without. Having a simple look in their eye or a smile that makes you feel so happy and wanted as well as cared about. | |
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| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/27/2007 2:22:54 PM | | I think the best short description with love is something I read in the script of a play I'm running tech for. To paraphrase "when your with them you like who you are." Now thats not to say you have low self confidence but you enjoy yourself more around that person (at least thats my take on it.) | |
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| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/27/2007 7:00:16 PM | Yes  What does it mean? read on.
doing the small, priceless things just to please them
they make me weak at the knees when they kiss me
you and they come up with more and more ideas for things to do together
you feel nothing will stop the two of you, you have ultimate trust and bonding
you both call each other with sweet messages
you do things with them in mind, in even a small way
you aim to busy yourself between their visits
all of this shows in the passionate sex
your heart aches when they face a problem of any kind
they bring you up when you're feeling down
they make you happier than you've ever been
to give joy with unlimited charity
just looking in their eyes makes you swoon | |
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| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/28/2007 2:41:30 AM | Yes I have and am currentlly in Love...
To me it means a multitude of things but the primary one is this: No matter what, it is me and her, everything else is just fluff, when it comes right down to it. If the $hit has hit the fan and my world is falling apart it's me and her, just like if everything is going super, it's me and her. There is no one else I would want at my side. She is my Center and I am her Rock. | |
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| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/28/2007 4:13:29 PM | subotai:
Wow, I feel all warm and mushy inside after reading your post! I am always interested in how guys feel about such issues. I hope I get to meet one like you, eventually. It would definitely put the heartache and bad dates of the past in perspective! | |
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| Have you ever been 'in love' - what does it mean for you?
Posted: 1/28/2007 5:20:30 PM | | When I want nobody BESIDES you and nobody INSTEAD of you, then I know I'm in love. When I can honestly say that yesterday my love wasn't as strong as it is today and, probably, today it's not as strong as it will be tomorrow, then I can also believe that this love is real. | |
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