| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:53:32 PM | | When a guy sends out signals like he wants sex and you are not interested and tell him so. Why does he get offended and treat you like YOU have baggage for thinking that is all he wants when he thinks he is clearly show interst in you? I have had guys become offended because I thought that is what they wanted. I only think that when they send out those signals | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:58:20 PM | Didn't you know he is a God and you should be begging for it from him? Come on now, are you that naive? If we don't want to have sex with every man that asks we must either have loads of baggage or be gay, because there is no way any self respecting woman would say no. | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:59:38 PM | Well what exactly do consider "I want sex signals"? Friendly flirting? Any off color word?
If it is baltant...and they are saying this then they just don't lik be called on it, so they turn it around like there is someothng "wrong with you"..It hurts getting rejected so they want to hurt back. | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/11/2007 10:20:58 PM | Most men are out for sex, and most women are too. We just tend to go about getting it differently. We all wear different shoes.
I'm sure the guy you mentioned, was asking himself,
"Oh, does this mean that she doesn't like sex? In that case, I can't deal with it, because having sex is important to me."
On the other hand; if you are actually interested in sex, but want a relationship first, then you should tell him that.
Communication is very difficult, but very important.
We aren't mind readers. Right? | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/11/2007 10:31:32 PM | Do you mean when a guy sends out signals that he wants JUST sex, sex before you feel comfortable or sex because he is attracted to you and would like things to progress??
There is a world of difference between these.. | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/11/2007 10:35:04 PM | | I mean that a couple of times in the last year I have been dating a new guy or meeting a guy. They send out signals very strong that they want sex. If I say I am not interested yet, these couple of guys have gotten offended that I would think that is what they are after. One guy went so far as to imply that I had trust issues! That was unreal because all he could talk about was sex... so of course that is what I thought he was after. | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/11/2007 10:36:51 PM | | I suppose that is it. I have had guys ask me to send them pictures, even full body ones so they could 'see my posture and learn about me!'. I was floored and said right then and there what I am not on this site for. They got all 'whatever you are reading me all wrong'... lol. What else am I supposed to think? How is it my fault that I think he wants it? He is sending out all these signals.. I am so confused, lol | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/11/2007 10:55:12 PM | What you are describing sounds like a man who wants a quick hook up... if that's not what you want... tell him so and he can get lost, I have done that too many times to count...
These men are everywhere and try many tactics to attempt to push past your boundaries...
Trust your instincts :) | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/12/2007 12:36:38 AM | | As I have said this before, their are many guys who have but a very very small brain and if you will, that brain is not housed above their shoulders Yes, that is right! It is between their legs It called a one track mind set and often they will say anything and everything to manipulate the situation to their way of thinking. Bagagge usually indicates alot of extra headaches coming into a relationship. Getting to know somebody before the act of sex can be perhaps better, as to REALLY find out whether that individual is carrying alot of problems or bagagge. Some folks bagagge is another folks treasure. It can work both ways. It's all on how one looks at it. The act of sex is the most easy part. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out The more creative big brain that is housed above one's shoulders really has to give some thought to romance or caring, hugging, kissing. Of course, if two people are hotter then fire and they can not control themselves, then have at it, by all means, just make sure you use protection, because often times people don't and disease is rampant.... | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/13/2007 10:49:07 PM | that's hitting it right on the nail. There wouldn't be any "signals" if folks just stopped the games and bs, just be straight up. Don't pretened you are someone your not.
I look at it that you either like me or you don't, you either want to have sex with me or you just want to be good friends.
Life is way too short for crap. Be honest with "dates" , hell the reason I don't lie is not just because it's a good way to get through life and those around you know your opinion or word actualy means something .....but because it's just too hard to remember lies. Hell you meet a woman you met before but now your standing there like a idiot not knowing what to say because you don't remember what BS you told her.
By telling the truth you always have the abbility to actualy have a meanigful conversation.
But everyone.........be honest with no bs........if you meet and feel nothing after a bit then say "Hey you don't appeal to me to continue to the next level" or on the other hand [ I like these ones lol] you can say "Hey would you be interested in taking our relationship to the next level".
These days it shouldn't matter who says it. Guys , Women are damn smart these days, they know what they want and when. They are in control of their lives.
Happy Fishing All  | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/13/2007 10:53:28 PM | Do tell, what are the Signals that you are an Expert on???
I'm starting to take offense to some of the Topics you are so blinding posting and generalizing "ALL" men into... Are you putting any thought behind these Topics and you crank them out one after another or are you just that bored and spit out the first things that come into your head??? | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/14/2007 5:11:04 AM | My penny's worth:
Firstly, women are taught by society to make men work at getting every stage of the relationship, not just the sex part. Women are taught to believe the harder they make it for men to get them, the more integrity they have as a Modern Day Women. Don't get me wrong, I understand the mindset - you only have to see the Legions of single mums out there to get why most women make it difficult. Women with no partner and a two week old baby do not have the luxury of chalking things up to experiance and confining the fallout to the past and there are a lot of men out there who will abandon thier own children because they want to play the field a little more.
My point is that because women do make a point about making it difficult for men to succeed, men have to try harder. They have to have thier angles, they have to be persistant in securing each stage of the relationship, or fail repeatedly and eventually die alone. The sex part is about cementing emotional commitment into a relationship for most of us guys (except the obvious players - many of whom remember are female). Up until that point we run the risk of investing emotionally with a women who might, out of the blue, place us into the "friend zone". I'm not saying I entirely agree with the mindset, but that is the way it is.
Secondly, Yes men are very interested in sex, as are women. But what offends us guys is the assumption that because we are open about our interest, it must be our only interest and frankly as an intelligent and deep human beings the accusation is insulting and demeaning towards men.
Now, anyone up for a shag? (JOKING) | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/14/2007 6:07:33 AM | He gets offended because it is rejection, nobody likes that in anyway, shape or form.
If you think all men are out for sex, you're probably right, most people do bond that way, but remember that a lot of men have more than just that reason, it is a human desire, and if you are desired, what is the problem?
So yes, perhaps you do have some baggage you need to check at the gate.
My suggestion would be to trust your judgement, the rest will fall into place. | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/14/2007 9:46:26 AM | Wow. This is like the third thread I've seen you post on about something revolving around men wanting sex or pics or whatever.
From the way you express your apparent disdain for anyone wanting sex, especially men in this case, it is obvious to me that you either have an axe to grind around romance/sex or you have been compromising yourself with these guys. Which one?
It's ok to want sex ya know? It's perfectly ok for adults to engage in conversation about sex and it doesn't mean they have to act on it.
Being seduced is a delicious experience , especially if he's good at it...and yes, most of us are wanting a long term monogamous relationship we can have all our desires filled inside of, but that doesn't mean that they shouldn't try!
Learn something important now. VERY FEW MEN develop emotional attachments BEFORE they want sex. That's just how the male mind works. Most aren't very hung up about sex like we women can be...they have no need to be gatekeepers for the gene pool, their job is to plant it in the garden...what they do with that garden after is their prerogative.
To spare yourself an even bigger chip on your shoulder, tell them plainly that you aren't going to have sex with them until you have a relationship established. Period. While it's certainly not going to get you laid as often or as much, it will insure that you won't have to create another ten forum threads about how much it pisses you off that men want sex.
Ever occur to you that maybe you're attractive to them and they'd like to taste it? Can you blame them? Picture that time you were really really aroused. Now times that by ten and you'll have the male equivalent of sex drive.
Just learn how to tell them no and you'd best have a personality that they actually enjoy if you want them to stick it out with ya till they get their "gift". And YES, it is a sexual hangup when you use being sexual with a guy as a means of insuring a relationship...it's sexual blackmail.
And while you insist on making him wait for the sex, make damn sure you're worth keeping once he gets it. We OTHER women are tired of those men who've been jaded complaining about the false promises made by virtuous women when they actually SUCKED in bed.
Keep him happy. Give him great sex, and have a good heart toward him and he'll give you his love. If not, he wasn't into a fair trade anyway. Move on... | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/14/2007 10:01:28 AM | | I don't think men should be "out" for sex because of the indecent exposure laws, they should wait until they get home, and then be "out" for sex...wait, not that type "out"? Never mind | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/18/2007 5:44:26 PM | | you sound offended. I did not post, ALL men. Nor do I think ALL men. I merely said 'when a man sends out the signals'. And I am posting on the forum to get feed back and understand. Not to attack or generalize men. I have many good things and experiences with all people, men included. In no way was this meant to insult you. | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/18/2007 5:50:30 PM | SOME men think woman can have sex AND NOT feel anything afterward . W R O N G .
if , a woman was to ahve sex with me . I WOULD think A. ) she does care . and B. ) is giving me her soul and love . | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/18/2007 6:21:33 PM | ^^^^^ hehehehehehe that's funny
Lotacus...issues with women today?
Perception ppl that's all it is.
OP what makes you think that these mean are all giving you signals
for sex specifically?
I'm not saying that some men aren't blatant in their approach...all I'm saying is some
men are "overly friendly" just as some women are...
doesn't mean they want sex right here right now.
You know what assume means... | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/18/2007 6:27:23 PM | If they're going to take offense to that, then keep walking. If they were worth your time, they'd do anything in their power to prove you wrong~not **** and moan that it's your fault you feel that way then tuck tail and run.
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/18/2007 6:29:51 PM | Message: When a guy sends out signals like he wants sex and you are not interested and tell him so. Why does he get offended and treat you like YOU have baggage for thinking that is all he wants when he thinks he is clearly show interst in you? I have had guys become offended because I thought that is what they wanted. I only think that when they send out those signals
I think you need to soften him up a bit first. Perhaps a good blood thinner would work . . . .hmmmm something stronger than Aspirin . . . maybe fill his drink with meat tenderizer . . . | |
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