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 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
Msg: 1
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I have the opportunity to begin dating a 60 yr old woman. My question is do ladies this age still have sexual interest? More or less, than in their 40's? I do not want to invest the time/effort into a courtship, if the woman isn't likely to be interested in sex. And, we just met, so I don't feel I can simply ask her.
 RussetAutumnRose
Joined: 1/27/2007
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Posted: 3/6/2007 12:55:56 PM
It depends on the woman. I enjoy sex a lot more now than I did at 40, but I may be the exception to the rule. You would probably need to ask her, or just wait and see. In all honesty, I don't know why any woman wouldn't still be interested in sex at 60, unless there were health issues. When I meet a man, if we're interested in each other, they never have any reservations about asking me if I'm still interested in sex. As a matter of fact, they always ask me that, for the same reason you're asking here. The men I'm with are usually younger than me, so naturally, they want to know that.
 alexandria_gal
Joined: 9/4/2006
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Posted: 3/6/2007 12:57:23 PM
I love it when people ask other people questions that can't be answered by anyone but the person involved. There are as many different kinds of 60 year old women as there are women that age.

Anyone older than 35 or 40 can start to experience some age related sexual dysfunction. How soon depends on their health. So if she's in good shape, it's more likely she'd be interested in sex. Of course that doesn't mean she is going to be interested in sex with you.

BTW, how old do you think the woman you are going to date will be anyway? 25?

My advice is to be more interested in the lady and less interested in getting into her pants, because if she catches wind she'll be gone. I think you pretty much eliminated the possibility of getting dates off this site after posting this thread.

 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
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Posted: 3/6/2007 1:01:57 PM
No doubt, you are right & I need to ask her. Which I will do, eventually, but I figured I would ask here, first, and if I got resounding "No, their not's", then I wouldn't need to invest the time in getting close enuf to here, to even ask.
 RussetAutumnRose
Joined: 1/27/2007
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Posted: 3/6/2007 1:07:27 PM
Again, it doesn't matter what answers you get here. No one can answer that about her, but her. At your age, why would you be reluctant to ask her, if that's important to you? It's not like either of you are teenagers. She may be wondering the same thing about you. Seems an odd question coming from a man of your age.
 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
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Posted: 3/6/2007 1:07:28 PM
BTW, how old do you think the woman you are going to date will be anyway? 25?

What a wonderful idea! Not very likely, tho. Why would this question put off any women on this site, IF they were still sexually active? I don't get it. (Only too true, too many times!)
 counsellorTroi
Joined: 4/4/2006
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Posted: 3/6/2007 1:34:24 PM
I had an over-60 woman ask me about sexual dysfunction in her husband. She was missing it! So my guess would be that it is definitely still there, but may be less of an important factor as we age...

I personally wouldn't date a 25 year old so can't imagine what a 60 year old would see in one.
 alexandria_gal
Joined: 9/4/2006
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Posted: 3/6/2007 2:04:01 PM
Why would this question put off any women on this site, IF they were still sexually active?


I wouldn't want to think that was the first thing he was interested in. I guess my take on things is that if you fall in love you can pretty much fix anything.

My boyfriend has had some health issues, but we haven't let that stop us. Where there's a will, there's a way.

 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
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Posted: 3/6/2007 2:40:15 PM
I wouldn't want to think that was the first thing he was interested in.


Then, why the advice that I should just ask her? Also, the above quote is exactly why I don't feel comfortable with straight out asking her, at the very start.

I also realize no answers here can apply to her, specifically. I am just asking if most women 60 or older still have a sex drive.
 Nick Thinker
Joined: 2/10/2007
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Posted: 3/6/2007 6:27:40 PM
Alexandria,
Tom asked an honest to him question. What was wrong with that? No need to discourage honest questions is it, especially since it is well known that only a small % of POFes participates in the forums, don't you agree? And who says that we are in the Forums to attract POFers via PC posts?
 Anabolic
Joined: 2/20/2007
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Posted: 3/6/2007 9:35:02 PM
I know of lady who is 68. Young in mind , youthful in heart and deligtfully shaped through years of exercise and good eating habits. And quite smart and current .


She would beech slap you silly for evening thinking such an ageist question.

Sexual dullards are not exclusively in the senior category.
 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
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Posted: 3/6/2007 9:52:40 PM
Anabolic,

Hopefully, I will get away with the question, without the senior ladys assualting me, simply because I, too, am in this age bracket, and us old guys couldn't handle much of that beech slappin'.
 blastkissed
Joined: 2/9/2007
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Posted: 3/6/2007 10:03:41 PM
Well, I figure if I'm not horny at 60, I'll darn well FAKE that I'm horny.

Use it or lose it, right?

Now I just need to figure out how to get the old bugger to chase me around the porch. Incentive is important, you know...do you think beer and a a football game will still work at 60?
 alexandria_gal
Joined: 9/4/2006
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Posted: 3/6/2007 10:06:24 PM
LOL, well I really like Anabolic's reply, but honestly I wouldn't want to go out with a guy that wanted to know the exact conditions of my sex organs and libido as a "quid pro quo" for going out with me.

What ever happened to going out on a date and just seeing how it goes over time? I wasn't suggesting that you ask the lady if she was interested in sex on the first date. There might be many reasons that the relationship doesn't progress to the sex stage other than lack of libido.

You know, you're 57 years old, and there are many more men your age who are sexually dysfunctional than women in the same age category. So by that standard, maybe it's your lady friend who should be giving out the "sexual questionnaire" to make sure she knows your preference in ED treatments.

Apparently no one has let you in on the little secret that the biggest sexual organ is the brain. So if you've got a relationship, you have attraction, you have tender feelings going, sex is going to follow.

 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2007 1:05:10 AM
My dwindling sex drive with age, is exactly why I asked this question. Medical science came up with Viagra to keep us old men, in the game & there may be simular for women also, but if so I've never heard of it.

Basically, my reason for asking the question, is I want to have some idea, if the lady is going to still have a sexual interest, before I launch a "courtship," only to drop it, if she has retired from sex. Wouldn't putting a big courtship on, then dropping it, if I found she had already lost interest in sex, be classified as a "game?" And, the most common thing, I have found on POF profiles, is "no game players!"

Obviously, I don't have that many years left in the sexual game, myself, but I don't intend to waste what I do have left, therefore, I am trying asking this question here, to prevent being labeled a "game player". I really expected some help from the "fish" ladies on this question, but so far, it seems I merely set myself up, to be the dummy over in the corner, for you ladies to go over and bitc* slap, anytime you feel men in general need it.

Are you ladies telling me to court this lady for a month or so, and develop enuf closeness, with her, to simply ask her? If I do that, and her answer is "no, I've gave up sex," would I be expected to accept this & continue the courtship, or be justifyably labeled a game player for running?

Oh, yes, this lady is a "fish", met off this site, & yes, I realize there is an excellent chance, she will see these posts. However, I not sure that would be a bad thing, either. At least, it would let her know, I am interested in courting her, & that I have this sex question. Might be an easier method than simply trying to come out of the blue with the topic.

And, it seems very obvious that I am going to have to ask HER, as the ladies in this pond, are being very little help. 2-3 have attemped to answer my question, others are too busy implying I'm an a$$, for even thinking about it, before we have dated numerous times. why do you ladies ask for "no game players", then tell me to risk being one?

And, I couldn't/wouldn't ask her any such thing on the first date! Actually, the first date was lunch today, & already over with. I simply find myself interested in the woman, but don't want to waste either's time, with a courtship, if sex is simply not going to be in the cards, farther down the line. If this makes me an a$$hole, then guess I plead guilty as charged!
 pazoozoo
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2007 1:18:20 AM
I'll let you know in about a year. So far, the spirit is willing, but the opportunities become fewer. Wonder what the guys down in the nursing home are doing tonight?
 tom42149
Joined: 11/23/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2007 1:37:31 AM
Joking about the guys at the nursing home, hit home. I did 6 months in a nursing home, healing from a motorcycle wreck, 13 yrs ago. Upon healing enuf for release, I promptly inpregnated the CNA who cared for me while in the home. Did my duty & married her, then. She had our daughter, & suddenly it was divorce court. where to her surprise, I fought for & won child custody.
I knew being a Mr. Mom was going to be a struggle, but I have never regreted it. Of course, the real struggle is just now beginning. And, I'll freely admit, raising a teen-age daughter scares the Bejesus, out of me!
 pazoozoo
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2007 1:55:17 AM
lol tom. I just figured since they were on walkers and in wheel chairs, I might could catch 'em.
 alexandria_gal
Joined: 9/4/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2007 5:34:29 AM
At the current time there aren't a lot of options for restoring sexual function in women. One is the testosterone patch, but it's controversial. An investigational ED compound called bremelanotide, that works on melanocortin-4 receptors, is being studied for both male and female sexual dysfunction. The compound will be entering phase III clinical trials this year. This is the last phase before a drug is submitted to the FDA for approval. Phase III efficacy trials last one year. Depending on whether the FDA requires a one year safety-extension phase (common for new molecules -- and likely for this drug), bremelanotide could be on drug store shelves in a little as three years, but more likely four.

http://www.bremolanotide.com/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bremelanotide

Also see this press release showing efficacy on sexual desire in females:

http://www.palatin.com/news/news.asp?ID=174

This press release contains highlights of study results on diabetic and non-diabetic men:

http://www.palatin.com/news/news.asp?ID=163

I'm not telling you to be a "game-player" but to go out on a date at 57 just like you would at the age of 25. You weren't asking women about their sexual abilities then, were you? People may slow down as they age, but they usually don't totally lose interest in sex. If they have become that disaffected, they don't want to date in the first place.

If your lady friend is totally not into sex you'll see her treating you like a friend right off the bat rather than like a potential boyfriend. The signals are pretty easy to see. So give it some time. It's not like you're going to have to date her for a year to find out.

I don't know why at the age of 57 you feel you don't have many years left in the sexual game. Many people have sex until they are very old. In later years it may no longer involve sexual intercourse -- and with new drugs coming out that may also be changing. Bremelanotide is only one of many, many new, better performing ED drugs in development.

Maybe that will take away your sense of urgency that you are having your "last hurrah".

 Missing Marble
Joined: 11/9/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2007 6:11:43 AM
Geeeeezzzzz....I dunno. I can't say I've ever had the pleasure of dating a 60 year old woman.

I have seen them buying lube though. *shrugs*
 Arugula
Joined: 11/5/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2007 6:14:05 AM
I'm confused Tom. Didn't you just get engaged on bended knee this Valentine's Day?
 Missing Marble
Joined: 11/9/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2007 8:01:54 AM
^^^ He did, but he's gotten that leg straightened out since then. Obviously. Heeeeeee!

OT: Yeah, 60 year olds still drive. I see em all the time.
 Arugula
Joined: 11/5/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2007 8:18:36 AM
^^^I just thought he might want to ask his intended before he hits the 60 year old.
 GvMeUrAttn
Joined: 4/4/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2007 10:39:58 AM
My god- I hope mine doesn't dwindle away as I get older.... WTF would I do then........huh?
 JaCoL
Joined: 3/27/2006
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Posted: 3/7/2007 11:22:14 AM
hahahahhaha what the ****..
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