| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:06:58 PM | So I was hanging out with some female friends of mine, and I most admitt they are not hot. One is avg looking & one is below avg looking. I personally don't care what they look like b/c they are just platonic freinds.
And this girl I was having the conversation with said "If i see a guy with ugly girls I wouldn't hit on him, b/c I would think that's all he could get".
I personally think her comment was very shallow. But the other people we were around sorta agreed with her.
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tdh46
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:17:30 PM | You may be right, her comments was pretty shallow.
As opposed to your comment "And i must admit they are not hot. one is average looking, and one is below average looking" those are the comments of a guy that's very down to earth, nothing shallow about those comments at all....
You should get a metal for your thoughfulness in your description of your "friends" oh pious one. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:37:30 PM | Hi Whater!
You state, "So I was hanging out with some female friends of mine, and I most admit they are not hot. One is avg looking & one is below avg looking. I personally don't care what they look like b/c they are just platonic friends."
Sadly, your female friends might be very insulted by your views.......wow, a woman can be hot in so many ways.
Concerning that girl who stated, "If i see a guy with ugly girls I wouldn't hit on him, b/c I would think that's all he could get". Sad that this woman could thinks of others in that way.
So it is up to you....whether you want to hang around people that put others down by their looks alone.... Now if it is your intention of going out and picking up women.....go for it...
I think you should ask your platonic female friends of yours....this question....you might receive better advice....
Personally, friends rule.....and no one is going to dictate who I hang around with no matter how they look, their class, or how they act......
Good luck..
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:46:45 PM | wow - I'm certainly glad I'm not one of your platonic girlfriends...and I hope that they never come on POF.
As for the comment thrown at you - incredibly shallow.
Did you ever stop to think that just becaus;e you don't find them hot that they are perhaps very attractive and hot to someone else? | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/12/2007 10:01:07 PM |
"If i see a guy with ugly girls I wouldn't hit on him, b/c I would think that's all he could get".
The girl that said that probably knew how shallow the comment was.
Comments like this no longer surprise me after realizing how much time, money, and energy people put into appearance with things such as makeup, trendy clothes, hairloss drugs, and sexual enhancement medications.
If you look at some of my profile pictures, I'm wearing a Buckle shirt, a trendy necklace which serves no purpose, and I have my sleeve cuffs rolled back because some shallow girl recommended it. All the shallow crap I do/wear attracts me a lot of shallow girls. Come to think of it I don't know if any of it has attracted me a non-shallow woman.
The real question is do you want to play with the shallow people or not? | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/12/2007 10:26:12 PM | Dear Whater39,
Please that girl was saying that you were a loser,, make know mistake about that, she was very shallow , and rather you saw it or not she was calling you a loser. Anyone that would judge another human being in such disregard, isn't worth your time .
If these ladies are your friends they would probably do anything for you, that's hard to find, the one that needed to be dumped was the shallow one. You are a nice looking guy, you can find a girl that you are attracted too.
You attract women by being self assured as to who and what you are, what is the condition of your heart? Like attracts like, and saying such, may be the one for you is one of the ones that you feel aren't as attracted too, look for someone that makes you feel good about yourself. May be with a make over one of the girls you feel aren't as attractive could be. I am not trying to convince you of what type of women you should seek out, I am just saying that anyone that shallow, will see you differently down the road. Age is a predictor of your future. We all get older, sometimes we have accidents that change out lives forever, are you willing to forsake your future, for a women that will leave you as soon as age grabs you by the head of your hair and gives you a good shake?
Life is not a dress rehearsal and the older you get the more you see that. Just be you and know what kind of women you are looking for and why. I know when young we place great value on beauty and build, but we don't stay that way for long.
Find the one worthy of your love and your life...I am pullin for you, get out there and find that lady that will love you forever.
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/12/2007 10:38:26 PM | | I remember one night I was out dancing and I noticed a REALLY hot guy out on the dancefloor with an extremely obese and unattractive woman... you could tell that just dancing with him made her sooo happy, they weren't together or even friends, she had just asked him to dance and he accepted... to tell you the truth he became so much hotter in my eyes.. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/12/2007 11:48:04 PM | I'm taking a lot of heat for my comments, on commenting about the looks of my friends.
If I didn't comment about their apperance, then this post would make as much sense.
I am wanting to comments about the shallow girl's comments. Also I was wondering if that logic of "that's the best he can do, so I wouldn't let him hit on me" was common with other girls/guys (I highly doubt it would be common for guys though) or not. Unfortunately many people I was with actually agreed with her. So if you are that type of person could you explain the logic on that. As I don't fully understand it.
To my friends if you see this post, I must apologise. This post was about the shallow girl's comments, not your looks. SORRY.
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/12/2007 11:58:35 PM | There is no more logic to it than there is logic to racism or any other bias. You can't understand it because it doesn't make sense, reguardless of whatever dribble people give you.
<div class="quote">If I didn't comment about their apperance, then this post *wouldn't* make as much sense.
No it wouldn't. Some people understood what you were trying to say. You were not trying to bash your friends, you were trying to understand something new and expressed it as best you could. Some people treat you like you have to walk on eggshells to get your point across without coming off as though you are condescending on someone. Some people are happier to take offense rather than try and understand what the person is saying.
If you are criticizing whater39 for his original post, how about rather than saying "it's not nice to call your friends ugly", you tell him how he can phrase his post in a manner where it makes sense without offending anyone. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/12/2007 11:58:37 PM | | Well, if you go to a pub/club with female friends and have a good time, it's more likely that you can pick up than going with all boys. Girls like to see you as the prize. They want what they don't have. So you're dancing with your female friends, hot chicks will want to show that they can dance with you too without trying much. But the key is to make them work for it. :P | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/13/2007 3:36:22 AM | So he ends his BS thread with "Discuss......" as though it's worthy of anything more than a hardy LOL and WTF????
It's amazing how stupid some people sound when they start talking or writing..............
Dude if there's anything ruining your chances with women it's probably this Neanderthal view of women, what's hot and what's not and I'm guessing you're about as smooth as a gravel road.
Better luck next time Sport!! | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/13/2007 3:55:09 AM | Honestly, either you're not very close to your friends or you haven't known them very long.
Does anyone else notice that no matter how attractive a person is to you when you first meet them they begin to look more attractive as time progresses?
That's always been the way of it for me.
Most of my friends are women. I think all of them are beautiful. (Though there are disqualifiers for all of them. Wonderful friends. Great people. If we dated we'd kill each other. I love having female friends where imminent death is obvious when it comes to entering a relationship, keeps out all of the normal sexual tension in male/female relations.) | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/13/2007 6:37:10 AM | If he was talking about his guy friends I dont think everyone would be so aggressive concerning his comments. I have some friends that are classicly hot, and some that not, some that are too cool for school, and some that are socially awkward. They know who they are, on both sides, and it does not matter to me or them. They are all cool as hell and dont deserve to be prejudged by anyone.
I have stopped dating people for exceeding, what I consider to be, an acceptable intolerance level when directed at strangers. I cant see a situtation where I would be interested in talking to a woman that made some kind of shallow attack on my friends. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/13/2007 7:27:29 AM | well as I had stated, I think the girl that threw the comment at you about hanging with less than appealing women has no class and is incredibly shallow.
I don't know what's happening with this world. I don't care who anybody is hanging with, if I find one of them attractive, I'm not going to discount them because of the company. As a matter of fact, I would probably be more inclined to talk to the person, because being around people usally means you are a sociable, likeable person. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/13/2007 8:34:41 PM | Girls, as opposed to WOMEN (with some maturity and character built) are very competitive. Ultimately, if there is no competition, they see the male as being less of a challenge. The competition is the females that he has surrounding him and yes, sadly, many young women have this attitude.
But hopefully OP you'll get over your immature attitudes around your friends and learn how to see beauty from the inside rather than the out. You're not there yet. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/13/2007 9:08:31 PM |
So I was hanging out with some female friends of mine, and I most admitt they are not hot. One is avg looking & one is below avg looking. I personally don't care what they look like b/c they are just platonic freinds.
Dude...that was soooo insulting. I seriously hope those girls never read this!
And this girl I was having the conversation with said "If i see a guy with ugly girls I wouldn't hit on him, b/c I would think that's all he could get".
I personally think her comment was very shallow. But the other people we were around sorta agreed with her.
Normally I would say that it would be the other way around. A guy with "average looking" girls would prompt me MORE to hit on him because it would show that he accepts people for who they are, not their outter shell. This is a very KEY characteristic in potential men...that they can value other things in women like intelligence, humor, etc.
However, you have sadly proven me wrong by the very manner in which you call them "below average"(don't you realize beauty is based on the individual and what is "below average" to you might be beautiful to another)and forced me to change my opinon... | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/13/2007 9:33:11 PM | I've prolly said this before, but most of my friends are women... if the new person is so petty as to see them as competition or to judge them based purely on looks that is their problem.
I'm not dropping people that I've known for a long time for some new idiot. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:00:24 PM | | There is some basis for her comment, but in the enviornment you described, I would not be concerned about it. Women are perceptive. They can tell if the girl is a date or a friend. While dating unattractive women may be a handicap with attractive women, having unattractive lady friends may even be a positive. | |
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