| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 7:49:45 AM | A guy on here messaged me, he seemed ok although not particularly attractive. We chatted online, he complained that he was a "nice" guy and women wouldn't give him a chance. We met for drinks, I liked him ok. He called and asked me out to dinner for the next day. I met him there, halfway through dinner he saw a woman he was aquainted with. He was all ga-ga over her, practically drooling over her, touching her, etc. Meanwhile I was left at the table alone. I got up and left.
He emailed me and said she was just a "friend" and that I had embarrassed him. He said I had it all wrong. I called him a jerk and blocked him. Should I give him another chance, or did I do the right thing? | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 7:53:03 AM | You did the right thing! He left you sitting at the table all alone while he was chatting up another woman....friend or not!
Nice guys wouldn't do that! (Hell, most jerks wouldn't do it either!!) | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 7:55:03 AM | | Ya... he should have at least tried for the 3some! LOL | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 7:56:46 AM | | A little late for that isn't it? I mean you totally embarassed him! I'm shocked he didn't block *you* | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:04:26 AM | | OPm you did the right thing, IMO...a 'nice guy' wouldn't have left you at the table like that, especially at your first meeting. I don't think I'd have even met him in the first place if he was the type that complained about women not liking 'nice guys' like him...I've found that the ones who have to mention they're a nice guy, usually aren't as nice as they think they are. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:06:28 AM | | You did the RIGHT thing!! I would have did the same and wouldn't have gave him the time of day after that. No wonder why he is still " alone" ....... any real nice guy wouldn't have did what he did which showed a lack of consideration and respect for you. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:08:06 AM | You never mentioned if he introduced her to you or not, from the looks of what you posted, it appears he didn't, so getting up to leave after seeing all you saw I feel was totally justified.
Curb his ass, chances are he'd probably do it again. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:08:55 AM | | Since he apparently didn't bother to introduce you as his date, you absolutely did the right thing. I think I would have poured a drink over his head as I was leaving though.... | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:09:32 AM | | I think you're a smart lady and totally did the right thing. It seems he's alread "gaga" over someone, not to mention how just plain rude his actions were. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:18:06 AM | | No do not give him another chance. He has self esteem issues anyways, otherwise he wouldnt be whining about no one giving him a chance. People dont find that whining attractive and when a person is not physically appealing, then what is the use? Are you desparate? Nah, move on...NEXT! If it was a total love connection, you wouldnt be saying "you liked him ok". Guys are good at giving you guilt trips for your behavior when in reality it was his behavior that was off. You did the right thing. You deserve a mans full attention! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:20:08 AM | You know a guy is a problem when he has to tell you what a "nice guy" he is. There is no excuse for his behaviour and I think you went easy on him.
<div class='quote'> Guys are good at giving you guilt trips for your behavior when in reality it was his behavior that was off.
That's so true. I apologized to a guy I'd dated a few times for being a bad hostess, when really he was was extremely rude as a guest and had manipulated me in order to get me to go out with him in the first place! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:22:04 AM | | ouch. could u imagine the second date? lol. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:25:01 AM | Totally not a gentleman, that's for sure. Where are his manners? Where is his concern about your feelings? Non-existant!
Good for you to have the fortitude to move on and block him! Most of these "nobody gives me a chance I am such a nice guy*" seem to be stuck in selfish place..can't move on to a higher level until they learn somehow to consider other people's feelings.
*I imagine it would be the same for gals...but I am just speaking from experience so I am talking only about dudes. Thx.
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:25:54 AM | A true "nice guy" would never do something like that. He was rude and inconsiderate, so you did the right thing. Yes, he should be embarrassed, but not because of what you did, but because of is total lack of concern for you, his date.
Something similar happened to me a long time a go. A woman I was on a date with saw a guy she had dated before in the line we were waiting in. She turned her back to me and talked with him and his date until time to enter the auditorium. Of course, they had to sit with us and she sat between him and I. During the show her comments were made to him. Needless to say, I never saw her again. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:33:26 AM | So this was your second date with this guy and he got up in the middle of dinner and left you alone for a period of time that you felt uncomfortable with , he then flirted with this women , which made you feel really uncomfortable and didn't introduce you to this women . Well me myself would have got up introduced my self, and see if the conversation flowed if not then i would have left , letting him pay for dinner .
But then i'm a spunky kind of women .
Don't bother giving him another chance , it probably won't work . | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:37:05 AM | Let me see if I understand this correctly:
1. He whines to get you to go out with him ;
2. You don't like him all that much anyway,
3. He is rude and disrespectful to you-so much so that you leave in the middle of dinner,
4. He doesn't even notice or attempt to stop you because he's so involved with this 'friend'
5. He emails you & doesn't apologize profusely ( which I would disregard anyway),
6. He blames you for embarrassing HIM?
You did the right thing in walking out- GOOD FOR YOU!!!
Don't even give it another thought - other than to pat yourself on the back!!!
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:46:39 AM | | Hell no!!!!! U did the right thing. He needs to be ga-ga over u for that little time and if he cant do that...... see ya!!! U need to find a real man !!!! and I'm not so sure they are on this site. I got no showed twice in two weeks so at least u got to meet him LOL. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:58:18 AM | Yup, yup... you did the right thing...
I cant believe your even asking though....
Anyway, good luck darlin! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 9:09:34 AM | That's happened to me, but not with a woman....my date ignored me because he ran into a buddy of his. Either way, it's rude.
I'm with everyone else...don't give him another chance. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 9:15:23 AM | He's no gentleman, and I think you did the right thing. There is no excuse for leaving someone sitting by themselves while you go chat up another. If it was just an friend, he would have introduced you. Forget about it. Let's hope he learned a valuable life lesson.
Oh, and there is never a reason to pour a drink over someones head as was in another response. That would be stooping to his level,,,and even lower.
Always take the high road and it will never fail you. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 9:19:21 AM | Lets face it--you were not really into him anyways---he was just "ok" and "not particularly attractive", you noted that he "complained", then you state that " "I liked him OK" (who wants to be just OK??), you didnt like how he responded to another person..then you got up and left because of his lack of social graces.......
hummmm...I say you dumped him...why are you seeking approval for your actions--and even worse, why would you want to go back for more? | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 9:21:34 AM | | You did the right thing , BRAVO! It shows him you have self-esteem and value yourself. A nice guy would have been all ga-ga about you and would have been proud to make it so. He asked YOU out afterall! He had his chance and he blew and showed his true colors. Stay away from that type of guys. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 9:24:51 AM | | You did the right thing for sure only thing you did wrong was quastion your own decision on this,.But maybe you shoulda ordered an expensive bottle of wine (on his bill) then left *LOL* | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 9:32:45 AM | | i dont care if he was chatting it up with a male friend of his....if he left u alone for a significant amount of time i dont blame u...its called class.If u are on a date that is uncalled for | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 9:34:04 AM | wow.. so were you dumped or did you dump him lol... this is difficult... im sorry but i kinda sorta had to laugh :S
ive dumped guys mid date.. but normally if another person is in the situation i dont over react like that lol... but then again ... we all weren't there... so ... maybe your reaction was either too brutal or either the right thing :S lol | |
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