| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/1/2007 11:24:25 PM | | ok so usually when i go out on a date i think its only fair that i pay for half... most guys ive gone out with will fight me paying for my part but i dont feel right having someone i dont know paying for me... its just one of my things i guess...i mean once i get to know them ill let them pay for me... but ill pay sometimes too... does it make a guy feel less manly when a girl does this? ive kinda gotten that vibe from some guys but from others they love it... it leaves me confused cause i dont want to offend my date... help! lol | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/1/2007 11:32:53 PM | | If that was an arrangement you and I agreed upon...I would be glad to go halfs. People have the wrong concepts about relationships and try to hold on to some of the old rules that worked back then while destroying others. I short, I don't have a problem with a woman who wants to go half or pay for the whole first date, it is about her and I, not about who paid what bill. | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/1/2007 11:37:56 PM | | I do think a guy should pay for a date, esp. the first one, but I don't think it should be a turnoff either if she insists on going halvsies. If it is, probably a macho-insecurity thing. | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/1/2007 11:38:28 PM | | I love it when a girl tries to go halves or pay, in fact I sort of judge her by her a bit by what happens when the bill comes....shows that she cares about small stuff like that and is thoughtful, but I can't have her pay for half....it makes me feel uneasy for some reason, probably because of my upbringing.....most of my freinds are same way as well.....call it tradition I guess, I dunno. | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 1:33:34 AM | Its a bit of a tradition with me, a bit like opening a door or assisting with a coat. Call it good manners if you will. I prefer to pay the bill at least for the first date, especially if I know the lady is on a lower income than me. She will usually have the kids under her roof too so paying for dates is an extra expense. But hey, if you want to fight over it, dont let me stop you marching up to the till | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 1:44:02 AM | | When I go into a date I go prepared to pay for all of it. However if the ladie I am with announces let me pay for mine I will request to be allowed to treat her. I will not argue if she insists then I will not hold that against her. I do however feel funny about her paying for me. I even hate when friends take me to a resaraunt and pay the whole bill. | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 3:15:08 AM | | A lot of women have a first date rule. So as a guy I would expect to pay for the first date after that its normally open territory I guess it depends on what my date and I are doing, who's idea it was, how much it costs, ETC. I have no problems going dutch on a date but I would probbably put up some resistance to doing it on the first one under normal circumstances. | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 4:05:00 AM | | I like awp answer I would offer that up, plus when I go on a date for the first time I alway's bring money with me, if the guy is being hesitent on grabbing the bill that's usually a sign that i'm going to offer to pay my half, but if he grab's it right away I will offer up the question of "what is my half can I help pay the bill that way we have money left over to go for a coffee or dink if you like." if the guy is a creep during the date and is clearly wantting one thing and only one thing then i've been insulted and yes you pay the whole bill cause i'm leaving in a cab! ps I would priv, go up to the waittress to make sure the creep even payed the bill before he left then offer to pay it if he didn't. cheer's | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 6:17:02 AM | | I wont let a girl pay anything on the first date, but its good if she offers to pay half, it shows she is not expecting to get a free meal out of it but after I offer to pay for everything she should not fight me on it. | |
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LBP
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Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 11 | |
| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 6:27:43 AM |
I wont let a girl pay anything on the first date, but its good if she offers to pay half, it shows she is not expecting to get a free meal out of it but after I offer to pay for everything she should not fight me on it.
Woot! I did it right on my last date! I even picked the cheapest thing on the menu in case he decided to pay lol.
I look at it like this, if I wanted to do something nice for someone, I wouldn't want them to refuse it. I always bring enough to pay my portion and always make an effort to pay it. But admit, I find it really sweet and gentleman-like if he pays. There's nothing like being treated like a lady to make me think you're a man. | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 6:45:56 AM | | What if you've been going out with this guy a couple of times and its not technically a date, just hanging out I guess and he pays the first two times you go out. Do you think he's interested if he's all about the paying?? | |
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El Efe
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Joined: 12/7/2006
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 7:10:41 AM | For me it isn't necessarily a matter of "like" nor is it a matter of a feeling of manliness. When I go out I am prepared to bankroll everything, but I REQUIRE a woman to pick something up.
The way I see it she needs to invest something into the interaction. Get some skin in the game. That way I'll know if she is in it to win it. It doesn't have to be a Ruth's Chris steak, it can be a friggin stick of gum, something. Anything!
That BS about "oh he's the man he should pay for everything" doesn't fly for me. YOU wanted equal pay for equal work, YOU wanted to vote, YOU can take your shiny little Prada bag and throw down if we hang out.
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 7:39:15 AM | It depends on his individual personality Masongrl. When I have a decent job and go hang out with friends at restaurants I will pick up the tab semi frequently. It's worth it to me for the good company and that goes for any of my friends male or female. So it doesn't have to be a dating thing at all. Best advice I could give you if you really want to know is ask him. Even with just a hang out friend communication is still a key factor.
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LBP
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Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 15 | |
| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 8:03:50 AM |
That BS about "oh he's the man he should pay for everything" doesn't fly for me. YOU wanted equal pay for equal work, YOU wanted to vote, YOU can take your shiny little Prada bag and throw down if we hang out.
hmm
1. Women still quite often don't receive equal pay for equal work
2. What does voting have to do with dating?
3. If I can afford a Prada bag, chances are....if I don't pick up for this date, I'll be picking up here and there on subsequent ones
I'd rather not be punished on a date because the guy has issues with the feminist movement. | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 8:04:18 AM | What Prada bag? Mine is a $10.00 purse from K-Mart.
And the men who are the most adamant about a woman paying her share are usually ones WITHOUT kids. They can afford it more than we can. | |
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LBP
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Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 17 | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 8:12:20 AM | That BS about "oh he's the man he should pay for everything" doesn't fly for me. YOU wanted equal pay for equal work, YOU wanted to vote, YOU can take your shiny little Prada bag and throw down if we hang out.
Ahem..Most women generally still earn one third less than men and have more expenses.
I am more the "buy bacK" kind on the first date I don't offer to pay,,but I will get concert tix or something else for future dates..I like to keep it at halfies..after all down the line he will be doing half the housework..the laundry..the cooking and such..
I have seen a corrolation btwn men who do not want to pay for dates ...but later down the line will happily accept every meal cooked and the clothes clean and folded. | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 8:25:09 AM | i like the i ask i pay type of thingy....
so if I ask you out...well i want to pay...if you found me attractive and wanted to see me again..well ask and then you can pay.
..after that if we start to see each other on a semi regular basis..well 50-50 or taking turns is just fine with me. | |
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El Efe
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Joined: 12/7/2006
Msg: 21 | |
| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 8:26:48 AM | Ok LBP, I will concede that I made a blanket statement. I'm sure that was the justification for your own blanket statement. 
What does punishment have to do with anything here?
F.
P.S. The internet is a supreme medium for communicating tongue-in-cheek tonality. I'll let you decide what I was really serious about in my post. I report, you decide. | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 8:27:15 AM | No I hate it...
If they pay half for dinner then how the hell am I to expect to get sex at the end of the night... totally out of the question...
Dinner is on me, my treat...
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 8:58:39 AM | | well if you don’t feel comfortable having a stranger pay, its understandable, but most guys pay because its being chivalrous, same as opening a car door, or walking you to your front door after the date is over. If a women insisted on paying half,, that’s fine, but I prefer to pay all, only for the fact that I was brought up that way. | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 10:18:35 AM | I used to pay for everything with my dates. I would insist.
The mentality at the time was that if I payed, it showed them that I was really interested, and that if they accepted, they were showing me that they were really interested.
Then I wisened up and learned that many women will nonetheless accept a free drink/meal/date/anything and not automatically assume it meant they had to accept me. I thought there was a direct causation between paying for dates and having sex in exchange, and then learned that such meant treating my date like a prostitute. Not cool.
Now I expect that my dates pay their half. If things go very well between us, I will occasionally take them out and pay for everything, but certainly not before we are considered a couple. | |
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| do guys like when girls go half on a date?
Posted: 2/2/2007 10:36:01 AM | For me first date means I asked you out so I pay.
If she offers fine, but she is not paying half, I am paying for all of it. Doesn't bother me if she tries.
Now if she would feel better about it and me paying really bothered her, I would be glad to go out with her again(if we clicked) and she could pick up the tab for that one.
But first dates the guy should be paying unless maybe the girl asked the guy out, but still think he should pay. | |
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