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Posted: 3/12/2007 3:28:54 PM | Hello - Please take a look at my profile and tell me what you think.
Just FYI, I do not post pics because my career puts me somewhat in the public eye, so discretion is an issue, and because I have an ex-boyfriend who semi-stalks me, so I don't want to feed into that. I know not having pics will hurt my chances on POF, but that is a risk I have to take.
Thank you!
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Posted: 3/12/2007 7:57:06 PM | If he finds you here ...You just block him..
For me I do not care what someone does or the circumstances..No pic publicly on thier ad...I don't bother.. Too many are actually attached. But maybe the guys would go easier on a lady...
Wish I had Something good to say about that ad...But I don't.. I suggest reading other women's ads...Wanting somethng authentic is hardly original..though others may
phrase it differently. You do not to go on much about what you look like cz you 'll have a pic to send.. The whole ad screams I'm smart and nothing else..
No idea who you are... what you do for fun (um ...remember guys will want to think it might be Fun to spend time with you) or what you are seeking..relationship or guy wise.
Total re-write is what I'd suggest. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 8:45:27 PM | "If you've read this far you have figured out that I have an intellectual bent but I'm not precious about it."
 ...what the hell?
I can't begin to list all of errors this sentence contains. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 9:09:58 PM | With all respect, short order, I do see what she means, it's just that I don't personally agree that writing gratuitously-complicated sentences means one is intellectual.
In fact, I believe that communication is essential, and tend to eschew obfuscation in the pursuit of aforesaid goal. Less is more, and clear is better than murky.
OP, consider making your profile more user-friendly by avoiding the big vocabulary words and then telling us that you're not precious about it...which, in itself, is rather precious.
You have your rationalizations for not posting a pic, so I imagine you'll be able to rationalize leaving your profile the way it is. That's as straight as I can give it.
I wish you all the luck in the world. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 3:08:34 AM | "Hmmm.... I look like a typical WASPy, professional, career-oriented, late 30s single female (think Sex & the City but not so slutty and without the shoe obsession). However, the exterior belies an irreverent and unconventional interior. E.g. I don't want just any relationship, I want an *authentic* one. How many people say that? How many people have that? If you've read this far you have figured out that I have an intellectual bent, but I'm not precious about it. I just have a good brain and I like to use it - a quality I seek in men. It's a dealbreaker, actually. Oh - and ideally you share my priorities re: living a healthy lifestyle (eating well, exercising, laying off the intoxicants, etc)."
* You list your Profession as Research . Your age in the appropriate box. Your sex is female (there is a box for that.) Single (yes a box for that.) Looking For is Dating. Is it?. What about your profile says you have an intellectual bent?. Where?. You talk about sex and the city, sluts and shoe obsessions. thats it. What is the deal breaker?. What are you talking about?. You should delete your profile and start fresh. Every thing in your About Me has got to go.
"It really turns my crank when a man is willing to do that stuff, and enjoy it!"
*This does not sound like it's coming from an intellectually bent woman such as your self. sheesh. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 3:47:40 PM | "I can't begin to list all of errors this sentence contains. "
Oh come on, give it a go. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 5:00:45 PM | | I tried to message you, but since I only meet 1 of your three requirements, I had to go here. Your other thread will likely be deleted. I read your profile the other day and was going to comment on it but thought otherwise. I lean towards people whose profiles are a mess, and since you've changed the origional, i'm having to go on a less than an elephants memory. Although I can see where your coming from, I found your profile a little off-putting and boastful with an edge of uneasiness in your words that might be the result of someone else, or at least that's the way I took it. The use of ie, or whatever it was, 3 times, bugged be a bit and reinforced the over-all tone. I can't remember much more of it. And there lies the problem. That is what most, men or woman, will take with them . I agree, cookie cutter profiles are boring, but there are a lot of boring people out there, and they need love too. The guidelines are only meant as a blue print, with much room for decoration. When your profile has an air of superiority about it, however slight, some will take offense, and respond in kind, especially in a forum where 'you' are requesting others personal opinions of your profile. Don't take it so personal. The male prospective you requested. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2008 11:15:15 AM | Your profile looks great. If you're having a problem getting past the first date you have to remember that most guys get intimidated by women who are way more intelligent than they are.  Don't give up. | |
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