| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 11:06:01 AM | | I'm curious what women think makes a man a good husband or partner in life. I know all the generalities but am curious about the little things, those not seen by the naked eye. What would your top three little things you'd want in your forever? | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 11:13:50 AM | That's a hard question to answer. Every woman is looking for something different.
Right now I'd settle for someone who'll take out the garbage and shovel the driveway for me. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 11:24:29 AM | WOW only top three! A good listener,lover & friend | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 11:29:29 AM | NUMBER 1 for ME: Honesty- I'm a straight up person- so I expect the same- ESPECIALLY IF I am looking at a life partner-
Good communication
Somebody that strives to be sucessful in what ever it is that may be doing-inculding the relationship. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 11:32:08 AM | Thats easy
He watches me when I dance like no one is watching....
He sings to me...
He holds me when I have a bad dream...
He thinks Iam sexy all wet and/or muddy...
He laughs that I always pass out first...
He eats what I cook for him...
He will lie and tell me has also had a bay day to make me feel better...
He knows when it is all too much...
He laughs when I steal HIS sweaters to wear...
He asks me what I want & need when we go shopping...
He holds my hand when Iam scared...
He lets me put HUGE holes in his walls, in fact he hands me the tools to do it!...
He kisses my Boo~Boos~...
He will let me just cry to get it all out there...
He wants to feed me chocolate and cookies in the parking lot...
He lets me pick the take out AND I control the remote...
He likes my coffee...
He always has me standing beside him...
He lets me focus on his beautiful blue eyes while being poked!...
He holds me while I sleep...
He greets me at the front door with beer and Kisses!....
He lets me have 1-10 P.D.As in the parking lots...
He lets me have the whole bed and all of the covers...
He spoons me to comfort me...even though Iam sleeping...
He lets me know when he is proud of me...
He drives my Tonka...
He gives me a Kabillion Kisses...
He adores my cute innocent side, but knows Iam truly a devil...
He watches me doing shooters with the boys from work..and still takes me home...
He kisses me on my ugly days...
He plugs my Tonka in on the cold nights...
He will just stnad still with me...
He hasn't tickled me...YET...
He warms my Tonka for me on the cold mornings...
He wil bring me goodies when Iam trapped somewhere...
He lets me wipe my tears and snot all over his shirt...
He makes me feel like a team...
He takes me to the grocery store...
He will put up with my sister to get to get me faster...
He will spot me when required...
He just seems to know.....
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Kame
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Joined: 2/5/2007
Msg: 6 | |
| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 11:45:16 AM | | Honesty/communication/companionship/some of the same interest as myself/support in all ways/sensitive/being there when I need him/good outlook on life | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 12:01:56 PM | Qualities I admire in a person:
-Honesty
-Compassion
-Respect
-Trust
-Open communication
-Someone who can love unconditionally. Many years ago I had the luxury to have experienced this with someone who gave it back. If you are incapable of this then you are not for me.
-Someone who wants to get to know me and like me as much as I want to like him.
-Say what you mean and mean what you say. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 12:29:09 PM | >>2. Vulnerability
Ok, I'm going to call you out on this one...you know how guys are always posting "bad boy" threads ad nauseum, until you ladies are sick of it?
Well, the reason guys do that is because we see a dichotomy between what women say they want (your #2) and the guys they really go for.
Which brings up the subject of....
>>1. Honesty!
>>3. Sense of self
Ok, now you're getting too cosmic for me...
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 1:11:18 PM | Hey yum/yuck/yikes, how ya doing? It's been awhile!!
My top 3 would have to be (in no particular order)
sense of humor
understanding
and compassion
I could make this a top 10 list....but you only wanted 3, so for today, I'll be  | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 1:27:13 PM | | ~Jolie~ has got it right on the money, It's alot of those "little things" that really make the difference. Continuous little reminders that shows us you still care and are thinking about us. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 1:30:29 PM | The man who, when faced with a decision, would rather do what's right instead of what feels good. The man who understands what honor means and prays for the fortitude to have it. The man who understands sacrifice and sees the value of making it.
The man who seeks to love, but more importantly to learn HOW to love and to give with the measure which he's been given.
To me, that is a good man. | |
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Raine
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Joined: 1/22/2007
Msg: 13 | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 2:16:55 PM | BEST FRIEND
and everything else (like everyone else has mentioned) should fall right into place. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 2:43:44 PM | ^^^^I like that definition,Java..
Best friend...only with fringe benefits. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 3:15:23 PM | | ya... just not a FWB.... has to be the full meal deal! haha | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 5:29:08 PM | hmmmmmm I can sum it up with 1 word..
integrity
(I think this one word holds most of the other characters that I desire.. )
AND incredible sex!!!! a MUST!!!
C~ | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 6:01:03 PM | >>hmmmmmm I can sum it up with 1 word..
integrity
Like colors, integrity comes in all shades. Would you really want a husband who would give up his job before doing something he felt was wrong?
Because that is a form of integrity.
Would you really not mind eating beans and weiners while he looked for another job? | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 6:08:22 PM | I think Jolie nailed it, but Ive been there done that with someone who didnt do the same, so it all depends on what stage the girl/woman is at in her life. My advice if you find someone you want to do everything for, pray shes not an only child. Ah, thats not fair, it all depends on the female. Some girls just dont know what they want.
Side note : why is it so damn hard to find a girl that wants that? | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 6:10:26 PM | | Ive given up a great job for someone before, because I knew it would affect our relationship. Jobs come and go, true love doesnt. Heh, but make sure it's true love, Ive learned that mistake. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 6:36:12 PM | well let me think about this one here... Smith2267
if he felt strongly enough in his conviction YES as his wife I would stand by him 100% as he would do the same for me. Since a marriage is a partnership.
Look at all of the other things that integrity falls under.. honesty (comes communication), honorable (a nobility, self worth, understanding, empathy, compassion...etc.)
I would rather be with someone that can face himself daily in the mirror and likes who he is rather then be with someone that is corrupt, no conscience or a spine willing to fold for anyone.
could never fault someone for being true.
*** everything these days comes in all different shades... *** It all depends on what shade of it you are looking at ...
C~ | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 8:16:00 PM | [2. Vulnerability
Ok, I'm going to call you out on this one...you know how guys are always posting "bad boy" threads ad nauseum, until you ladies are sick of it?
Well, the reason guys do that is because we see a dichotomy between what women say they want (your #2) and the guys they really go for.]
I want vulnerability, not sappy. I want him to tell me his inner most secrets and desires, his fears, his disguises, his self esteem problems, his self worth issues, his happiest moments, his saddest hours. I can't be vulnerable to someone who pretends they have it all together.
But please, don't do all of this while we're meeting for coffee for the first time.
And while I'm here....don't talk about marriage, even as a joke, on our first date!!!!!!!! | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 8:17:43 PM | >>And while I'm here....don't talk about marriage, even as a joke, on our first date
Agreement on that. I won't if you won't.
>>But please, don't do all of this while we're meeting for coffee for the first time.
I might confess to being nervous on a first date; after all, we are both human, aren't we? Confessing to a bit of nervousness breaks the ice, I think; of course, I don't get a lot of dates, so maybe I don't know what the hell I'm talking about. | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 9:06:50 PM | "those not seen by the naked eye"
Smells Good
Tastes Good
Feels Good
 The devil made me say it
Seriously, though...Honest, Loyal, Caring/thoughtful | |
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| A good husband/man?
Posted: 3/2/2007 11:26:21 PM | OMG, if they listened or heard what woman say lol! Trust me we repeat our selves so much that if you guys just got it the first time you would be one super happy camper LMAO | |
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