| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/19/2007 8:29:58 AM | | I met this guy I really like in Whistler but he is on a bike trip around the world with his friends. I know he's leaving in a month and I know I'm going to get hurt and if I hang around till leaves I'm going to get hurt even more! But I can't say goodbye before he goes. Why is this and do you think I'm a fool for believing that maybe we'll stay in touch? | |
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RJB888
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Joined: 11/23/2005
Msg: 3 | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/19/2007 9:06:33 AM | Have you ever stopped to think that maybe you are falling for this guy because it's safe to?
It's sometimes easier to have your heart broken because of a separation or breakup than to have it broken simply because it ended before it ever got started.
Enjoy it while it lasts, if that's what you choose to do...just leave your heart at the door, so to speak.
And, if it's meant to be, you can pick things up where you left off when he returns from his biking excursion. Just don't "wait" around. | |
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ya472
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Joined: 4/29/2006
Msg: 7 | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/19/2007 9:22:47 AM | Just lookin for fun memorable times - that's what you have in your post...Therefore, this guy is perfect for you..There are times in our life that we don' t want the emotional entanglement but just the laughs.
If you are coming to a point that you want a mr right instead of a mr right now, I am sure you will have no problem finding a man who is interested in you..your job would be finding the one worthy of you... | |
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freja
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Joined: 12/30/2006
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/19/2007 4:14:50 PM | | Like i said in another thread. Noone here knows what he thinks and feels. But... I wouldnt waste too much time on him... Maybe see him as a possibility when he comes back. But dont let ur heart be teared apart just like that. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/19/2007 4:18:59 PM | | I am a traveler. When one travels, believe me, every single place, person and action leads you to new experiences. New experiences usually mean a slight change in your outlook, life and so forth. In other words, if this is going to happen to him, he won't even think about you bc you are only short term. At best, he will think of you as someone from the " past " in " another place ", a " long time ago ". It's best to keep it platonic for now, tell him your reasonings, say goodbye and keep your head up. Your maturity or how you handle the situation when he leaves will leave a much more lasting impression on his mind, than you begging and crying bc he's leaving. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/19/2007 4:20:21 PM | You are 24, living in a place that attracts some of the best looking and richest guys in the world.
There are a few that'll be showing up soon if you don't already have a couple waiting in the wings.
Say "Bye-bye, have a good life" to this particular hunk and, "Hey, sweety!" to the next one. | |
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lfrl
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Joined: 3/30/2006
Msg: 12 | |
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lfrl
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Joined: 3/30/2006
Msg: 13 | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/19/2007 4:52:50 PM | | You say in your profile that you are looking for friends. So leave it at friends. Don't get into it too deep. Maybe he'll keep in touch, maybe not. If you are still in touch when he gets back, fine. But in the meantime, don't get hung up on this guy. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/19/2007 5:02:20 PM | | IMHO...love like it's never going to hurt....carpe diem.....everyone in your life comes into it for a reason, you may not know what it is at the time, but everyone you know serves a purpose......I say do what you want with him, life is too short to say "I'm not getting involved with you b/c you're going to be leaving"......I've done it myself and I never regretted it. Life is too short not to meet interesting people, regardless of how long you end up knowing them for! | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/19/2007 6:53:06 PM | I was in a similar situation many years ago. I knew he was leaving within a few weeks. But we enjoyed our time together anyway. I didn't expect to hear from him again after he left, he lived in another country 3000 miles away from me. He did call, and continued to call. He came back to visit me a few months later, then I went to visit him. After a year of long distance relationship we married and I moved to be with him.
You just never know who you are going to meet where and how its going to turn out. Just don't plan on happily ever after. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/19/2007 8:13:47 PM | In a way.. I agree that its going to hurt you in the end.. on the other hand.. can imagine how good the next 4 weeks can be? when you connect with someone it can change you for a lifetime... enjoy yourself.. have a wonderful time.. and when it comes to seeing him to the plane... kiss him goodbye and move on.
Good luck! | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/19/2007 10:24:08 PM | | Bail out now. There is no point in letting yourself go head over heels for someone you can't have. If you are meant to have anything it will come back to you at a later date... if not then you're better off. Don't shoot yourself in the foot. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/19/2007 10:26:57 PM | Have you ever stopped to think that maybe you are falling for this guy because it's safe to?
Good question.
Next good question: Is it sane to fall for anyone? Falling in love ain't exactly logical, is it?
Another good question: Are you falling for him because you know that there is little chance your feelings will be reciprocated--in which case, it sure as shit isn't safe, but a will to fail?
Meh. It's never safe or sane to fall for anyone. That's the fun of it. It isn't a decision, and it's part of the ride. That's humanity for ya! | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 12:09:40 PM | thank you for all your replies-
just so you know I am looking for something serious, but I wrote friends in my profile because I feel a little weird still this meeting of the net I havn't met anyone off here yet so I don't want to give someone the wrong impression or have any pressure on me. As well I can't find anyone. I don't know how and when I say fun memorable times maybe I should change it if I'm giving the impression of just fooling around with guys. Thank you so much for the information. | |
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Kengne
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Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 22 | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 12:24:14 PM | Don't fall to hard as your not even sure he will be around. Your supposed to save that stuff for someone who feels the same, not someone leaving.
ya know doll? ........ so I'd say its a bad idea.
ps, nice teeth.
Better idea: fall this way... I have a "big net" to catch you.. lol | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 2:04:41 PM | to the original poster -- why is it that you think that he will not stay in touch?
most of the time we already know the answers to the questions we ask. we are just asking for validation and or positive affirmation.
you can answer this one on your own. you don't need 50 complete strangers to tell you what you already know.
cheers
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