| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 6:09:45 PM | To every guy that regrets hurting or losing her. To every guy who knows which girl he wants. To every guy that's said, "You're beautiful." To every guy that was never too busy TO DRIVE across town(or across the STATE)( or across the country ) to see HER. To every guy that gives flowers and a card when she is sick. To every guy who has given her flowers just because. To every guy that said he would die for her. To every guy that really would. To every guy that did what she wanted to do.
To every guy that cried in front of her. To every guy that she cried in front of. To every guy that holds hands with her. To every guy that kisses her with meaning. To every guy that hugs her when she's sad.
To every guy that hugs her for no reason at all. To every guy who would give their jacket up for her. To every guy that calls to make sure she got home safe. To every guy that would sit and wait hours to see her, even if they could only spend a few minutes together. To every guy that would give his seat up. To every guy that (just wants to cuddle) To every guy that reassured her that she was beautiful no matter what. And honestly believed what he said. To every guy who told his secrets to her. To every guy that tried to show how much he cared through every word and every breath.
To every guy that thought "maybe this could be the one". To every guy that believed in her dreams. To every guy that would have done anything so she could achieve them. To every guy that never laughed at her when she told him her dreams. To every guy that walked her to her car. To every guy that wasn't ...just trying to get laid. To every guy that gave his heart and still has a piece missing. To every guy who prays that she is happy even if he is not the one that makes her that way.
To every guy who doesn't care how far away she lives, and will still date her because it's her. To every guy who cares the most about how she feels, even when she breaks your heart. This is one bulletin for you... Not many girls appreciate nice guys anymore... And because of this, there are not many left out there... If you are a nice guy repost this with "Nice guys finish last." If you are a girl that thinks every guy should try to accomplish even a few of these repost this with:To every guy that regrets hurting or losing her. | |
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 6:42:13 PM | | ahhh, very nice!! It is soo very true. There are many of us out there "nice guys and nice girls" that finish........last | |
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| Nice guys finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 7:04:30 PM | | I can say with all honesty I am one of those guys and trying to find a girl that knows hoe to appreciate it....Are you out there | |
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| Nice guys finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 7:09:32 PM | | nice thread sassy...........i LOVE nice guys like those men you just described....yes they are out there!....keep searching everyone....don't give up! | |
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| Nice guys finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 7:13:26 PM | | Well I did carefully read the Opening post.....twice... There are lot of statements in that post that I have done and will continue to do... So, I too consider myself to be a " Nice Guy".. JMO mind ya | |
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| Nice guys finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 7:17:26 PM | Nice guys and gals finish last always!!!! Why is that i wonder hmmmmm guess us nice folk are put on the back burner when it comes to meeting Mr or Mrs right! very sad but very true!! Guess we should be a little more nasty and selfish as its these types of people that seem to get what they want from life without a shadow of a doubt!. Hmmmm Let me try and be nasty, wait a mo its coming its comin! GRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAA!  lol! Hmmm that was tuff lol, nope its no good once a little  always a little . My mummy brought me up to be good! just wish guys would respect me for that but ho well! I wont win cus il never reduce my self to being a heartless tarty moo with no feelings for anyone other than me self!
Guess it means am doomed for ever and ever with singledom!!!! 
 
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 7:20:09 PM | This is so true.
What are we supposed to do?
You can do all the list below but it doesn't get us anywheres. : (
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| Nice guys finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 7:37:58 PM | Quote, "They go into hiding.... never to be found again. Nice guys never allow to get burned more than once. "
I don't hide. I just don't look nice so I blend in and I have been burned more than once.
If you can't allow yourself to be vulnerable, you'll never find true love.
A real woman can tell the difference anyway. ;)
me. | |
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 7:48:22 PM |
Not many girls appreciate nice guys anymore... And because of this, there are not many left out there...
Sadly, this is very true..... as I know, being one of those who always finish last. It often makes me wonder if being nice is really worth it. Not that I have a choice; even though I know it's the insensitive macho Neanderthals who get most of the women's attention, I really don't have it in me to be that. So, I guess I keep finishing last.... or just give up on it. | |
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 8:17:30 PM | Hmmm....I'm almost thinking it wouldn't be a bad thing to be the one to finish last. The last one they wake up to, the last person to date.....because they are the final one. They are found. I hope to be the last one for someone sometime.
A little bit of whimsy for you and an attempt to put a positive spin on "finishing last".  | |
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 8:27:29 PM | Let me break it down for ya.....
Every single guy has the capability to do the things in the OP. Its finding the right woman to bring all that out. Finding the woman who makes you WANT to be a really nice guy. Not every woman is going to make your heart sing and get butterflies.
If you are all of those things to every woman you date, you will run into problems. How many girls have got rid of the type of guy stated above?....probably a lot. Main reason is because he was not on the same level in the relationship as you... and it got creepy and weird or a bit overwhelming. Whipping out your A material on date number 2 scares many women off... hence the saying "nice guys finish last". The problem is that all women want this type of guy, so guys do this stuff right off the bat....then wonder why they are yesterdays news.
Its all about timing and balance. We all want respect and love, and it should be a 2 way street....give what you get and vice versa. Balancing the relationship is key, otherwise one ends up (over time) taking for granted the other.
Timing. Ease into it. Too many people are in love with being in love. This means they do/say things far too early that people who are truely in love would do. Its a false sense of love they are creating by these actions and it always ends just as quickly as it began.
You should do all the things listed above BECAUSE you love them, not because you want them to love you. | |
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 8:29:55 PM | we finish last cause nobody wants us, we are nice, cause we dont have money, we dont have fame, we certainly dont have anything even close to looks. therefore, we can only be nice in hopes of someone noticing that we are nice. but hey guess what, that makes us even bigger losers i guess lol.. wtf.. you say you want nice then well,,,, no thanks. Thats why nice guys finish last.
(If girl then substitute money for ass, fame for modeling freinds, looser for librarian, nice guy for nice girl) haha
P.S. funny doesnt seem to make up for looks for long BTW. | |
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/23/2007 8:30:34 PM |
I hope to be the last one for someone sometime.
ditto for me PT.......I am going to cross everything crossable and hope I find the "last" one for me....and that I be the last one for them. The other "last" I am looking for is the last day of being alone.....OK that is as sappy as I get for a Friday night. | |
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/24/2007 2:32:21 AM | | I am with out question one of those guys. But I am not going to let that keep me down. The day will come where I will finish first and so will she. | |
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/24/2007 3:23:28 AM | Well my two cents is this..a lot of women I have met want a bad boy to tame into a nice guy. keeping the wild side a little quietter.
I also think finnishing last only means you are in the wrong race.
Finnishing last means you are one race closer to winning the big prize.
LOl for me this race has been a marathon...
But until I stop trying, I won't lose. | |
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/24/2007 4:29:32 AM | I'm one of the "nice" girls. It is just my nature to trust and like someone when I meet them. But if they do or say something to break that trust, then I let them know.
I don't agree with trying to change a person. Isn't it all the nice and bad things about the person that attracted you to him/her in the first place. But it does have to be a monogamous relationship. As long as the person genuinely accepts me as I am and for who I am (meaning they can put up with my sense of humour) he will be first with me. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 5:47:07 AM | I enjoyed reading this thread. Mainly because, as I was reading it, my boyfriend pretty much does all those things. I am certainly lucky!
I do agree mostly with freddy....he explained it much better than I could.
I basically believe, that different people bring out different things in a person. I have seen it demonstrated many times, where, a man/woman is a jerk to one person, the next person they are amazing. Why? Cause, that person brings out the best in them. That person makes the other want to do all those things.
I have been in relationships where I would be known as the sweetest person..so giving, understanding, loving...ect ect.... I have also been in relationships where those that known in me in the previous relationship wouldnt know where this person came from.
As for the "nice" people that finish last....I think it was really great when someone earlier posted...I dont mind finishing last, cause it would be the last relationship. That is so true. Most times, people have to go through alot before they appreciate what they have. Both people have to be at the same level in this game called love. Its all about timing!
What I do find amusing, is that so many people on here are saying they are nice people and they always finish last, they have no hope, ect ect. While they may be nice people, I doubt very much that anyone has not been responsible for at least one person being hurt because of something they have said or done, or just not being into them. So, "nice" is all relative and what you yourself percieves. Gurantee that its not what everyone sees.
Being nice is overated, just be you. Eventually, you will click with someone. But this, nice guys/girls finish last is false. You have the ability to make things happen. Take a look at yourself and realize all the different things you can do to finish first!
I have seen guys that would be considered players, a$$holes, ect...be the most amazing boyfriend too the right girl. Same is true for women. So there is hope out there....you just have to go for it and stay within your limitations. | |
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/24/2007 6:48:35 AM | Sadly, being a sweet, funny, kind, loving person doesn't make up for being fat, however.
Love you all, good luck on your searches.  | |
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/24/2007 6:51:53 AM | | I am thinking the same thing heckcat, and I am in the same boat with meeting the nice girl....i thought i did but she dumped me for not feeling right.....so back on the market....lol.... | |
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| Nice guys (and girls) finish last....
Posted: 3/24/2007 7:33:31 AM | Fun_sassy.Great post.I wish I had read this months ago(I know...it wasn't posted then...lol)Acom...doing all those things DOES get you somewhere...sometimes....it SOMETIMES gets you taken for granted.It sometimes gets you put on the "friends" pile..and it sometimes makes you lose a friend for good, that you would have liked to have kept if only for friendship.Now this doesn't mean that we shouldn't all be "nice" guys.....it just means that I think sometimes you need to put a bit of "bad boy" out there for her just to keep her interested.That is just my thought...may not even apply but has been my observation.Being a "nice" guy/girl seems to be synonymous with finishing last or ending up overlooked in some way.There has GOT to be a happy medium here somewhere!!!! | |
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