| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/11/2007 10:44:39 PM | | How can you be sure of a real relationship with a guy? I was in a relationship with a guy for 81/2yrs we have a child together we split after a big fight. 2weeks later I went out with my friends and met a really guy we hit it off straight away. Spent some hours talking and hanging out. Then he told me he was going back to his country in a week. So we spent every moment he wasn't busy with his friends together. He invited me to his friends house for a few drinks I didn't drink much as I was driving. We ended up having sex. He rang me the next night at midnight for me to meet him and meet all his friends. I said no as it was really late and I would have to drive 1/2hr to get there could of rung me earlier. He said well see you in two years the next time I come back. It has been 5weeks since he has gone and I am late went for blood tests just before my 26th birthday and found out all my bloods are fine just that they sent my tests away and came back with a phone call "congradulations" your pregnant. Really confused and don't know what to do no one knows about it. So I am on my own with this. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/11/2007 10:52:55 PM | Well, girl it is his kid too!!! I say tell him..and see what happens.
If you don't you will always wonder "What if?"..And if you and him are both OK with is there is still time to abort it...or keep it and make a life together!!!
I would hate to be in your position but we all have to remember that if we have sex we could end up in this same place!!!! Condom or not...
JJ
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/11/2007 10:58:22 PM | You are 100% right as to being on your own with this, but it's your own doing by choosing to have completely unprotected sex with a stranger who never gave any more thought to the consequences than you did. You can try getting child support, but there's going to be a lot of red tape involved, and that's only if you are sure you are ready to have another child at this point in your life. You have to weigh your options, consider what you may or may not be ready to take on, and choose what YOU want to do. At the same time you have to keep in mind somewhere down the road this child will be asking questions you can't answer, and that's only if you happen to be very lucky in having a normal, healthy child. You can contact him and tell him of your condition, but don't expect to live happily ever after with a devoted and loving man. His first thought could very well be "Is it mine?" in which case things could get very ugly between you. Is he ready to be a parent?
I wish you the very best of luck!
'River | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/11/2007 11:00:21 PM | | Not to sure if he knows but his mate he came over with does so If he passed on the message or not. Harder when I have my ex on my door step seeing if I am alright and picking up the child I have to him. The guy told me things all women want to hear even about his family and is nephews and mum and dad sister all the things they like and wanted to take me back to meet everyone. Was quite surprised but he hasn't kept in contact or nothing really fell for this irish guy. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/11/2007 11:01:42 PM | | Its not the end of the world. I suppose you feel the need to talk to someone.Is there not a place to go and talk this out to find out what you can do ? I wish you all the very best in your decision. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/11/2007 11:11:50 PM | | By the way it was protected until the thing broke and to make it even worse never go on the pill it is crap!!!!!! I work full time, not looking at getting any child support if I do keep it. If he wants anything to do with this child thats fine, but if he doesn't I will not be pushing for him to be there. Just will be hard trying to tell my family. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/11/2007 11:14:52 PM | Sorry to hear that, that's a tough break...
I am amazed you would not seek support, though I do understand it would be hard to obtain. If he is a good man, he may offer some assistance w/o being forced to by johnny law? | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/12/2007 2:03:55 AM | I feel for your situation, But if he indeed got you pregnant I would keep the baby, there is a life there and even though things are so weird right now I would not throw away a life just because of your situation.
I know I can not speak for you because I am not in your shose but its not the childs fault you got this way and why punish the child? | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/12/2007 2:57:20 AM | | Tons of information out there about birth control...and no one seems to use them...I think your on your own babycakes....live and learn... | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/12/2007 5:57:43 AM | | Well if you did this 2 weeks after a break up it could be the old BF's kid...unless you were not active with him before the break up. Otherwise it doesn't sound like you have much with this other guy...he lives in another country and told you he doesn't plan to return for 2 years. That is not a good sign of things to come. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/12/2007 6:45:25 AM | | I am sorry for your pain in this matter, I'm sure you are worried & confused on many levels. Let me assure you, you have many options. But first, look at the child you have now. Isn't he/she precious? You wouldn't undo having that baby, and you shouldn't undo having this baby. I speak from experience, you absolutely do not want to do that. You can choose to carry this baby to term and then allow some deserving couple to adopt the baby if you do not wish to raise him/her. He/she deserves to live, and so do you and your other child. It doesn't really matter how the baby came about, safe sex or not. That is stupid for people to even mention, forgive them their ignorance. I have two children now, both unplanned and they are 19 & 25 now. They have been the only reason I bother to live from time to time, always being my reason to keep going. I now have a baby grandson, and my God, if I'd done something about my predicament at the time my daughter was conceived, all that life would have been lost and never known. Don't let this happen to you. Hold your head high, get on some good prenatal vitamins, tell anyone that needs to know, and celebrate this new and wonderful life. This baby is no mistake, God makes no mistakes. Good luck. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/12/2007 6:46:03 AM | | Unprotected or not i know ive messed up and not always thought in the heat of the moment and i lucky to got away with it! Personally id give up on the guy and just concentrate on what you want to do with your future. Either way i think its a rough break x | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/13/2007 8:10:39 PM | Had a good think about it he hasn't come back to me about anything. I have a child who is 6yrs old also talked to my family and any decision I make they will be there regardless. My ex has also been really suportive of what is happening and he to said he will be there to help me out. So in the heat of the moment I will be keeping the child and if this child wants to know who his/her father is by all means I will try my hardest to help them out to find him. But everything is now for my child and un born child. Thanks for all you help. Was really helpful to know there are people out there who really do care.
:) to all of ya. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/13/2007 8:33:18 PM | | the condom broke, she was trying to practice safe sex...I have had a condom break on me before, scary, but certainly not irresponsible. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/13/2007 8:43:44 PM | Very tough situation. I'm not going to say anything else on that because it would turn into a lecture and that's the last thing you need. A lecture is a bit too late.
I 'hope' there isn't a 'next time' but next time: Plan B pill.
I would not count on him being supportive when you tell him about the pregnancy. So, just be mentally prepared for that just in case. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/13/2007 9:04:48 PM | Sweety, do you know what a condom is? How can you engage in such a high risk
sexual behaviour both for STD, HIV Aids, Heptitis C, and pregnancy...?
For God sake people be responsible....Safe sex please...
Now get tested for all diseases, at least make sure your child will be protected. Sorry if you're on your own with this, I have no compassion for your situation. I wish I could say something nicer but I really feel yours and his behaviour was completely irresponsible.
I wish you the best anyway... | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/13/2007 9:42:26 PM | sorry over your situation....but do inform him..and let him decide what length he will go to be a man and possible father. there are many options...if you choose to have/or not have this pregnancy to term.
as for mermaid!!
what right do you have to stand in judgement over her life style or being high risk?? your profile says higher risk than her's or what happened in this situation.
she was protected and it failed..and anyone who has half a clue over the morning after pill..knows its also not guaranteed...also causes defects in a failed induced abortion.
as for irresponsible?? where do you get that idea ..when they practiced safe sex..that failed!! | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/13/2007 9:58:23 PM | I think you should tell him. Track him down and let him take some responsibility for this. After all you didnt make this child on your own. I would suggest you find another form of birth control. Condoms and the pill arent the only things you can do to prevent another pregnancy. You already have one child and another on the way take care of the children you have. Good luck to you and try to get support. You might feel alone in this but if you seek help you will find you arent.  | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/13/2007 10:26:37 PM | | I really do think it is a TWO way decision to have a pregnancy/baby. Untill that decision is made you should either be using some form of contraception or abstain, simple as that. I dont believe either one of you wanted anymore than some fun and in this case what happened was totally irresponsible. I think you need to make the big decision of keeping or abort. It is your choice. You cannot rely on someone in some distant country for anything. | |
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| One week with him and pregnant
Posted: 2/13/2007 11:24:59 PM |
Thats what happens when you don't practice safe sex.
Sweety, do you know what a condom is? How can you engage in such a high risk
sexual behaviour both for STD, HIV Aids, Heptitis C, and pregnancy...?
For God sake people be responsible....Safe sex please...
I am pretty sure she mentioned something about the condoms breaking...and even if that is a lie...it DOES happen....You all need to get off your high horse and realize that if you have had sex in your life you could be in her position too!
JJ
Where is the "Totally Serious" smiley here???? | |
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