| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 2:17:09 PM | | Is it wrong to set a man up to check him out? I have dated a guy I met on here and he professed how trusting he was and would never cheat,So I decided to check him out . I set him up on MSN and guess what he fell for it ... He went last night to meet who he thought was this other woman .But to his surprise it was me who was waiting for him , He now acts like I was the one who done wrong .. Maybe it wasn't the right thing to do ,But at least now I know I cannot trust him . | |
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 2:19:22 PM | Pot calling the kettle black.
Paranoia!
How puerile! Just how trusting were you to underhandedly set him up?
tsk tsk.... when it comes to this scenario; you both lost.
Big time.
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 2:21:38 PM | | I wouldn't go to those lengths to catch someone.....If I suspect its true then it proberly is. Setting up fake accounts is just too much work for me. I'm not willing to invest even more time into a cheater | |
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 2:22:52 PM | If you are not in a relationship that has total communication, honesty and TRUST then the relationship isn't worth the drama. I don't agree w/what you did, if you felt there was a reason you couldn't trust him, you could have talked to him about it & if from there, you felt he was still being dishonest w/you, then you could have easily stepped out of the relationship and away from him. If you are comfortable w/someone and trust them, there is no reason AT ALL to set "them up" like that. Honestly, it sounds like something a teenager would do to their boyfriend/girlfriend. Childish. It sounds like you are very insecure & the best thing you could do for the both of you is just get out of the relationship. You can't trust him? It sounds to me after this, neither of you should trust the other.  | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 2:29:29 PM | Multiple cell phones and screen names?
Perusing multiple sites to catch people in "dishonesty"
Actually pretending to be multiple people?
Unplug this gizmo and find a healthier obsession. | |
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 2:30:03 PM | OP- it was wrong of the guy to go looking for something else behind your back. I agree with that.
But I certainly think that you were wrong to set him up. I don't know the particulars of how you did this, how long you were dating, or a lot of other factors that led to this. Maybe he wasn't really happy with you. Maybe if you hadn't set him up, he never would have done that. Then again, maybe he would have, its hard to say.
It's really very difficult to fairly judge a situation when we don't know all of the facts. But what you did WAS deceptive, and in my book, a red flag.
in 21 years I never cheated on my wife. There were very few opportunities, but the ones who did come along, were refused. But I also never had a woman try to set me up, either.
I think you both lost on this one. | |
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 2:33:08 PM | Do you mean you im,,ed him pretending to be someone else? Or saw he had an ad?
Either way he was cheat..I don't have this much time on my hands but if you fould out what you wanted to know and spared you rself some grief ..who cares what he has to say about it? he's going out to meet others...he's No big loss. | |
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 2:41:33 PM | Is it wrong to set a man up to check him out? I have dated a guy I met on here and he professed how trusting he was and would never cheat,So I decided to check him out . I set him up on MSN and guess what he fell for it ... He went last night to meet who he thought was this other woman .But to his surprise it was me who was waiting for him , He now acts like I was the one who done wrong .. Maybe it wasn't the right thing to do ,But at least now I know I cannot trust him .
Act your age and not your shoe size what a childish thing to do you put yourself in what could have been a very dangerous situation. | |
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 2:54:50 PM | Before I would have given the answer that it was deceitful and wrong for you to do that. I would have said that two wrongs do not make a right. I would have told you it was childish and adults do not play games. I would have said that games have no right being in an adult relationship.
That was then and this is now and we have ourselves a different Carrie. I have learned how it really works on here and how most play games, lie, cheat and mess with your emotions. Yes, men and women are both guilty of this so it is not a gender specific thing. I have been hurt one too many times. I now say that one does what they have to do. If you have a feeling in your gut that he is lying, cheating or messing around with your feelings, go ahead and set him up. If he is mad, too bad. We have to protect ourselves now.
Good for you and sorry that he turned out to be like all the rest.
~Carrie | |
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 2:55:00 PM | Whoa! Fvckchop logic alert!
Problem: unless you and he have agreed to be monogamous, you have no dibs on him lady.
Stop dating and get relationship counseling. You have serious trust issues.
Note: the Op is separated and is seeking 'Friends". Last time I looked, that was neither available for a monogamous / nor seeking a committed relationship. | |
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 2:57:31 PM | You seem to think you won something here.
Your fella had a suspicious, paranoid girlfriend, who he tried to reassure, to no avail, obviously.
'Another lady' sweet-talked him into meeting.
Would you rather spend a night with Ms insecure or Ms 'I'm fun, let's meet'?
Next time, enjoy the fella, don't ruin it for both of you, eh? | |
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 3:02:58 PM | Ahhhhh......ain't love grand?
I was meeting a friend at a bar one night because she wanted to introduce me to this wonderful guy she met. While I waited for her, this man started hitting on me and bought me a drink.
Turned out to be the wonderful guy that she was seeing and wanted me to meet!
What a putz. | |
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 3:11:40 PM | Note: the Op is separated and is seeking 'Friends". Last time I looked, that was neither available for a monogamous / nor seeking a committed relationship.
I'd still like more details.. I do know people who are seperated meet someone and make a commitment..They may be legally married but that dsn't stop them from...I also know people who are looking for friends ..and then they meet someone and commit..
Was there a commitment? | |
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 3:14:53 PM | Unless you were in a committed relationship, the guy didn't do anything wrong. Trust him...pfft, if I were you I wouldn't trust myself. You're the scam artist in this scenario, the liar. Now look in the mirror and ask yourself how good that feels.  | |
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Algy
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Joined: 11/3/2006
Msg: 19 | |
| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 3:23:20 PM |
I have dated a guy I met on here ....so I decided to check him out.
Well.... at least you won't have to worry about dating guys from POF anymore.
Fvckchop?? Lol!! WTF is that Som?  | |
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| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 3:32:21 PM | | You had your suspicions and found out the truth...yet had to be very deceitful to do so...what if he had of been innocent? Would you have told him what you did? | |
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Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 24 | |
| IS IT WRONG TO SET A MAN UP TO CHECK HIM OUT??
Posted: 1/30/2007 3:45:08 PM | | The way I see it is if the 2 of you are dating I see no reason why he shouldnt be able to go out to meet someone else. He has every right to make sure that he's makin the right choice in picking you to be his one and only. I dont feel it's cheating to go out for drinks or food etc., if it goes beyond that to a more ummm sexual place then boot'em to the curb. | |
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