| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/6/2007 6:06:05 AM | What ever happened to morals in a relationship?
Love
Loyality
Comitment
Trust
commicutaion
It just seems to me in todays world, those do not exist anymore. My gf of 6 moths just broke up with me becuase she was more interest in having sex and verity then talking and working out the differences. To me at the end of the day i thought love and trust and all of that is what supose to make a relationship last. Maybe i;m just relic. In thinking that way. Am i wrong to? | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/6/2007 6:17:32 AM | | Those things are all there. To find them all in a partner you are compatible with is a rare find and what most of us here are hoping to find ourselves. | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/6/2007 5:53:31 PM | | SLU-TS are everywhere no adays. You have to fish your way through the scurge of ambitious people. We are getting more shallow and less patient. You need a good lawyer before you get married. You need a prenuptial, and you need an escape plan. Not only will they cheat on your GREYWOLF but they will blame you and retain a lawyer and take you for your life's fortune. After they sleep with your friends and you must remain faithful and not do what they do because they will make you feel low enough. Get ready for heart ache and eyes wide open GREYWOLF. Welcome to the 2000s | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/6/2007 6:17:48 PM | | Wow sounds like you got burned killerdogsmooch, sorry for that. Some of us women have gotten the raw end of the deal too. I really hope you're not thinking all of us are the way you describe. To op yes there are still women with morals just gotta keep looking for your one. Good luck. | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/6/2007 6:20:40 PM | Morals are like Wine...They get better with age. Dont tar every-one with the same brush, you'll find someone that fits with you. Everdently your ex was'nt the one, better you found out now. Im not sure what the oppist of "You have to kiss a load of toads before you meet the handsome Prince" is but you get my meaning. "One Day Your Princess Will Come" | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/6/2007 6:43:41 PM | Things will get better!
Willowbank is right. Obviously this person was not the one, and it is better it happen now.
I know it sounds harsh...but I speak from experience.
I met my ex in 1994...married him in 1997 and just before Christmas 2002...he told me he did not have 'feelings' for me anymore (did I mention I was also 7 mths preggo with our 3rd?)
It was very unexpected and I was devastated....I can not describe how much it hurt....8 yrs had meant nothing.
I am a survivor though and you will too. Stay strong and rest assured you will find that special gal.
....as for your ex.....
Karma is so SO sweet!  hehe
Best Wishes!
Tracy
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/6/2007 7:46:09 PM | | I feel sorry for this guy, i think the exact same way, sounds like he hooked up with some skank that never really loved him. Ive had a few too many of those kinds of women that lead you on then turn around and finally decide to tell you that they never really felt for you to begin with. | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/6/2007 8:13:40 PM | | They all go out the window at the slightest sign of problems even after being with the person for two years it blows cant fix what ya got or were dealt so go sleep with someone to try and fix it. and youre not a relic cause theres more of you than you think me for example good luck in find a more deserving non skank | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/6/2007 8:18:37 PM | | Time to pick up the 'Good News' Bible guy. You can have all of what you want, but you need to fill the needs of your partner as well. Having sex is not immoral. | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/6/2007 8:34:00 PM | ^
It is immoral since most people do it out of lust , thus people become products for others entertainment, it is wrong and destructive. Sex should only be used in a meaningful relationship when both parties love eachother genuinely. | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/7/2007 12:25:45 AM |
What ever happened to morals in a relationship?
Love
Loyality
Comitment
Trust
commicutaion
This is a good question... What the hell happened to them? If these virtues ever existed, they are only "imaginary"...
Ok... I won't act like a total prick... I must admit, I've seen the above qualities in MANY women... Too... bad all these women get snatched up at a young age...
Not to stereotype or to offend anyone, but generally, an "older" person who is single (who had been in a previous relationship) will be hard pressed to possess the above qualities because they couldn't even make said "previous" relationship(s) last... Why else would they be "single"... (I speak for myself too! OK? :P)
Although my physical appearance hasn't changed much since I was 16, that number that defines my birth year is getting pushed further and further back every moment... I really DON'T want to grow old and simply settle for someone (anyone) just because age happened to take away my chances in my youth. Look, I know I'm not "old" yet, and I'm sorry if some of you "older" people take offense to this, but I SERIOUSLY DON'T want to be single 10, 20 and especially not 30 years from now...
All I ever wanted since I was a teenager, was to find someone special to build up a relationship with... and to MAKE it last. I've never been able to do that because people (ex-girlfriends in my case) are just so plain fickle and no understanding...
My last girlfriend, for example, wouldn't even listen to me when I tried to explain my personal views to her... She simply ended our relationship based on her initial perception of how we were not "compatable". Sure, we argued (a lot), but I'm a forgiving (and understanding) person who is willing to accept what SHE wanted in place of my own wants. I was willing to sacrifice, but she she veiwed my sacrifice as "not an genuine or sincere". IMHO, who cares? I still loved her didn't I? Deep inside, even though I could never agree with what she liked, I could ACCEPT them and maybe even learn to like them... Apparently there was NO SECOND chance with her (that's probably the reason why she's ALWAYS single; jumping from relationship to relationship).
Women like this aren't worth the effort, simply because they are not willing to put in or accept your efforts. It's painful to lose someone you "love", but loss has always been a part of life. Just accept it and move on. If fate or destiny does not permit me to build up a relationship with someone special, then so be it.
Damn fate to hell! Because I will not "cry" over ANYONE or ANYTHING! My motto: NEVER submit to weakness, and be brave in the face of the unknown! Over time, our hearts may turn to stone, but what "is", shall forever be; unless the Universe decides otherwise...
**** love, **** fate, and **** the world... live one day at a time... and never look back! (easier said than done, I know) LOL | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/7/2007 6:14:26 AM | | I talked to her last night and i think it more then just that, i asked her if she still loved me and she dose. That another issuse that i kind of pried out of her was that fact that i wanted to move down with her and she told me she was scared that once i got movied in that things would not work out. And i understand her. I 'm trying to let her knwo that i'm still here for her and if there are worries or concerns to come to me about them. I just scared in loseing her and trying to give her the time to sort things out.. | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/7/2007 6:19:21 AM | | ^^^ Just dump her. If after 6 months she is doing this what can you expect in another 6 months or a year? Not all but some women just want to be with anyone they can find and will try anything to convince themselves you are right for them and they will not communicate any problems. | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/7/2007 6:31:50 AM | Wow vampire darc....what a load of crap you wrote but you are 24 so I will forgive your ignorance.
will be hard pressed to possess the above qualities because they couldn't even make said "previous" relationship(s) last... Why else would they be "single"...
A great many of those that were snatched up at a young age are now getting divorced.....8, 10, 15, 20 years later.....are they any more "capable" of making a relationship work?
In my youth, I made poor choices....part of the whole learning and growing....I chose men based on their outward appearance not on who they were...and I ended up in love with men who seemingly possessed few of the morals to which the OP referred, men who were incompatible with me outside of the bedroom. I alone do not bear the responsibility for a failed relationship.
By virtue of being 40 and single, that does not mean I do not have those qualities. I surely could have "lost" them if I chose to but I chose to hold onto them. What it does mean is that I have learned that more important than the outward appearance is the inner beauty of a man. Physical attractiveness is still important but I will not "settle" for that alone....I need to also respect and like the man. What it does mean is that I have learned what I can give to another, what I need from another. For some, it takes longer to learn that and some people never do.
Something to consider....when we realize that not all people are like us....we can choose two paths....
Path 1 - Stay true to who we are and seek others that possess those qualities.
Path 2 - Adopt the "if you can't beat em, join em" attitude.
There are men and women who have always been capable of loving, showing loyalty and committment, worthy of the trust given to them and fully able to communicate effectively. Some have drifted down path #2, some stayed on path #1.
Perhaps some we have been involved with have those qualities but simply did not return our love.
If it was "easy" to find, we would not need these sites or others like them.
Keeping an open mind and heart is harder the older we get but if we understand the necessity of doing it, while being "smart" about it, we will all eventually find what we seek. | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/7/2007 6:43:19 AM | Hey, Gray,
Ever ask yourself...maybe it just wasn't worth saving? Maybe the things she told you were only a part of the truth. Maybe you only think that is what she wants and why she broke up with you. Maybe the relationship was just dead for many reasons and you refused or are unable to see it.
Love will not pay the rent; love will not keep two people together--especially if it is only ONE person who feels the love.
By the way, those things you listed have little to do with morality. | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/7/2007 6:52:00 AM | What happened to these -
I am convinced that people who have these traits have moved to another planet and forgot to tell me it was time to board the spaceship -
If you find someone with these - let me know- I havent run into anyone with these traits -
I think I need to step into a time machine and go back to where these people are.
6 month relationship - she wanted sex - you wanted to talk - wow - thats different
Anyway - Search for your hearts desire - if this is what you want in a partner - then
thats what you need to find. Dont settle just to have someone in your life - make sure
that someone is everything you desire before you invest your heart. Good luck. | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/7/2007 7:09:20 AM |
My gf of 6 moths just broke up with me becuase she was more interest in having sex and verity then talking and working out the differences.
I'd like to hear her side of the story.
I don't mean to sound uncaring, but I think the premise you've put forth doesn't really depict what truly happened in your relationship. I think it more depicts how you're feeling and how you're seeing things, but I'm sure she has her reasons for bailing out. A relationship is but a reflection of the two people in it, and as such, there was a part you played in its demise. You may not be cognizant of the part you played.
The issues you say you are "prying" out of her (that sounds so creepy) are topical, a covering, if you will. They aren't really exactly what she's feeling or what her true concerns or fears are. Probably the best thing you could do is to leave her alone.
generally, an "older" person who is single (who had been in a previous relationship) will be hard pressed to possess the above qualities because they couldn't even make said "previous" relationship(s) last... Why else would they be "single".
This is an incredibly naive statement and conclusion. Consider that with going through relationships, one gains experience with life, love, different types of people, relationships and their dynamics. The fact that the relationships have failed does not indicate that the people in them have not subsequently gleaned life lessons from them, have learned, have grown and developed more of the qualities needed as they go through these journeys. Plus, they've lived longer, thus giving them more time to learn and develop those qualities. Doesn't mean everyone does, but consider that people who are just starting off in the world of relationships and haven't lived a considerable amount of time yet haven't any or much life experience whatsoever, so which group would be more likely to have developed those qualities? | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/7/2007 7:47:16 AM | | We talked and confimed it. That she was the messed up one. That this had nothing to with me. All with her. Most of my questions have been answered. And plus theres another guy she is interested in. I know her kids are going to be ok. That was another issuse i was worried about. Them getting hurt. She talked to them.Her daughter was the one i was worried the most. And i think accored to her she will be ok. She said if her daughter wanted to talk to me or spend time with me, she would let her. I hope she sticks to her word with that. But i know i have to do move on now. All i want to do now is, see her one last time to smooth the waters and no regrets. Just to end it on a good note, not a bad one. | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/7/2007 7:54:52 AM | | When a guy says "it was all her/nothing to do with me", I know he's being blind to himself. You were a participant in her decision to leave the relationship, my friend, no two ways about that. She's sparing you some extra hurt, or she's just not wanting to deal with the issues, so she says "it's me, not you". | |
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| What ever happen to morals in a relatonship?
Posted: 2/7/2007 8:18:59 AM | | Creative Guy, what you say has a ring of truth in it. We are all participants in the decisions made by those that are in our inner circle (sometimes even those that are not). Sometimes though, there is nothing wrong with either person...they just don't click the way they did once, nobody at fault. People can dissect each relationship to place reasons/blame on why things happen and that can be a useful exercise. If one has a seemingly established pattern in their dating, they should do it to change the pattern if it is not working for them. If they don't....it is better to chalk it up to we just lost our connection. | |
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