| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 1:50:40 PM | I was trying to have conversation with a fellow and I told him I was looking for friends, but I wouldn't turn down a good one if he came along.
The conversation keep on being steered towards sex, and no matter how hard I tried to get the conversation on track he kept diverting it.
I'm new to meeting people online is this something I should watch out for and should I block this type of person. | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 1:55:02 PM | I just prefer IM's over email because you can have a conversation easier that way. I'd just cut off a conversation headed in that direction. We're not ALL perverts.
I think....
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 1:57:39 PM |
no matter how hard I tried to get the conversation on track he kept diverting it.
Did you do the most obvious thing and tell him that his line of conversation was making you uncomfortable and that if he persisted you'd have to end the IM and block him?
Or did you shrug it off and just bring up different subjects in the hope he'd get the point?
Online, you have to be fairly blunt with some people... simply because an IM is only typing words, you don't hear inflections or get a sense of their humor. Most men will talk about sex unless you make it crystal clear that you prefer not to.
Bluezzz | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 1:58:17 PM | | it is unfortunate but these types of guys are pigs and feel like they can say whatever they want since they are on-line.......stay away from these types as they are not even worth ur time ..... | |
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Epica
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Joined: 12/31/2006
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 2:13:18 PM | | It's a live and learn kind of thing, really. Whatever you were doing in that conversation wasn't working, take a different approach next time. Like another poster said, you have to be blunt at times. If it's bugging you, tell them. Don't just change the topic because it can always be re-routed. And don't let a few bad ones spoil the experience. Not all men will be like that. | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 2:16:53 PM | when I first came here too the same thing happened to me-
I thought - oh be nice and talk to them- and wham - I
would get blindsided - and a couple times I got
cammed a body PART - so yeah - I am cam phobic now-
I have learned that once the conversation starts going that way -
I tell them right away - you got the wrong girl - not into
it - that either shuts them down and they act right or they
shut down the IM -
so I would say keep doing what your doing - steer the conversation-
if its not to your liking - click off - | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 2:52:03 PM |
IM is it what perv's use?
Yes and no. We also like to use the telephone, and email to send pictures of ourselves, with our favorite inflatable doll.
Of course, I cannot speak for all of the perverts out there, because I am convinced that I am the only one on this site.
The rest are true gentlemen, as I am sure you will find in future answers to this thread, who will tell you how they would never steer a "meaningful" IM session towards sex, because there is so much more to talk about.
I am the only perverted freak here, who enjoys talking about sex online, with women. I find it fun and exciting.
I also like to watch dirty movies, which of course goes hand in hand with talking dirty on line.
I am an empty shell of a human being, driven by animalistic desires; the provobial ID of Sigmund Freud.
But at least, I aint a liar  | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 3:07:21 PM | Normally I would say no but the few IM's I have received during my time on this site were mainly related to cybering, or meeting up for casual sex. Maybe my profile attracts those types of people because I only stated that liars, players and cheaters should not message me......if I had included nympho's I wouldn't be having this problem  . The best thing to do to avoid chats/IM's like this is to make it clear pretty early that you have no interest in sex or cyber sex. | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 4:20:32 PM | | I am always wary when I am im'ing, and they ask to turn on the cam. It is usually shortly after they ask me to show , then start begging me to show my breasts, or worse, my kitty. (Do ladies actually DO that????) I very plainly put it into my profile that I am NOT into that, and if they still ask, I block and delete. | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 7:07:49 PM | I don't use the IM feature on here. If it goes to msn or chat, and he starts getting manipulative and hopes for some online action, I usually let him know that I'm not a sex service and unless he has his credit card ready, he'd best shut up fast.
Unless it's mardi gras night on my cam, he ain't seeing my titties. Is it just me or is it fun to toy with pervs?
They never get what they want and it's kinda fun to frustrate the crap out of them. | |
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RJB888
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Joined: 11/23/2005
Msg: 12 | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 7:36:41 PM |
and should I block this type of person
Well duh!.....
Go to your email settings, find the field for instant
messages and click on it. A drop down menu will
appear, giving you the options of ON, OFF, or
Allow Only Those On My Favorites List (or something
very similar).
Try the option to allow only your favorites, or people
who have you on their faves list. It does cut down
on alot of the bullshit. | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 8:50:16 PM | I'm a pervert according to the "norms" of society and I never bring up the subject of sex. Every man has their own style and these guys just talking about sex either need a testicle removed because of too much testosterone, or they're just getting their jollies off by harassing ladies via IM when they would never have the guts or nerve to approach her in person. Close your IM screen and block them!!!!
Tory
Pervert (the good kind) | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 9:28:34 PM | | It's more of the guy than anything else I think. I like using my aim because it is easier, and I like to talk to a girl on the phone because then I can actually hear the tone and sometimes the meaning of a different statement. I think that the problem is that this is a highly transitional time in technology and therefore in life. emails and IMs are still too impersonal for most of us, and often we arent savvy enough to get the implied meanings or jargon and the net-speak. too some it is easy to forget that on the other end of that window is a real person. as tiem goes on i think these problems will be resolved. I remain entertained with hearing what it is a girl is saying rather than reading it. It isn't that I'm in a hurry it is that I feel like there is something that is missing and often things are not quite correctly conveyed via text. | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/9/2007 11:09:28 PM | I hate when that happens too but really I think that its your call just listen to your gut
usually its always right hope this helps
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/10/2007 12:30:57 AM | | don't worry i must be a perv too, i am shy in person so getting on here and haveing some harmless fun, is really no big deal.i mean its not like you have to meet the person face to face if you don't want to but lets be honest here women have needs just as men do. it does not make us bad to admit it. | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/10/2007 1:33:10 AM |
The conversation keep on being steered towards sex, and no matter how hard I tried to get the conversation on track he kept diverting it.
You should have come out and told the fellow "I don't want to talk about this ...";
if he couldn't honor your request, end the conversation by closing the IM window,
then block him.
-Herb | |
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Smjle
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Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 21 | |
| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/10/2007 2:52:12 AM | Just say, "Goodbye! You are coming on to strong and too fast and I'm not ready for it. Thank about it and maybe we will talk again in a few days." Then log off before he can reply.
That should be punishment enough, it sends a very strong message, and it educates the guy in case he is not truly a bad guy and just doesn't know. However, should it happen the next time, just log off and block him. | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/10/2007 3:02:37 AM | Maybe it's because I'm older or because I was brought up in the deep south, whatever the reason I would NEVER even mention sex during the first few conversations or even dates for that matter, unless the woman brought it up.
There's a time and place for everything. I choose to learn the PERSON before bringing anything intimate into the mix. | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/10/2007 3:12:21 AM | | just tell them youre really a bloke, that'll cool them down!!......B.T.W what are you wearing now??..just curious | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/10/2007 3:25:45 AM | I have my IM switched off, found it way to intrusive when i was attempting to reply to messages, however i can IM people, you will find that guys are alot keener than ladies to be contacted by IM, so maybe you should think of doing the contacting instead.
Maybe turn the tables & be pervy to them instead  | |
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| IM is it what perv's use?
Posted: 3/10/2007 4:19:05 AM | Normal people use IMs too. Email can be okay to contact people with, but I found that I get to know a person better through IM as they have to respond in real time to my questions and answers. But like any conversation, you have part of the control over it, and if there's a topic that you're uncomfortable with, just identify it as part of the ground rules, and if that's violated, you can end it.
It's simple enough, but yes will get you to know people very fast. | |
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