| Dating artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 2/10/2007 3:38:08 PM | I was just thinking about this the other day.
The world's full of very creative, and very artistically talented, people (writers poets, composers, painters, scultptors etc). The world's also full of those of us, that have little, or no, creative talent.
Do people who are artistically talented, tend to seek out relationships with other artistic people?
Does a creative person feel that they have more in common, with another creative person?
Does an artist feel they'd be better understood, or their talents more appreciated by another artist?
Artistic people:
Do you intentionally seek out other artistic/creative people?
Have you had relationships with artistic and/or non-artisic people? and did you notice a difference in compatability between the two?
Non-artistic people:
Have you had any experiences with dating, or relationships, with artistic people?
Did you feel that you were able to rlate to them? | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 3:52:38 PM | | I think that is a good question because I find that non-artist do not appreciate the things that I do. I think artistic people help challenge other artistic people to do better work. I don't use that info. to find a mate. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 3:58:39 PM |
Artistic people:
Do you intentionally seek out other artistic/creative people?
Yeah... I generally think so. I know when I see a woman who can draw, paint, write, etc it flips that "Ooooh, that's hot" switch inside me.
Have you had relationships with artistic and/or non-artisic people? and did you notice a difference in compatability between the two?
Having probably had a varying number of both I'd have to say that while the artistic minded girls that I've dated seemed to have a 'view' of the universe that is similar to my own and could 'get me' better, it isn't ALWAYS that way. I also found that those without any creativity don't seem to have the imagination to be as interesting as I'd like. Of course, this isn't ALWAYS true either, but generally speaking that's been my experience.
I don't want to say non artistic people are boring to me, but creative girls with imagination seem to have more spark and cosmic awareness than those without. Those seem to hold a very black and white view of the world and get 'set in their ways' very early on in life and its very difficult to get them to expand their worldview and experience new and different ways of thinking. They sort of have a drone way of thinking, rely heavily on religion for their void fulfillment and don't seem to ask the same questions of the universe I ask.
Of course these are all just broad generalizations and observations of my own experiences. There has always been and always will be exceptions. One of the girls I loved a great deal.. probably the 'love of my life' didn't have any creative talents.. I always thought she did though because she had a lot of imagination. Makes me wonder if she could have done more with it. And I've seen artistic girls who are just flighty and dull.. but those have been the exceptions. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 3:59:13 PM | I find creativity comes in many forms. I like creative people. Maybe they paint, maybe they are musical, maybe the like to create computer programs or even are a spectacular creative cook.
I think maybe its more original thought and not following what everyone else does that matters to me. Creative people tend to just be more that way I find.
What I want out of a relationship is constantly changing and evolving though depending on the people I meet. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 4:30:57 PM |
I think maybe its more original thought and not following what everyone else does that matters to me that's a good point.
Creative people are more likely to be independant thinkers, than non-creative people. Perhaps if they seem drawn to other creative people, it's because they're looking for other independant thinkers? | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 5:21:09 PM | | Art exists everywhere even in the most pragmatic people and scenarios---as an artist myself I am looking for someone to appreciate my dramaqueenishness but also have a calm coolness to balance me out...But a talker who will think about things and talk to me and inspire me as an artist is vital and essential...the negative side of my personality is to be 'fine' or all that that entails...(f--ed up, insecure, neurotic and emotional) and sometimes I think I scare people away with my intensity, and only another artist may be able to truly love and appreciate me for all that I am.... | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 5:28:29 PM | | I myself am artistic, I work in webdevelopment, do alot of photography and love art. I look for people who also have these interests as its one of my passions, and think a new potential partner should share common interests. It makes for better conversations too. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 5:40:22 PM | Creativity drips from my pores. I have no idea why I did not pursue some type of art/design/creative vocation.
I did design all three of the houses I have owned.
My first gf was an artist type but I’ve never been involved with another creative person since.
Anyone that really understands motorcycles/art could take one look at my motorcycle and understand just how creative I am. Almost everything I do shows it - from computer software/houses/cars/motorcycle it shows everywhere.
Actually I have never thought about it but ... this is a good question. It could very well be that I would really mesh with another creative person. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 6:14:32 PM | everyone has creativity in them. they may paint or draw or do any of the acceptable 'artsy' sorts of things.
however, some people create and express themselves outside the realm of 'art.' i have amazingly creative friends who are chefs, builders, landscapers and engineers. their ability to push the limits of their chosen area makes them artists.
i've worked with paints, poetry and choreography. i can almost always find the creative space in another person and encourage them to cultivate it. i do prefer other artists, but, like i said, anyone can create art, once we broaden our definition of 'art.' | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 6:57:57 PM | I'm certainly not a creative person myself. But I've always found creative women fascinating.
I think it's an appreciation of their talent, combined with an attraction to people who are independant thinkers.
But in the past, I'd seem to notice that creative women were more drawn toward creative guys.
frenchbearman mentioned, in post 2:
I think artistic people help challenge other artistic people to do better work. I actually remember a woman saying that she needed someone who "challenges" her. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 7:18:23 PM | It is a wonderful feeling to find someone who speaks the same language as you. I have a creative side and am attracted to creative people.
Those with a creative bent seem to see things in a different light than the average person. I like that so much. It's rejuvenating and refreshing.
The creative side does not have to manifest itself in the traditional arts (painting, photography, etc.). Creative people just seem to have a slightly different take on whatever they do.
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Posted: 2/10/2007 7:26:02 PM | Artistic types are usually sensitive as well. Art is emotion expressed in a communicative form. ( yes, even sex) everyone has a talent, it may not have been expressed yet in their lives. Many people feel intimidated by "artists" , I think that is a learned thing.
Example : Mom says .. You can't do __________ blah !! So you can't or don't try.
and what is this " I can't draw a straight line " Not many artists draw lines and when they do ?? They use a straight edge. hellooooooooooooooo. LOL.. Art is expression in any area of life that moves you.
As an artist a value all input, I don't judge by artistic ability .. We all feel and react. Which is the thing I am after.
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Posted: 2/10/2007 7:39:24 PM | I think most people have a creative side they just have not explored it. Creativity comes in so many forms from landscaping to builders.
I never had the oppurtuity to date another artist. I am attracted to creative people and so admired the creative process.
I would love someone who understands a non-linear thinker.
I was married for 23 yrs to a non-creative so I guess it is not a pre-requisite.
I have read that sometimes to artists’ pair up and make a great team. Each doing their own work and on occasion pairing up on different projects. The teams appear to very successful. But on the flip side it might be too much, not enough balance.
It would be nice to be challenge in my work.
I hope more post on this thread. This could get verrry interesting! | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 8:24:02 PM | | I'm a creative person. I'm creative for a living, and I'm creative on my off time. And while I can see it as a common bond with someone, I do not use it as a criteria to rule people out. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 9:11:09 PM | | I'm very creative, and I draw, and paint...so I love being around other creative/artistic people. It creates an awesome synergy which can be inspiring. However...in a significant other, it can be too much creative ego clashing...they need to be creative in a different way than me, or it can start feeling competitive. Or if they are more intellectual, it makes a nice balance. Let's face it, most seriously creative people tend to be less focused on the day to day details of reality and more focused on thier work, and being with someone more detail-oriented and organized can be a great help! As cliche'd as it is, opposites do attract...we can help all you nerds have more fun, while you help us remember our appointments and such! | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 9:45:31 PM | Have you seen the movie “Proof”?
She “spaces out” and does her thing?
That’s what its like. Nothing matters but the completion of the project.
You have to know what it is and how they like to deal with it and not take it personally. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 10:07:32 PM | I don't intentionally seek out other artistic people,
yet, when you are in the creative/artistic field it is likely you'll find artistic/creative people sooner or later.
I think that an artist would find it easier to appreciate the work of another artist.
But why to limit oneself?
I have also found inspiration in women that hasn't developed her artistic/creative skills...
The world's also full of those of us, that have little, or no, creative talent.
I beg to differ!
All people have talent, it is just a matter of developing it or not.
Creativity and art is truly in everyone's heart!
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Posted: 2/10/2007 10:13:37 PM | This is one of the most interesting posts I’ve seen here for quite some time. Thank you for the question. I’m a sculptor. I primarily work with steel and clay. The love of my life was a painter and she was a VERY gifted artist. I personally find that I am definitely more drawn to a woman who is an artist herself only because she understands the way only a fellow artist can, how driven we can be. Because an artist doesn’t paint, draw, or sculpt for the money they do it because they have to. The images inside our heads have to be turned into reality somehow.
Having said that though I wouldn’t rule out having a relationship with a non-artist as long as she understood why I do what I do. And that she would be supportive of what I do. In retrospect I feel that was a main factor in the demise of my last marriage. My ex never supported my work and I don’t mean monetarily. She was never there emotionally to support it. So for a relationship to blossom with a non-artist, there would have to be many other layers of the relationship in which to explore besides that one. Which after thinking about it that would also have to apply to a relationship with an artist also because I believe for ANY relationship to grow it has to be multifaceted. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 10:28:33 PM | Before I met my bf, if I found out an attractive male was artistic as well, I tended to take more notice of him. Artistic ability runs in my family, I'm now an art student, so it definitly sets off a spark if he is creative in some aspect.
My boyfriend is into some filmography stuff, and his mother is an interior decorator....finding out these things about him when I was first getting to know him was a very intrigueing and impressive aspect of him to me, since I knew he appreciated art.
Whats most important though, isn't that the one I'm involved with is also artistic, it's that they appreciate and support my abilities and work, and don't frown upon it, my bf appreciated that I'm doing what I want to do, which is awesome, especially compared to someone whose response to finding out I'm an artist would be more along the lines of 'Art?? What for? What a waste, people working in that industry don't make a lot of money, why don't you do something else?' In which case I'd say 'bye bye'.
And I've heard people make remarks like that to artists all the time. So being artistic as well isn't a must, but I think it makes it a bit easier for him to understand me, as long as the man is appreciative and supportive, then it works. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 10:29:51 PM |
Creativity and art is truly in everyone's heart! I agree with this. Some have more talent than others but everything love inspires creativity. I'd hesitate to call myself a "creative person" because I don't see myself as being artistically talented -- I just like making things it just seems a natural part of being alive, and the more love I feel, the more my heart overflows, the more need there is to express that. My special someone is certainly creative, I'd not hesitate to use the word for him as he is so talented. Our creativity lies in somewhat different directions -- his in carpentry and music, mine in maths, but there are overlaps as we both like to express ourselves in writing, making things, growing things, and when I visit him next we will surely paint together again.
I think creativity is perhaps a measure of freedom. The thought that is is related to independent thinking is an interesting one. I don't think it necessarily holds. Artsy people are known for being a bit eccentric but eccentricity can be lack of thought as well as freedom of thought. Some are quite unthinking and just into themselves and their art. And creativity as Juniper said, can be expressed in many different ways. I hear that even accountancy can get quite creative sometimes. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 11:02:59 PM | hello !somehwere,
The world is full of talented people, talented in ways sometimes we don't see at first glance. I used to work as a youth counselor and one of the ways i connected with them is to find there hidden talent and do it with them no matter what it was. some loved music, drawing painting, sports, dance, comic relief, origami, puzzles, it didn't matter what it was. Everyone is artistic in some way. Everyone has an expression that is deeply profound if we take the time to get to know them.
Some think they have nothing or aren't that creative. I don't look for anything specific in people to relate to, but relate to them and learn their expression. My special someone in my life right now doesn't see herself as artistic but she most certainly is. One of her greatest gifts she shares is her way of being. I have to say one of the most special gifts she has given me was a small stone she picked up on a walk, she painted a little mountain scape on it and carved a small whole in it for a key chain. When i opened it and picked it up I could literally feel love, in the little box there was a little poem. i don't want to share the poem here as it is her words to me. I put the little stone on a string and wear it everywhere.
Anything born out of Love is meaningful its what bring art alive and speaks to another's soul (if there is such a thing) since meeting my special someone i have started playing guitar and writing again. Every song i write for her as she is the inspiration without her songs would be empty and words would be just that... words...
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Posted: 2/10/2007 11:21:42 PM | I admire all the arts. I mean, I love them, be it visual, performing, whatever. I can't help but be intrigued by the people that can create and perform. I think the arts are the only real form of history out there. You get to feel what somebody else felt when they painted, wrote, played, sang it, whatever. I really respect that, (and think it's hot. I'd take Edgar Allen Poe or Vincent Van Gogh to bed with a quickness!!!!)
That said, I'm not any good at any of those things. I'd like to be, and I've tinkered around with all the art forms at some point. I can't help it, I just suck at them all. I can deal with that, but I hope it doesn't keep an artist of any kind from dating me, lol. | |
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