| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 3/18/2007 6:44:33 AM | Hi, Just curious about the men from Mass. Well all 75% of men.. everywhere..
I have emailed some nice people on here and when I get brave enough to give them my number they never call. Why is that?
Their profile says they are looking for long term as I am. I have slight restrictions so most everyone can email me. I write back to them and I never get a response saying why they didn't call?
I don't think I am an unattractive women. I don't feel that I don't have any issues that other people have not gone through?
Whats up? LOL....
 | |
|
| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 3/21/2007 1:52:12 PM | | Yeah, its not a Massachusetts thing. Its a man thing. Though pretty much every guy on POF states in their profile that they are seeking long term (otherwise they know they won't get a reply). However, you know what 90 percent of the men on here are seeking. When opportunity presents itself to actually enter a long-term prospect, they run the other way. And the other 10 percent that are willing to go that route, are the type of guys you don't want to date anyway for various reasons. I've experienced this myself but with women who are afraid of serious relationships. It really all boils down to the dating-chain that we all experienced in high school. The super-hot date the super-hot, and the rest of the vultures on the chain falls in line. | |
|
| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 3/22/2007 3:26:50 PM | Hi Diana,
I know exactly what you mean, I have had the same thing happen to me, also after a few dates they just stop calling and e-mailing, I just do not think two dates call for going to bed or meeting my family yet. I like to know someone a little before family is brought into it. Good Luck in your search...........................................Kathy | |
|
| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 3/24/2007 11:36:51 AM | No you ertinly are an attractive woman. I think many people feel they want long term or even dating when push comes to shove, for whatever reason, its scares the crap out of them.
Then again having been on the net for an embarressing amount of years theres the "my God can there really be this many liars in the world".
I was involved for 12 years with someone and honestly while not scaried I couldnt say I could jump into something intending it to go long term. I miss all the best things about it but Im still rebuilding myself. Ok enough rambling
Joe | |
|
| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 3/27/2007 8:08:39 AM | Thanks for all the replies.. 
I knew that I wasn't the only one thinking like this. Although at times i felt like it.
Why can't people just be honest and say, hey I thought it was going to work out, but sorry your not my type. Then things would be a lot easy to deal with.
It's the no call or no respond emails that make you wonder.
Oh well there loss.  lol
[Life is like an onion: You peel it off one layer at a time, and sometimes you weep.] | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| |
| |
| |
| |
| |
RJ989
|
Joined: 7/1/2007
Msg: 14 | |
| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 7/6/2007 6:54:00 PM | Well I have to say this is my first post in the forums...So I'm no longer a virgin
I have to say your a very good looking woman Diana. I can't understand why those guys haven't call you?
I haven't figured out this online dating thing yet? This is my third one. I'm not sure if it's me or all the women are looking for someone that belongs on TV or a magazine.I read all their profiles most of them sounding the same...Honesty,Loyality,Romantic, No head games,No players,No married men,down to earth ,funny,no picture no e-mail...etc
All I have to say is ...HOW DO YOU KNOW As you go from profile to profile and looking at all these faces. How do you know if that person is what they say they are,how do you know if that's them in the photo's they posted? I understand that we all have to be attracted to one another before we take the next step. But you can't tell any thing about a person by their picture
I sorry if I went a little off topic GL Diana on finding a nice guy | |
|
| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 9/18/2007 10:01:44 PM | | Hi all, the truth is we don't know about anybody we see in the profile and they don't know about us. I think some folks know what they want and come right out and state it, some are just trying it on for size to see how it fits and some are just confused or downright unstable. If you are looking for some kind of guarantee, good luck. My rule of thumb is to just have fun with it. I don't put too much importance on it. I enjoy talking to new people and meeting new people if it comes to that. I have had two dates scheduled and they both stood me up, I kid you not. I showed and they didn't. Oh well, too bad for them. But I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. So be honest in your own profile, know what you want and state it clearly, and hope for the best. Good luck to all. Also, as far as guys calling, I email them and if they want to chat, I get their number and call them. I find that a bit more effective. | |
|
| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 9/21/2007 2:55:23 AM | | Lizzy...I am the same way....I took a great deal of time creating my profile to represent who I am.....and I think, too, that people should just have fun with it. If you meet someone special and it works, that's great...if you meet a few people with whom you've had good conversations, that's great too. It's all like throwing dice whether or not you get the cat eyes and meet that someone special. But if you meet several people with whom you had good chats; hey, that's two more nice people you have met in the world. I am fairly new to Boston and have also found the site to be a great way to meet some ladies in my area with whom I can be friends. It is so difficult being new in a big city where you don't know anyone. So I thought why not just send messages to some local females on here and explain my newness to the city and see if they would like to meet for coffee (as friends) or go shopping. These sites are what you make them. | |
|
| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 9/25/2007 2:34:26 PM | Sorry to interrupt but it isn't just the American guys but the British ones are just as bad. I think its because 50% are married and just looking for a bit on the side, then take your number and chicken out,  | |
|
epi74
|
Joined: 6/22/2007
Msg: 18 | |
| |
| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 10/20/2007 1:31:56 PM | Hello. I have gone through the same thing. I think it is because they find someone else within 10 minutes after chatting. One of the down sides of this online "dating". Do not take it personal. You will find someone. Take care | |
|
| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 10/23/2007 3:19:10 PM | I definitely don't put myself in the 75%. If a good connection is made, I'm more of a voice person than typing. Typing can't show emotion of humor. People might take things the wrong way but with a voice you can joke, get serious, make a compliment etc.
Once a voice connection is made, the next step might be a face to face; even better. All we need to do is be ourselves and just relax; afterall the dating ritual includes a discovery period i.e. emails, im's, phone then face to face. Follow these steps in this order and things will go right. They are probably shy that's why they don't call. Be bold there is absolutely nothing to lose. A good looking girl or guy is looking for the same thing 'love'. A lot of people are intimidated by the looks or some jusy play on their looks. I have sent IM's before when i got the 'window opens', 3 seconds later 'window close' .That's enough time to just look at a picture. As someone said on here, do not judge a book by its cover. I seek more of a mental connection a stimulating conversation; i guess in a way that's what we all want some just put more emphasis on looks. Maybe that's why some guys also don't make the call.
Just my 2 cents :) | |
|
| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 10/29/2007 10:01:35 AM | I haven't had that experience. Sometimes I take the first initiative especially if I'm not sure of the man and don't want him to have my number right away. Why not ask for his number and give him a call???
I have met about six men from this site, out of the six two turned out to be loosers, one a lawyer who turned up drunk another a nice businessman who was looking for a mistress, unbelievable!
However the others were complete gentleman and very sweet, but the chemistry has to be there and you'll know it upon first meeting. I recently met a lovely man who has a few health issues but he's a sweetheart. Having been widowed twice due to cancer taking my husband I was trying to meet someone who was in good health, but I guess at my age that's not possible! Remember take the initiative and call a guy if you like his profile. My grandmother always had a saying "You can't be backwards in coming forwards" | |
|
| Curious about why 75% of the men on here never call?
Posted: 10/29/2007 10:06:08 AM | | I completely disagree with you. Ever hear the saying "you can't judge a book by its cover"? I had two great marriages that both ended due to my husbands getting cancer. Neither of my husbands were handsome at the time I met them, but to me they became the most handsome looking men I'd ever known. Love brings beauty, personality and values come first with me. To judge one on their appearance is really shallow! | |
|
| |
| |
| |
Home
login 
