| Need advice on women
Posted: 8/6/2004 2:53:56 PM |
Why is it that the women that I want to go out on second dates won't go out with me and the women who I don't want to go out on a second date keep calling keep me?
Please give me advice on what I doing wrong. Could be that women get turned on by a man who not into them? | |
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| Re: Need advice on women
Posted: 8/6/2004 6:21:44 PM | | Maybe the gorgeous ones won't, but the uglies & fatties do. Why don't you ask them? Ain't that hard to do. | |
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| Re: Need advice on women
Posted: 8/6/2004 8:35:08 PM | Ticket
No one is ugly, all imperfections make people unique. Every unique person needs love. Some need it more than others because of things happening in there life or other reasons.
You shouldn't judge people for there looks but for there personality, people didnt choose to be what they look like. | |
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| Re: Need advice on women
Posted: 8/6/2004 9:18:03 PM | Sorry man, nothing to do with judging, but I have a sense of esthetics. I'd hate to bust anyone's bubble or cater to any popular "don't offend anyone" think, but there are uglies & beauties in my eyes. I don't care about "Imperfections", "Uniquenesses" or "What anybody did or didn't choose to look like" for that matter. Both beauties and uglies have these too.
He asked a question, and if he doesn't ask the ladies why they don't want to go out for a second date with him, what does he want us to do? Phone them up on his behalf? | |
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Ruby_
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Joined: 7/10/2004
Msg: 6 | |
| Re: Need advice on women
Posted: 8/7/2004 4:28:57 AM | | yuletide........the simple answer......both parties have to have the chemistry to continue dating, not just you, or just her having the interest. | |
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| Re: Need advice on women
Posted: 8/7/2004 6:16:05 PM | | I don't date models because they are out of my league. One woman told me that I wasn't her type which I think is shallow. I will say that some of women that called me after first date and want another one tend to be needy. Somehow, I tend to attract women with problems like alcoholism, living at sister's house or parents house, and depression. | |
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| Re: Need advice on women
Posted: 8/7/2004 6:20:53 PM | | I understand the chemistry thing. I just it is weird that the women that i want to date don't want to while the women that I don't want to date, want to date me. I am just wondering if I am trying too hard or do women have a need to chase men who don't want them? | |
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| Re: Need advice on women
Posted: 8/7/2004 6:30:45 PM | | Why can't she tell you "You're not my type" if thats what she really means? Getting a buddy to call your Cel phone 15 minutes into a date to help you weasel out of it, because you don't want to be straightforward with her, now that is shallow. | |
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| Re: Need advice on women
Posted: 8/8/2004 3:28:49 PM |
I think you are right. Somehow, I send out signals that scare off women that I am trying impress. | |
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| Re: Need advice on women
Posted: 8/8/2004 6:25:13 PM | Let me explain why I wanted more than not my type from her. We meet through a dating site where they said we had alot in common and would be a good match. We like same things and shared the same outlook on life. On the date, there was no chemistry. I chalked it up to first dates nerves. I guess she looks more into the physical atraction.
Also I am not into looks. I like a girl with a little meat on her bones. | |
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| Re: Need advice on women
Posted: 8/9/2004 7:47:54 PM | Love the one you're with dude... love the one you're with.
Happiness is being content with what you've got.
Mac | |
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| Re: Need advice on women
Posted: 8/9/2004 10:46:05 PM | Yuletide, y'know what, ur a pretty cool mofo. I have the same problem myself.
I think it's related to the "why women are attracted to jerks" thing. Look back on the specific situations, if you can, and ask yourself this. When the women who liked you chased you, was it just because of the fact that you weren't interested in them, or because of what you said and how you said it? When you're not interested in a girl, you don't softpeddle, you lay it on the line and say "Look, I don't want to be your boyfriend" rather than "Gee, I dunno, maybe we should be friends first then decide." It's that "leadership" voice that they like, I think. | |
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yna6
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Joined: 5/2/2004
Msg: 14 | |
| Re: Need advice on women
Posted: 8/10/2004 8:20:44 AM | BE independant....and act it. BE confident in yourself....you know what you want, and make it known! DON'T be superficial...looks alone do not make a relationship. BE yourself...feel free to talk about emotions, and how you handle them. BE honest...really guys...this is a biggie!
LEARN to cook....and not the usual spaghetti crap.....take a few lessons if you have to...lots of local schools offer adult ed in areas like this..even just a few evening courses...and let the women know you are learning for yourself to "impress the women!" Might land you a date...in the kitchen maybe, but its a start!
Never be afraid to ask a woman HER opinion...then be ready to settle back for half an hour ears open....
Ask questions that don't have a "Yes or No" answer, and let her do the talking....
Don't be afraid to hand out your phone number and say "Give me a call"...rather than asking for her number.....more chances for that second date.... | |
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