| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/12/2007 3:25:43 AM | If you had a guy who had never given oral, what would be the best approach to teaching him? Just curious because I have been with guys who would have sex but had never tried oral. I love to give and receive but not sure how to go about how to get him to give for the first time. (Before anyone brings it up - YES I am clean and very hygenic). Just looking for some good suggestions. Please don't suggest "just push his head down there" - I want more originality than that. Thanks
Edit: Looking for pointers for the man to make it the most pleasant for both parties involved.
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/12/2007 3:57:22 AM | So...they really do exsist? Hmmm...
I'll take this question on with a tongue and cheek response: First, try broaching this subject while sharing an icecream cone with him. Secondly, remember not to say, "I absolutely LOVED it when my ex's would do it..." and Finally, I think if first you succeed* in going down on him, he'll be more likely to want to please you in this way and venture out on his own. From there, your body language will teach him what you like and what you like better!
My name is MyNewName and I support this thread~
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/12/2007 3:57:33 AM | Talk to him. Communication is the only way to great sex.
and.......
Get him to read this:
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/12/2007 5:20:58 AM | Just talk to him communications is what sex is all about. Have you ever talked to him about what your needs are???? Maybe start out by giving each other a nice oilly massage making sure to not miss any part of the body. Experiment with him.
Or maybe he just wants his needs met? Heres hoping you get your needs met sweetie.
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/12/2007 5:33:16 AM |
If you had a guy who had never given oral, what would be the best approach to teaching him?
This is a excellent question: first off everyone is different and I do not care what guys say if this is something you have never done before how are you suppose to know the female body that well unless you communicate somehow wheather it is trying it and not doing it to her satisfaction and learning from there or having her tell you what makes her feel good. Seriously how many guys can find the c**t hell I have heard some young women say they cant find there own and there is nothing wrong with that. All sex is learnd, just because you can jump in bed with someone and accomplish the mission does not mean it can't be better. Learning can go a long way you have to communicate with each other or even show each other like they say there is no such thing as a born lover, sure you might be good but imagine what you can learn. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/12/2007 5:33:19 AM | | The way i found out how to give great oral, before i had the balls to just ask her outright, was wathcing blueys. Even as a teenager, i had read enough about it to get most my exs off. Another trick what i heard somewhere is to get him to spell the alphabet on your clitoris, flicking to ur 2nd lips now and again. It can get repetitive but just tell him spell something out down there or do it in circular motions, using you knuckle is good ive been told too. Making noises when he does it right is great help, some girls just stay quiet no matter how well your doing it, try and be vocal for encouragement. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/12/2007 6:03:10 AM | That should have happened the first time he got the chance. He's not intrinsically motivated, so there would be no point trying to recruit him. It's beyond me how someone wouldn't already want to do that, but then again some people don't like ice cream or chocolate, either. I'm afraid some men are just not fully sexual, and so the best bet is to leave him for a woman who doesn't like oral. There are many produced by certain religions, shouldn't be too hard to find one. Maybe her man is frustrated, too, and you can swap.
The only reason I could think of why he would balk at munching is a previous bad experience. Something scared him or turned him off. Or some woman in a moment of extreme sabotage ranted about men who don't know what they are doing, making him reluctant to earn disdain as he learns. If he has a favorite food, m&m's would be ideal because the hard candy coating keeps the chocolate from melting, you could leave a trail for him to follow, the last ones being tucked away, he'll get the idea.
I once saw a BDSM site and they seemed to favor riding crops and cattle prods. That wouldn't be my first choice but it's hard to argue with success.
If he does give it a try, don't buck so hard you smash his nose. He won't come back from that. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/12/2007 6:12:06 AM | This is going to sound really, really, conceited, especially coming from me, of all people, but I don't know that you can teach that. I know "I" was good the first time I did it. (Yes, I know, usually I'm the one saying that people need to have less ego... this is the one thing, sex wise, that I KNOW I'm good at. )
Maybe I should ask the ex for a recommendation letter.  | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/12/2007 7:41:26 AM | | What's his favorite comfort food? Dogs can be taught new tricks and obedience using treats, so why not a man who you might need to starve for a few days beforehand? I can just imagine what you could 'cook up for him' as the yummy 'gourmet' presentation, even it's to shake up a cold longneck and let the foam go where it will. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/12/2007 8:11:15 AM | Teach him to trace the alphabet with his tongue... starting with "A", then moving onward.
Or if he is the musical type, have him hum "The Star Spangled Banner"...
I guarantee you will never make it past, "...and the rockets' red glare." | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/12/2007 8:23:34 AM | tell him to do the opposite of everything he's ever seen in porn!
come on ladies, back me up here... Does anyone actually enjoy the fast flicking thing?
slower and more pressure guys... you're not a snake!
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/14/2007 5:01:35 PM | Justforums that is the silliest thing I have read in a long time. Cause jebus knows we are all the same. And to the guy with the knuckle idea......WTF?
OP there is a really good book out there called She comes first and it can be very helpful to a guy that is inexperienced. Get it and read it together if he is shy just leave it around and he will read it. Sceptical that he will read it? Tell him there are pictures in it of vaginas! | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/14/2007 5:21:14 PM | Give him a clean plate to eat off of, and then ask him what he thinks would feel good if he could imagine himself being a woman with those parts. Depending on what he shares (9 times out of 10 they totally get it anyway) then tell him he can go ahead and try that approach. While he's doing his darndest to please you, let him know what's working and what isn't.
I think it's demoralizing to be given a rote by rote instruction on how to give oral sex. Let him develop his own style and respond when he's doing the right stuff that works for you!
The problem is that not all women want or like the same techniques...so it's best to let them learn by your responses, rather than by your instruction.
If they are enthusiastic about it and if they actually find it turns them on, I find they make great coochie nibblers. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/15/2007 4:42:56 AM | be blunt and tell him the sex is shit and he has to go down on you,,, some blokes need that honesty, me personally i love flicking bean,,,,,,,,lololol,, sorry to much info | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/15/2007 5:37:00 AM | | Simple communications and a bit of show and tell!! Spread em' and point to the places you'd like to have his tongue - show him with your fingers exactly how and where his tongue should be!! I think he'll catch on quickly!!! | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/15/2007 5:49:02 AM | | first go down in him and get him off but get him to play with u at the same time. that way he'll make sure he knows the [parts with his hands first. then tell him that everything he did with his hands try with his tounge. he'll know ifg he is doing a good job!!!!!!:) | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/15/2007 7:56:06 AM | | Have a lesbian teach him. They know how to do it properly. And the big thing I learned was the proper pressure. Not to hard and not too light. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/15/2007 7:59:17 AM | | Listen--direct is always better than suggestion...grab that knucklehead by the ears, lay back, do not let go of his ears, and every time he fails to do the "right" thing, give his ears a twist and re-direct....wait, that's for housebreaking a puppy---what the hell, men are dogs, use it anyway | |
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