| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2007 1:40:48 PM | When I started going to the POF events, it changed my life. I was in such a rut of working, coming home, eating, sleeping and going back to work. The POF events have opened my life to meeting new people and doing things I have never done before. I know I won't be going to these forever, but my life has taken a most needed turn from having been involved. What I have learned from attending POF events has encouraged me to stay active in having fun. No more ruts for me!
Recently, the events seem to have taken a hit on criticism in regard to drama that happens. Sure, there are things that happen, but where are you going to go to get away from drama? To tell you the truth, you can go to these and not even see what is going on! I'm living proof.
Here are some reasons people don't attend the events:
1. I don't like the bar scene.
2. I don't drink.
3. I don't like the smoke from cigarettes.
4. I don't like the drama.
5. I'm afraid I won't know anyone.
6. I'm afraid to walk into a bar alone the first time.
OK, answers to these reasons:
1. The places where these are held are not dives. Normally, they serve food as well as drinks, so they are not much different from any restaurant you might go to.
2. Many people don't drink at the events. I have a coke or water. It is not a requirement to drink.
3. There is no smoke in Lucky's because there is a separate smoking area. In a few months, the smoking ban will be enforced everywhere.
4. The solution to drama is just to be mature. And if you see drama, you know you are getting to know people in reality instead of the fantasy land of cyberspace. Players are exposed at the events. How are you going to know that otherwise except through experiencing it firsthand. Well, here is the place to see people in action and decide if you want to go any further in a relationship than that.
5. No, you won't know many at first, but there is a tradition that no one sits alone. As soon as you arrive, you'll be introduced around.
6. I was practically met at the door the first time I went to an event. Normally, POF has a spot where everyone congregates.
My purpose in starting this thread is to encourage everyone to attend events. It's my way of giving back what I have gotten by taking a chance and attending. Maybe it will change your life as well.
How do you feel about the events? Why do you or don't you attend? What could be done to encourage you to attend if you haven't already? | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2007 3:17:05 PM | Sharon- Good thread! Leave it to the Dr to do what should have been done a long time ago!
I could echo your sentiments, but you've already said it better than I could so I won't repeat it.
I would like to add something to the "bar" thing. A bar is just about the only place that you can have a large group of people and NOT be charged for the space. Lucky's and Pucker's have both been very accommodating to us! So many people are not willing to even pay a cover charge... and neither of these places has ever done that to us (no matter what special occasion is going on that their other patron's are expected to pay a cover charge for).
As for the drama... I never even know it's going on most of the time until I read it in the forums! If you aren't one that likes/is drawn to drama, it won't touch you. As with any large group of people- you have many personalities and there are going to be times that those personalities clash. Most adults are capable of being polite even to those they don't care for.
I've made some life long friends that I would never have met if it weren't for the gatherings. You REALLY get to know the people behind the profiles! Just as it becomes obvious who the "players" are, you also see who the truly good/caring people are.
I will be forever grateful for the friends I've met through the event's. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2007 3:36:07 PM | Thanks, Jackie!
I actually started dancing at Lucky's and found that I really love it and want to continue with that as an interest. We are doing the ballroom dancing lessons which is really wonderful and so much fun. I'm even getting into fast dancing more now and am really having fun with that.
I had never played cornhole before and found it to be really fun. People don't know what a good time they are missing by not coming out to the events.
I look forward, too, to seeing the people I've seen online in person. It feels like I kind of already know them a little.
Go ahead and take a chance. Come out and have a great time! | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2007 4:20:51 PM | I love dancing, too! It's just been a loooooong time, so maybe I will get over my shyness and join you.... "maybe" is the key word!  | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 4:52:09 PM | I have to admit that I was one of those that was kind of leary going in by myself but I finally got that nerve...and yes I had a good time. They even got me to play pool which I really do suck at...but that is okay! Everyone carried my back for that one.... I have met a couple of people who I can now call friends so all in all it has been good. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2007 6:23:22 PM | Great job on the PROs vs CONs Sharon. Well said!!!
I will be attending my second POF event on March 31st at Sidelines and I am looking forward to seeing some FAMILIAR faces this time around.
I went by myself last time and felt totally at ease. All the guys and gals were very pleasant to be around.
I did see a guy last time who looked somewhat out of place, so I went over and got him involved in a conversation I was having with another gentleman, after that it was smoth sailing for the guy!! So if you see someone afraid to let go of their training wheels... take a minute to say hi !!
I wish there were some weekday events here in Cleveland because I work weekends. So until there is, I just might make my way down to a Columbus weekday event.
I met Amy and BigFut already, hopefully I can meet you (Sharon) and DSL to.
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Posted: 3/17/2007 7:37:18 PM | Thanks, mikebgood! Hope we can meet sometime as well! The Grump Busters will be coming your way on a road trip March 31 to pay a visit to the L.C. Man in Mentor. Check out the Grump Busters thread in the Ohio Events category for a good laugh. When a man don't smile, who you gonna call? Grump Busters!!!
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2007 7:54:11 PM | | For those who are shy around people, it gives them the ability to make friends easier and meet new people in a more comfortable atmosphere. You don't have to worry about the traditional "online horrors" as much. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2007 8:36:25 PM | I swear I'm going to make it one of these days. Just hate the thought of the long drive back after a few drinks. And the thought of going alone. But hope to get there when the weather gets nice. You all look like your having a great time in all the pics and makes me want to come all the more.
And I love to dance, I have two left feet, but it's fun anyway.
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Posted: 3/17/2007 10:45:58 PM | | There are a few ways around the drive back. First way is to get someone not in POF to ride withya that doesn't drink that way in case you have too many you don't have to drive back. But also road trips are always better with company than alone. The other is to either get a room up here or befriend someone in the area and crash with them. Drinking is not mandatory, but some need it to relax and open up in person. Most folks have enough fun with or without drinking, so it doesn't really become an issue and is as secondary as clothing choices or even personality. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2007 5:45:32 AM | Great thread Sharon 
I'm like Cam I live almost 2 1/2 hrs away which makes it hard to come out but maybe when the weather gets nice I can take a road trip. Would love to meet everyone. Seems like ya'll have a great time & have made some great friendships. I enjoy reading about all the fun you guys have here in the forums.
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Posted: 3/18/2007 6:21:19 AM | dreamsalot, hope to meet you in person one day! I drive about an hour one way to get to most events, but I don't mind really. Sometimes you have to go an extra mile to get something good. The reward is well worth it. Wish you could go on the Grump Busters road trip to meet the L.C. Man. We are going to have a lot of fun!
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Posted: 3/18/2007 6:57:17 AM | Sharon - This is a great thread lady!!! As you very well know... I met my man at one of the gatherings. As a matter of fact, it was only the 2nd gathering he had ever been to and the first one he didn't let anyone know he was there. He went to scope things out first. Gatherings are a great way to meet someone and see if they truly are telling the truth on their profiles. The more you're around someone the more you'll find out and you really can't do that in an email or using the online messaging systems.
I as well encourage everyone to get out and attend an event. There are alot of us here in Columbus that are regular attendees so if you're not comfortable going in alone let one of us know and we'll be sure to welcome you when you get there and even come out and walk you in if need be.
There truly are alot of great folks at the gatherings and you will never know that unless you get out and meet them. It took alot if courage for me to step foot inside the doors at the first gathering I ever went to and then I sat at the bar for 2 hours drinking before I finally got the nerve to move to the other side of the room where all the pof folks were and as soon as I did that someone approached me and asked if I was a fish (lol) and I said I think so and guess what I've been hooked on the gatherings ever since that night. I was made to feel so welcome that I couldn't stop going back. This has really changed my life as well and if it were not for pof I wouldn't have met the wonderful man that I am currently with today.
THANK YOU POF.......
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/18/2007 7:19:31 AM | Cammie.....I am from Cincy and I have made the greatest friends in Columbus....I love each and every one of them...and I don't have to list them because I would hope that they know who they are. Columbus has been a better place for me to fit in than Cincinnati has. Come on out. You will find a blast just waiting on ya....
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/18/2007 7:55:54 AM | I was made to feel so welcome that I couldn't stop going back.
This statement is so true! Toni was one of the many that made me feel welcome at my first event. Rene offered to meet me outside and walk in with me so I would not have to go it alone. Countless others welcomed me into the scene like they'd known me forever. I have made true friends by going to these events. I had just moved here from California and was feeling a little lost because I didn't know anyone and had no social outlet AT ALL. Now I find myself needing to prioritize because there simply isn't enough time to fit it all in lol!! SOOOOO these pof events changed my outlook on Ohio and made it a much happier place for me to be. Thanks a million to all the POF'rs that made me feel welcome from the get go and now if I can do the same for anyone who is wondering if they should or shouldn't come out to an event let me know, I'd love to see you there! | |
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Posted: 3/18/2007 9:20:12 PM | Awwwww I needed another sissy lol!! Thanks for stopping by Karen~ I noticed your beautiful smile when you walked into the room~  | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 4:43:44 AM | Even though the numbers were small last night.....the friends were mighty. It was a good night for all....got to see some folks I hadn't seen in a few weeks...so yes...come to an event.  | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/19/2007 7:00:57 AM | Well i am attending my second even in fairfield this coming saturday so it should be interesting. Pretty sure the first one was alright but since this will be really close to home and stuff i think it will be fun.
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Joined: 11/18/2006
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/19/2007 7:42:41 AM | Being the host of the event in Lancaster has changed my life. I had so few friends since moving to Ohio from North Carolina. I've had no chance to get out and meet nice people till I started coming to the events. I have met some of the best friends I've ever had, I have a shoulder to cry on at any time and someone to share a laugh with. Thru POF I have met a man I am crazy about. On the coldest night of the year I had about 10 of my POF friends help me move.
The one rule I have at my events is that no one sits alone. If you have never been to an event I hope to meet you soon. Tuesday nights, Taverne at Mill is the place to be. We have cornhole, singing, dancing, and no pressure.
I want to thank all of my friends, you are all the greatest!
GREAT THREAD SHARON!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Colya
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/19/2007 8:19:13 AM | I also usually drink soda at the events. I don't smoke either. I do not sing in public. I stink at cornhole. I even have a boyfriend. I love coming the events. I wish I could go to more. As soon as I get a newer car I will be at more events this summer. Hopefully I will get to drag Vaughn out to one so you all can meet him.
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Posted: 3/19/2007 8:48:13 AM | Every event I have been to the drinking and smoking are usually not factors. Granted some folks don't like the smell or are allergic- and I can understand that.
But the thing is when people come out to the events, we are there to have fun. Do we need the alcohol to have fun?? Heck no! But it is nce to have to get folks to relax and be themselves sometimes. The events are just as much about making friends as they are about the search for someone special.
Personally speaking if I had not met so many new people and had the urge to get to know em better, I woulda went right back out the door and missed some folks that have become close to me. I have been on and off of this site for a lil over 3 years, but this time I have stuck around and gotten to know tons of folks. If nothing else come out at least once so you can experience it for yourself.
Its kinda like sunlight .... you can see it at a distance and appreciate what it does overall, but til you get into it and realize how it caresses your skin and makes you feel overall. Had you never went into it, you would not appreciate all that it does for ya. The memories, the feelings, the sunburns ... .I mean the other times. You get the idea ........... | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 10:22:07 AM | CAME TO ONE EVENT THOUGHT THE PLACE WAS GREAT!!! BUT I FEEL IT WAS MAINLY FOR WHTE PEOPLE. I AM A AFRICAN/AMERICAN WOMAN I HAVE NO PEFFERANCE TO WHAT COLOR I DATE. I COME FROM A VERY DIVERSE COMMUNITY. NO ONE EVER APPROACHED ME SO I LEFT AFTER ABOUT AN HOUR. I HAD DRIVEN A LITTLE WAYS. I LIVE IN LORAIN COUNTY. I HAVE BEEN ON THIS SIGHT FOR ABOUT A YEAR AND I THINK WHTE MEN SHOULD STATE WHAT THEY LIKE [SWM-SWF] SO YOU DON'T GET YOUR FEELINGS HURT WHICH MINE HAVE BEEN WHEN I HAVE CONTACTED ONE OF THEM,OR JUST HAD NO RESPONSE!!! I AM A HONEST,CARING GOOD PERSON. THANKS FOR LISTENING ,I HOPE IT HELPS OTHERS.
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/19/2007 11:55:39 AM | I went to the event up in Englewood and i know what you mean about sitting there but i got up and started talking to people and before i knew it i had four girls fighting to buy me drinks haha. Anyways this saturday in fairfield looks promising so lets keep our fingers crossed.
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