| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/6/2007 6:04:03 PM | I am 34 going on 35 in a few weeks, and for some reason I attract younger men. I mean way younger like 21 - 26. I have dated these men (boys), and have a lot of "fun", but find I need more stimulating conversation, intelligence and knowing what they want in a relationship; but men my age don't really respond to my profile or approach me when I go out.
I would like to attract men my own age; but honestly need some advice.
All of my married and "in a relationship friends" think I have it made but I am tired of walking into an empty apartment every night, going to bed alone, going to functions alone, being the third wheel and waking up on the weekend turning over and having no one there to smile at. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/6/2007 6:21:23 PM | | Some do shy away from mid 30`s and no kids. They are looking for fun, no comitment as they might have kids already. Best advice is to just keep dating, going out and having fun. The person for you is out there. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/6/2007 6:26:50 PM | Ok, I am totally guessing here, because I have so much self confidence, that it often sets off fire alarms, and sends the average villager scrounging for a safe hiding place.
But seriously. Looking at your picture, it is obvious that you are VERY attractive, and look younger then your age.
Some older guys, or perhaps guys in your age group as well, might find you an unrealistic proposition. Not sure if I worded that right.
Us old farts hate to get turned down. Our egos are too fragile. Opps, did I just say “us?” Well of course I meant everyone but me.
Since you are so pretty, it would take a guy with a lot of self confidence, or a “What the hell” attitude to have the courage to walk up to you at the supermarket, and ask if you could help pick out mellons.
I have heard it said, that some of the most attractive females often times do not get hit on. There is a reason for that. Us guys tend to go with a possibility, rather then reaching for the stars.
Also, some might wonder that even if you were interested in us, would we have to constantly beat off those young studs who are interested in you. You know, after 40, a guy can only break so many young necks, before they need a nap.
However, the good news for the unapproachably beautiful women out there, is that most guys do not feel negative towards a female who makes the first move. Actually, it’s a great ego booster, so take the reigns by the deer, find someone you find attractive, and say “hello.”.
Ahem, I’m just a click away, by the way.  | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/6/2007 6:39:19 PM | | U look younger and that may be why you are attracting younger man which is great. I would suggest going to places where its an older crowd... some clubs have "grown and sexy" night which is more for our age group. Also try approaching or responding to a profile you may like. Some men may feel intimadated because of your beauty. Your situation is not unique ...men are scared to approach so they look but never say anything so if u see someone your interested in you may have to be a little aggressive. Good luck | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/6/2007 6:44:41 PM | | ok, I will admit, I NEVER make the first move, for real..... beleive it or not, although I am confident, I would rather someone approach me rather than be rejected by someone I thought I would like to get to know | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/6/2007 7:05:36 PM | Hi Wenlex
To be honest its quite true that men are very flattered when approached by a women. To be honest I find that women more interesting than if I was the one making the first move.
I think we all know by this time if you don't take the initiative sometimes, you may miss the boat.
Something to think about.
I looked at your profile and to be honest I am quite surprised you don't have a lot of requests to know you more.
Your very attractive, you seem to have a great personality and one of the biggest things, is that you know what you want 
All I can say if you were in my neck of the woods, I would be more than interested 
Wish you the best | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/6/2007 7:40:11 PM | ok, I will admit, I NEVER make the first move, for real..... beleive it or not, although I am confident, I would rather someone approach me rather than be rejected by someone I thought I would like to get to know
Try going to places that have n older crowd and simply standing next to someone you find attractive...If you are uncomfortable making the first move,,just make it eeasy for them to do so.. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/6/2007 7:45:16 PM |
I think we all know by this time if you don't take the initiative sometimes, you may miss the boat
I know what this man speaks of, lol. You snooze, you lose sometimes.
You are certainly attractive enough to not have to worry about rejection issues much, and you are undoubtedly intelligent. I don't really see how you would have trouble attracting who you are looking for.
Flirt Wenlex, flirt ;-) Don't be afraid to go after what you are looking for; you only live once.
You know, now that I think of it, I've been experiencing the same problem, lol. Now that I think of it, I haven't dated anyone older than me yet, and the closest I've come to my age was 3.5 years younger. It's sometimes interesting (read: challenging) because of differences in interest in conversation subject matter....
Hmmmmmmm.... While I guess this is something to think about, it's important to keep in mind that usually by mid 20's +, maturity is less of a challenge. It's perhaps WHO we end up attracting as the more important issue than what age they are (assume mid 20's +). | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/7/2007 3:53:08 AM | Wenlex I have the same problem. The day I turned 30, and I kid you not. Men my own age quit replying to me and the young 20 year old replies went up. From what I gather and I could be way off on this is that I'm too old for the 30 year olds as they are busy chasing the younger ladies. The younger lads think that because we are in our 30's our hormones are off the wall and they want to "learn". 
It's a vicious cycle and a very cruel joke. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/7/2007 4:15:04 AM |
All of my married and "in a relationship friends" think I have it made but I am tired of walking into an empty apartment every night, going to bed alone, going to functions alone, being the third wheel and waking up on the weekend turning over and having no one there to smile at.
Feral identifies. Sucks.
As for "older men", I'm guessing we're calling dudes in their thirties "old" for this? I don't see why some guys act like that, but it happens. Maybe they're into younger chicks, or they've got the cultural delusion that women in their thirties (and up) want to "settle down", and the guys just don't dig that. I dunno. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/7/2007 8:32:41 AM | | I have the same problem wenlex the last email i got was from a 25 yo and im 37 i either receive from 20 something or 50 somethings when i do get into a conversation with someone my own age they want to hook up for sex or they talk to me for a day or 2 then nothing but i got loads of offers from people my dads age now i know im not the prettiest flower in the garden but im not a weed and like you im tired of doing everything alone and the only interaction i have is with children i myself would like to know where all the 30 somethings are lol | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/7/2007 8:33:10 AM | Tough to comment on your situation considering you’re gorgeous!!!
Just be yourself and take some of the pressure off yourself.
No, I don’t shy away but it often feels as if Women in there 30’s are less easy going due to increased life pressures and can be much more judgmental. Does this person meet my standards regarding love, sex, family, relationships, etc.?
This isn’t a bad thing per se but it can be tough to get to know someone if they are preoccupied.
Women in there 20’s are more easy going and are open to all possibilities (love, sex, family) Dating in women in their 20’s (when I was much closer to their age  ) can be crazy, silly but almost always fun.
Women in there 40’s seem to be more comfortable with who they are and less stressed.
Just my 3 cents | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/7/2007 9:06:55 AM | There has been a theory presented that the 'power' in dating scenarios changes hands in the 30's. Only as applied to reasonably attractive, unattached people who have no MAJOR calamities in their immediate lives and are looking for LTRs ONLY..... I've heard it phrased similarly to this:
When in their 20's women have the 'upper hand' in that they can date the entire age range of males, almost effortlessly, if they choose to do so. During this phase guys are restricted to women w/in a few years of their own age (keep in mind this is for LTRs only). Once men reach the age where they have aquired the traits traditionally attractive to women (confidence, style, social graces, financial security, life goals, ability to communicate effectively, etc.) then those men can be more pro-active about those ages which they chose to date.
Guys in their 30's having these traits, who actively want to get married have a pretty wide selection....those who just want to date have their choice, too.
I'm not sure I entirely agree w/ this....but there may be a certain amount of validity for men w/ alot to offer + good looks (which I'd presume you'd have to posess to catch the OP's eye).
As others have suggested, OP...you'd be way more successful by contacting those who appeal to you. You are already doing something non-traditional...why not make the most efficient use of your time? | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/7/2007 9:37:43 AM | Wenlex,
You are now in the same situation that many of us, both women and men, have been in for some time.
Dating is hard and finding the right one even harder. Many of us do not want to be alone, and look forward to finding another that we can relate to on many levels. You are now there and wanting more than what you currently have.
You are good looking and want men to approach you because of your shyness and insecurity with the dating game, yet you expect men to not feel that way and approach you.....why is that????
Many of us wait to be approached, or given the proper signals for getting to know another, and if not done, we let it go also. To many women seem annoyed by men hitting on them, or bothering them when out, so many of us just let it go and wait for you to approach us or pass by and talk for a few seconds, or ask a question, giving us the signal that you might want to know us better.
You now have the ability, as do many of us with our maturity, to attract those in their 20's, 30's, 40's, and yes 50's too. Maybe it is time to put the age thing to bed and just find someone you can relate to on all levels, no matter the age, and go for it???
Just my opinion.....  | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/7/2007 9:58:44 AM | Guys in their 30's having these traits, who actively want to get married have a pretty wide selection....those who just want to date have their choice, too.I'm not sure I entirely agree w/ this....but there may be a certain amount of validity for men w/ alot to offer + good looks (which I'd presume you'd have to posess to catch the OP's eye).
I also think this can have someting to do with younger men wanting to date 40's women.
Many of us have acquired all the trappings of the good life and are not necessarliy particularly worried about rushing to the alter... or what a man's profession is...as long as he is self supporting..Get used to you nger men hitting on you as I have found it happens more and more..I just gave myself a "cut off point" and other than that take each person as an individual. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2007 10:19:09 AM | Wenlex:
I think that it would be flattering to be propositioned by younger women myself.. but speaking as a 34 year old male myself.. i can state that i find myself attracted to older women.. for many reasons.
But lets face facts.. at 21-28 any straight Male would bang a hole in the wall if it had a pulse, some hair and was warm. Albeit, its not what you are looking for.. i'd chalk it up to the 'Flattered' category and pleasantly either dismiss them or ignore them. Some of these kids can be real 'pigs' if u know what i mean.. also.. they could be LYINg simply to try and appeal more desirable.
Myself.. i steer clear of anything under 30 yrs old basically because at 30, most women have everything going on in their lives.. peak everything adult-wise.. and whether women know it or not.. men can almost see the sexuality emmitting from women even in pictures. Myself included.. your picture is of someone who is very beautiful and happy.
aahh to be in my 20's again.. see for a 20 yr old male.. its tough as heck.. girls/women your own age tend to have more fleeting interests.. in my case, the girls my age wanted that 'older man, sugar daddy' thing going on.. and these same older sugardaddies.. want a women under 25.. some get really disgusting tho.. there should be NO connection between a 15 uear old and a 49 year old.. ever.. male OR female.. but thats my opinion.
to sum it up.. you deserve the flattery.. soak it up.. enjoy it.. theres no need to respond or even reply if you dont have any interest. These people ALL know that's part of the game we all play here.. Trial and error.
Heck.. if u lived nearby, id wanna knock on your door myself..
sadly, distance is the romantic killer most of the time. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/7/2007 12:28:29 PM | | I've always preferred women close to my age--no matter what age I've been. This is because I have more in common with them than women younger or older. I could be totally wrong, but men or women who only date significantly younger or older people usually have an agenda for doing so. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/7/2007 3:40:55 PM | | I do get requests; but alas as we all know, our pictures play a bigger part in this online game than our profiles. A lot of the guys that contact me do not even come close to wanting the things I put in my profile, i.e. kids | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/7/2007 5:42:21 PM | | I'm 47. I stay away from women in their 30's. It's not because I want to. It's because they want me to. Someone in their 30's would have to approach me. It would never occur to me to approach a woman under 44. Even 44 is pushing it. In fact, come to think of it, I don't approach any women of any age. I guess I am not the one to ask. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/7/2007 6:53:57 PM | [
Ok, I am totally guessing here, because I have so much self confidence, that it often sets off fire alarms, and sends the average villager scrounging for a safe hiding place.
Us old farts hate to get turned down. Our egos are too fragile. Opps, did I just say “us?” Well of course I meant everyone but me.
because I have so much self confidence
Our egos are too fragile 
some might wonder that even if you were interested in us, would we have to constantly beat off those young studs who are interested in you. (What happened to the testosterone driven ego???) 
However, the good news for the unapproachably beautiful women out there, is that most guys do not feel negative towards a female who makes the first move. Actually, it’s a great ego booster, so take the reigns by the deer, find someone you find attractive, and say “hello.
"Cause if you don't, the truly un-approachable male will never be seen!"
No offense intended, y'all do the math here!
God Bless
Scott | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/7/2007 7:05:27 PM | It was actually a nice and spiritual, and enlightening approach. I just found a lot of rhetorical and somewhat ego-boosting statements. On the low n low, he had a nice view.
Old news to an "Old fart" as myself....
God Bless
Scott | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/8/2007 2:13:32 AM |
I have heard it said, that some of the most attractive females often times do not get hit on. There is a reason for that. Us guys tend to go with a possibility, rather then reaching for the stars.
This is what I tell myself when I'm feeling blue lol.
I can emphathize though with the younger guys hitting on you though and not those in your age group or reasonably above. Guys in the appropriate age group rarely approach me. Yet the other day at the bus stop I had a car load of really young guys screaming at me "I love you, will you marry me princess!!" lol.
It's an ego boost but it would be nice to attract someone in the age group I'm looking for....and who umm, doesn't scream out car windows. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/8/2007 6:44:18 AM | | I prefer women in their 30s but they are afraid of my age...which is truly just a number in my case. I work with tons of women in their 20s and 30s and they all do not think I look or act my age. And they cannot believe I do not have someone in my life. | |
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| Do older men stay away from women in their 30's?
Posted: 3/8/2007 9:37:25 AM | I do not stay away from most woman when it comes to age. I have dated younger women who are much more together and mature than many twice their age, and I have dated women older than I am and enjoyed every minute of it.....
What I look for, and I hope those looking at me, are the qualities that will keep me around wanting even more. Those are, an active life style, physical attraction, fit and trim enough for all to know that they take care of themselves, educated enough to hold a good conversation with all those around, no matter the types and situations, and financially secure enough to offer me as much as I offer them.
Is that asking for to much????? I hope not......
About the only thing, other than smoking that would eliminate many, would be if they still wanted children, which I do not, so that may eliminate many of the younger females who still want to have more family.
Just my opinion..... | |
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