| How does your discipline compare to that of your parents?
Posted: 2/8/2007 9:05:22 AM | I had to ground my son the other day for cussing at school and getting a 2 day in school suspension. My mom told me that I was being too easy on him by just not letting him go anywhere or talk on the phone or be on the computer. When I asked her what she would have done if it had been me, when I was his age of 16, she said she would have washed my mouth out with soap and grounded me to my room for a month, coming down only to eat and shower and go to school. I thought, wow, that's harsh. Then, I started thinking about my childhood. If I did the things to my children that my mom and step-dad did when I was growing up, I would be sitting in jail. I remember getting whipped by a cherry tree limb until you literally could not sit for a week. When my step-dad said he was gonna whip you until you couldn's sit for a week, he meant it. I don't know how many times I had soap put in my mouth.
When I think about it, I think how differently I discipline my children. I wouldn't dream of putting soap in my son's mouth. I have never even spanked my children. I have a 16-year-old son that still shows affection towards me, even when his friends are around. He worries about me more than I do him I think. I think it is because of the way he has been raised. I am not trying to pat myself on the back, but I know that I have a better relationship with my kids than I ever did with my mom. | |
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tj7
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| How does your discipline compare to that of your parents?
Posted: 2/8/2007 9:19:08 AM | I'm a little harsher with the discipline on my kids then my parents were on me........
I am the youngest of 3 with 10 and 13 years difference between me and my sibs, so I was the spoiled one until age 15, when I had to grow up rather quickly after my dad left me and my mom. I never got spanked or paddled (except at school - lol) and I never really got grounded. BUT I did highly respect my mother and would never do anything to embarass her - my orneryness was fun and harmless - but I'm sure I gave her a few gray hairs - lol.
The one punishment that I do remember is........when I was 15, I enjoyed 'stealing' my mother's car to go joy riding while she worked. I would visit her after school and sneak the keys out of her purse while she was out of her office. Then I would tell her that I would be back at 5 when it was time to go home. In the meantime, I was driving all over the county having fun in her care - woooohoooooooooo
One day, she had my bros camero and I decided to have a little fun in it. What I didn't know was that she had a doctors appt. that afternoon. She went to leave for the appt and couldn't find her keys NOR the car out front of her office - OOOOPPPSSSSS - shall we say BUSTED!!!!!
It was close to my 16th birthday and getting my license. She grounded me for 6 mos from getting my drivers license - with a July b'day, I was the last of my friends to get my license and now I wasn't going to get it. 6 mos later - in December - I went to her with the sad, begging look on my face and asked her if I had been punished enough to get my license. Well, the funny part is - she had completely forgotten that she had grounded me from getting my license. AGHHHHHHHHHHH I got my license and was still the first out of my friends to actually have my own car - and yes, I was paying the loan for my car - I wasn't spoiled by then - lol.
OK - back to the thread.............yes, I'm a little harder on my kids - I'm not into physical punishment, but I am into grounding them from the things they love to do - i.e., pool, talking on the phone, driving the car, riding bikes, playing with friends, etc. - whereas I was pretty much trusted and allowed to do whatever I wanted - besides if I would have done something bad enough to send me to jail, mom would have left me sit there overnight just to think it out - lol.
I have been blessed with good kids - I think they are more afraid of the look on my face or disappointing me if they would do something seriously bad.
But kids will be kids......and they will always test the waters and push your button.....children aren't bad, they just make poor choices sometimes.  | |
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tj7
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| How does your discipline compare to that of your parents?
Posted: 2/8/2007 1:31:06 PM | My parents were very strict which made me the rebel I am today.
Bar of soap to wash the mouth out with soap, my oldest son and all my step children suffered the wrath of this when those curse words came out of their mouths....my youngest knows better to say it within my hearing distance! | |
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| How does your discipline compare to that of your parents?
Posted: 2/8/2007 10:31:51 PM | When my youngest son was about 6, his step-mother put soap in his mouth 3 times and then put hot sauce on his tongue all within a period of about a half an hour because he was "teasing her". I never got all the details, but what my ex-husband told me was that he was in the bathroom, and Sara told him that Kraig was teasing her and he needed to stop or she would put soap in his mouth. Jamie (being the spineless ba$tard he is) let her do it. When I found out, I did 2 things: First, I called children's services (in my opinion, that constitutes child abuse, which by the way she did get in trouble for, not enough in my opinion as they just told her to never do it again, but at least it is on record) and then I went over to their house, made Jamie come outside and talk to me and told him if it ever happened again, I would not be making the same calls. I would be there with a good a$$ kicking for his lovely little wife. She has never attempted it again.
My mom did put soap in his mouth one time too when he was like 5 because he said dammit. I was very mad when I found out. That is something she will never do again. The funny thing though is that my nephew who would have been 17 ended up getting sick and vomiting because mom put soap in Kraig's mouth. That was amusing. | |
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| How does your discipline compare to that of your parents?
Posted: 2/23/2007 11:44:56 AM | Anybody who truly knows me, could tell you that I let kids get away with murder. My parents were very strict, but you wouldn't be able to tell, when you meet me.
That's because I made a vow to myself to NEVER be like either of my parents. Strict and abusive. I didn't attend the funeral for either of them! | |
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| How does your discipline compare to that of your parents?
Posted: 2/23/2007 3:55:48 PM | well in my house of ten kids my parents had to be strict and spankings happened
no so much comunication there they were pretty freaked out with me
but i was the rebel. i had a diffrent point of veiw about things and
of course that cause much conflick for myself and my parents
i got it more than the older ones and paved the road for the younger ones
after growing up was told by my parents i was the one they never worried about
that i had good sense of things and would do ok .
as for how i rasied mine i could be tough but with that came the talk and reason why i thought about the sistuation they were going through...did i ever have to spank yes
did they turn out ok i think so for the most part .
as for my grandchildren as long as i'am alive thats how it will go with there relasionship with me . there good i think the parents have them spoiled i think they should have more
relsponablities and be more acountable for there actions.
hope to see how they turn out.  | |
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