| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/10/2007 5:03:00 PM | Hi,I am so tired of Men just look for someone that perfect but going out anyway just for one thing,what ever happen to the old fashion men that are truthful and caring.I would just one time find someone that I have the same interest with and will take me for who I am.Are there any guy's out there that exist.I also have a problem with guy's that act like they like you and your beautiful just to get you in bed....I know that there some good guy's out there but not the one's I've ran into.
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/10/2007 5:42:19 PM | | well, mirose, i see by your profile, your pretty darn picky! by all the restrictions you put on there, i harley doubt if any man would think they're goood enough for you, and by the way, wheres your pic?? you must really have high stanards..good luck on that here..lol | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/10/2007 8:28:16 PM | I have the same problem as well. If your good looking enough, you might get a date with a decent man. If you look like you have been beaten with an ugly stick, then your screwed. I wish I could find a guy who wants to be with me for more than intimate moments. I want a guy who finds beauty in more than just one place in a women, perhaps her brain? | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/11/2007 6:47:32 AM | I know how you feel. Alot of men want these Barbie types or arm candy,or someone who is slim and trim. Or they feed you a bunch of B.S. thinking that maybe that will work to get you into bed. Well, I don't fall for that. If someone can't like me for who I am and not for what I look like then pooey on them.... | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:02:24 AM |
I know how you feel. Alot of men want these Barbie types or arm candy,or someone who is slim and trim. Or they feed you a bunch of B.S. thinking that maybe that will work to get you into bed. Well, I don't fall for that. If someone can't like me for who I am and not for what I look like then pooey on them....
On the flip side of the coin, there are the women who are looking for the wealth of Bill Gates, the looks of Tom Cruise, the sexual powers of a porn star, and the heart of Mother Theressa.
Yet, what most of them bring to the table is snobbery (is that a word?), a bagage of emotional turmoil (cause men suck in general), possibly a secret F**k buddy, and to spice things up a bit a few kids who can tell you that "you should shut the hell up, because you are not my father." | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/11/2007 2:19:49 PM | | Well, even the fat/few extra pounds types don't bother responding to contacts. You see their ads all over the place. They say they are married, bored and lonely, desperate, need some romance because their husbands have lost the passion, just looking to fill the gap, fill the void. Then they ignore you. I guess the married fat women are expecting Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt too? | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/11/2007 5:12:03 PM | so true if i had the looks and the body i would get alot of men wanting to date me
if they only knew me they would know im a good loving person and i love to spoil my man | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:53:41 PM | | So where are all the nice good guys? I know of alot of men and women who look for just looks not what is in the heart or head. Women are way to picky and men think with the wrong head! Can someone explain what did happen to all the good ones? | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/11/2007 10:49:12 PM |
Can someone explain what did happen to all the good ones?
 I CAN!!! I CAN!!!!
All the good ones were taken by the smart ones earlier on, and they knew they had a good thing, and they sure as hell aint' letting go of it!! | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/11/2007 11:01:08 PM | | Hey. I get what you're saying. The general population is pretty shallow and self centered isn't it? There are a lot of genuine people out there though, and they stand out immediately when you meet them. You're probably just having a streak of bad luck. Kind of makes you want to declare HEY D*MNIT I'M NOT A PIECE OF MEAT! lol. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/13/2007 8:38:16 PM | I don't know about 'all the good ones' being taken. I've met some stellar people here and on other sites that aren't in it just for the looks.
I'm a bit picky though. I won't date people who are clingy, insecure, financially stressed or emotionally stressed. I don't think you can for appropriate relationship bonds with them(I will be a friend however). I won't date someone I don't find attractive, and looks are involved in that.
Looks don't seem to have as much impact on who is shallow, or who is loving and caring as most people would like to believe. I've met as many shallow, physically attractive women as shallow non-physically attractive women. None of them were "attractive" as people to me, meaning i wouldn't date them. They were also all just as likely to become slightly obsessed with the situation, and upset with me for not wanting to date them.
I think we read a lot of what we want to read into people. We want to blame our failing in relationships on them not seeing the real you beyond appearances. Maybe the real you isn't what you are showing them.
Just some thoughts from a guy who is somewhat less than successfull at dating ... so take them with a grain of salt. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/13/2007 8:59:45 PM | Well, I'm no "Barbie", but I do get a lot of emails.
I used to post on my profile: "Don't think the 3rd
base coach is gonna wave you in on the first date".
So many men thought they could just "zoom-
in" on me when we went out.
Doesn't matter how popular you are. It happens to
everyone, male & female.
Just keep looking til you get lucky like me. Met
my Fishie on POF. He treats me right. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/14/2007 5:04:19 AM | | WAIT WAIT!!!not i do not go on looks..i want a women that has a good head on her shoulders..and i want to know about a woman before it goes any further..all these people looking to just get laid wont be around in 10 yrs.. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/14/2007 8:46:49 AM | Well, I'm going to have to disagree on this whole thread entirely.
Being picky or going for looks is completely insane. For many reasons:
1. Looks can fade. Barbie is only going to stay Barbie if she keeps the plastic content going.
2. In any long-lasting relationship, people adapt and change to better suit their mate, and the relationship as a whole. What you looked for in the beginning won't always be there, most likely.
Myself, I've never dated a gal who was skinny, or had these model looks like you see on television. But that didn't stop me from thinking of them as the most beautiful women in the world, because they were with me. All I care about is love. Doesn't matter about money, clinginess, weight, haircolor, bra size, whatever!
If guys weren't so focused on looks, things would be more wonderful for everyone. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 3/15/2007 6:51:55 AM | | I think a dead giveaway would be if they don't have "not looking for an intimate encounter" or whatever tha choice is, on tha bottom of their profile, I pass those on by. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 9/1/2007 8:10:17 PM | I dont go by looks alone myself, jsut waaaaaaaaay to shallow.
I did date a girl who dropped me cause I didnt have the look, the right clothes and even not much money. Im right now talking with a couple gals on here that dont have the money or barbie looks and about to ask one out. A lot i think also is due to no common sense and jsut not raised right. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 9/2/2007 8:37:05 AM | Some men go on looks alone but most don't. That being said lets face some facts, everyone including women are visual to a point. There is going to be a physical attraction at some point. I'm not saying that for men its always the barbie doll model type they are attracted to. Many time you aren't attracted to someone when you first meet them but as you get to know them they become more and more attractive. On the other hand there are times when you meet someone you find attrative physically and become less and less attractive as you get to know them. Personality and compatablity along with appearance will all be part of the attraction in time.
People have mentioned money as well. I hear people saying money doesn't matter and I have to disagree in most cases. I feel there are only two groups of people who money doesn't matter to, those that have more than they will ever spend and those that have none to worry about. I'll probably seem like a jerk to a lot of people for saying this but I personally wouldn't get involved with someone who is irresponsible finacially. That doesn't mean they have to finacially secure or stable, thing happen in life that are out of our control it how you deal with these events that matters. There are so many divorces and breakups that happen over stressful issues stemming from financial problems. I think many people a blind, just fooling themselves or saying what they feel other people want to hear with regards to money. I'm realistic about money and how it can effect a relationship. Oh and BTW I'm far from being rich or well off.
Everyone is different, finding commonality I feel is one one of they keys to a successful relationship. | |
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| Men that expect to much and only look for look's
Posted: 9/2/2007 11:03:30 PM | HEY, I hate to break this to you gals, (I am 150% female) but it is not only the men.
Sure, men want their Barbie doll on their arm, hell,I would LOVE to find a Ken doll myself, or a GI Joe...but I raised my kids already and do not want anymore. So, my question is, where is the honesty that we all ask for here? If you cannot be honest here, how can you be trustworthy and all that we ask for in a man?
So, next time you are out at a party, one from here or whatever, LOOK at the women also. Be fair and honest with yourselves. I try to be as honest as I can be, and I have to say...yeah ,I see what you are saying, BUT, look how women treat the men. They are looking for someone to take care of them and spend their money on them, and the guys are just accommodating them. WHO SAID IT HAD TO BE THAT WAY? Do YOU look at looks, or do you look at the PERSON? Do you bother to get to know them a bit or do you bother to talk to them and email them? Or do you jump when one of them says, HEY, LET'S MEET.
You have to make yourself happy first. I am not a big beauty or anything special (although I am voluptuous) , and yes, there are a lot of shallow people out there...but I do know that there are many wonderful men out there that may not be the most gorgeous in the pile...but will treat you the way you WANT to be treated. You have to realize that men have their expectations also...but you cannot go around and just blame the men. There is another part of the equasion...and that is you!
It takes two baby!!
Deb
You are either going to love me or hate me, cuz I am very blunt. | |
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