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Posted: 2/23/2007 6:30:03 PM | Well, the ol' profile doesn't seem to be packing 'em in...
I've tried to write a simple, honest profile - believing that honesty is the best policy in these things, but there's something about this that is keeping the ladies at bay.
Can I invite some equally honest, constructive comment please?
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Posted: 2/23/2007 6:35:36 PM | To much of the nice guy bit. Also, that photo is just bad. You need to project your chin out - as it is, it just makes you look, well, weak. Don't mean to insult, just being honest.
I suggest you read the profile writing tips at the top of the profile review page (click on the green print). Good luck. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2007 6:40:16 PM | Cheers Pokerman...
Here's the kicker though - the nice guy bit IS sincere... I'll have a look at how that can be reworded though.
As for the photo I see what you mean to a certain extent - so that'll be changing as well.
Not had a chance to read through the profile writing tips (as you seem to have guessed) yet, but I'll have a look through them tomorrow. It's 2.45 in the morning here in Britain, and I'm ready (as you can see) for some beauty sleep.
Cheers for your time...
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Posted: 2/23/2007 8:31:52 PM | If nothing else, replace the words "nice guy" with "extraordinary man" and "nice girl" with "outstanding woman."
When you delete your current picture -- and you will -- remember to smile, lift your chin, and look directly into the camera lens while projecting charm and good nature. And then have your friend with the camera snap off about six photos of you in different outfits and settings. Make sure there is plenty of light. Make sure none of the pics is in your bathroom.
I didn't care for the insult to all of womankind implicit in this sentence:
I would like to think that I am exactly what women are supposed to be looking for (you know, kind, considerate, dependable, loyal, intelligent - you get the picture), but experience suggests I may have an overly optimistic view of what women are after.
After reading that, on top of your EXTREMELY unwelcoming expression, I'd be long gone and onto the next five profiles.
Don't be bitter. Be positive. You're trying to convince someone to give you a chance -- don't shoot yourself in the foot by giving in to resentment.
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Posted: 2/23/2007 9:33:51 PM | | Take a peek at mine....I've refined it so many times that I got the rhythm right. More pictures, and throw a few quotes in....I don't know if it would help, but it certainly wouldn't hurt. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2007 11:04:18 PM | Hello mjmilan. I'm no expert either but this line caught my eye
"it's that curse of honesty kicking in again I fear..."
It's self-deprecating. 'curse' and 'fear' look pretty weak. The nice guy part is convincing, but what strong woman wants a nice guy? I believe David D put it best when he said "women want a nice guy that can be a bad boy when he needs to be" | |
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Posted: 2/24/2007 12:40:46 AM | I suggest that you add more interests.
How do you expect women to find you "interesting" when you only list 3 interests?
You state a lot of qualities (kind, considerate, dependable, loyal, intelligent) but fail to give examples. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2007 5:06:27 AM | Thanks to everyone for their input - I'll be making some changes this afternoon, and we'll see what people think as a result of that.
Cheers,
Martin. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2007 5:17:08 AM | | The main thing I would change is the photograph. Probably not the best one for a main picture. The paragraph where you say that you would seem to have an overly optimistic view of what women want is probably the major one that I would suggest changing. One person suggested giving examples of how you fit the qualitities, but I am not entirely sure that will fix anything. Perhaps some stories from your life that illustrate the qualities, but do not necessarily explicitly list them. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2007 7:50:43 AM | Ok - there's been a little profile remodelling taking place...
The original photo, you'll be pleased to hear, is now in the dustbin of history...
The idea of giving examples of how I fit qualities is a good one, but difficult to implement. How to you give an example of being loyal in a relationship? As for caring, well - I used to do a lot of volunteer work, but I've given it up now. Still caring though...
Anyway - based on the last time you looked, an improvement? | |
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Posted: 2/24/2007 2:02:12 PM | Overall it seems better, but now you've added a needlessly negative couple of sentences:
My attitude to POF is that it's a means of gaining introductions - you won't be expected to take wedding vows just because you sent me a message. Anyone who thinks that they really know a person solely on the basis of this site (or any other) are fooling themselves in my eyes...
YIKES! Defensive much?!
These pics are an improvement, but a smiling and pleasant expression in them would be better still.
You still have "Nice guy seeking nice girl" as your headline. I can't really get beyond that to see if you've improved anything else. Stop with that, already!! Blergh.
As far as giving an example of being loyal in a relationship, many spring to mind; all fictitious in my case, but still. How about, "I'm the kind of boyfriend who'll defend you to my mother." Or, "I'm the kind of person who never even looks at another woman (please note the use of the word "woman" and not "girl") when I'm in a relationship." Or maybe, "I'll give you the shirt off my back, even if I'm still wearing it."
Hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2007 5:09:56 PM |
These pics are an improvement, but a smiling and pleasant expression in them would be better still.
Well, I'll try - just a case of finding something to smile about...
Actualy, I'm going to Amsterdam in Holland next weekend for a stag night, so perhaps there could be some rather less staged photos involved there...
You still have "Nice guy seeking nice girl" as your headline. I can't really get beyond that to see if you've improved anything else. Stop with that, already!! Blergh.
You see, "Nice guy seeking nice girl" is exactly the kind of image I am trying to create. I'm looking for a quiet, loyal, caring and dependable woman. In return, she will find the same in a man... I'm not overly concerned with looks, which is why I have tried to steer the profile toward personality rather than looks...
However, no point commissioning a critic and then ignoring their criticisms, so it's gone. ..
As far as giving an example of being loyal in a relationship, many spring to mind; all fictitious in my case, but still. How about, "I'm the kind of boyfriend who'll defend you to my mother." Or, "I'm the kind of person who never even looks at another woman (please note the use of the word "woman" and not "girl") when I'm in a relationship." Or maybe, "I'll give you the shirt off my back, even if I'm still wearing it."
Hope this helps.
It does and it doesn't - I believe in being totally honest in these things, and won't make up things just to try and fool a girl into giving me a try... I could draw on things like having spent a number of years working with St. John Ambulance, The Red Cross and HMP Doncaster (prison), but those parts of my life are over...
So, I'll give it some more thought.
Thanks for your time - even though I don't like what you have to say, I can't deny there's a distinct whiff of truth about it...
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Posted: 2/24/2007 9:44:02 PM | Honey, I was giving you EXAMPLES, not telling you to lie! That means YOU get to fill in the REALITY of your own situation. I was simply supplying the sort of format you could possibly, maybe, hypothetically follow.
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Posted: 2/25/2007 3:10:46 AM | lol...
So I need to work on communication as well...
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