| can someone answer me one quick question
Posted: 3/1/2007 8:36:58 PM | | This is for men and women. Why do guys claim to fall in love with you, want to be with you for the rest of their lives, yadayadayada and then suddenly have feelings for another! He wants to be with me but continue to be friends with her and doesnt understand why im hurt? What is this? If you love someone as much as you say you do... how would u fall for another person? | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 8:39:24 PM | I guess they lose interest once they find the girl gives it up to easy. If she does it with me just based on my word, or flattery- then she will fall for anything or anyone. She has to be won or she isn't worth it and a guy will wander off looking for a better catch/ smarter woman who is more valuable.
hows that for a quick answer ? lol | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 8:43:11 PM | young.. dosent know what he wants and he is just getting out in to the world as you are and its like a kid in a toy store oh look at this , oh look at that, i want this, no I want that.
sorry if you got hurt. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 8:45:14 PM | | love is diffeent from being in love. you can love someone after knowing them, you can fall in love just seeing someone, just talking, even just exchanging emails and so on. Also, it is the man's "secreat" and really is not a secret at all, we do everything we can just to get the girl. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 8:46:21 PM | | I would say then, he is just using you, maybe for backup sex or until the right girl comes along. A guy isn't going to pass up on a sure thing but that does not mean he wants to be with you forever or marry you, be with you and only you. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 8:53:32 PM | They shouldnt fall so easily for another woman. And if he cant see that it is hurting you then he may not be worth staying with. I know its tough to do with but I wouldnt put up with it.
You need to express to him that this other woman is hurting the relationship and he needs to make a decision. I hope the best for you. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 8:53:52 PM | ^^^^ Don't mind moon, he can be a bit pessimistic about his fellow man.
Could it be that someone else in his life is also special to him? As a friend? Is there room in your relationship for that? Might be trust issues if the answer is no.
I know that men in these forums get absolutely DESTROYED for trying to insist that their girlfriends not have other guys as friends. They are frequently called controlling and abusive. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 8:56:54 PM | are you still having sex with him?
if you are, cut him off all sex, meals, favors and anything else you provide for him EXCEPT talk and friendship- see if he wants to stick around | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 8:57:18 PM | He wants to keep a female friend and it makes you uncomfortable... so he should stop being her friend because of it?
Sounds like you are a bit insecure. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 9:02:29 PM | Has he defined these "feelings?" I have feelings for my mother. Nothing a girlfriend would have to be concerned about.
(Oh, jeez, that first line is going to fry my profile for awhile, isn't it...) | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 9:04:27 PM | | Maybe you need to elaborate the situation and details more because it sounds to me like he wants to have sex feelings. I could be wrong, so explain the situation better and you will get better answers. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 9:07:24 PM | | well.... we've been together for awhile now and he still claims to be head over heals for me and worst of all he has a relationship with my daughter who is attached to him as well. We hit a rocky patch and have been working on it steady and he started hanging around with her, which is cool with me cause he has girls as friends and i have guys as friends. But then he told me tonight that he has strong feelings for her and he doesnt want to loose me. But hes made it clear that he will not loose her either. I hope that clears up a bit. Im confused too dont worry its been a loooong night | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 9:16:22 PM | her, is "her" your daughter or another woman?
I'm a bit confused here.
If her is another woman, sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it too.
Stop sleeping with him and having sex with him since he has strong feelings for someone else as he could be using that as a ploy to make you jelous.
Its just not right, so get away from it. Him and the situation. Best not to react and do anything until your sure what's going on with him. If you send him off he will let you know one way or another by how he acts.
I hope it works out for you. Your young and attractive. | |
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Jemue
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| can someone answer me one quick question
Posted: 3/1/2007 9:19:43 PM |
This is for men and women. Why do guys claim to fall in love with you, want to be with you for the rest of their lives, yadayadayada and then suddenly have feelings for another! He wants to be with me but continue to be friends with her and doesnt understand why im hurt? What is this? If you love someone as much as you say you do... how would u fall for another person?
I don't think there is any quick answer to that one ! | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 9:21:31 PM | | Yep, I'm with Moon on this one. In fact, I'd go further. I'd send him packing. Just my opinion. And, every post gets me one closer to getting that thing about my mother off my profile. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 9:23:01 PM |
Why do guys claim to fall in love with you, want to be with you for the rest of their lives, yadayadayada
Exactly. Yadda, yadda, yadda. The claim to wish to be with you forever, at such an early stage, that doesn't strike you as strange? How could someone claim such a commitment with hardly any basis? Never mind why they this or that... the real question is, why do you believe them? The real question is, what do you realistically want? | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 10:03:31 PM | NOW THIS JUST ME, AND I CANT SPEAK FOR EVERY GUY OUT THERE, BUT IF WAS INVOLVED WITH A WOMAN, WHERE I HAD FELLINGS OF, "THIS IS THE ONE FOR ME" (BEING YOU) I WOULD INCORPERATE YOU INTO THE FRIENDSHIP AS WELL, I MEAN YOU ARE HIS OTHER HALF RIGHT?.....AND IF THAT WASNT AN OPTION, WELL THEN I WOULD HAVE TO FIND A COMPROMISE.......USALLY OF THE FRIEND, CUZ I REALLY DONT WANT MY GIRL TO HAVE TO COMPROMISE HER FEELINGS IF SHE FEELS REALLY STRONG ON SOMETHING. BUT THATS JUST ME. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 10:11:46 PM | [the her at the bottom is refering to the other girl lol]
I think you let it go out of control. if he tells you and conditions you that he can have you and her and your role is going to be waiting and see what he decides, it will get even more out of control. if you let him to take his time and make a final decision, chances that he will come back - minimal. Tell him, that you appreaciate his honesty and you reserve a right to try seeing other guys too. He made you so dependent on him emotionally, you have to make him realize that can do the same. I think if one part cheats or does something wrong no matter male or female and the other party doesn't respond (not necessarily by the same way) it jusr ruins the relationship. disclaimer - just my thoughts. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2007 9:38:07 AM | There is a big difference between staying friends with another woman and falling for another woman: which is it?
If the friends thing, you have to accept that hes well rounded and will have friends of the opposite sex... just as you should.
If the falling for another thing is what happens, obviously he was wrong / mistaken about his feelings for you, or he was a basterd player kinda guy.
As you can see, totally different dynamics here. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2007 9:41:19 AM | the fact that he is open about his strong feeloings for her is encouraging. I have been in love with 2 women, my wife and an old pal, at the same time. No prob, I was married to one and friends with the other. Remember too there are many kinds/levels of love
We dont love our parents the way we love our pets the way we love our lovers etc etc | |
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