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Posted: 3/3/2007 8:34:58 PM | | its really terrifyin for me cuz i finds it difficult to start a conversation with a girl i jus met..i usually see many girls whom i like and i finds it difficult to start a conversation with her cuz i run out of words | |
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Posted: 3/3/2007 8:51:53 PM | sooooooo...........are you posting here to ask for advice, or simply making a statement?
help me out, here...... | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:52:46 PM | | i really need some help out here cuz i really finds it dificult to start a conversation. any advices please | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:58:53 PM | | Try a remark about the weather. That is a safe bet. Then it is polite conversation, with an easy out if it is not going well. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 9:02:51 PM | Im sorry .. i can't help in this department...
I got no problem talking to men I don't find physically interested in...
Now if I see a  dear God.. I completely run in the other direction, avoid eye contact and hope he won't come up to me...
Some do.. I start studdering, and look like a goof... or just plain rude as if someone pissed in my cereal this morning.. so ya.. sorry bud... Im just useless in this "approaching attractive person" thing...
NOte: do not do the things I do... | |
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Posted: 4/16/2008 9:04:20 PM | First off, lose the "txt spk". While women will look past the occasional spelling error using words like "cuz", "terrifyin" and "jus" are a turn off. Your profile says that you are in college, so write like it please. Oh, and please learn to use the "shift" key so you can write the word "I" instead of "i". I'm pretty sure all keyboards have them nowadays.
Secondly, write a nice message and mention a couple of things from her profile. I am guessing from your post here that you are starting conversations over IM. Try writing a message first before IMing her.
Most importantly, be yourself. Focus on the positive things and leave any negativity behind.... just be honest.
Good luck and happy fishing! | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 7:13:24 AM | Ah, I see N*Love... that's why you have trouble talking to me. 
OP... you need to build your confidence.
I think part of the problem, is that you're not looking at it as just a conversation, you're seeing it as trying to impress the lady.
Don't do that. You put way too much pressure on yourself.
Just be yourself... relax... and talk. Just like you would with anyone else.
You're going to want her to like you for who you are... so just show her that. Don't try to put on a show, or act in ways you don't normally. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 8:27:26 AM | gag and tape their mouth up, tie her up then put her in the boot of your car.
Then laugh and joke about it later, defo an ice breaker  | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 11:03:27 AM | | To start a conversation is easy, in an email pick out things about their profile that you liked or are similar to your interests etc, the same on the phone or IM or in person. Find common ground and build off of that. Some people are better conversationalists than others, but sticking to things you have in common gives you a base and work off of that. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 11:27:11 AM |
start a conversation with her cuz i run out of words
You could try visiting Dictionary.com and begin extending your vocabularly.
Just teasing. Seriously though, I dunno why you have such a problem dude. Some people have the gift of the gab in one area and others not. Personally, women are of no concern for me. Public speaking, on the other hand, makes me very nervous. MC'ing at a wedding or conducting a presentation makes my testicles swell and contract.
Here are some tips:
1) Start reading newspaper(s) -- keeping up with popular culture makes for interesting conversation, unless the person your communicating with lives under a rock, in which case you could probably get with some primitive grunts and hissses.
2) Read self improvement books. I'm currently reading (for about the 9th time) "Think and Grow Rich" by Napolean Hill. It's an excellent book and a good picker upper.
3) Start talking to yourself in the mirror, pretend that woman you've always wanted is right there in front of you.
Perhaps the best thing to do is constantly tell yourself "you can do it" -- the power of auto-suggestion -- use it!
Cheers :) | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 11:48:59 AM |
i really need some help out here cuz i really finds it dificult to start a conversation. any advices please
I have the gift of gab. Practice with both men and women of different intellectual levels. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 12:19:38 PM |
its really terrifyin for me cuz i finds it difficult to start a conversation with a girl i jus met..i usually see many girls whom i like and i finds it difficult to start a conversation with her cuz i run out of words
If you've gotten past the "when to approach" dilemma, said hi, introductions...then you're partway there!
If you can't think of things to say, then ask questions. Get interesting and ask her about her life, fun, goals, etc. Not the usual "so what do you do?" but more start with where she is from, then ask about her place she's from and such.
If she's only giving you short answers and it seems like you're trying to force a conversation out of her (and not asking you anything), then I would probably suggest politely saying goodnight and move on. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 1:01:38 PM | Really, there is no magic here...you just have to suck it up and say "Hi". There is no way to get over your fear except for doing the very thing you are afraid of.
I speak from experience. I still get nervous occassionally, but just go for it. It's not as bad as you think it is.
As for keeping the convo going...ask lots of questions, and really pay attention to what she says, so you can use that as a jumping off point for more convo. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 3:17:11 PM | | Remember that it is hard for everyone. Just relax and ask questions you really want to know. The more you find out about her and her responses, hopefully she will ask you questions. From there if it's right, it just goes. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 7:15:53 PM | | Just don't start the conversation with greetings like..hi boo..or hey sexy...those are just annoying to hear...especially if you know her name. Women are people too...just talk to us like you would any friend about regular every day stuff. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 8:23:38 PM | 1. RELAX. Seriously. People are just people, and it's rare that they will jump all over you.
2. Be yourself. If you're not, they'll figure it out eventually anyway and then there will be trouble. Unless you're a flaming a$$...then...uh...be someone else.
3. Use the surroundings: if you're at a party, talk about the people throwing it or about other guests you both know or about the venue or house where it's held or whatever. If you're at a bar, talk about the bar - the decor, compare it to other places, bring up things you know that have happened there, etc.
4. Don't think of them as girls you just met. Just think of them as people. You have no problem talking to your male friends or girls you've known for a while, so just make like you've known them for a while.
5. Talk about current events or music or books or movies or whatever you do with your spare time.
6. It gets easier the more you do it, I swear.
Good luck out there... | |
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Posted: 4/17/2008 8:36:26 PM |
I have the gift of gab. Practice with both men and women of different intellectual levels.
Hahaha...what would you define as different intellectual levels? Personally, I find most people are about the same, each with unique knowledge in their field.
I guess you could walk into a military test labratory and request to speak with people who've had botched brain surgery attempts...but you wouldn't learn much about intereacting with people talking to vegatable.
Women are people too...just talk to us like you would any friend about regular every day stuff
The difference being that most guys could care less about getting into their buddies pants...a vagina is like a mans kryptonite...it renders every guy retarded.  | |
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Posted: 4/18/2008 12:03:17 AM | Do like the Nike advert says and Just Do It!
It will be difficult at first, but not as difficult as it seems in your mind.
If you really struggle with this I can reccoment www.charismaarts.com
Lots of useful tips for approaching women and having a good conversation. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2008 12:30:19 AM | My advice is always the same on this issue.
See pretty, approach pretty girl. Do not think, take action. Smile!!! Look into her eyes and stand up tall. Speak in a clear voice with an even tone. Say "Hi, you are so cute, I had to meet you. My name is (state your name)." Offer to shake hands. Ask her "What's your name." Follow this with an open ended question.
After a few minutes you can ask for her phone number. If she gives it to you stay and talk a few minutes more. Call her within 48 hours. She may pick up, she may not.
Don't be afraid to touch her a little on the arm or to put your arm around her or even hug her. Do not ask for permission! If she gets pissed, so what? You are learning and you can't know where the line is until you cross it many, many times.
Do this with 100 girls. By the time you get to the 100th you will know how to talk to them. You may even have a girlfriend.
Good Luck
~Scoundrel~ | |
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Posted: 4/18/2008 5:17:46 AM | | it is the same with me...I can speak and approach the ones I am not interested in but ask me to approach someone I really like and then I will be gone... | |
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Posted: 4/18/2008 5:19:28 AM | | and another thing when I get approached by women I don't even think they might be interested in me so I see them as new friends...basically I am doomed. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2008 5:33:02 AM | no-jokes,
being lost for words is sure a sign of true love,
just to look into her eyes, to see he smile, to hear her voive....
but that is something deeper than many of the muscle bound emotionless ppl on here would know | |
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Posted: 4/18/2008 6:03:02 AM |
no-jokes,
being lost for words is sure a sign of true love,
just to look into her eyes, to see he smile, to hear her voive....
but that is something deeper than many of the muscle bound emotionless ppl on here would know
This may be true, but whenever I've been in love I have found that words flow freely.
What I have found is that being lost for words is a sign of not being comfortable in a situation. And the OP is talking about first approaching a woman. If you're in love with a woman that you haven't even spoken to yet, then I think you have issues. Unless you've been secretly stalking her for some time..... In fact no. You have even bigger issues then!  | |
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Posted: 4/18/2008 8:18:50 AM | If your asking about emailing someone from here I find it easy to see who has viewed you and if you see them interesting just drop an email that says
" I seen you peeping " why don't you come on in and chat with me ?
then take it from there.
JMO | |
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