| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/7/2007 7:48:04 PM | | How do other women out there feel about the guys who mention sex in one way or another in thier profiles as a goal? Or start sending you dirty jokes & alluding to sex in the very first few e-mails?? I find it a total TURN-OFF!! Aren't there any gentlemen out there? | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/7/2007 8:03:30 PM | | no, i noticed that also. you get into five minutes of conversation with a guy and they start talking about sex. maybe they are testing us to see our reaction. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/7/2007 8:28:13 PM | Hmm well i think that the first date is WAY too soon. The second date you should be getting some vibes as to whether she is interested in you or not...... so this should be maybe a week!
I do think that a few mentions on the third date will give you an indication as to whether she is open or not to the subject. In MY case I like a women to be open and sensual so to go into a relationship with the feeling that she is cool. cold or not into sex would turn me off and I would probably steer my way clear of a fourth date. If she asked why......... most dont! I would tell her and have.
I think honesty is the best policy and sex is the best between two people who have connected .
Just my thought from a guy who has been in this dam single game for five years now.
DAve | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/7/2007 8:42:43 PM | I agree... within a the first few mins if a guy brings up the sex topic, thats what theyre interested in and not me or getting to know me... but sex. So why would I care to continue? unless Im just interested in sex with them - but thats another thread.
I agree with the above poster: meet and see if there is a mutual interest. IF there is a second date... then itll be obvious if there is an interest ineach other 'in that way' and you can feel out that topic... | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/7/2007 9:07:20 PM | | If you really are into the girl, then don't even joke or make innuendo till the 3rd date, unless she starts first, then use your best judgement | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/7/2007 11:49:43 PM | Turn off.
Talk about other stuff besides sex pls.
Espeically in my situation. I really don't want to hear it all the time. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 5:23:51 AM | How do other women out there feel about the guys who mention sex in one way or another in thier profiles as a goal?
If it's in their profile, they're being up front and honest about what they are seeking. If it's a turn off to you, skip along to the next....
I agree that if you have dating, or long term etc in YOUR profile, that being approached right away IS a big turn off. Back when I was interested in dating or developing something more meaningful, it happened all the time, and I didn't much care for it either. The good news is..you can hit the delete key, or click the 'x' button, and be done with them..... | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 5:43:44 AM | hmmm... so that is why my emails that just say:
"Sex?"
never seem to get answered...
DAMNITALL!!! why don't they tell us these things!! | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 6:27:00 AM | Turn-off. I get the same sort of visceral reaction whenever I read the line 'not looking to change my situation or yours'. It makes me want to re-edit their profiles so that it reads something like this:
Hi! I'm terrified of being caught by my wife or your husband. I can pretend to like you but is it ok to be up-front in saying that all i am looking for is a spittoon??? | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 6:29:57 AM | I find it a total turn off also. I read one guy's profile who had listed as his interests every part of the female anatomy. It was like a refresher course in Anatomy 101.
And guys with "69" in their screen name ... they never get a reply to a message. Period. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 6:50:22 AM | | Ah totally agree i must say!!! av had a lot of guys mailing me and saying have you got hotmail/yahoo?? then I give them it thinkin they wanna chat x then they pm u sayin wot u got on/n loadza real dirty stuff!!!!! | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 8:53:06 AM | Complete turn off!!! i love to talk about sex but not five minutes into the conversation lol
at least give it 10 minutes!!! ha ha | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 1:07:09 PM | Actually not to mention my mail messages I would have to say it depends on my mood....One day I may be completly _orny and ACCEPT the MESSAGE I didn't say OFFER.....and go along....you never know he may be your one.....the next day I may be feeling b!tchy, delete you and kick you down the hill....Jack! But don't say yeck, gross, eww...sex is great!!!! Remimber ladies sex is on a mans mind every minute...........Play with it......I am looking for long term I am not a prude! GEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEZZZZZZZZZZZZZ!
PS........I am not moody by any means....LOL! | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 1:22:07 PM | | i f aguy talks bout sex too soon my first reaction is to roll my eyes and then right there and then I know immediately they would only be good friend material for me. I would be looking for someone more intellectual than that not saying a smart guy could not be sexual etc. But a "my type" would be more patient than that. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 1:27:58 PM | It is a definate turn off. The worst is when their profile is really nice and the first e-mails seem promising and then when you talk on the phone - they turn into something else. I truly believe that most of the women on here, myself included, want some romance, respect and don't want to feel like they are just a notch on someone's internet conquest list. A first conversation and/or date should not include questions such as how sensitive certain body parts are or what color they are, etc! Way too personal and again, offensive. Unfortunately, am speaking from personal experience. Needless to say, when that happens, all contact is stopped. Immediately. As I have said in some of my e-mails, feel like a guppie in a sea of sharks! LOL | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 1:37:46 PM | This bothers me too.
So many men say they want an intelligent woman, but then only talk about sex, and seem to have no opinon to anything else.
HUH? Whats up with that?
I like to talk about a variety of different things, and would hope my partner would too.
Just my intelligent thoughts
K | |
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| when is it appropriate to discuss sex?
Posted: 2/8/2007 1:52:20 PM | I've read 21 messages in this thread and haven't learned much. Lots of negativity. 
Here's a better question: When is it appropriate to discuss sex?
A couple of guys who responded in the thread say third date. I think you have to play it by ear. A guy shouldn't mention it without sensing a "vibe". Of course he can bring on that vibe subtly if he's got any common sense. Common sense would also indicate for some women not to mention it very early. | |
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| when is it appropriate to discuss sex?
Posted: 2/8/2007 1:53:54 PM | ^^^^^^^ nailed it right on the head :)
sometimes the first date is appropriate to mention sex lol
sometimes not
it depends on the person and the connection that you have established | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 2:08:12 PM | I have not seen it in this forum, but have in other sites, where the woman complains about this, yet doesn't hesitate to post a suggestive picture of her self. In fairness to these women, if that is your focus... that is fine. But I for one, want to get to know the person, before I am going to embark on a sexual ride, even if a strong chemisty exists.
The problem is with these guys, is that they have maybe been in marriages or relationships with women who have no sexual desires. To them, I say, it is still worth getting to know someone as a human being first, you will find out soon enough if you have another "dud"!  | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 2:13:53 PM | I wouldnt dare mention , it ,  ! All I can say is ,I spent Half my life begging for Sex,never again! I'll ask first !,
"The Reason"
I'm not a perfect person
There's many things I wish I didn't do (or say)
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is - You !
I'm sorry that I hurt you
It's something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish that I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
Thats why i need you to hear
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is You
I'm not a perfect person
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I've found a reason to show
A side of me you didn't know
A reason for all that I do
And the reason is you
All because I mentioned the word , SEX !  | |
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