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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 8:13:20 AM | | I have been thinking about this issue for some time and would love to throw it to the readers...cell phones on a first date. I think any woman/man that would bring a cell phone into the restaurant with them on a first date is rude,inconsiderate,and is downright out of place in the singles dating world. I know women/or men will make excuses like,"my kids have this and this and they might need to get in contact with me"...sorry,not good enough...you should have taken care business before the date. My mom and dad did fine and they didn't have cells when I wasn't around yet during their dating lives. I just personally find it offensive to keep answering phones,and telling callers that "you can call me back" during a "first meeting" is totally out of place. What do other single people think about this issue? | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 8:21:24 AM | I couldn't agree more with what you said. Most people my age have kids who are grown, so that's not a viable excuse although it's been used. I actually walked out on one guy who was constantly receiving text messages and replying to them while we were having dinner. And he wondered why I was pissed....grrrrr... | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 8:32:42 AM | OP, I don't typically see a need for a cell phone on a date unless one has children or and elderly and/or ill parent...and since most cell phones show who the call is from, it's easy enough to answer it if it's one of these, or ignore it if it isn't. Unfortunately, life does have a way of interfering with things, and there are some people whose business can legitimately interrupt when they're on off hours, though that's more an exception than not...and most will tell you beforehand that they're expecting an important call, so I don't have any issue with that. And considering the many divorced parents today, if someone's younger child calls them during our date, I'd insist they answer the phone and wouldn't think a lot of them if they didn't. Also, if an older child or someone else has called 5 times in a row, it could be an emergency, and the person would be irresponsible not to answer it.
As far as our parents, while they may not have had a cell during dating, once they had kids most of them called the house to check up on their kids sometime during the night...at least mine did ;) | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 9:06:27 AM | HUGE No no!
I too have walked out on a couple of dates over this issue. Nowadays though I tell those stories early on as a "subtle" hint that such rude behavior will not be tolerated.
Now don't get me wrong, I have a cell phone and I bring it with me, with either the volume or phone itself turned off. They are useful tools and can make life flow a little smoother. What they are NOT is a life support system for the emotionally challenged, or those lacking in fundamental decency.We're supposed to be there to focus on each other and hopefully have some fun. If phone chat is your priority may I suggest watching reruns of "Friends" while discussing it with anyone you'd care to dial. Should be close enough to real life to fuel your conversation; and you won't be wasting the time of a living, breathing, feeling human being.
That being said emergencies DO arise. And we all have our little parachute cords to pull. But sitting there telling your friends what a good time you're having while your date stares blankly at the waitress who is trying to take your order doesn't qualify. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 10:30:10 AM | | I usaully take my cell phone with me on a date, i have a young son that is at the sitters. I turn it on to vibrate, so does not ring. If i get a call i see who it is, and if it is not improtant i send to voice mail. If it is the sitter, that is the only time i answer it. To polite to the date i am on. You can check your messages when you to to the washroom, or after the date is finished. Then you have all the time in the world to phone everone back | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 10:30:36 AM | | I usaully take my cell phone with me on a date, i have a young son that is at the sitters. I turn it on to vibrate, so does not ring. If i get a call i see who it is, and if it is not improtant i send to voice mail. If it is the sitter, that is the only time i answer it. To polite to the date i am on. You can check your messages when you to to the washroom, or after the date is finished. Then you have all the time in the world to phone everone back. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 10:50:37 AM | I would be inclined to agree with this, but then I don't even have a cell phone to bring with me on a date so what do I know.  Seriously, noone is so important that they can't shut their phone off for a couple of hours, unless they are on call for work or the babysitter has a genuine emergency. Anybody that thinks they are that important that they can't turn their phone off needs a reality check... or a lesson in manners... | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 10:51:35 AM | I have never taken one on a date and I have kids. I make sure all my ducks are in a row before I go out. If it is an emergency I am where I say I am so they will find me. I find it rude to spend time on the phone instead of with my company. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 10:53:35 AM | | Yes you do! In case of an emergency children should always be able to get a hold of their parents ... however that been said children should no exactly what an emergency entails! A date who excepts the phone call graciously has just gone up in my books. That being said lets also clarify the person with the cell phone should no how to keep the conversation on the cell to a minimum. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 10:59:20 AM | Of course. The women usually have a phone call arranged for 15 minutes into the date so if the guy is ugly they have a bailout excuse.
The nonsense about emergencies is an excuse to have the bailout phone call option in play. Sadly a sign of the times.
At the precise minute you sit down to dinner, flight 524 out of Seattle might lose an engine and hit the moving car your kid is riding in...? Yeah, right.
I am poilte. When I sit down to lunch or dinner, I make a point of taking out my phone and turning it off in front of the woman. If she doesn't get the hint, that's a big clue. And if she decides to take a cell phone call while out with me, I will walk up to the waitress station or cash register, pay the check, and leave.
When you agree to meet someone, be respectful of them and pay attention to them. It's an hour, You can't go without talking to your friend Suzy about shopping for an hour?
Gimme a break.
What's even more amazing is that people in 2007 still wave the cell phone around like it's a status symbol. "Look how cool I am! I have a phone that works anywhere!"
Hello? 1990 is calling!!! | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 11:04:45 AM | | I have to agree with rred5. I too have my cell phone on a date, but it's on silent and only a few times do I check it during the date. When I go to the restroom, I also check it at that time. All my calls go to voicemail and I return the calls after the date is over. That's the polite thing to do. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 11:15:36 AM | Yes, we made it fine without them before but times change & we have to change with them.
People have their reasons for bringing them, such as the ones you mentioned. The technology is great but there is a time and place for everything. That girl was disrespectful & I'm guessing very immature.
I know where you're coming from though. Changing the subject a bit, but I just hate when someone calls me or even if I call them and they keep putting me on hold to check b/c they have another call coming in. I usually say "You're busy so I'll talk to you later," or something along those lines after 2 chances, unless there's some special circumstance going on with the person, like a sick relative or something like that.
Hey if she treated you like that on the first date then I guess you're lucky you found out something about her personality. Now you don't have to waste more precious time on her.
Don't worry about it. Best you found out sooner than later!
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 11:18:47 AM | How about when you meet for dinner and they spend the whole time text messaging someone else? Sorry. NOTHING is that important outside of your own death.
And I am of the personality type that would say "if you want to do this another time when you can afford me the respect to actually pay attention to me, okay. If not, I'm apparently not missing much." as I walk out the door.
There's like 27 gazillion women out there. I don't need one who doesn't respect me. I have enough of those in my life right now. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 12:55:16 PM | | You only need a cell phone on a date if you have children. People have become too attached to their cell phones. They act like they would die without a cell phone. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:04:35 PM | well from experience from the past i can say it was a life saver in 2 incidents one being while we were in the country heading to a restaurant in town( on a date ) we got into a car accident so the cellphone came in handy............another was a bad date gone wrong from a date that was totally ok to a male going totally crazy and abusive.........hey it saved my life and it may save someone elses when the time is right...........
maybe u have some insecurity issues that have caused u to think cellphones on a date is a bad thing............ | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:04:50 PM | I date women 50 and up. Their 30 year old kids can wait with their emergency.
How much more of a hint can it be to take out your pone, make a production of turning it off, and saying "Let me turnm this off. I'm here to have dinner with you, not talk on the phone."
And if they don't show that same respect toward me, there will be serious compatibility issues anyway so an early departure is no big deal. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:14:05 PM | Cell phones for far too many people have become just another way to combat insecurity. We feel better when people "need us" by calling.
I agree. Cell phones, whether on a date or otherwise, get far too much attention. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:16:37 PM | I had a date a few months ago where this lady brought her cell phone and she must have gotten 10 calls. She answered every single one and said "Hey I'm busy right now. Can I call you back?"
Wtf? I could not wait for that date to end. I asked her why she did not just turn her phone off and she said she needed to stay in touch with her sister. Whatever. Eat faster so I can drop you off at home and go out an enjoy the evening and you can go out with whomever keeps calling. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:30:21 PM | Taking your cell phone is just good sense.
If it's important that someone is able to get through to you then just keep it on vibrate
DO NOT accept casual calls. It's just rude.
If no one needs to have emergency access to you then shut it off.
In this day and age a cell phone has become a potential life-line tool of survival in the case of personal emergency's.
It is the humble opinion of this writer that to not take one is ridiculous. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:32:12 PM | I take my cell with me on dates and put it on silent as well because my children are 15, 12 and 8. I will answer the phone if it is my children but the know to make it quick because I am not there to be on the phone with them. I do also tell my date that my phone is there in case my kids need to reach me.
I am usually not far away, and I have friends right next door as well as another dozen in the neighborhood but as I have no family here, I really try to use those individuals for real emergencies. If my kids want to touch base about something like can they watch a certain movie, they do not need to bother someone else, but again, they know to make the phone call as short as possible.
I also normally call and let them know, I am at dinner now, or the movie is about to start. They then have the option of addressing anything they need and I do not believe I am being rude to my date. Early on they tended to call when they really didn't need to and I hung up on them. Now if they call, there is a reason. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:33:46 PM | I always carry my cell phone because I do have children, and I want to be able to be contacted if there's an emergency. However, I would only answer my cell phone on a date if it were a call from home. If possible, I would excuse myself to take the call, or let it go to voice mail and return the call after I have excused myself. My sitters always know to leave a message if I don't answer, and I will call them back ASAP.
Sherri | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:45:46 PM | This is how I handle it, when on a date ( or out anywhere actually) I bring my phone with me, but you'd never know that unless I told you, because I leave it turned off and in my bag, I wouldn't leave my purse in my car, and I won't leave my cellphone in there either, ever had a piece of personal properity stolen ( purse,wallet,phone) it leaves you very uneasy, I bring it with me so that if something comes up I have a phone because they have but eliminated payphones where I live.
now on the other foot I don't believe in answering it during a date, or hanging out with friends, or while checking out at a store. and I won't deal with someone else doing that to me. I understand having it with you, but not using it..if that makes sense.
just my opinion on the matter. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:47:47 PM | | The only reason you might need a cell phone for a date is to check up on their arrival, or give them directions if they need it and it is to a place not at home, or if the cell is your primary phone. Outside of that, if I had a cell phone, I'd turn it off on my date once they arrive. I want any person who desires to date me to know they'll be all mine. I'm not going to allow anyone to interrupt that. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:51:42 PM |
Anybody that thinks they are that important that they can't turn their phone off needs a reality check... or a lesson in manners...
From where I stand, any man that thinks he's so important that my children would come second needs a reality check, or to keep moving.
My younger daughter may be an adult now, but she has an idiot husband, a full-time job with an hour-and-a-half commute each way, a 2-year old, and Multiple Sclerosis. Her life is difficult, and she makes frequent trips to the hospital. When she calls, I answer.
Any man that believes that he takes priority over my child, who occasionally loses the use of a limb, is too arrogant to have a place in my life. | |
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| Cell Phones On a Date,Do You Really Need It?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:55:00 PM | | i for one take my phone every were,yes i have daughter and a couple of times i have had a call from her when i have been out,to say she has been unwell,so i have left were ever i have been and come home,my daughter comes first and no one would tell me to leave my phone at home. | |
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