| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/21/2007 4:18:33 PM | A hypothetical situation, which certainly doesn't apply to me,
...and likely never will
It was just something I thought about, after buying a lottery ticket.
If you were very wealthy, would you tell people who you were meeting on here?
I'd imagine that a few people, may try flaunting wealth, as a way of attracting the opposite sex. I'd be too worried about the type of people it may attract.
A person should be open about things like financial status, when there's a potential for a serious relationship. But if I were in the situation, I'd prefer to have a woman become interested in me for other reason's, before she learned of the financial status. | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/21/2007 4:24:42 PM | I agree with you, I'd prefer to have someone interested in me for other reasons (ie: personality lol), before he learned that I was wealthy (which unfortunately right now I'm not heh).
I would not post on here that I was some rich girl, lol, and I'd probably keep it to myself until we had met a few times and I was comfortable with him, and felt okay with telling him. Like you said, I'd be worried about the type of people that it would attract.
LOL, if I wanted someone to use me for my money I'd have stayed with my ex... | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/21/2007 5:50:44 PM | For reasons I won't go into, when I was younger some people used to think I had a lot of money. The number of people who came out of the woodwork looking for a handout was unbelievable! Some of them I hadn't seen or heard from in years, but they'd hear some rumor and show up acting like we used to be best friends, when in reality we'd barely known each other. A few were looking for investment money so they could start a business. Why they thought I'd want to back a business I knew nothing about, run by someone I barely knew, was something I could never figure out.
Of course they'd disappear, never to be heard of again when I clued them in that they had it all wrong and I wasn't rolling in dough. It was pretty pathetic, not to mention comical.
So, no, I definitely wouldn't let anyone know. In fact, after my experience, I don't think I'd even let a hint of it out until the relationship was far enough along that we were starting to talk about sharing expenses. Rich folks must have a tough time trusting anyone. | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/21/2007 6:31:06 PM | I'm kinda wondering: when would you eventually tell someone?
You likely wouldn't have to go into details, like how much is in your bank account, when first getting to know someone.
But what if you had a career such as a doctor, which is a magnet for gold-diggers? People often ask, very early on, what you do. Would you avoid telling them? (Possibly risk turning-off the right person as they may feel you're trying to hide something, if you're not dis-closing your profession).
Would you have a made-up career, just to keep the sugar-daddy hunters (or sugar-momma hunters) away? | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/21/2007 6:49:44 PM | But what if you had a career such as a doctor, which is a magnet for gold-diggers? ... Would you have a made-up career, just to keep the sugar-daddy hunters (or sugar-momma hunters) away?
Depends... I might have something I did on the side which I could refer to. Of course most doctors probably wouldn't have time to do anything on the side so that might be a little tougher.
I'm sure glad this isn't a problem I have to deal with on a daily basis. It'd be like being hot... always having to beat women off with a stick. | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/21/2007 7:25:55 PM | i dont think that i would disclose that kind of info....bein wealthy, not until it seems that there is something to the relationship
but i dont think i iwll ever have that kind of trouble
i wish | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/21/2007 8:02:14 PM | | nope my wealth is not a thing I would flaunt..........I only wish I had some to flaunt!!! lol...........but I think if I won a lottery or something like that, I'd keep that info to myself until I found my lifelong fish and we had a "solid relationship" ... then and only then would I let it slip! | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/21/2007 8:29:07 PM | this is likely not a situation I would have to worry about EVER
However, money is not a huge factor to me, of course unless I don't have enough to pay my bills cuz then the bill collectors get kinda cranky.... but even on the other side of the coin, I think I might stay clear of someone who told me they had plenty of cash out of fear that they may use the ol adage 'yer just using me for my money'..... Like I mentioned many threads ago, I am by no means materialistic, and if I did have lots of money (big IF)... I don't think I'd disclose this information until very late into a relationship....
however, George was quite upset with Kali on Grey's Anatomy last week....  | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/21/2007 9:01:22 PM | | What is VERY WEALTHY???? I am self sufficient, have extra money left over at the end of the month..own my own home, make my own money, run my own business....does this make me wealthy???? If a guy I was dating finally told me he was loaded, it really wouldnt make a difference other then the fact that then I would know that he wouldnt be always forgetting his wallet at home whenver we went shopping. Good question although I am not sure people are gonna answer honestly here.... | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/21/2007 9:41:58 PM | With money, people's motives can become hidden. I would hide that fact from a prospective fish if I was wealthy. If I had a million dollars, I assure you that there would be no buying of K-cars. I would still rent a simple apartment and make it looked lived in. It may be a deception but I prefer to get the truth about motives.
Also I know my family, every last damn cousin i never met would be here with there hands out if I were rich. | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/21/2007 10:18:42 PM | Why not? K-cars are a nice reliant automobile...heh
Anyway, if I had won the lottery and that was why I was loaded, then I'd certainly keep that to myself. As much as I always say that I'd spoil myself if I was a lottery winner, I really don't think I'd live that extravagantly in some mansion somewhere, so it would probably be fairly easy to conceal that I was wealthy. However if I was a doctor or some other well-paid professional (which I hope to be once I'm done my Accounting course... lol ya right), I would not lie about it or make up some other profession.
There are poor doctors out there, just like there are rich...fast food workers (just an example) out there.
It's late and I have a killer headache and by the time the words came from my head out onto the keyboard I kind of forgot what my point was, but maybe someone will know what I mean. Or maybe I can elaborate when I wake up tomorrow morning :) | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/22/2007 1:31:43 AM | I only wish I was wealthy ...lol...and I too would probably keep it to myself until the time is right - until I knew the guy loved me for who I am and not what I have in my bank account or material possessions and I would expect the same from the guy. If the discussion where to come up about our financial situation which is not always right at the beginning of a relationship, I would just say that I have enough money to take care of myself and eventually start throwing out hints as the relationship developed further and I knew he was into me and not anything else. You can scare someone away if you are too wealthy just as much as you can scare someone away if your not as well. Money is the root to all evil and money can not buy you love - it can only buy you material possessions. I would rather be poor and in love then to be rich and lonely. The guy I am with told me early in our relationship - well after we developed feelings for each other how much money he brings in a month which is alot and that he would buy me anything I wanted but I have told him many times that it does not matter how much he makes - he could be the poorest guy on earth and I would still love him for who he is and for what he has or doesn't have. Thats just me.
Now if I was to win the big one, that would be pretty hard to keep a secret as I think your names gets advertised all over the place and if it can be kept as an unknown winner then I would be so excited that I would tell my family and closest friends even though I knew it would slip out eventually and would share my wealth with them and yes have everyone else knocking on my door for handouts in which they wouldn't get....lol. Winning a lottery is way different then just being wealthy. It puts a whole new look on things and how a person would handle it. Geeze maybe someone or even myself should get a thread going on that one....lol..."what would you do if you won the big one". | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/22/2007 5:51:21 AM | | I, honestly don't think I would tell anyone....unless I were seriously involved with someone, then, perhaps I would mention it, however, I don't think I'll ever have to worry about it...unless I win the lotto, or someone leaves me a substantial amount of money in their will. haha | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/22/2007 9:39:02 AM | Ya, I do not think that being wealthy will ever be a big fear of mine, nor the type of crazies that it attracts. There are enough crazies out there to be attracted without having any sort of money.
I won't lie if I were to win the lotto or get a bunch of money left for me, I would do everything in my power to make my dreams come true, I woulnd't just sit on it, because in all reality you can't take it with you when you go, and I don't want no fight when I am dead and gone, but I would not flaunt my money to make friends or be shallow like that, because I just don't roll that way...maybe I would tell Sugar...but thats a big maybe | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/22/2007 9:34:00 PM | | No..oh hail no! Are you kidding me? There is enough peeps on here with fake pictures and profiles claiming to be good looking hoping someone will contact them. Claiming your wealthy is probably asking for more shallow and insincere people to try and get with you. Although they would claim it wasn't soooooooo. YEAH RIGHT and the pope isn't Catholic. | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/22/2007 11:34:54 PM | | If I came into money or was wealthy, the only ones that would know would be my family (which includes my closest buds-they have always been there for me as well as my my blood).....and I'd have no problem including my man and his family, because they have been there for me through all my rough now too. You should know a sucker of wealth from the get-go...we all have guts/feelings and should stick to them over our lust/love. | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/23/2007 5:59:27 AM | I would not advertise anything as personal about my financial status to people that I do not know well. People who do out right say that they are wealthy I would question, in fact.
I do have a couple of friends who are millionaires and they are not flamboyant about it at all. They dont drive Porsches' , they dont wear five thousand dollar suits and they dont eat regularily in five star restaurants.
They are self made and there is a certain silent pride about them. They appreciate intelligence, honesty and someone who is indeed genuine. | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/23/2007 6:14:45 AM | "They are self made and there is a certain silent pride about them. They appreciate intelligence, honesty and someone who is indeed genuine."
Well said no soup well said...... | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/23/2007 12:16:34 PM | Wealth does not always have to be determined by money. The wealth I seek is someone who is compassionate, caring, comforting, with a love for communication. This type of weath one can never tell another, its displayed from inside.
Have a nice day | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/23/2007 3:05:51 PM | | Well said guesswho - I totally agree with you on that one and feel the same way. The wealth of money does not and never will buy or replace the wealth of compassion, love, caring, comforting and communication. This kind of wealth does come from within and a person is lucky to be able to have this kind of wealth. Like I mentioned earlier, my man could be the poorest man on earth but would love him all the same cause he has all the wealth that comes from within him to give to me as I do him. | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/23/2007 6:27:59 PM | | I would hope that my lifestyle or at least the way I dressed or the house I lived in might give some idea of my financial status. I am not sure if I would say right out that I had money..........its not usually the first topic of conversation.....and if it is.....get outta there. I do not want or expect someone to be looking after me just as I want and expect independance in a partner. I've lived way to long and worked way too hard to be 'looking after' someone else. Maybe that is selfish, but the people in my life now know who is special to me. Should I suddenly 'come into money' I would share but I sure wouldn't be broadcasting the news. | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/23/2007 6:39:04 PM | you have a point there polly......it would look suspisious if all of a sudden i went from livin in the hood to a better place........like out in the ocuntry....
and if i went from drivin my old car to what i wanna be drivin...but thats only in the case of winnin or commin into a large sum of money...
other than that i would want someone to love me for how i am not what i can buy them
btw polly my ring is just about healed lol | |
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| Would you tell people if you were very wealthy?
Posted: 3/25/2007 1:58:11 PM | haha ..good thing this is a what "if" thread...
If i did win large I highly doubt I would be on this site..Bermuda sounds like a great place to be and peaceful
I wouldn't flaunt it anyways and really am not about the money anyways and have quite a reversion too the people that do flaunt it and think it is important. | |
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