| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 10:59:31 AM | It seems as thought when I tell a guy that I have Epilepsy I rarely ever hear from the again. A few have said that I should make reference to my Epilepsy in my profile. Good Idea?
My seizures are under control and I take medication daily for it. I just want to be a normal person and date.
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 11:02:29 AM | | It wouldn't bother me in the least. You could bring it up whenever to me as it's not a dealbreaker for me. If there is anything I need to know should a situation arise teach me before hand how to deal with it and we'd be good to go. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 11:02:55 AM | I think it would be wise to advise someone that you have epilepsy, not neccessarily on your profile but when you meet.
Just so they know in case something happens, It is a medical thing it is important to know.
You don't have to tell someone everything but this is just plain sense and someone who is intersted in you as a person is not going to care.
The right guy is out there and he will find you.
shy | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 11:03:14 AM | Man that sux!!!!
At least the men are honest enough to let you know they are not man enough to deal with the fact you have Epilepsy.
You should not feel bad about yourself.... it's totally their issue.
It is scary as hell to see someone have a seizure though.........My lil brother has and had seizures and my lil sister married a guy that had seizures.....
I think it's tougher not knowing what you can do... and not being able to fix it.
Some men may think you're lying by not putting it in your profile..... but are they lying by not putting that they aren't open minded? | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 11:04:25 AM | | Well if your epilepsy is under control, I wouldn’t see the problem. I do believe the more information you put in your profile, the less chance of it coming back to bite you in the a***. I don't think that your condition needs to be in there though. If I wasn’t madly in love I would have no problem dating someone who had epilepsy | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 11:05:08 AM | | I don't think you need to include it in your profile. It wouldn't bother me... but I suppose everything is how it's brought up. Perhaps you've just had a string of bad luck and guys? Personally, I would want to know as soon as possible so if a seizure did come on, I would know better what to do... | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 11:43:18 AM | You dont need to include it or advertize it. Its like being diabetic. Why should anyone care? I had it as a kid but outgrew it, been off meds now for over 15 years.
As for those who may become close to you wanting to know what to do, if you see anyone fall/faint or pass out, do as anyone would and call 911 for an ambulance.
I only would tell a lifeguard at a pool, quietly, but now I dont even do that anymore. They're trained to help people in any event.
Dont get uncomfortable about it. Most guys probably "run" because they are afraid of the unknown because they dont know anything about it. Do you have a drivers license? I really can't see an issue. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 11:48:47 AM | | No Im not allowed to drive. I stopped having seizures for 10 years. Then the seizures came back. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 11:52:13 AM | | Most people don't understand epilepsy, and will assume it's worse then it is. I wouldn't put it in your profile though I would mention it to a date, but make sure to explain a little too, don't just say you have it and leave it at that. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 12:02:06 PM | I found that controlling a lot of the stress in my life reduced my chances and eventually eliminated my outbreaks. Keeping active helped too. I know we're both older now but I was doing softball, soccer, and basketball.
My parents tried something called the ketatonic (sp?) diet which is similar to Atkins to help control it with me. Its a diet higher in protein and fat than your normal diet "would" be. You might want to read up about it.
I also find I get more "fidgety" and the like when stress goes into high gear for me.
I had "restless legs syndrome" before doctors put a name to it, before anyone could treat it. I dont get it anymore. Walking around, or doing a little cleaning, always helped, and I never regretted that.
So keeping active and controlling your stress will do a great deal for you. You'll have the neurologists impressed in no time  | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:24:24 PM | There is alot of vain and shallow people out there, so if someone has a medical condiction they toss them out like a broken toy. Epilepsy would not bother me, in fact it part of my life too. I think so many people might be looking for the perfect person they forget to look beyond imperfections.
Best of luck to ya,
Sesh | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:34:44 PM | How often so you get seizures?
If there is any chance you'd get one on a date, you should probably tell the guy...it might really scare him otherwise.
I wouldn't go so far as to put it in your profile. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 2:41:42 PM | You may want to put it in your profile, but not because you really should *have* to... but just so you don't have to waste your time with these guys who can't deal with it.
Personally, there are very few conditions that would keep me from dating a girl if she had it controlled with medication. Epilepsy isn't one of them. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 6:11:22 PM | Thats sad...thats your issue not theirs. I wouldnt bother to tell anyone..its not a transmitable disease...if they dont like to bad their loss. Aint nothing wrong with you...its obviously them. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 6:41:19 PM | Hi megirluboy. I wouldn't mention it in your profile. If it's under control, what's the big deal?
All of us, in different ways have some challenges. I would suggest there's little need to disclose your epilepsy until you meet someone and start to get serious. It won't be a deal breaker if he truly cares for you, imho.
Good luck,
John | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 7:06:56 PM | It shouldn't matter. I have a friend with epilepsy...and I have a FWB who used to date a girl with epilepsy. He actually enjoyed it because she would do things to intentionally initiate a seizure during thier 'private time'...fortunately she wasn't having Grand Mal's...but he got a kick out of the kink factor.
Nobody is perfect. When you meet a perfect man with a perfect hairline and a perfect physique and a perfect smile with perfect teeth, maybe then he can judge you for that. But if he's perfect, it won't matter to him. | |
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Joined: 9/25/2006
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 7:28:44 PM | Depends on how frequent it is. The occasional one is no big deal and
I'm big enough to handle it, and I have for one girl in a restraunt. But if
it's an everyday event so that we can't go anywhere...it'll be too stressful for me. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 7:32:51 PM | | if you've been seizure-free for some time, i don't think it should be an issue. i'd save it for a casual conversation. "oh by the way, i have epilepsy, but it's under control and shouldn't be an issue. so did you catch the last episode of..." | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 7:35:34 PM | | You should tell people !!!! You know what happened to me one time? This girl had it and had a seizure, we were on a first date. I had no idea she was eplipetic, NONE and all of a sudden she flew across the room and rammed the fridge. I thought she might be on drugs. I had no idea whatsoever what was up or what to do, it caught me by surprise. I never saw her again either. A few months later I ran into someone who knew her who told me she was eplileptic. I really thought she had taken some bad drugs. If I were you I would tell someone in case you have a seizure. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 7:47:04 PM | | Only advice I have for you. Keep an open eye out, there is somebody for everybody. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 7:53:49 PM | >>she would do things to intentionally initiate a seizure during thier 'private time'...fortunately she wasn't having Grand Mal's...but he got a kick out of the kink factor.
Ok, that is disturbing. I mean seriously. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 7:58:50 PM | If I read that a girl had epilepsy in her profile, it wouldn't stop me from contacting her, but I understand the condition, the people that are rejecting you probably don't...
...I might be a little less eager to ask for a BJ... | |
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e-wok
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Joined: 9/25/2006
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 8:11:47 PM |
It shouldn't matter. I have a friend with epilepsy...and I have a FWB who used to date a girl with epilepsy. He actually enjoyed it because she would do things to intentionally initiate a seizure during thier 'private time'...fortunately she wasn't having Grand Mal's...but he got a kick out of the kink factor.
Ok, Snugglesmacks, it's time to limit your contact with the humans. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 8:13:41 PM |
It shouldn't matter. I have a friend with epilepsy...and I have a FWB who used to date a girl with epilepsy. He actually enjoyed it because she would do things to intentionally initiate a seizure during thier 'private time'...fortunately she wasn't having Grand Mal's...but he got a kick out of the kink factor.
Holy #$%@. Wow. | |
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| Epilepsy and Dating
Posted: 2/18/2007 8:31:01 PM | | See above for reason why not to put it in your profile but to tell the person if you go on a date if theres a more than remote possibility of anything happening. | |
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