| My Other Half Turns Evil
Posted: 4/18/2005 2:42:36 PM | Lately, things haven't been going well....
My girlfriend Wendy has changed from a loving and supportive girlfriend into something I hardly recognize. She's bitter now and she swears a lot. She's been doing it for a long time (1 month now). She's become aggressive and not in a good way. I've seen her hit a small boy HARD for picking up his fallen candy and after she did I grabbed her and told her that it's not cool with me. She looked at me with venom in her eyes. I don't know what to do. I always thought our relationship was meant to be. I am a bisexual black man and I know that not many women can accept me just the way I am. Wendy is the first girl I've dated who's accepted my bisexuality. I was in love with her and even thought about moving in with her. I even thought of us living together and having kids. That's up in the air right now.
I walked away from her three days ago. I haven't answered her phone calls.
On the phone, sometimes she sounds sweet and other times she sounds like the
devil. I dont know why she's changed. It seems the person whom I loved
is gone. I love Wendy but hate what she's becoming. She used to love
kids, now she hurts them. She used to care about people, now she laughs
about homeless people and the pain they go through. I am not sure if I want to be with her. She's apologized but I'm not sure if I can trust her again.
Lately, I've been hanging out with a guy named John. I used to know him
in high school. He played football back then. It's been a long time since I've
seen him. Months ago, I ran into him. He's told me that he's gay. He works as a security consultant. He has a son with a lady and he doesn't live with them even though he has joint custody. We've been hanging out. I've introduced him to my friends and family and they like him. All of them like him. They think he's great. John tells me that he is OUT to his family and
looking for a good man to be with. The other day, I was feeling down because of my girlfriend's transformation into her evil self and John took me to Boston. We spent the day together and later slept in the same bed WITHOUT DOING IT ! It was one of the best nights of my life.
I dont know what to do anymore. I still love Wendy but she's turned bad. When she was angry a few days ago, I hung up the phone because I felt like swearing at her but didnt want to hurt her feelings. She called back and told me that unless I talked to her, she'd tell everyone my secret. She'd tell
the world that I am bisexual. That really worried me. I wish she wouldn't be like that. I also have some feelings for John but I refuse to cheat on my
girlfriend. I don't know what I want.
What should I do ? | |
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| My Other Half Turns Evil
Posted: 4/18/2005 3:06:23 PM | You should fallow your heart.
If wendy is abusive, get out now!
I you have fun with John & enjoy him as a friend or lover, thats great. Just be happy in life!
I would never be with a person that hits children! | |
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Posted: 4/18/2005 3:07:57 PM | | Why does this have to happen to me ? I thought I had it made. A girl who accepts me for who and what I am (annoying bisexual male) and cares for me. I thought we were meant to be together. I didnt think anyone could accept me the way I am. Why does everything have to be ruined ? | |
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Posted: 4/18/2005 3:12:11 PM | There are many women that are able to except your sexuality. Youre young Manx. Live life!
At 20 you have only just begun to exp. things. You wont know what you want if you do not live alittle.
I know that you fell heart ache now & you wish that everything could be the way you planned. That is not what life is. You have to take the crap that it deals out!
Sorry youre sad.
Chrissie | |
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Posted: 4/18/2005 3:23:20 PM | You know Manx, I was thinking about you on a drive I took today (for a bit)
My thoughts, and I hope I can say this here, and that you will take it to heart, that you have never bashed me personally,you have been really honest about your thoughts, opinons, feelings etc...and that you are young, handsome, and smart.
Even tho, you may have some issues, (don't we all) but realise yours are a little more complicated than most. That you are not a bad guy at all, you just need some attention, and I mean the positive kind
Do me a favor? Learn how to ask for what you need (and that means knowing What it is you need) And learn how to ask for it in an acceptable way....you have a lot of potential, and btw pretty good looking too!
PS Sounds like you ae making things a litle more complicated for yourself right now too.
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Posted: 4/18/2005 3:33:10 PM | | I am not making things more complicated for myself. My beloved girlfriend is acting like a demon from hell. I never thought she would become that way ! She hurt a kid ! A child !!!! In my worst day, I couldn't bring myself to hurt a kid !! She did it without batting an eyelash. Also, she is threatening to reveal my bisexuality to the world unless I get back with her. I told her that I am not sure that I want her since she's acting like Lucifer's daughter. I keep on wondering what I did to deserve this or what brought this on. It came out of the blue. I dont know what I'm gonna do. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2005 3:43:54 PM | It is so heartbreaking when someone we love disappoints us. I feel for ya, man.
The only advice I can offer is to remain true to what you believe and feel. If you should compromise on the important facets of your personality, you lose yourself. Even keeping the one you love isn't worth that.
Good luck... | |
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Posted: 4/18/2005 4:06:28 PM | | I really feel awful, dude. you and i got a little in common. I considered myself gay until I slept with my female friend and discovered i might be more complex than I knew. I always thought you were lucky for having a relationship with a woman who accepts you. If your gf is bad, leave her. YOU of all people should KNOW that an abusive woman is not someone you want. Practice what you preach, man. | |
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| My Other Half Turns Evil
Posted: 4/18/2005 5:35:40 PM | | if you feel the situation is not healthy for you get out...your obviously a smart guy...just a lil insecure...you feel you have to go around labeling yourself the bisexual black guy...can't you just be yourself?? the situation dosent sound like a good one, yes while you may love her, love dosent hurt....keep your head up...:) | |
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Posted: 4/18/2005 6:14:53 PM | Ya know....as much as you creep me out sometimes, I've been kinda rootin' for ya. If this girl is really tweeking that hard you might just have to give her her walking papers.
Have you tried to find out what the hell she's thinking? Maybe you've overlooked some issue that's hers alone and not related to your bisexuality? Just thinking out loud on that one.
Take your love where you can find it, as it's been said, you're just a youngin' so there's no rush. No point to being part of a couple if it's abusive.
More gin please! | |
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| My Other Half Turns Evil
Posted: 4/18/2005 6:26:21 PM | | **ass stuck seductively in the air....head stuck in the cupboard...a cry of glee as he finds the bottle of tonic** | |
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| My Other Half Turns Evil
Posted: 4/18/2005 6:43:42 PM | get with John live the life your meant to live
...........self respect is a private thing | |
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| My Other Half Turns Evil
Posted: 4/18/2005 7:24:08 PM |
**ass stuck seductively in the air....head stuck in the cupboard...a cry of glee as he finds the bottle of tonic**
Oh HELL no! That's just wrong!  | |
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| My Other Half Turns Evil
Posted: 4/18/2005 8:21:50 PM |
She called back and told me that unless I talked to her, she'd tell everyone my secret. She'd tell the world that I am bisexual.
Overlooking the fact that you posted this on a bulletin board that's open to the public....
Frankly, she sounds like a real treat. Stay with me or I'll blackmail you? Heck, I work in HR and even I'm not that evil.
When people start operating that way, it can be a sign of desperation. She might be afraid that she's really blown it this time and not liking the consequences. (According to my ex, I'm lots of things, and only a couple of them are true.)
If she DOES tell people, you have two options.
1. Yes, I am. So?
2. Sure she said that. I just dumped her, she's not exactly my biggest fan right now.
Either way, breaking up really sucks and I'm sorry you're hurting right now. Best to you. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2005 9:12:20 PM | Get rid of her! everyone already knows your bi sexual. What is going to change if she tell others. You are open here . Are you not out in your life?
If not, you need to be. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2005 2:36:00 AM | It's really a no win situation for her
you will always be attracted to men
I don't feel sorry for you ...I feel sorry for her
how far into the relationship did you tell her you were "bi" ?
Did she know from the get go ???? | |
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Posted: 4/19/2005 2:39:48 AM | | In defense of blackmanx, he did tell her he was bi and she was cool with it. He gave up all others to be with her. I think he loved her. He always spoke about how wonderful she was and how much he loved her. Now, she's turned into a b!tch. It's not his fault. Don't feel sorry for her. for once, he's the wronged party. his girl went crazy. he needs to cut her loose. she might be a danger to herself and others. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2005 3:03:17 AM | you and him hooked up right ?
or maybe your the same person have'nt
figured that out yet..hmmm ? | |
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Posted: 4/19/2005 4:45:23 AM | | sorry manx, didn't mean to say YOU were complicating things, just that I could see how they WERE...take care...sal | |
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Posted: 4/19/2005 9:42:26 AM | | hmm.....indigorose33.....i've noticed it too. LaurenB often gets mad at blackmanx and defends him. maybe she's in love with him. | |
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